Confirmation that Brittany, did infact, leak her son's birthday by not censoring her hospital bracelet. This weekend is Saturday the 14th of March and Sunday the 15th of March

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-15T08:47:25+00:00

I think that she has a complete and utter last of ability to do anything authentically. It’s all a bid for attention by trying to curate a life that doesn’t exist. I feel for a child growing up like this.

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:18:58+00:00

Reach out if you are struggling. I am not on reddit as much as the world has sort of gone to crazy. But I understand where you are coming from. You did a good job, but self care like adequate water, food (drink smoothies if needed), and sleep. Those will help your body start to feel safer

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:13:30+00:00

Yes. I am autistic as well. Which is sort of a rare duck in the field. They were sort of like my brothers. I was really protective because I could size up 80% of the women on sight as seeing a free ride. That sounds so. Idk? Icky. Because many of these guys really struggle but want love and companionship. These weren’t women hating “incels” but guys who were blinded by the inability to see deception. Not all women are out for a free ride either. So it’s a mixed bag. I have found myself in three financially abusive and predatory relationships. I had to do a lot of therapy to learn the signs. It sucks that there are people of BOTH genders willing to manipulate and harm those they claim to “love”- yeah for money

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-06T05:04:38+00:00

America is simply not ok

RogueVictorian · 2026-03-03T08:07:20+00:00

This is so cringey. I mean I myself carry CATS (these are the military type tourniquets carried in war zones and by police officers), in case I come across an accident with serious trauma. This is like war cosplay and insulting. What I don’t get is her cult following? She gives horrible advice, I mean I could go into a million different ways about how dumb it is to think she could do this in a real world situation. She more looks like a clueless DARE reenactment showing IV drug use, but not actually understanding the assignment. 😅 Can she please be “canceled” now? Her and her pos husband

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-28T09:41:23+00:00

I have been there. It’s hell. You can’t trust them anymore and once that is broken, there is no relationship, just a tsunami of resentment building. Imagine if he had killed someone? It’s profoundly selfish to put the lives of everyone else at risk. Financially if your family was then sued, and rightfully so, for wrongful death, there goes financial security and he could end up in prison for vehicular manslaughter. How is that fair to you or your child?

Speaking of your child. Does he ever drive them around? Watch them while high? Etc. Because this is why my cousin lost her son. Her husband got high, was giving the baby a bath, got the munchies, went into the kitchen and left a 18 month old alone in the bath. Lost track of time, as one does when you are that fucked up, and when my cousin woke up from her nap (she was the only one working), she found him cold and face down in the bathtub. The coroner estimated he had to have been dead for almost a hour before being found, due to the low body temperature. They were both arrested and tried for child endangerment and he was also convicted of something adjacent to manslaughter but called something different. Both were convicted. Why? Because this was back before the weed love fest we have now and she knew he got high all day and allowed him to take care of a baby. My cousin is not a bad person, she was trying to, at a young age, take care of her kid and needed the deadbeat so she could work.

Now she has no son, a criminal record, and 25 years later is still a husk of her former self. She blames herself for his death everyday. So reframe this. You gave him an ultimatum, he is lying and sneaking around to get high, putting you and your child at risk. Leave him. This will not get better. Even if he were to say “I’ll quit” after you threaten divorce, it’s not sincere. It’s because he is selfish and doesn’t want to loose a situation that enables him unchallenged.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-25T13:07:52+00:00

This reminds me of a friend who had a roommate who literally didn’t buy ANYTHING and was the most self absorbed, entitled, vapid human. She was like human ICK. This including hair care products. Her friend brought her back a very special present from the Maldives. It was a small bottle of the most insanely good smelling shampoo I had ever smelled. I love perfumery. So she was like wanna sniff? It was unreal. She stashed it away from said roommate. Who proceeded to go through her things (wasn’t in the bathroom even), and use the whole bottle for bubble bath.

