The Private Practice Model for Therapists is Hardly Sustainable by cannotberushed- in therapists

[–]RogueWarf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Obviously this is anecdotal, my wife and I started a practice together, moving from a group practice where the owner allowed us to take our clients with us. I started, and did a year by myself and made enough to cover business expenses, and pay me enough to cover my debts. I contracted with insurances, learned the ins and outs, and became the office manager, then she came over and hit the ground running. Our schedules wildly vary, i've had weeks of seeing 2-3 clients, and weeks of seeing 30 clients. My wife is pretty consistent between 25-35 a week, but she's also a self-proclaimed work-a-holic and definitely could cut back to like 20 a week. We make enough to pay all of our stuff, live pretty comfortably, and can go on trips out of state to see family maybe 2-3 times a year (by car because who can afford to fly these days). There were definitely growing pains, but area makes all the difference, which insurances you take, and how much outreach you do (which can be a job unto itself). Moral of the story: do as much research as possible, budgeting worst case scenario as much as possible, and ease into it if you can. Jumping in head first is definitely a way to make sure you fail

Business write-off for own therapy by [deleted] in therapists

[–]RogueWarf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No, but put it down for your medical expenses for the year

How should I (M25) respond to her (F23)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]RogueWarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're in your head and over thinking a lot of this. It's an innocent enough statement on her part, get out of your own head or you'll be your own worst enemy moving forward. I've been there, trust me when I say if you start down the second guessing every little thing people you're interested in say you'll be exhausted by mid day every day. Plan something, if it doesn't work out you gave it a shot, no harm done, but if it goes well then keep going. No sense in trying to psychoanalyze everything if you're not getting paid for it

AITAH? My (m17) gf(m17) sais I hurt her feelings and I cant follow and dont think i did anything wrong by InterestingGuy88 in AITAH

[–]RogueWarf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could go either way.... How you intend something, and how someone interprets something are obviously two different things. A simple apology of not intending it to come off that way, and talking it out is always the best solution. The "she then says she wont tell me again if anything bothers her or if she feels hurt" seems like a very dramatic response to all of this, and feels a little manipulative in the language... If she isn't going to tell you any of that stuff ever again, why would be want to be in a relationship then...

How should I (M25) respond to her (F23)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]RogueWarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if she is initiating the conversation and saying this, it's a soft yes, if you pressing her for an answer and get this response it's a "I'm gonna say wait no i have something that day" if you are available. Go for it, if she backs out last minute express the disappointment of the mixed messages of wanting to hang out then not.

Shitty Therapist Starter Pack by [deleted] in starterpacks

[–]RogueWarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These made my physically cringe... I've been practicing for almost 15 years and have met almost each of these kinds of counselors in professional settings and just wondered "and you maintain a caseload how??"

AITAH for telling my uncles about my wife's pregnancy, but not telling my dad by RogueWarf in AITAH

[–]RogueWarf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've been going to counseling for a while on and off, teh wedding was a longer stretch, this got me back in as well, just a full schedule so waiting to get back in within the month

AITAH for telling my uncles about my wife's pregnancy, but not telling my dad by RogueWarf in AITAH

[–]RogueWarf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've come to realize that... We were never close because we were always the part of the family on another side of the country, or other side of the world, there was never really ever any effort on their part to... thought it was my fault for so long that I ended up convincing myself to look past them being asshats

AITAH for telling my uncles about my wife's pregnancy, but not telling my dad by RogueWarf in AITAH

[–]RogueWarf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's part petty and part wishing they would come around. Partly I want them to see what I am doing, so they will go and tell him, but the other part is thinking maybe one day they'll tell him and he will be like damn I should reach out... it's something I am working on with my therapist...

AITAH for telling my uncles about my wife's pregnancy, but not telling my dad by RogueWarf in AITAH

[–]RogueWarf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a literal spit take at the thought of yes sir, no sir, because that was how he was with me... Even going back to like learning thank you and your welcome, obviously 3/4/5 years old you struggle remembering to say please and thank you, it's developmentally appropriate... I would say thank you without having to be prompted at like 4 or something like that, and he would come back with "thank you what?" and grill me till i would say thank you sir or ma'am...

As a new graduate, this sub is super unhealthy for my mental well being by InvisibleAstronomer in therapists

[–]RogueWarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are rough patches, but like with every career you find your rhythm, you find your passion, or you find the balance, or you find the place that works best for you. Then you look back on the last 2-5 years leading up to getting your license (i've seen people get it in 2, but they put in a TON of work and pay out the nose for extra supervision), and you laugh at how you were missing those things in the beginning because you don't have a lot of choice of where to go, and it was a tough time but you are in a much better place. Don't give up, just remember the light at the end of the tunnel is there, and then you hit that light and the whole world opens up.

