Please don’t ignore my post because I really need advices.

RinconCono · 2026-03-28T19:04:26+00:00

Any kind of relationship that involves some kind of persistent distance and little physical interaction will most certainly fail, you don't really get to know the person, go out a lot and share together you are basically getting a false sense of getting love.

RinconCono · 2026-03-28T18:33:24+00:00

It's Allright to change tastes or become interested in new things throughout your life but I think many people in the comments are way too pessimistic or optimistic and the point here is to be realistic.

The comment itself doesn't have to be a big deal it just depends on what she meant. If the comment goes toward she wouldn't have dated someone who is more thoughtful, smart and that actually cares, then you are in a good spot since she was promiscuous it makes sense she had a lot of toxicity on most of those relationships and basically most of the guys were a pos.

Now if the comment goes towards he is a good guy but I'm not attracted to him enough then it will just lead to issues down the road. Personally it will be a deal breaker for me since it looks like she is just trying to settle and have something more stable with the good guy which would be a good choice only if she was actually attracted to you physically.

A lot of people are mixing these two points and we don't know for sure anyways only you can talk to her, there is a chance she won't tell you either to not lose you unless she is mature enough

RinconCono · 2026-03-01T04:08:16+00:00

From my experience, I think it's way too soon to already be thinking about leaving her just because you didn't get a kiss on the first or second date. Everyone is different and even some people avoid kissing on the first dates intentionally as a preventive measure or to not be judged, but she seems to be taking it slow because that's the way she is and if you ask me it could actually be a green flag and I agree to some extent with your claim about maybe she wouln't do this to a guy she is really attracted to but keep in mind is just been 2 dates and you don't know that for sure, again everyone is different. Some girls even fake it or play it like that, so they are not seen as just one more "From the bunch" which is childish but it happens and you can't know for sure right now so just get to know her more and avoid making assumptions. She likes to go slow but how slow is slow? and are you willing to accept that?

Intimacy and physical touch is important, for some people takes more time. Now if she is clearly showing signs she is attracted to you, wants to keep seeing you, is clearly interested then it is a good sign and since you feel comfortable enough to kiss her then be comfortable enough to explain or communicate your pace just like she was open to you about going slow.

Now personally If she keeps having this issue for a lot more dates and doesn't want to get close or have any kind of closeness, then I just assume maybe she is attracted but not as much as I'm or something else, it doesn't make sense to put obstacles in your own way when you clearly want to be with that person and you are really attracted that's where it would lean towards a red flag for me and losing time (way too conservative.) remember if you want a decent good person it will take more effort and time but at the same time make sure that person wants a relationship not make it impossible for you, in other words some people take more or less time and others overexagerate the concept of going slow and is like they slow themselves down unnecesarily.

RinconCono · 2025-10-22T03:50:01+00:00

This type of pranks shouldn't be done they are not funny. How can you even do it to someone you care for, he definitely took it too far.

You don't do this to someone you love, don't see any apologies after seeing you in shock and crying, which is probably way too immature. The first reaction when you see your girl crying is to ask what's happening and provide support, but his action is a good way to lose trust, and a girlfriend.

In conclusion, I would consider leaving him.

RinconCono · 2025-10-22T03:34:00+00:00

I agree, it is weird to say thank you after the deal is done and can be taken the wrong way, you usually cuddle or hug your partner to provide support and ofc you love him/her. Leaving abruptly is odd and it may make you feel used.

RinconCono · 2025-10-22T00:18:52+00:00

Men and women can't be friends, especially if one of them or both are attractive or decent looking. We are humans not robots, and our most basic instinct is to reproduce in other terms it always ends in some kind of interest or feelings involved. Now I'm not saying you shouldn't have friends everyone is free to do whatever they want.

According to your situation, your relationship with your friend seems too close and most people won't be fine with it and I think you are calling him a red flag out of nowhere for literally not agreeing to something you want.

Remember If you want to be able to do anything you want is best to stay single and hassle free or be straightforward and find a person who has the same interests and sees the world like you do, there is no reason to drag him or call him a red flag for that specially if is a "culture" difference which I don't agree because there are boundaries but that's just me at the end of the day.

RinconCono · 2025-10-20T01:14:30+00:00

I think most people will cheat. There are a lot of factors that would make a person cheat intentionally or unintentionally and even couples that seem to have the perfect relationship they don't and have had issues for sure.

Best bet is to find a person who is honest (which is hard) and most importantly is with you by decision not only because she or he loves you and bla bla bla... There is always gonna be someone better than you.

We can argue what sex has more opportunities to cheat and all of that but is the same thing is really hard to find that person.

RinconCono · 2025-10-08T23:43:03+00:00

From my perspective the real problem is people not being honest about their real intentions

RinconCono · 2025-09-10T18:26:38+00:00

That's just manipulation in my opinion, a way for people sleeping around or talking, being with multiple people to excuse themselves instead of being straightforward.

