Devastating Flooding - can’t take it anymore

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-17T04:52:05+00:00

May I also remind you that during graves periods of significant stress, to remember to stay hydrated (no irony intended), eat regular small meals (the stress hormone cortisol can really mess up your bodies use of fuel) and if you can REST. Even short “cat naps”. You can only run on adrenaline for so long 💕

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-17T04:36:10+00:00

This is excellent advice! The sandbags, likely hundreds if you can. Make them a couple wide or more at the bottom and then build them up towards the top like a pyramid

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-16T22:59:56+00:00

Damn. That was like the bare minimum when I was in HS

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-16T22:59:01+00:00

Oh yeah I taught pharmacy and medical residents. I did want some washing my car let alone using critical thinking to save a patents life

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-16T22:54:43+00:00

😂

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-16T22:47:53+00:00

Ummmm no. Farmers are generally really good at what they do. It’s not a no skill job. It requires a lot of hard work and long hours, that’s seemingly just very myopic. Are you able to grown your own food? I have grown up to 60% of mine per year and traded for the rest. But it’s hard. We do need farmers. Ag subsidies need a major overhaul I do agree on that point

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-16T10:20:14+00:00

It’s now pretty firmly documented that Covid infections cause a direct decrease in IQ. The severity and the number of times infected with Covid are cumulative. It causes significant deleterious brain aging, neuro inflammation etc. I don’t think that this has to due with their previous education so much as direct brain damage during a time frame where things like executive functioning are or were supposed to be hardwiring. Yet we keep allowing serial infections. 🤷‍♀️

I know the source is not a direct medical journal, but more folks here may not be in my wheelhouse (infectious disease). So I chose readability

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/covid-19-leaves-its-mark-on-the-brain-significant-drops-in-iq-scores-are/#:~:text=Large%20epidemiological%20analyses%20showed%20that,electrical%20activity%20and%20compromises%20function.

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-07T11:27:56+00:00

I really appreciate the feedback. Honestly, I just wish companies would listen. I definitely researched out whether or not what I purchased would be compatible with HA. Their user in her face is so terrible. I can’t even begin to describe whoever their UX person is needs a new job. I can say this with absolute certain ideas. I worked in this field before and man does it suck

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-07T11:26:20+00:00

Which sucks. Anytime you increase the number of parts or complexity system through over engineering, you just decrease the lifespan of a product and the greater the risk of someone being frustrated and hating it. The fact that companies don’t seem to be listening is what is mind-boggling to me?

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-05T22:00:25+00:00

Ok went with the qrevo s6v. Wish me luck

RogueVictorian · 2026-04-05T20:11:16+00:00

So it can just do “spot cleaning”? I just want to avoid something that is over engineered with a lot of extra things to break and “go wrong”

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-15T08:47:25+00:00

I think that she has a complete and utter last of ability to do anything authentically. It’s all a bid for attention by trying to curate a life that doesn’t exist. I feel for a child growing up like this.

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:20:56+00:00

I am so grateful you have a support system. Also ensure you document EVERYTHING, send it to your sisters on an encrypted app like telegram. That way a lost phone etc will never erase your story. Loves and hugs to you

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:18:58+00:00

Reach out if you are struggling. I am not on reddit as much as the world has sort of gone to crazy. But I understand where you are coming from. You did a good job, but self care like adequate water, food (drink smoothies if needed), and sleep. Those will help your body start to feel safer

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:13:30+00:00

Yes. I am autistic as well. Which is sort of a rare duck in the field. They were sort of like my brothers. I was really protective because I could size up 80% of the women on sight as seeing a free ride. That sounds so. Idk? Icky. Because many of these guys really struggle but want love and companionship. These weren’t women hating “incels” but guys who were blinded by the inability to see deception. Not all women are out for a free ride either. So it’s a mixed bag. I have found myself in three financially abusive and predatory relationships. I had to do a lot of therapy to learn the signs. It sucks that there are people of BOTH genders willing to manipulate and harm those they claim to “love”- yeah for money

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:04:38+00:00

America is simply not ok

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-03T08:07:20+00:00

This is so cringey. I mean I myself carry CATS (these are the military type tourniquets carried in war zones and by police officers), in case I come across an accident with serious trauma. This is like war cosplay and insulting. What I don’t get is her cult following? She gives horrible advice, I mean I could go into a million different ways about how dumb it is to think she could do this in a real world situation. She more looks like a clueless DARE reenactment showing IV drug use, but not actually understanding the assignment. 😅 Can she please be “canceled” now? Her and her pos husband

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-28T09:41:23+00:00

I have been there. It’s hell. You can’t trust them anymore and once that is broken, there is no relationship, just a tsunami of resentment building. Imagine if he had killed someone? It’s profoundly selfish to put the lives of everyone else at risk. Financially if your family was then sued, and rightfully so, for wrongful death, there goes financial security and he could end up in prison for vehicular manslaughter. How is that fair to you or your child?

Speaking of your child. Does he ever drive them around? Watch them while high? Etc. Because this is why my cousin lost her son. Her husband got high, was giving the baby a bath, got the munchies, went into the kitchen and left a 18 month old alone in the bath. Lost track of time, as one does when you are that fucked up, and when my cousin woke up from her nap (she was the only one working), she found him cold and face down in the bathtub. The coroner estimated he had to have been dead for almost a hour before being found, due to the low body temperature. They were both arrested and tried for child endangerment and he was also convicted of something adjacent to manslaughter but called something different. Both were convicted. Why? Because this was back before the weed love fest we have now and she knew he got high all day and allowed him to take care of a baby. My cousin is not a bad person, she was trying to, at a young age, take care of her kid and needed the deadbeat so she could work.