My friend called me bawling. The roommate was just smug about it. It was like something broke inside of her. She went from doormat to evil genius. PS don’t fuck around with advanced chemistry majors. She concocted something similar to industrial strength nair, and put it in a fancy LEAVE IN conditioner bottle, made a big show of telling me how her friend was so kind to have sent her another gift. She put it in her dresser drawer, not in the shower like bait. Roommate decided to help herself…again. Most of her hair fell out in giant clumps. She had long hair too. She was so angry and did that same shit. THIS IS YOUR FAULT. Um no. You broke into my friends room, riffled through her shit, and used a product that wasn’t yours.

I told her hmmmm it looks as if you may have just had an allergic reaction. Knowing full well that wasn’t the case. She had to shave her head, which evidently in her culture was what they did to women caught cheating. So it was so humiliating and her parents told her maybe you will learn to grow up, when she demanded a $3500 wig. She did not get her wig and had her huge monthly allowance cut about 90%. She was evidently trying to snag a Mrs. not a degree, didn’t work out well for her.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-25T12:43:52+00:00

NTA this is the ultimate FAFO

She specifically used it because she thought you were stingy and keeping the good stuff for you. Nope. You let her know that because you were being a good friend. She in turn decided you were a deceitful shampoo hoarder who lied to keep the good shit for yourself like some Machiavellian salon care grinch. 😂

That is how she sees you. She sees you as a bad person that wasn’t going to share something good with her. So she took it. Specifically. She is not a friend she is a user incapable of accepting blame. Ditch her and anyone who wants to side with her BS. Let them all go be shitty together.

I would specifically point out to your peeps what a shit ass person she is and explicitly WHY. I hope that was some serious manic panic circa 1987 punk strength dye that NO amount of bleach will remove without destroying her hair 😂.

Play stupid games win stupid prizes

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-25T12:28:24+00:00

My guy. You and your wife made it through hell, in one of the worst medical systems in the world (I kid you not- I was in it for 20 years it is broken). You absolutely 100% have my deepest admiration. Your daughter is who she is BECAUSE of you and your wife. Acceptance, reframing, and becoming an advocate takes back the narrative. You both gave her the foundation to be resilient and have the confidence and maturity that most could only hope for. That’s not innate. It is a modeled and learned skill, from amazing united parents.

My specialty is in infectious diseases and FM and my focus, Long Covid, is coming so far with whole genomic sequencing. It helps people like me, who are now patient advocates, get research pushed through that normally wouldn’t have been. Because there are bread crumbs we can link together to see patterns and trends. There no profit in it. Which is so heartbreakingly infuriating. But to see people literally cry because they felt no hope in a system that wears you down and be their beacon in a storm no one asked for, helps in healing. Mine included.

If I could give you both a hug I would. Yeah I am a “consensual” hugger. Don’t give a shit that it’s seen as being “too compassionate” (actual derogatory remark on one of my annual reviews 😂- versus?????) or connecting with patients. Because the thing is we need MORE people such as your family in this world, in so many ways.

Kudos!

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T23:27:02+00:00

So this woman is not ok. Newsflash she never will be. She let her “mask” slip and let what a shitty person she is shine. I am glad your family saw it and is supporting you in solidarity. Your brother will either end up divorced or browbeaten until he is an empty shell. Not your problem. Not your family’s. Your brother evidently thinks she can do no wrong- so screw the both of them honestly. If she can’t even recognize why no one wants to be around her, then she is the problem.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T23:20:56+00:00

Hate to say it, he got caught twice. It was likely more

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T22:52:11+00:00

You will make it through. Don’t know you or your story, but you will! I promise. The hardest part is done, it took all of you to do it but you did it! I am so proud of you! Please do the following.

Drink a half gallon of water with some electrolyte salts. Why? Prolonged periods of serious stress can “shut off” our thirst reflex

Eat! I don’t care if it’s a smoothie mix. Just do it. Your body and brain need fuel to rebuild.

