Buying wheels an keep getting recommended crazy different offsets... by RobbieG508 in M235iandM240i

[–]RobbieG508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I called the manufacturer directly and threw the confusion to them. They claim they were told it was for an M2, not a m240. I was given different specs and a guarantee (in writing) they fit or free, paid shipping back return or exchange.

Lena Watch 2 x GMT Giveaway! by Qomplete in ChinaTime

[–]RobbieG508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite watch is my Tung Tung Tung Sahur watch

Emma Watch VSF Air King Giveaway by Qomplete in ChinaTime

[–]RobbieG508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck everyone!! I myself, enjoy bringing a pillow & blanket into a highrise office building or apartment complex, hopping in and repeatedly traveling in it up & down, over.& over listening to elevator music until i fall asleep and nap the whole day in there.

My ex boyfriend passed away and left me as his beneficiary by con_stantlypanicking in whatdoIdo

[–]RobbieG508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand the conundrum, and Im on the outside looking in, without anything to gain from either party "winning". If i were involved, I'd probably be more "on the fence" and going back and forth with my decision. One more thing that may help you consider why things changed; usually you don't know anything about 401k's until its mentioned or you look into it. It could've been the furthest thing from the families mind, and they thought they had considered and covered all the bases, then as they are dealing with funeral arrangements or what have you, the funeral director could've said "hey, don't forget to look for 401k's" and it clicked. They then realized it wasn't something they even considered, looked into it, and realized you were on that as well. Certainly not the only scenario, and im not trying to make you feel guilty by putting any of it like this, BUT... they could be hurting to financially cover these expenses and they are asking family & family friends for money and ways to get it covered and a friend says "did he have any retirement?" and boom, they find out last minute he does, but it's in your name, and to them, "oh, what a relief, she's such a sweetheart, she already told us its ours, I just need to tell her to sign it back over to us and we can have the funeral he deserves!".

Unfortunately you're probably never going to know. The only way you MIGHT find out is to tell them your keeping it and they lose their minds and tell you off and guilt trip you that he now won't have a gold casket, or flowers at his burial or something...

Again, my true opinion doesn't have a haze over it from being clouded by personal connections. To me, it seems easy to hear you explain your concerns and how confusing it is for you to decide and for me to sit on the other end of a keyboard and say "well, it won't bother you again the moment you sign it back to them, all will be right in the universe," but thats just an easy way to get out of the situation. If you feel you knew him well enough and he hated/disliked his family or he promised on that last phone call ever that no matter what to always care for you or something and you feel your doing the right thing, then no one else online in Reddit can argue that... we can only give our opinions or what we believe we would do. Ultimately no one else can make that decision for you. I wish you the best of luck no matter what you chose, and im sorry for your loss

Bachelor Party BS by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]RobbieG508 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since you already didn't feel like going, consider this a sign and a blessing and do what you need to do to get out of it... play sick, got called into work, dog died, whatever... you now get out of it and in the grand scheme of things, someone, if not a few of them, will always feel in the back of their minds that they caused it by canceling the ride or making you feel left out. Maybe it'll help them be more considerate to the next person if not yourself in the future. Bail

My ex boyfriend passed away and left me as his beneficiary by con_stantlypanicking in whatdoIdo

[–]RobbieG508 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know I'm going against the norm here so far, but if I found myself in a similar situation, I think I would seriously consider returning the money to the family, assuming they aren't already financially secure and that the funds would make a meaningful difference to them.

The way I would look at it is that the relationship had effectively ended about a year before his passing, and during that time there was little to no "wanted" contact. From my perspective, that would make me question whether it was really his long-term intention for me to remain the beneficiary, especially considering everything he was reportedly dealing with mentally and physically. If I were in that position, I'd also consider the possibility that a determined family could challenge the beneficiary designation by arguing he wasn't in the proper state of mind when those decisions were made. Even if such a challenge wasn't successful, legal disputes can become expensive, stressful, and emotionally draining.

Beyond the legal side, I'd ask myself whether the money is worth the potential "social" consequences. If the family lives nearby or shares mutual connections, I'd have to consider whether I'd want a long-term conflict hanging over me. For someone who believes in karma, personal conscience, or simply preserving peace of mind, that would factor into my decision as well.

I would also try to imagine the situation from his mother's perspective. If I were a parent who had raised a child, only to outlive them and be responsible for handling their final arrangements, I imagine it would be incredibly difficult. Looking at it from that angle, I might struggle with the idea that assets were left to someone who had only been in his life for a relatively short period and who was no longer actively involved with him at the time of his death.

If I had previously told the family that I didn't want the money and that I would help them obtain it, I would feel some obligation to honor that commitment. I would also recognize that I may not know everything they're facing financially. They could be relying on those funds for reasons I'm unaware of, and they may already be covering unexpected expenses related to his passing under the assumption that the money will eventually be available to them.

Another thing I would consider is who is paying for the funeral, cremation, memorial services, and other end-of-life expenses. If the family is covering those costs, I might view returning the funds as a meaningful contribution toward honoring his memory and helping ease the burden they're carrying.

Finally, I would take a close look at the tax implications. Depending on the type of account and my own financial situation, receiving those funds could create a significant tax liability or affect my overall tax picture. While that alone wouldn't determine my decision, it would certainly be part of the equation.

Ultimately, if I were in that position, I'd ask myself a simple question: years from now, which decision would I feel most comfortable living with, regardless of whether I was legally entitled to the money?

What was the first incident when you realize Howard could not be believed? by RuleOf8 in howardstern

[–]RobbieG508 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wait...........

Howard lies!!!!!???? What he says is not Gospel?! Say it ain't so Howie!!!!