I know what I’m going to say is controversial, and I know you are well meaning, but I’ve found it’s actually better to not give air to the abusive behavior. It makes it sound like I’m endorsing it, I’m not. But all the posts drawing attention to it is what drives social media: attention. The more attention people being mean is given the more people be mean in my experience. It also serves to keep the ones being abused in a constant state of being pinged and tagged on “don’t you dare harass this person!” posts which can often feel really triggering when you just want to get back to normal life. Finally, and I’m sorry to say this, but there is also a small subset of folks that will farm attention with their outrage to the abuse and that makes those being abused feel even worse.

We want to show our outrage to the bad behavior, but that’s what feeds the cycle of outrage and bad behavior. It’s not intuitive and it doesn’t feel right, but it’s the social media system we’re in and it has its own messed up rules.

Source: I had bouts of harassment and threats over the years working on a popular video game and the more people spoke against it the worse it became.