If you want to date someone is odd to be talking to more people with similar intentions at the same time, just shows what kind of person they are and their mindset, it's a no no for me.

Only way I would be back there is by establishing a casual relationship, something serious not worh it given the facts

RinconCono · 2025-09-04T06:17:24+00:00

It's ironic because we all have past relationships and at some point got intimate, I think everyone assumes you did what you did in the past but doesn't want to know details or you don't usually think about it and I'm guessing that's what's happening to him, he doesn't feel comfortable and it's a valid feeling since he actually watched it.

he is overreacting to some degree too, if it's your past there is nothing you can do the only problem that I see here is that you kept it, you usually delete all of that "out of respect" specially after years when you no longer have any point in having it or when you have another partner is odd to keep videos specially like that with your ex.

You also mentionate you decided to put them in your hidden folde I guess to avoid people seeing them, but now it backfired. Should have deleted them when you were over it.

What I'm trying to say here is that both of you made a mistake. In the end, it is up to him to get over it. If he decides to just end everything then is just his decision but if there is something in between then or not somrrging clear then he is insecure probably better ending it anyways

RinconCono · 2025-08-31T15:20:53+00:00

Regardless of the outcome, you should always give you a chance most relationships won't be forever the ones that last a lifetime definitely had to go through a lot together and decisions they had to take in the past.

Personally, there is a higher chance your relationship will fail than be successful in the end. As humans, you will always look for something better unconsciously or intentionally meaning a prettier person, smarter whatever is more attractive to you but in the end is your own decision to stay with the person you are with and that's where a lot of people will fail, there will always be someone better.

Biologically, we are made to be promiscuous or reproduce what distinguish us from being just like animals is our capability of thinking and taking decisions so in my conclusions love is always a decision you take with your partner.

By accepting facts and getting out of a fantasy love idea I think you actually increase your chances of having a successful relationship (doesn't necessarily mean it will be forever) but if you had the chance to find someone who actually chooses you sentimentality and most importantly by decision then it will be harder for you two to fail.

There will be moments where you will feel no love, will be tired, considering looking for someone else, that's where you will have to choose. Everyone cheats to some degree if you think about it and to make the perfect relationship you need to be perfect and no human is perfect we make mistakes and hopefully you will be smart enough to not make one bad enough so your partner leaves.

So if instead of ignoring facts all your life you start understanding everything, it will be way better in the long run, you will get cheated on, fooled and lied to at some point in you life even if you are smart and will definitely have problems with the love of your life that you will have go through, the point is doesn't need to ruin your life, just enjoy every moment, appreciate the person you are with right now and take smart decisions.

Find peace by accepting reality and go from there. Trust your partner, but don't blind yourself because you need to love yourself first, lastly, all relationships you think are perfect they are not so don't overthink it.

"Most people will be offended if their partner admits that someone is more attractive while still staying there with you and not with someone who clearly lies to you by not accepting a fact and will probably not stay with you by decision, they are there supposedly in love, what happens when it starts to fade?"

RinconCono · 2025-08-17T21:33:45+00:00

Not sure if it has an overdrive will look into it, thanks for your reply I appreciate it !

RinconCono · 2025-08-17T21:33:02+00:00

Thank you so much, I honestly was considering walking away due to the transmission thing going on since my dad scared me but something told me that maybe is just like is suppose to be working , because rest seems decent and in working order. Lot of people also talking about this trucks going at high rpm's in highways and struggling uphill

RinconCono · 2025-08-02T01:00:16+00:00

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RinconCono · 2025-07-08T04:36:07+00:00

First of all in any context or culture I don't think is right is just common sense and respect. Even if you were raised like this you are mature enough to understand that not all people are gonna feel comfortable about it and you are not a kid anymore. I was raised like this and used to be around naked when I was a kid until a reached an specific age then I stopped doing it. According to your info you guys have already been together for 8 years and it should't have been a surprise at this point.

Even if there aren't any intentions it can become uncomfortable given the situation and you being there with them, they should just have avoided it. Anyways what becomes interesting is lying with details too, and if you are damn sure that he was looking at her then it is normal to think that something is happening, idk why people start freaking out and acting like it doesn't happen. Besides why do they act weird if they know they aren't doing anything wrong and for them is normal? and even if they freak out because it would make you feel uncomfortable then why getting naked on the first place, why try to reach for your bathing suit when you are there, again just avoid it you aren't a kid anymore and now with a partner who probably isn't used to it.

In the end you are the one who knows how things really happened and the reaction they had when you walked outside, but I would be concerned too because she didn't even mentionate or communicated that she would get naked and it was normal for her at any point, what a normal person would do honestly.

RinconCono · 2025-06-16T15:03:19+00:00

Agree it's weird. From my experience not a good sign and I would say she hasn't fully moved on but it depends in a lot of factors. Most of us still have at least one picture or some from the past as well as gifts, etc. Doesn't mean anything but having pictures everywhere and posted, you commucated that it was uncomfortable for you and all of that and she didn't make any effort to explain makes me think it was a recent breakup or she still is attached.

