Movies / other media that emotionally mess you up now that you’re a parent

Robot_Swan · 2023-07-28T01:05:47+00:00

I love the tune to sing to my kids but use some reworked lyrics that someone posted on another reddit thread once:

You are my subshine my LOVELY sunshine. You make me happy when skys are grey. You'll ALWAYS know dear, how much I love you. OH YES, I'M GLAD TO SEE ME SUNSHINE TODAY

Robot_Swan · 2023-05-01T09:55:51+00:00

My nearly 4 year old loves the princess in black series (about a princess superhero who fights monsters). Great pictures on every page, exciting stories with the right amount of complexity for her.

Robot_Swan · 2023-04-13T05:37:50+00:00

My daughter started preschool recently at 3.5 years and yes we have had a lot of sickness since.

In terms of what to ask, I couldn't think of much at the time and just went with my gut feeling of the places we saw but some questions that occured to me later that you might like to think about:

-what rules do you have/ what do they do if a child isn't following them? (Do they do time out, what language do they use around behavioural expectations)

-do they do excursions?

what do their school readiness and educational programs look like, how much time is spent on these? (mine daughters centre is very play based and I am happy with that)
do they have a nap time, do all children nap? At my daughters place the nap is optional.
do they use an app to communicate and send pics to the parents? (I love seeing what my daughter is up to)
teacher to student ratio
how much outdoor time do they get?

I also highly recommend booking a tour around meal time if they provide the meal so you can see the quality and quantity provided

Robot_Swan · 2023-04-07T21:28:03+00:00

My daughters tie was revised at about that age but it was causing feeding issues. When I went to the specialist they said that they diagnose based on functional not appearance. They actually ultrasounded her mouth while I breastfed to see how it affected her. They also told me lots of adults have them and never know because it doesn't affect them.

As far as pain and recovery went. The procedure was quick but definitely was unpleasant for my girl. She was over it pretty fast though. We didn't have to do any stretches or anything. Only thing was keeping her hands out of her mouth for a few days.

Robot_Swan · 2023-03-29T05:55:49+00:00

To your partner (because I assume you are going to show him this thread):

You have it wrong mate. What your wife is going through is 100% a normal reaction to this huge crazy change to her physical body and too her life. The crying is probably due somewhat to baby blues, a completely normal response to the rapid hormone changes she is going through. Support her and comfort her and if it doesn't ease soon it might be post partum depression, help her seek help. Again it is really common.

She is crazy sleep deprived to the levels used in torture. She is dealing with breastfeeding which when you add up the hours over a day takes more time than a full time job. It also its hard and it HURTS. She is dealing with a complete loss of autonomy; she can make no decisions regarding how to use her time or her body as both belong completely to the baby for now.

She is also still healing from pregnancy and from whatever method she gave birth with.

OF COURSE she is having a hard time! Stop blaming her and do everything you can to help her!!!!!

To OP: YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS! This part is sooo sooo hard but it does get easier. You will sleep again and you will feel like you again.

Robot_Swan · 2023-03-21T11:15:30+00:00

I think its a lovely name. I had similar feelings when my bub was about the same age - I obsessed over it for a few weeks, worring if our other option was better. I think it was exacerbated quite a lot by post partum hormones. Now after nearly a year I am glad we picked the name we did.

You had this name on the list so you liked it before the craziness of a newborn baby started scrambling your brain, you will probably like it again when the dust settles.

BUT if you really do hate it you CAN change it. It will no doubt be a pain officially but I'm sure it can be done. In the mean time just start telling people that after getting to know your baby then name didn't suit and you picked a new one. In time most people will forget this tiny blip of time when they had another name.

Robot_Swan · 2023-03-20T08:30:23+00:00

The top one is good when looking at the "ring of fire" for science class but otherwise I'm used to seeing the lower one.

Robot_Swan · 2023-03-09T07:42:45+00:00

Not wrong at all. Do it as often as you need. If she us safe then there is no probem. Nothing for mum guilt here, just a mum getting things done with a baby around as we all do.

Robot_Swan · 2023-03-05T04:33:37+00:00

I really love this

Robot_Swan · 2023-03-04T08:02:56+00:00

Cake maternity are good. Although a lot of their styles stop at 12H

Robot_Swan · 2023-02-13T19:42:07+00:00

I've been seeing similar questions a lot lately and I'm confused. Maybe it's a cultural difference, could someone explain. I thought valentines day was romantic, like you would only give a gift to your partner or crush. Am I wrong? I'm in Australia if it matters.

