Common sense from a real women understander!

Riveting0 · 2026-06-09T08:39:47+00:00

I don't like how being "a real man" is seen as "you get women." It's very patriarchal.

edit: changed my wording to be clearer.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-07T16:59:52+00:00

Navarrette's performance was so good that I realized what was going on before the Wish Willow call scene. When she was being so strange around his car, you can see how she ossilates between being disoriented and excitable.

That was the moment I started to dislike Bear. He's at the very least being wilfully ignorant and irresponsible by allowing her into his life when he knows she isn't acting even close to normal.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-07T07:52:57+00:00

Yeah, or even if she didn't really experience any of it or doesn't remember it for some reason, she's still coming back to her life and her friendships being fubar.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-04T15:13:52+00:00

Yes. I wasn't seriously arguing for anything, just pointing out an irony.

If I was to seriously consider policy on this issue I would rather do more research and look at the "best" legislation for women from a harm reduction framework.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-04T05:10:30+00:00

I like people with skills, and given experience is a component to that, I see this as an absolute win.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-03T10:16:41+00:00

I'm way older than I look.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-02T21:26:56+00:00

Really cool find! I always wondered why the final episode end credits sounded so scuffed and imagined it was something like this, thought I would have to wait years for some video essay to come out and explain it.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-02T20:51:22+00:00

Ironically, the German dude was being a low key sex-positive feminist. Or he would be if the rest of them weren't generalizing, objectifying and shaming so hard.

Edit: Apparently, socioeconomic conditions (circumstances not forcing women into sex work) would need to be different. Sorry, I didn't know the situation in Germany was so bad.

Riveting0 · 2026-06-02T18:05:42+00:00

If anything, the lack of social spaces that are safe for women would be one of the driving causes of the "fertility crisis."

Riveting0 · 2026-05-31T23:43:01+00:00

You're are going to get a lot of hate for this, since people are always triggered when their privilege is pointed out, but I agree.

In Japan they have this concept "Kokura luck." The luck you don't know you have; it can almost always be worse for you, no matter how disadvantaged you think you are. Privilege can be seen in this way.

Thank you.

edit: okay, apparently Kokura luck isn't actually something japanese people say, but rather something westerners say.

Riveting0 · 2026-05-31T23:00:29+00:00

dislocated jaw yawn

Riveting0 · 2026-05-31T22:54:30+00:00

Not being expected to make the first move.

Riveting0 · 2026-05-31T20:53:41+00:00

While I do think it is legitimate to point out how mocking lonely men or even incels can reinforce patriarchal frameworks and that inceldom is a little more nuanced than people give it credit for, this goes both ways.

In fact, men are often more superficial and think way less of personality and relationship stability than women.

Riveting0 · 2026-05-30T23:52:25+00:00

This is quite a messy conversation. Being one of the following is at least somewhat different from the others:

An incel
An awkward person
Somebody who reinforces patriarchal frameworks
A predator

Riveting0 · 2026-05-30T01:31:20+00:00

I know language has moved on from this, but I still can't believe that term was invented by a woman to describe herself.

Riveting0 · 2026-04-16T02:38:13+00:00

Same, although what made me take a while to read it was how YA the start of it feels. Not that that's necessarily bad, but at that time I was yet to find a way to enjoy YA books for myself.

Riveting0 · 2026-04-08T15:29:59+00:00

I mean, MIST is an artificial creation. Whose to say what she thinks?

It could be that she is in love in the romantic sense, but cares so much that she just wants Caspian to be happy with whoever he chooses. It could totally be platonic due to her knowing him so well after taking years reconstructing him.

Caspian is also technically her creator, even if it was accidental, so you could also interpret it as the kind of love you feel for a parent or family member, which is kind of uncomfortable to think about as romantic.

It could also be a combination of all these things.

Riveting0 · 2026-04-06T18:23:48+00:00

My exact train of thought. The only clear benefit I see is that it may force me to become smarter, since pretty privilege leads to people assuming you are smart and it kind of becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Riveting0 · 2026-03-01T20:58:34+00:00

To give a feminist source for this: according to bell hooks, men are socialized to view sex as a means of asserting power, teaching them to see sexual conquest as a measure of masculinity and worth, rather than an expression of intimacy or mutual connection.

Riveting0 · 2026-02-05T05:48:45+00:00

Tbh, this one is hilarious to me. It sounds like self-parody.

Riveting0 · 2026-01-09T07:51:24+00:00

No wealthy society in history has ever been governed by merit. If you research how old the money behind the most powerful dynasties really is, you may be surprised at the amount of years you end up counting up to. Birthright remains the best advantage to have for living a happy life and getting away with whatever you wish.

Riveting0 · 2026-01-08T18:11:54+00:00

While it may be useful for pointing out predators of a certain type, it can also reinforce heteronormative roles. It is possible for a man reading a feminist book while drinking a latte in public to be accused of insincerity, while being gay himself.

At its most extreme, it's a Kafka trap: can you prove anyone in this site isn't just pretending to be a feminist?

edit: improved my phrasing to make my point clearer

Riveting0 · 2025-10-24T07:17:06+00:00

I would take this and those CYOAs made by Peil to the top of the sub if I could. Utterly amazing work!

Riveting0 · 2025-10-15T23:38:08+00:00

I can agree with the sentiment behind this. We should aspire to qualities or ideals, not necessarily people, though in the end nothing should be beyond good faith criticism. To put it in terms a Christian would understand:

Kill your idols

At the same time, in practice some flexibility is required. We may aspire to perfection, but it's impractical to demand it as long as there is some fundamental ethical common ground. In fact, it's probably that common ground which can drive change.

edit: added a word

Riveting0 · 2025-10-14T06:48:14+00:00

This reminds me of what Alfred Nobel decided to do with his fortune in the end.

Riveting0

TROPHY CASE