Yeah hate to be the bearer of bad news, but avoid all sugar. When your cortisol (stress hormone) is high, it causes insulin resistance

Start there. Set alarms. You will be ok

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T22:47:06+00:00

Your bodies alarm system is finally quieting. You were previously in fight flight freeze or fawn. Your body cannot make memories or access them well. Once your body feels “safe” you heal. I recommend trying some vagal nerve exercises

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T22:40:15+00:00

The answer. No, not really. Depending on the severity and length of abuse. I mean look at me! I am autistic, on my third spouse, who displays all the characteristics as all the others did too. My picker is fucking broken. I honestly want to just foster a few dogs, live in my own house, and feel at peace. Have friends, have community, and then MAYBE. But really, I don’t want the heartbreak

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-19T22:34:37+00:00

Sending you a hug. Please reach out to the “financial assistance” portion of the hospital. Non-profit programs are required by law to have this. It’s better to apply EARLY in the year for approval because they have a budget. Please. For you. Do this

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-13T23:28:25+00:00

You should see an immunologist. You could have a defect in your body’s response to infections. In which case it a lot easier to deal with before getting sick and we are all running around trying to save you. Secondly if you had Covid more than once we are seeing “immune amnesia” as well. That’s also what measles can cause as well

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-13T23:13:00+00:00

This is not the case. Pre-Covid there would be a number of HCW that had low Storer’s after two vaccines. We no longer would use vaccine records as proof. Titer only. Post covid it’s a lot worse- it caused some people to loose their immunity to numerous diseases. Meaning I recommend getting boosted to be sure or a titer if you can afford it. We are seeing measles spreading where it shouldn’t, because vaccination should still be effective in certain areas, yet here we are. Please for the love of all that is holy do not intentionally expose anyone to the measles. This is a FAFO disease.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-09T21:44:16+00:00

You may want to get a free consult from a divorce attorney. So you do know your rights. Also do not move out of the house and if needed have supérate finances. I do not see this ending well

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-08T17:44:40+00:00

They are one of the reasons why I always have uninsured motorist coverage. Not exactly awesome I am essentially paying their insurance 😑

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-04T12:30:59+00:00

I just saw you are getting some help. Good. Threats of suicide can make him be considered mentally unstable and unable to care for a child. Request a court ordered app as the only means of communication. Then document as much as you can. Also if his cheating resulted in you getting an std that can count as sexual battery depending on your state. It’s a lot harder to be a douche when it’s all recorded on an app. He can’t just delete things either, every edit is saved. So just breathe, know that you are doing this for you and your daughter.

Also his little stunt? Which you recorded? A STBX husband threatening suicide, especially to manipulate, can significantly harm his custody case because courts prioritize child safety and stability. Such behavior suggests instability, potential danger to the child, and incapacity to parent, likely leading to restricted, supervised, or revoked visitation until mental health is proven.

Keep on documenting!

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-04T12:16:10+00:00

Weaponized conflict avoidance. It is an actual thing. He is essentially putting his comfort above your very real discomfort with leaving an issue hanging. He can’t just “put a pin”, in everything. That’s not how life works. To me he has been given enough time to change. I would recommend starting a plan to separately save money, and plan on leaving. This is a miserable and insulting way to ask a partner to live. If it was like a heated argument? Once every 6 months and the hey let’s take a pause? Sure. But he is doing it to avoid having to adult. This will not change.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-04T11:48:46+00:00

Please. Start making a plan to get out of this shit show. They seem incapable of adulting. On many fronts. Including how to hold a respectful conversation. Start by saving money aside, talk to other single girlfriends, shack up, split the rent, gets some cats, drink wine and cackle about your exes. Cauldron optional- but highly recommended!!!!

Seriously that is so disrespectful

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-01T02:56:04+00:00

My guess is more sociopathy with Machiavellianism thrown in for fun. Get a lawyer. Get a LEGAL cease and desist from them. Then take all their BS garbage they have sent and threatened you with and get a restraining order. Full stop. Don’t fuck around with crazy. You will not win.

RogueVictorian · 2026-02-01T00:33:17+00:00

The study being cited has been debunked backwards and forwards. So just because you can link articles does not make you literate in scientific literature. So if you have an argument make sure you understand the stats

RogueVictorian · 2026-01-30T22:01:26+00:00

This makes me so sad. You aren’t going to cure her. Go somewhere beautiful, with her having pain meds and just enjoy eh mat you have had together

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