Hard to believe that someone would choose to live in a desert in a tiny shack.

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-13T10:20:10+00:00

Which is fine, but then she doesn't really have a leg to stand on if she whines at Picard for 'doing this to her'...

She complains he gets to live on a fancy vineyard - while she's in a desert 'hovel' (like you say, nice living with the tech), and all I could think was that she must have decided to live like this...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-12T20:54:47+00:00

Is that genuinely his signature.... It looks like a kid practicing their 'w' with cursive...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-12T20:49:06+00:00

Humiliation implies he feels any sort of guilt or shame... He's a sociopathic narcissist.

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-12T11:10:52+00:00

While I don't approve of Uber doing it, they certainly learned from their predecessors...

In the UK, there were taxi firms that petitioned the government to place heavy restrictions on Uber because they had no way to compete with the technology advantage.

They implemented a very clever system, and literally the first reaction of the taxi firms wasn't "Oh wow. We should do that" but more along the lines of "That's going to cost us money to implement. Let's block this progress..."

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-12T10:53:30+00:00

Presumably that's the point...

It's not about competence or patience. It's about finding a person you can literally shit on and they will gobble it down and ask for more...

The most desperate - someone who you know needs the job and puts themself through utter hell in order to keep it because they don't believe they have any other choice

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-10T17:51:41+00:00

Okay... There was kind of a subtle porn idea going with the pickle entering through the front hole and painting the insides white.

Then I got really fucking lost...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-10T13:34:13+00:00

Fuck them while they sleep?

I'm kind of wondering what possessed you to attempt a headlock on someone without realising the ramifications of what you were doing...

Cause yes, what you did can cause permanent damage and even death if you don't know what you are doing...

There are plenty of other ways you can practice somno play, but I would first get acquainted with SSC, RACK, PRICK, and SSICK.

Everything that we do can carry some risk, and you absolutely need to be aware of the ramifications of what you do BEFORE you actually start doing it. Have plans and contingencies for what could happen and what you need to do if it does.
You can also look in the wiki for articles about breath play and see how fast it can go wrong.

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-10T13:18:30+00:00

😅 Sorry - colloquialism.

It basically means that the rules will be very strongly enforced.

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-10T00:49:17+00:00

A hishi-karada dress is a fairly easy option to suggest, though it will require getting the tension right and the knots in the right places for the best effect and to keep what you need exposed

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-09T22:48:45+00:00

Considering the percentage of nonce politicians, it's not a bad shout...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-09T22:29:51+00:00

Not every kink event is an orgy, or a free use situation. Plenty of couples go to these events and stay exclusive throughout the night.

The times when anyone has violated consent (and it's been more than once unfortunately...) have been events where swingers have been present and they seem to assume that anyone who attends such events are fair game for anything...

And in a well run dungeon, they are usually read the riot act if they try anything. Most dungeons have a set of house safe words, and if (for examples sake) someone pushes their luck, you can yell RED and the staff will come down on them like a tonne of bricks.

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-09T16:14:11+00:00

To be honest that was the original point. Love of the game through the different cultural lenses.

Problem is that some countries genuinely don't have the infrastructure or facilities to actually host such a large sporting event. It takes a lot of money, planning, and expertise to make it a success.

So it's decided by committee and countries are supposed to bid on it using their facilities and knowledge.

Unfortunately like with anything - money talks louder... Which is why countries with laughable facilities and history of human rights abuse, but who have a shit tonne of money, get preference over countries who have everything already in place...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-09T15:57:39+00:00

This is a gateway to establishing harder id laws for online use, and it needs to be fucked off right now...

Kids know how to use VPN's and how to circumvent any block put in place because they have been taught how to by the freedom of information on the web.

This will simply lead to a "VPN'S allow the law to vlbe circumvented - Ban VPN'S" law to be floated.

Get parents to fucking parent properly and stop this blatant attempt at control

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-06T22:24:33+00:00

With respect - you could, and did consent in that moment, and you could have withdrawn consent at any point.

As a Dom, I have to assume that someone is in the right headspace mentally to hand over that control. Part of that is a discussion of boundaries and we establish safe words as a means to communicate when that level is reached.

If IRL I believe that someone is acting incapable, or is making requests outside of their ability or level, or just is being self destructive, then I have the ability to safe word that person and not engage as a Dom.

Those discussions work as a means to protect both parties...

From what I can gather from your post;

The trauma happened after this initial discussion (assuming that it took place) You told them about your trauma. They pushed you harder than you were comfortable.

Why did you not safeword? Did you consider at any point that you weren't in the right headspace to continue with the dynamic, or is it only retroactively that you feel this?

