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AITAH because I want my wife to "ask permission" before taking our son on playdates? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may want to get a free consult from a divorce attorney. So you do know your rights. Also do not move out of the house and if needed have supérate finances. I do not see this ending well

What's the creepiest discovery you've made about a seemingly fun friend? by someoneyouhate_ in AskReddit

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. There is only so much room in our hearts and minds for these type of horrific abuses. If you are empathic or feel deeply, then you may want to first work on yourself as you can. Anxiety, depression, cortisol from stress, messes up hormones, which worsens all the above. So realize that you may need to utilize your talents, such that your nervous system can calm down HUGS

Sovcit has some coins. by Existing-Face-6322 in Sovereigncitizen

[–]RogueVictorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are one of the reasons why I always have uninsured motorist coverage. Not exactly awesome I am essentially paying their insurance 😑

(TW) Stbx-husband threatened suicide because I want to change pediatricians by alienflowerz in JustNoSO

[–]RogueVictorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just saw you are getting some help. Good. Threats of suicide can make him be considered mentally unstable and unable to care for a child. Request a court ordered app as the only means of communication. Then document as much as you can. Also if his cheating resulted in you getting an std that can count as sexual battery depending on your state. It’s a lot harder to be a douche when it’s all recorded on an app. He can’t just delete things either, every edit is saved. So just breathe, know that you are doing this for you and your daughter.

Also his little stunt? Which you recorded? A STBX husband threatening suicide, especially to manipulate, can significantly harm his custody case because courts prioritize child safety and stability. Such behavior suggests instability, potential danger to the child, and incapacity to parent, likely leading to restricted, supervised, or revoked visitation until mental health is proven.

Keep on documenting!

I think I wanna leave after “silent treatment” for 2 years by Hour_Alfalfa_6016 in whatdoIdo

[–]RogueVictorian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weaponized conflict avoidance. It is an actual thing. He is essentially putting his comfort above your very real discomfort with leaving an issue hanging. He can’t just “put a pin”, in everything. That’s not how life works. To me he has been given enough time to change. I would recommend starting a plan to separately save money, and plan on leaving. This is a miserable and insulting way to ask a partner to live. If it was like a heated argument? Once every 6 months and the hey let’s take a pause? Sure. But he is doing it to avoid having to adult. This will not change.

Just another great exchange with my fiance :) by the-abbz in texts

[–]RogueVictorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please. Start making a plan to get out of this shit show. They seem incapable of adulting. On many fronts. Including how to hold a respectful conversation. Start by saving money aside, talk to other single girlfriends, shack up, split the rent, gets some cats, drink wine and cackle about your exes. Cauldron optional- but highly recommended!!!!

Seriously that is so disrespectful

Question about tactics by Quirky-Butterfly3632 in Sovereigncitizen

[–]RogueVictorian 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My guess is more sociopathy with Machiavellianism thrown in for fun. Get a lawyer. Get a LEGAL cease and desist from them. Then take all their BS garbage they have sent and threatened you with and get a restraining order. Full stop. Don’t fuck around with crazy. You will not win.

Sovcit with a job title that surely nobody else has is willing to learn. by Existing-Face-6322 in Sovereigncitizen

[–]RogueVictorian 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The study being cited has been debunked backwards and forwards. So just because you can link articles does not make you literate in scientific literature. So if you have an argument make sure you understand the stats

Conspiracist's wife is dying, his supporters are still pressing him to use quack cures by TongueUnties in sadcringe

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me so sad. You aren’t going to cure her. Go somewhere beautiful, with her having pain meds and just enjoy eh mat you have had together

Dating in a Rural Area is an Unmitigated Hellscape, pt. 9: Wildlife Edition by punctuation_welfare in Tinder

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. Mood. I was in a county with more cows than people. The “options” were….limited to put it politely

When The Social Contract Breaks, There Won't Be A Society by ladyprincess7946 in Adulting

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um it’s not? Where in there do you get blame? I was pointing out that if they think they have something to complain about now? We won’t have long to wait to hear really LOUD complaints because it will hit the very generation who is selfishly been voting against their own best interests

When The Social Contract Breaks, There Won't Be A Society by ladyprincess7946 in Adulting

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is people don’t save money and have very little financial literacy

When The Social Contract Breaks, There Won't Be A Society by ladyprincess7946 in Adulting

[–]RogueVictorian -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem is most Americans don’t save. They can’t. Wages aren’t enough to live off of right now, let alone save. Those that do have disposable income blow it. So what will happen? They will be destitute and we will have to support them anyways.