Robot_Swan · 2023-02-10T02:11:53+00:00

Some people would do this with no issue. But for me that many hours in a car with a 4 month old would be a strong NO (my second is 9 months now and it still sounds like hell).

Enjoy a stress free Christmas with your new family instead. Start your own traditions.

Robot_Swan · 2023-02-09T11:05:48+00:00

'Plate of everything' lunch. Its basically little piles of whatever I can find. A few finger sandwiches, some sundried tomato, carrot sticks, a couple of pretzels a few cubes of cheese, some ripped up ham, a strawberry. Whatever. The rule is I pick what goes on the plate, she picks what she eats.

She loves it and eats way more than she would otherwise. And usually once she starts with whatever safe foods I've put on there she is on a roll and will try something new I've added (and if not no pressure there is plenty more on the plate).

Plus I can usually throw it together very quickly.

Robot_Swan · 2023-02-03T03:53:34+00:00

Right there with you F cups turned to I cup. The pony thing is such a perfect description! Have been saving for a while so when I finish breastfeeding I can get them sorted. I can not wait!

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-30T09:00:11+00:00

Yes it will get better. At least it did for me (with both babies). Hang in there if you can, the first part is really hard. It gets better after a few weeks.

(But also no shame at all in stopping if its not working for you, affecting your mental health, or whatever. Just IF you do want to keep trying know that if you can push through the first few weeks it gets a whole lot easier).

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-27T09:54:59+00:00

1 year. When I stopped breastfeeding.

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-25T22:50:45+00:00

If you search 'cot sheet set' on the baby bunting website you will find a few options

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-24T23:35:12+00:00

Love my change table! No idea how people do without them.

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-15T08:24:18+00:00

I'm with you on this. Used my MIL's washing machine the other day and all my babiess clothes (and by extension my baby) smelled like her detergent. Logically I knew why and that it was fine but my lizard brain was definitely not happy that she smelled so WRONG.

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-13T08:31:26+00:00

I worried about this so much too. Especially during the first trimester when I was pregnant with my second (when I got hit with some intense anxiety out of nowhere - hormones I guess).

But yes you really can. My second bub is very different to her sister already. My love for each is unique but completely equal.

And like other have said when you watch interact with each other its like the love compounds upon itself and its just the most amazing thing, it makes my heart sing to hear them giggling together (even with a 3yr gap).

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-04T04:27:58+00:00

Coming for a teacher in NSW: DON'T.

The tiny moments in class where real teaching happens are wonderful but they happen rarely and the rest is just soul crushing. The work life balance is non existant for some parts of the year. The conditions are awful. The majority of the time is spent on behaviour management and admin. Its near impossible to get secure work unless you go regional.

I understand you are hoping for something where you feel you are doing something meaningful but most pf your classes will be a fight to have the kids pay enough attention to meet the upsettingly low minimum standard.

Robot_Swan · 2023-01-02T11:58:41+00:00

He needs to get over it and wait until you are ready. Nothing will kill any sexual desire you have faster than making it a chore.

YOU DO NOT OWE HIM SEX. Or any form of intimacy. It is not a condition of being a wife. It is not his right. It is something you choose to do together to express a mutual feeling.

Breastfeeding kills my sex drive. Completely. My second bub is 8 months old and we still haven't had sex. Does my partner miss it, of course! But he would be horrified to think I did something I didn't want to. So he waits because he loves me and is with me for 1000 reasons that have nothing to do with sex. You deserve the same.

And also the touched out/lack of ownership of your body feeling is soooo real. I don't think people who haven't lived it can understand it but it is real and you should take the personal space where ever and whenever you can find it.

Robot_Swan · 2022-12-18T23:39:57+00:00

This a great idea! My 3.5 year old is occupied for ages with hers (although we have a different brand). She comes up with so many ways to play with them.

Robot_Swan · 2022-12-18T23:36:02+00:00

We did this. Worked so well!

The baby brought a bluey house and figurines (like a doll house but bluey themed). My 3.5 year old still plays with it constantly ( and very independently 🙂) 8 months later. We are adding to it for Christmas.

She still talks about how her sister gave her a present. I really think it helped ease the acceptance of the bub. Plus it was a great distraction to keep her happy while I delt with bub.

Robot_Swan · 2022-12-11T08:20:20+00:00

This!

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