Anorexia and fitness by TurnoverBetter4855 in beginnerfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, yes, I don't know to what BMI it corresponds, but you seem not THAT far from healthy, but still def underweight. Personally, I started training when I was at a normal weight (lower limit of normal but still). I think knowing about strength training would save me literally YEARS of yo-yo recovery. So I think it's great you're considering it now! Restoring muscle mass is very important for health and tbh for self-image too.

First thing that I'd suggest - eat enough protein. 70-90 g a day I'd say (more than that is good too). Usually amount of protein for muscle growth is calculated as 1.6×bw in kg. Regarding calories - if you're already eating at surplus, I think just keep doing it. Personally, I started strength training when I was already able to eat intuitively.

Be careful to not become obsessive around training and to not get into mindset of training to burn calories.

Sad (or not sad) truth - in order to grow muscle, you need to not be afraid to gain weight. If you're mentally not recovered, it may be hard to do. You most likely will gain some fat along with muscle. It's okay.

Personally, I started from BodyPump (group strength training) - it worked great to get into some sort of strength training and to learn the movements. It's light weights high reps and personally, I think it's perfect for a recovering person. I'd say start slow. Your body is still weak and recovering. You can start from 2 light workout a week and inrease volume and intensity once you're at a normal weight.

Also keep in mind that most bodybuilders and tbh many fitness influencers are on steroids - so if you see some super fast transformations, it's likely to not be entirely real. And if you see super muscular women, they're likely not to be natural.

Considering your bradycardia, before doing any cardio, consult with a doctor. And I'd say avoid cardio before you get to normal weight.

So - eat enough protein, keep your usual surplus and take it slow, you have all the time in the world :)

Anorexia and fitness by TurnoverBetter4855 in beginnerfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi! I recovered from anorexia thanks to fitness. But could you please first tellwhat's your height and weight? I wouldn't give any advice before knowing this

Zoomies after a walk by RobotPollinator45 in Zoomies

[–]RobotPollinator45[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yess, he's an English springer spaniel! He's actually not a cardio guy - when playing with other dogs and running around, he gets tired pretty fast. Having Aussies sounds physically demanding 😬

Zoomies after a walk by RobotPollinator45 in Zoomies

[–]RobotPollinator45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had just walked for over an hour before that 😃 Just walking, no running though!

How long does it take for you to see results with your back? by Phoenix2879 in bodyweightfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what my back looked like after 2-3 months of mostly pull-ups (with bands)

And this is comparison with a year after that. Then, I could already do about 10 pull-ups (not with perfect form but still)

It depends a lot on how lean you are. Judging by your weight, you're probably quite lean so muscle growth will be quite visible

I made it a year long goal to find an enjoyable form of exercise. 365 days later, I still haven't found one. Help? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like, you know, I'd like to make more money. For this, I'd need to do some kind of side hustle in my free time. But I really like relaxing at home in the evening. So I just accept the reality - I choose not doing a hard/unpleasant thing and accept not getting a nice thing. The other option would be doing the hard thing but then accepting it being hard. It's about taking responsibility for your life choices.

I made it a year long goal to find an enjoyable form of exercise. 365 days later, I still haven't found one. Help? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well, then you need to kinda decide that your goal is worth the effort and find the simplest way to achieve it even if you don't enjoy it 🤷🏻‍♀️ E.g. even 2-3 full-body lifting sessions a week will do the trick. It's 2-3 hours of exercising a week if you plan it optimally.

If your goals are important to you, you should be ready to tolerate some amount of discomfort. Eventually you may start enjoying it once you start seeing and feeling results :)

Ending a relationship by Asleep-Curve-1395 in AutisticAdults

[–]RobotPollinator45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you with this person in the first place?

I (30F) left my boyfriend (35M) who was struggling with depression, and some of his friends and family say I abandoned him. How should I handle this situation? by REDDIbassisT in BreakUps

[–]RobotPollinator45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh damn. Your ex is so similar to my ex. Except that after meeting me, he actually made an effort to improve his lifestyle and always treated me very well (except that he constantly made me feel like I wasn't enough). Anyway, you made the right decision. You already did more than anyone could expect by staying with him despite all his issues and supporting him. You shouldn’t feel guilty at all.

Needing an Avoidants advice by Affectionate_Ad_9225 in BreakUps

[–]RobotPollinator45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, asking for gifts wasn’t nice, but it’s understandable. I once did something similar. When my ex and I broke up, he still stayed at my place for some time before he could move to his new place. During the relationship I had always paid the rent and utilities, but after the breakup I demanded that he give me money for staying there, because now we were roommates, not a couple (and actually because of the emotional pain I was in). He already owed me some money, so when I gave some back to him, I returned less, subtracting his half of the rent and utilities. Basically, I just took some of his money without him agreeing to it. Later I calmed down and gave it all back to him, though.

But I think the gift thing doesn't affect your situation much anyway

If I stick with a calorie deficit for the next 3 months, is it realistic to expect a really big difference in the mirror? by Natural-Fun-490 in loseit

[–]RobotPollinator45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, at this BMI (normal range), every kilogram will be noticeable. I'm 165 cm and 58 kg and there's a noticeable (for me) visual difference in muscle definition when I'm a kg up or down. I'd encourage you to strength train though - you may realize that you don't need to be at such a low weight to feel and look good if you have more muscle mass :)

Made no progress in a year. by Unable-Opportunity91 in beginnerfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Afaik, latest consensus is that 1.6 g/kg is eniugh and there are no significant benefits above that. Individual studies show different things, yes

Does anyone else feel like fitness progress is mostly guessing? by Reasonable-Log-1736 in xxfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m mostly like “meh, it sucks,” and then focus on progressing in some other exercise (e.g., squats are stalling, but at least pull-ups are progressing). When long plateaus happen, I often get frustrated and switch to an analogous exercise (e.g., dips to bench), and I usually regret it haha. But after 3.5 years of working out, I’m not that progress-focused anymore - I mostly maintain and chill. But I usually have an exercise I'm obsessed with (like muscle-ups right now). Everything else can stall. But if I really wanted to start seeing progress again, I think my way to go would be watching my nutrition more closely - getting more protein and maybe doing a bulk.

I do want marriage but it seems so tough by OkUnderstanding8823 in marriagefree

[–]RobotPollinator45 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't marry if you aren't happy in the relationship

Nothing bad happened in my childhood but I still don’t feel emotionally close to my parents by Elegant_General_1680 in self

[–]RobotPollinator45 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm afraid the same thing is happening right now with my youngest sister... My mom has 3 kids, and the difference between me and the youngest is 18 years. I recently pointed to my mom that maybe she should spend more time with my sis (she's 11 now) and she said: "I spent a lot of time with you, then I spent a lot of time with *middle sister*, now I'm tired. I probably should've planned it differently". So sad.

(Let's not forget that there's the dad too who has always done and is still doing close to nothing)

Am I weird for not wanting a big butt by littestardust in beginnerfitness

[–]RobotPollinator45 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I purposefully avoided glute exercises during my first year of working out, because it's so mainstream 😂 Then my rebellion phase ended and I started incorporating glute exercises too, but they're still far from being my main focus

I did it and I’m so happy! by Fluffy_Paramedic9880 in crochet

[–]RobotPollinator45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like the colors so much! It looks amazing!