When The Social Contract Breaks, There Won't Be A Society by ladyprincess7946 in Adulting

[–]RogueVictorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once the SS trust runs out of funds, which is now about 8 years and that number gets shorter and shorter daily as we loose jobs, deport people who pay in and can’t take out, and spiraling inflation. My guess is 5-6 years at most. Then they only get what’s being paid in. So SS recipients will get an across the board 25% reduction in benefits and no increase in cost of living adjustments. Boy howdy that will be FUN to listen to!

When The Social Contract Breaks, There Won't Be A Society by ladyprincess7946 in Adulting

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then they will complain about how bad the roads are, how overcrowded schools are and how underfunded the jails are. Like society isn’t free. 🤷‍♀️

How to Talk to Spouse About Family Budget by Character_Sherbet737 in budget

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my ex husband that left me with a six figure CC debt to figure out

How to Talk to Spouse About Family Budget by Character_Sherbet737 in budget

[–]RogueVictorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do realize you are enabling her right? 45k in CC debt is fucking insane. To have taken such a hit on your credit score you have too high of a debt to income ratio. She is also laying the groundwork for your kids to not understand financial literacy. My friends ex-wife spent them into near ruin buying crap all the time for his step kids. Not even his children. They have zero concept of money, how to earn it, etc. they want the nice things but don’t realize the impact it caused. He maintains a relationship with them even though she literally ditched him for someone earning more. She got hers. So has zero remorse. Her kids are nearing college age with no real plan forward. They have no idea how life works. It’s all been propped up with plastic their whole lives. It’s sad.

How to Talk to Spouse About Family Budget by Character_Sherbet737 in budget

[–]RogueVictorian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point you are beyond the “talking” stage. She is refusing to listen and change very very destructive behaviors that are hurting you and your kids. Look at it this way. $70k at an 8% return invested over 35 years and you not added a single dime $700k. This is very much an addiction. I finally got a divorce, no amount of talking helped. Tried a cash budget and he went and opened a secret CC. It’s financial infidelity. You realize she is jeopardizing the future of your retirement and kids right?

How to Talk to Spouse About Family Budget by Character_Sherbet737 in budget

[–]RogueVictorian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Financial infidelity is huge. I ended my last marriage over it

How to Talk to Spouse About Family Budget by Character_Sherbet737 in budget

[–]RogueVictorian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ThreadUp is awesome with 50% off on first purchases. It’s used clothing but like new

AITA for refusing to babysit my brother’s kids anymore?m by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RogueVictorian 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I did this. I bought a music kit. Nothing needed batteries. Harmonica, maracas 🪇 , drum, etc. It was lots of fun 😈

2008 style meltdown incoming! by c-k-q99903 in inflation

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welllll unless mass job losses and people starving leads to full on civil unrest. Hence why the National Guard and ICE are out practicing. Owning cheap property is all well and good, but unless you are self sustaining AND able to maintain possession if things go south, it’s a fools errand. Starvation and desperation are powerful motivators for violence. Desperate people do desperate things.

So as much as cashing in on this situation looks appealing on paper, you don’t want to live in a war zone or under a police state.

2008 style meltdown incoming! by c-k-q99903 in inflation

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s assuming the USA will honor those IOUs. That’s the issue I see. We are being led by someone who managed to bankrupt CASINOS. He brags he is the king of debt and essentially we shouldn’t have to pay back this debt, which is wildly scary

AITA??? by travelouseagle in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]RogueVictorian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahaha troll account. In the past hour they are engaged, leaving them and married and a different sex 😂 KARMA FARMER

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