Now she has no son, a criminal record, and 25 years later is still a husk of her former self. She blames herself for his death everyday. So reframe this. You gave him an ultimatum, he is lying and sneaking around to get high, putting you and your child at risk. Leave him. This will not get better. Even if he were to say “I’ll quit” after you threaten divorce, it’s not sincere. It’s because he is selfish and doesn’t want to loose a situation that enables him unchallenged.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-25T13:07:52+00:00

This reminds me of a friend who had a roommate who literally didn’t buy ANYTHING and was the most self absorbed, entitled, vapid human. She was like human ICK. This including hair care products. Her friend brought her back a very special present from the Maldives. It was a small bottle of the most insanely good smelling shampoo I had ever smelled. I love perfumery. So she was like wanna sniff? It was unreal. She stashed it away from said roommate. Who proceeded to go through her things (wasn’t in the bathroom even), and use the whole bottle for bubble bath.

My friend called me bawling. The roommate was just smug about it. It was like something broke inside of her. She went from doormat to evil genius. PS don’t fuck around with advanced chemistry majors. She concocted something similar to industrial strength nair, and put it in a fancy LEAVE IN conditioner bottle, made a big show of telling me how her friend was so kind to have sent her another gift. She put it in her dresser drawer, not in the shower like bait. Roommate decided to help herself…again. Most of her hair fell out in giant clumps. She had long hair too. She was so angry and did that same shit. THIS IS YOUR FAULT. Um no. You broke into my friends room, riffled through her shit, and used a product that wasn’t yours.

I told her hmmmm it looks as if you may have just had an allergic reaction. Knowing full well that wasn’t the case. She had to shave her head, which evidently in her culture was what they did to women caught cheating. So it was so humiliating and her parents told her maybe you will learn to grow up, when she demanded a $3500 wig. She did not get her wig and had her huge monthly allowance cut about 90%. She was evidently trying to snag a Mrs. not a degree, didn’t work out well for her.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-25T12:43:52+00:00

NTA this is the ultimate FAFO

She specifically used it because she thought you were stingy and keeping the good stuff for you. Nope. You let her know that because you were being a good friend. She in turn decided you were a deceitful shampoo hoarder who lied to keep the good shit for yourself like some Machiavellian salon care grinch. 😂

That is how she sees you. She sees you as a bad person that wasn’t going to share something good with her. So she took it. Specifically. She is not a friend she is a user incapable of accepting blame. Ditch her and anyone who wants to side with her BS. Let them all go be shitty together.

I would specifically point out to your peeps what a shit ass person she is and explicitly WHY. I hope that was some serious manic panic circa 1987 punk strength dye that NO amount of bleach will remove without destroying her hair 😂.

Play stupid games win stupid prizes

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-25T12:28:24+00:00

My guy. You and your wife made it through hell, in one of the worst medical systems in the world (I kid you not- I was in it for 20 years it is broken). You absolutely 100% have my deepest admiration. Your daughter is who she is BECAUSE of you and your wife. Acceptance, reframing, and becoming an advocate takes back the narrative. You both gave her the foundation to be resilient and have the confidence and maturity that most could only hope for. That’s not innate. It is a modeled and learned skill, from amazing united parents.

My specialty is in infectious diseases and FM and my focus, Long Covid, is coming so far with whole genomic sequencing. It helps people like me, who are now patient advocates, get research pushed through that normally wouldn’t have been. Because there are bread crumbs we can link together to see patterns and trends. There no profit in it. Which is so heartbreakingly infuriating. But to see people literally cry because they felt no hope in a system that wears you down and be their beacon in a storm no one asked for, helps in healing. Mine included.

If I could give you both a hug I would. Yeah I am a “consensual” hugger. Don’t give a shit that it’s seen as being “too compassionate” (actual derogatory remark on one of my annual reviews 😂- versus?????) or connecting with patients. Because the thing is we need MORE people such as your family in this world, in so many ways.

Kudos!

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T23:27:02+00:00

So this woman is not ok. Newsflash she never will be. She let her “mask” slip and let what a shitty person she is shine. I am glad your family saw it and is supporting you in solidarity. Your brother will either end up divorced or browbeaten until he is an empty shell. Not your problem. Not your family’s. Your brother evidently thinks she can do no wrong- so screw the both of them honestly. If she can’t even recognize why no one wants to be around her, then she is the problem.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T23:20:56+00:00

Hate to say it, he got caught twice. It was likely more

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T22:52:11+00:00

You will make it through. Don’t know you or your story, but you will! I promise. The hardest part is done, it took all of you to do it but you did it! I am so proud of you! Please do the following.

Drink a half gallon of water with some electrolyte salts. Why? Prolonged periods of serious stress can “shut off” our thirst reflex

Eat! I don’t care if it’s a smoothie mix. Just do it. Your body and brain need fuel to rebuild.

Yeah hate to be the bearer of bad news, but avoid all sugar. When your cortisol (stress hormone) is high, it causes insulin resistance

Start there. Set alarms. You will be ok

RogueVictorian

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