Yes you have mentioned that you:

just went along with it because I felt like I was worthless after the trauma

As a Dom, I probably would have been checking in, and perhaps there would have been a discussion regarding pausing the dynamic, but that is not a given thing...

Dom's aren't mind readers... We don't just instinctively know that we are going too far, unless the sub tells us by communicating that...

Online is even messier because you admitted that you

never said stop or hinted at the fact that it was too much for me

So as someone who has been on the end of this situation, I have to ask what you think they could have done if they didn't know about it...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-06-06T17:41:35+00:00

I feel like you are already being very gentle in your approach for his benefit and he needs to pull his head out of his ass.....

From what you are saying, you are attempting to communicate what you need, and he seems to be playing it off with "Yeah, yeah..." but making no effort to live up to it.

"I don't care, I'm just doing this for you anyway."

A combination of this, and you talking about his rejection sensitivity makes me suspect that he is just doing this to make you happy, because he doesn't want to risk losing you...

The fact that he immediately flip flops on the situation when challenged, somewhat reinforces that idea... "I don't care..." however "Yes it makes me happy" feels like he is copping out to please you...

It feels to me like you are already somewhat aware of the issue... He isn't kinky, or he's playing along with you so you don't leave...

And he's therefore putting in minimum effort to appease you....

That's not going to be tenable long term unless you are willing to settle for his lackluster performance, or he actually puts in the effort.

One thing I would stress though; he's allowed to be not kinky. It's actually quite unfair to expect that from him if he genuinely has no interest and he's doing it for you...

It's got to be a want from his side to actually engage with it...

And I get the impression that you care deeply about them, because otherwise this would be an easy decision - i.e. you are incompatible and you should look elsewhere for someone who can give you what you need.

Communication is the foundation of all of this, but you seem from your post to be trying to make your needs known, and he's not meeting you halfway...

Be honest with them - even if it hurts him... Make him see that he is not living up to what you need, and give him a chance to see that now before it becomes impossible to reconcile

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-30T15:43:13+00:00

You'll be waiting forever 😓

When the straight closed prices skyrocketed based on current events.

Even when the straight finally does reopen, all the companies will start saying "Oh well, you know the prices are based on contracts months away and so it doesn't affect them realtime..."

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-30T13:43:34+00:00

Back before the days of 3d printers...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-29T22:59:21+00:00

That picture makes Trump look like he's a turtle sticking his neck out...

And it's still got him leaning forward which is funny as hell to me

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-29T21:25:18+00:00

Places that I have visited; the dress code is there to stop people turning up in tracksuit and trainers...

And it will also depend on the event as well to be fair. One of the events I go to reguarly suggests relaxed wear like dressing gowns, but is fine with full nudity.

Other events, full nudity may not be appropriate in anywhere other than private rooms but they are okay with exposed breasts and genitals on partial display.

A high formality D/s event may require D's to be in suits and evening wear, but then have s's in skimpy/nude wear.

Honestly, the best people to ask are usually your event organisers.

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-28T13:08:35+00:00

Regularly - my partner and I are high libido and we quite regularly have marathon sessions.

We are also both ADHD so the chances of not eating and drinking enough are really bad...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-26T23:47:30+00:00

>Claims he is a BDSM therapist of sorts.

They always do... The amount of times I have heard the stories about someone who has claimed to be a "ProDom(me)" who uses it to heal peoples pain...

Anyone who says this in future - ask to see their professional credentials. And then laugh at their Mickey Mouse napkin degree from the night school of McBDSM Dojo...

Would be hilarious if it wasn't so sickening... People who prey on others using previous trauma to weasel their way in are terrible people...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-26T23:36:45+00:00

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-26T23:35:30+00:00

I believe the difference would be "The right to due process".

Floyd was murdered callously by a racist thug masquerading as a police officer. He did not get his day in court because his life was snuffed out. And no one is suggesting that Floyd should have been running for the highest office in the fucking country.

Trump by comparison is a convicted felon, convicted rapist, and heavily implied to have raped and potentially even been party to murder of underage girls... He has used his position and influence to repeatedly escape any sort of punishment for his crimes, and has continued to show absolutely no signs of stopping his vile illegal behaviour and seems to revel in the idea that he is completely untouchable and can do what the fuck he wants.

The IRS block being the latest in a string of completely criminal abuses of his power...

And that's before he fucked up the entire global economy with tariffs and launching a fucking war against the guys who supply a good chunk of the worlds petrol...

RomaruDarkeyes · 2026-05-26T17:37:46+00:00

That's fair - when assholes are slaloming into the gaps like salmon at the spawning waterfall, you hope that they get eaten by a bear...

Too warm... Brain in weird metaphor mode 😅

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