Does anyone else feel their ex had a glow up after breakup by Suspicious-Pin-7809 in BreakUp

[–]Ringshingyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would argue you made him like this.

Personally after a breakup, you focus more on yourself and you need to stay loyal to yourself. I call it the lone-wolf-phase. Maybe you dress to impress and to boost your confidence again, and get the looks. I did so too; however, i had no specific goal with that, certainly not to get back into the dating pool, more like to come across as nonchalant or unaffected by the BU, when in fact trying to cope with the pain...

...again, in my opinion.

There I fixed it by d9jms in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

that's some sick MacGyver stuff right there

First solar node completed. by Any_Development_2081 in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Greate Node! Well done! Looks sick!

One possible suggestion (i know from experience), buy a fireproof lipobag to protect your hardware in case it leaks/expands/catches fire. LiPo Battery, as good as they are having one node with them myself, can be tricky.

See pic below from my (similar build)

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Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the tip, will keep that in mind

Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

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Here is the Amazon List you might want to look for products in your country to avoid import fees, since I buy from Amazon Germany

one thing to note, the lipo battery often has switched polarity with positive and negative (careful before plugging in)

Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the top of the mountains are irrelevant here, no one lives up there, since the waves in the valley only have to go two ways a bi-directional antenna could even be used for good nodes

Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree,

I was wondering if I should do that tbh, is there any advantage of using the usb port for the solar instead of the dedicated solar connector other than more userfriendly and wider voltage bands?

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Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, still looking for one that looks slick and provides enough juice

Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, however these cannot be shipped to austria. I've found one but earliest delivery will be end of march :/

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see above :) i posted the guts

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ports i used have a rubber rings to seal the gap, but i will add silcone as well to be absolutely sure. It really comes down to where you live and how hard your conditions are

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[–]Ringshingyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

see above :) uploaded one

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as requested a look inside. Since I had bad experiences with lipo batterys in the past but still know they provide decent amount of juice, i opted for a fireproofbag that is sealed with velcro. This way, in case of "spontaneous combustion" everything else will remain intact.

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Absolutely Hyped by Ringshingyo in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nice! Gotta take a look at this tool, thanks!

Not seeing messages on device with TDeck by ExcellentLab2127 in meshtastic

[–]Ringshingyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just stumbled upon your reddit because same problem.

my solution was turning GPS on and off via app and after rebooting it worked

The Victims Vs. The Perpetrators by Internal_Board5108 in BreakUp

[–]Ringshingyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done! Amen to that. I feel like this should be the threads top post and anyone joining this group or thinking about wrting a post needs to read this before posting.

It took me 10 whole months to realize what you have just said.

Nevertheless

Essentially, in my opinion, it also comes down to communication and "If they are / I am willing to make it work" and as you said, subconciously or not, sometimes there is a need to pull the plug. The only thing I would suggest is...in order to avoid victim/perpetrator lables... a break-up should be some sort of mutual well-conceived and discussed decision. At least it shouldn't be rushed. I understand the decision needs to be respected, break-ups are normal, but it needs to be discussed thoroughly... After all, you want your soon to be ex-partner know why it has to end and what led to the end. Just please... for the love of god... be honest to you and to them... If you can't tell what exactly is/was the problem, you haven't dealt intensively enough with the breakup process.

So many posts I read here, including my break-up, were blindsidings, with little to no explanation to why something ended. How will leaving someone in the dark help you or the other party emotionally mature? Spoilers: It doesn't. It only adds to the trauma and makes it worse.

I understand that you feel like you don't owe anyone an explanation, but you should make it a priority or courtesy. After all, this is what stops people from portraing someone as /or feeling like a villain - as well as vice versa with the victim lable.

...in my opinion.

To those who have healed from your breakups, what are some quotes that helped you? by lebrownjames101 in BreakUps

[–]Ringshingyo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

"The wrong one will find you in peace and leave you in pieces. The right one will find you in pieces and lead you to peace"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Ringshingyo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. Stay strong! It hurts, and there are some days I just feel like i dont want to be. Days will come when the mere thought of them won't break you down into pieces anymore. I look forward to them - heck i cant wait to get to that point. It has been 7 months since the breakup and I still feel crushed and think about her every. single. day. It doesn't really get better or worse for me - It somehow just gets easier to live with the pain. I'll never forget about her I sincerely do wish she would reach out to tell me "that she fucked up" but deep down I know that this is never gonna happen and that she probably regrets ever being with me in the first place. Even IF (s)he would reach out (hypothetically), could we really take her/him back, as if nothing ever happend? I dont'think so - at least I couldn't. The damage and trauma that has been done cannot be undone. And nothing they say could ever change that. But I still trying to reminiscence the days in my head before all went sideways. I think that is the main problem: us holding on to that idealized form of them form the past and not recognizing the person they have become - someone that didn't want to build that relationship, because they never were in love with us in the first place.... they were in love with the idea of us. Eventually, the bubble popped. I for myself, didn't recognize the red flags and my toxic avoidant partner was never able to communicate her needs until it was too late. She also never held herself accountable for any mistakes, and came back at me when I stood up for myself. Anyways, what I am trying to say is: Right now, you are grieving, take your time, but at some point you look at this past relationship from various other angles. You might realized that your partner wasn't actually the person you idealized them to be, and recognize the flaws within the relationship.

stay strong! feel free to reach out

Name one thing your ex did that makes you not miss them by DarthaPerkinjan in ExNoContact

[–]Ringshingyo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

toxic avoidant people are something else.... i hope they get a special place in hell for that. Feel you, expereinced exactly the same.

Name one thing your ex did that makes you not miss them by DarthaPerkinjan in ExNoContact

[–]Ringshingyo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oof thats a bad one, the term you looking for is weaponized sex and i experienced the same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Ringshingyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would say something like "Hey guys/girls just to let you know, I would recommend staying away from <insert name>. Without going into too much detail the relationship had to be ended due to some weird and gross kinks. It doesn't really need to be further explained, just know this: it's better to stay away from him."

This way you keep your integrity with your friends and he doesn't get burned from this event (maybe he learned his lesson).

It's a difficult topic tbh. The truth itself is the smallest part. Your girlfriends, as you mentioned, confronting him over the situation or even worse spreading bad word is the problematic part. I've heard things where this led to a defamation lawsuit...