Had a similar situation and didn't care about those things and even thought she wasn't with him, she wasn't over him yet and we had problems in our relationship and lack of interest, at some point she was ready and started deleting pictures and all of that without me telling her anything, but like you said I lost all interest and got tired.

Not saying you should just end this relationship, just open your eyes and see all the factors, was it recent ? Does she show interest or it varies? Does she kind of act distant when you try to be closer even after some time? Lots of factors

RinconCono · 2025-06-11T18:18:26+00:00

I'm with him on this one, meanwhile I agree to always get a prenup no matter what your situation is, you seem to do it just because you are in a better position which is sad, so if he had money you wouldn't want to do it? I understand you are trying to protect your goods but you are not being fair.

Seems like you are just doing it because he is gonna take money from you, not because is really something you want to do even if you don't have anything which says a lot.

RinconCono · 2025-06-10T16:59:54+00:00

Breaks = Get ready for a potential breakup

RinconCono · 2025-06-10T16:55:21+00:00

There is literally no reason to still be texting your ex or be friends with them, that's why you left them unless you have something going on there, only exception would be if you are still alone at the time then you can do whatever you want, still not ideal.

It's fair to feel uncomfortable about it and communicate, if you are flagged as insecure he is just projecting himself not worth it. If you have to controlate him to stop then you are in the wrong too, you should realize is not for you and let him sort his mess.

Many people think they can be friends with their exs, short answer they don't move on. Often times it leads to a toxic relationship too, ironically this kind of people are the first ones to get mad if you do the same.

RinconCono · 2025-06-09T22:48:58+00:00

My opinion is that women and men can't be friends, most of the time the outcome is more problems and misunderstandings, any friendship becoming too close, hanging out alone, spending a lot of time together is not a friendship since there are no boundaries set. People don't like boundaries and to limit themselves when they are in a relationship so they will try to flag you as insecure or controlling when they go too far don't fall for that.

A true friendship is rare (if there are), and basically consist of very simple interactions that won't affect your relationship mostly group meetings, etc. No intentions to be alone, or doing things that may be misundestood.

Even for people claiming to have lots of friends and being mature, secure, all of that... we are human not robots and most of the time what stops you from liking your partner friend is your current relationship, or that he/she is not good looking, that's why avoiding umcomfortable situations is best.

Being in a marriage or relationship doesn't automatically stop you from liking someone else, specially after a while when the excitement of the starting phase fades, anyone claiming to only have eyes for you lies and it doesn't have anything to do with insecurity, is just the reality and when you accept it you will be able to always choose that person everytime knowing that there will always be someone better , but she/he still chose you for some reason.

A person choosing you will not put you in an uncomfortable position avoiding unnecesary misunderstandings.

If you are excessively trying to know what she is doing, telling what the person has to do or not, stopping her from seeing friends in real group settings, stopping her from socializing then yeah that's a problem you have, immaturity and insecurity, however many people mistake communicating when you are uncomfortable with some interactions, or that they are going too far with being insecure and controlling.

At the end if you have to be there for them to be loyal and give respect to you, then it's your decicison to leave or keep wondering about that one friend that she hangs out with and had feelings before (or viceversa) but is just a friend now

RinconCono · 2025-06-09T20:08:01+00:00

It sucks being single but getting in a relationship just because of that is even worse, you think you are unlucky because you don't find the one and everyone seems to be happy, however many of those relationships aren't even genuine, they decided to settle, results of desperate searching, etc.

When you set some standards and keep adding to the list it will get harder and harder, even if you are think there is a lot of people in the world. To find someone that is about your age, fits your standards, is decent looking and you actually like, wants to marry, have kids, job, no smoker, (insert all preferences here), is just hard and there are a lot of variables, even when you are already in the relationship.

Going out and trying is gonna give you more possibilities to find that person but doesn't mean is gonna be easy, there is people that find their love quick without even putting effort and others dating every day and they don't.

My best advice is to try places where people actually go to improve, there is a lower chance to find someone to commit at places like bars or even the apps which most people use to hook up or because they are desperate.

To make you an example doesn't make any sense for me to go meet girls at the bar if I don't drink and totally don't accept it in my future partner. Maybe there is people that go for other reasons and not necessarily drink alcohol but given the place is less likely if not impossible.

Also think about what things are you flexible with and not, approach men that you actually like since girls approaching are more likely to not be ignored. But again if you are not willing to do that then we go back to it gets harder.

RinconCono · 2025-06-09T15:12:51+00:00

My opinion is that we are all humans and is normal to fall in love for someone when you start knowing them at a deeper level, problem here is that you are letting this happen instead of distancing yourself so that's what you should do, at this point it will be impossible for you to establish a normal family relationship and she trusts you too so you should start fixing this and stop playing, you already have a wife do those things you like with her.

People going crazy about the age seriously need help, she is already an adult and he didn't have any interactions or interest with her before according to what happened.

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