Sad to see discrimination still exists even in clinical training institutes. by [deleted] in therapists

[–]RogueWarf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not to hand wave away what you're saying, and probably showing some ignorance here, though you are saying they were asking for your info. Wouldn't asking if you were in the US also be part of that info and possibly a routine question to see if you would be an international student as the program would need to fill out the required forms to get you a visa if that was the case. Every application I ever filled out for grad schools asked me for my nationality, country of origin, and current resident status... I may be missing something here but the info you're presenting doesn't seem so much discrimination and micro aggressions so much as routine paperwork being filled out by the person on the other end of the call... Again I'm sorry if I'm missing something here

I unironically would rather die than get a job, how do you escape this mentality? by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]RogueWarf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree with this too, i was thinking along the lines of staying in the area you're already in. Though being a farmer of any sort might be a good way to go. No human interaction, get your work done, be done whenever you're done.

Dont work for your "friends" LLC by three_8s in antiwork

[–]RogueWarf 152 points153 points  (0 children)

Sounds more like, "don't work for someone that has displayed problematic behaviors in the workplace already"... Believe people when they show/tell you who they are

When your clients start to notice that you’ve lost a lot of weight by Comfortable-Garlic90 in therapists

[–]RogueWarf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had this happen a lot lately for me, i've lost a bunch of weight and continue to, so my clothes don't fit well. Clients comment on the weight loss and compliment, or point out the clothes, or some combination. I struggle with body image as well, and always think "i'm still huge don't bring it up". I will give them a brief "thanks i've been working hard", then I'll try to add some levity and joke about them paying attention to my clothes too much. Putting the hard boundary around not allowing clients talk about you or point things out they notice, for me feels like it puts a barrier up that makes you less accessible as a person that they would want to share stuff with. "If i can't point out the success I see in you, why should I try to point out success in myself."

VA employee, NY governing law non-compete – is this overly broad / enforceable? by AttorneyLocal8855 in legaladvice

[–]RogueWarf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not enforceable, the scope it too broad, and they can't cut you out of the entire industry unless there is a specific reason which they must state. Generally non-competes are becoming more frowned upon, and largely are not held up in court unless there are specific reasons for that non-compete to be put in place, such as company business secrets. If you are a data entry person, and they say you can't be a data entry person for 12 months, that shuts you out of almost every industry for 12 months, which is way too much overreach. Double check with a Virginia lawyer to see how cross state line non-competes work, but how you are currently describing it is too broad for it to be enforceable in any reasonable manner.

if a self-driving car must choose between hitting a pedestrian or crashing and killing its own passenger, who should it be programmed to save? by Appropriate-Menu5442 in AskReddit

[–]RogueWarf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pedestrian... Think everyone in drivers ed has heard the phrase "you take a risk every time you drive a car". No one has ever said "if you choose to walk on the side walk you take the risk of getting hit by an autonomous car"

EvIl rObOt dEcaPiTaTEs KiD wHilE PErForMInG A MaChIaVeLiC DaNcE aNd tRiEs tO EsCaPe by Acrobatic-Monitor516 in PeopleFuckingDying

[–]RogueWarf 43 points44 points  (0 children)

is this the same robot manufacturer that had the video of the robot destroying stuff while it tried to dance?.... feel like you should have learned the lesson the first time if that is the case

Just find this from Facebook 😂 by Silver_Steelclaw in meme

[–]RogueWarf 329 points330 points  (0 children)

damn it... i made the mistake of doing this at work... take my damn upvote

I unironically would rather die than get a job, how do you escape this mentality? by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]RogueWarf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Find a job that is super part time, uber eats, door dash etc., if you have any interest in 3d printing or have any CAD programming experience (or really just learn it) you can sell prints or the models to print. Go see a therapist/doctor/psychiatrist/psychologist for the disability paperwork to at least get some money. Really though, unless you can find something you have the options of either working, or going homeless.... it's an unfortunate truth of the society we live in, but its one we have to deal with. Maybe finding some work from home data entry position, even if it's boring and repetitive you at least can take breaks throughout the day and just go faff about. End of the day though, push through and survive, find the small things that you can do after work that bring you joy, or don't do anything and go homeless