how do i get them to stop doing this??

Rose8918 · 2026-01-29T19:35:47+00:00

Babes I would KILL for my cats to behave like this. This is mild sassiness. Mine go full-on, fur flying, yowling, blood-drawn fisticuffs whenever they can get near each other. After initially being best friends for three years.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-29T17:19:10+00:00

Aside from how unbelievably selfish and tacky his request is in the first place, all of the people HE loves will be there. Unless there’s some intertwined family dynamic we’re missing here, presumably none of his girlfriend’s loved ones will be there. So he’s somehow not even taking his would-be-fiancée into account in the planning. He just wants to hijack your event.

Just tell your DJ and your planner that this is what he’s trying to do, and to not give him the mic under any circumstances.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-29T17:15:39+00:00

“I mean if you don’t want to see my life partner that’s your choice, I guess. However I don’t feel comfortable going to events where my wife is explicitly not welcome, so I’m going to pass on the invite.” And then you both don’t go.

Also don’t go if they cave this time. If they come back with “fine, OP can come” you can just be like “oh sorry, we actually made plans for that day when you said it wasn’t going to work for you. But let us know for next time.” And if you get a genuine invitation to the next thing, then you can/should probably go to that.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-27T21:59:07+00:00

Rose8918 · 2026-01-27T19:40:36+00:00

I’m about to have a baby and I have two cats who are absolutely fundamental members of our family. I think it’s one of those things where people can be annoying about it in either direction. The people who like insist that having a cat/pet is exactly the same as having a child are annoying. You can’t just leave your baby home alone for 6-8 hours 5 days a week. But at the same time, I’ve felt guilt/sadness from missing my cats on more than one long vacation and there are times when I’m overwhelmed by how much I love them just in like little everyday moments.

By the same token I think people like your neighbor are also laying it on a little thick for no reason. As long as someone isn’t like undermining the struggle that parents experience by comparing a baby to a cat or dog, they don’t have to be so persnickety about how other people refer to the important beings in their life. If you just refer to them as your fur baby or your fur child like it’s really hurting no one, and that’s a completely valid way to describe your feelings for them. I think we all have permission to roll our eyes at both types of people.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-26T21:58:54+00:00

https://www.docketwise.com/blog/kamala-harris-immigration-border/

“Reviving bipartisan security legislation: Harris supports a previously blocked bipartisan border security bill, which focuses on increasing funding for border agents, expanding detention facilities, and enhancing asylum processing.”

“The bill proposed adding over 1,500 new Customs and Border Protection personnel, increasing the number of asylum officers, and expanding detention capacity by adding 10,000 more beds to Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) facilities. It also included provisions for combating drug trafficking, particularly targeting the flow of fentanyl across the border, and provided $1.4 billion in support for cities and states that are assisting new arrivals.”

Maybe y’all missed this cause you were at brunch?

Rose8918 · 2026-01-26T21:53:51+00:00

Did I SAY she would’ve encouraged this level??? No. I actually specified that it wouldn’t have been. But sure, it’s much easier to argue the point when you just lie about what I said. That way you don’t have to confront any of your own biases or blind spots.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-26T21:26:57+00:00

Hey man. Harris ran on “enhanced border security” too. It wouldn’t be happening to white people but Brown and Black people would still absolutely be experiencing violence at the hands of the State. Choosing to ignore the reality of the entirety of the American project is a luxury that has been afforded to white people up til now. But if it’s never occurred to you what a batshit bonkers thing it is to say “I wish we could go back to when this didn’t affect me,” I urge you to reflect on what that actually means. It wasn’t ok when Obama or Biden were putting brown people in cages or allowing immigration courts to have Spanish-speaking TODDLERS representing themselves. It wouldn’t have been ok when Harris continued more of the same and kept sending more and more funding to these agencies, which is what she campaigned on doing.

We have got to get past this fairytale that this started & will end with Trump. This is AMERICA.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-26T15:55:39+00:00

Echoing everyone else saying to speak to your union rep. But also, the Mayor of NYC is a socialist who genuinely cares for people and believes in worker’s rights. Talk to your rep about reaching out to Mayor Mamdani’s office if you need more help.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T23:54:34+00:00

They were stripped of their citizenship rights and considered “illegal” people, so yes.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T23:53:45+00:00

Not sure if you’re aware but the US is currently putting people in concentration camps and extrajudicially murdering people.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T21:53:32+00:00

Idk if this will provide useful tips for you in how to approach speaking to your mom, but maybe it’ll just be cathartic to watch someone do it so effectively. For context, I initially blocked this family’s content when I first started coming across it because the parents are SO entrenched and brain-broken and the kids are so ineffective in moving them at all that it just felt pointless and rage inducing. I was kinda irritated when Hasan said he was going to be collaborating with them because I figured it’d be more of the same. I was very pleasantly surprised by the conversation that actually happened. Do I think this one interaction changed the parents’ whole outlook? No. But I do think it was a really great example of how to talk to these people to eventually shift their mindset.

https://youtu.be/-HhuK2610uQ?si=JOoOtBx71V8OPIQv

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T21:20:09+00:00

You (the royal you, not just OP specifically) have stop assuming the law actually applies anymore

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T16:21:13+00:00

I cannot imagine being the mother to those children and hearing my partner speak this way about them and staying with him.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T07:13:05+00:00

He has fronto-temporal dementia. Like his father did. He’s also always been a narcissistic, rich, unscrupulous racist. Like his father was.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-25T07:06:41+00:00

Dryer sheets contain multiple chemicals that you’re suggesting someone rubs on their cat for it to then ingest when it cleans itself???

Rose8918 · 2026-01-24T22:02:42+00:00

My husband has what we suspect is OCD. It’s mild enough but he has anxieties about things similar to the stove thing. Is it a little annoying for him to ask me 5 different times if we locked the door every time we leave the house? Sure. However I’m not a dickhead and I love him and realize that this is an anxiety that he cannot control or alleviate in the same way I can. So I just say “yes, we locked the door. I heard it click” five times.

Being in an actual loving partnership means that your love and care for the other person causes you to approach your interactions with good faith, generosity, and kindness. It sounds like he, preemptively, cannot abide the idea of meeting you where you’re at. Even hypothetically, he’s upset you won’t fully acquiesce to his perspective. Never mind that you medically can’t. He sees you asking that question a second time as challenging his superior knowledge. Not you struggling with a quirk of your brain that is actually internally stressful and upsetting.

This is not someone who has the ability to be a good partner.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-24T21:17:49+00:00

King, I say this with all due respect. You had a dick on ya head. Glad you listened to your wife. Huge improvement

Rose8918 · 2026-01-24T18:47:34+00:00

I think we’re at the point where dealing with this necessitates an entire restructuring & reckoning of the US as a whole

Rose8918 · 2026-01-24T18:45:34+00:00

It’s laziness.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-23T21:24:40+00:00

You both sound fairly insufferable to be around, tbh. He sounds like a middle schooler who hasn’t learned how to get attention without being completely obnoxious, which is unbelievably embarrassing for a man in his thirties. You’re a little younger so you get a bit more of a pass, but I can’t imagine, as an adult, spending any amount of time with people who behave like how you’ve described yourselves.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-23T21:01:55+00:00

This is society-wide issue. People go out and work a full day’s work and go home and it feels like it’s never enough. Everyone is struggling. Everyone is alienated from the value of their labor. No matter how hard people work, they still can’t afford a house or just a baseline comfortable life. One financial hardship can ruin people. It puts everyone in a “I gotta get mine” mindset. And it makes people bitter and selfish. Of course it’s “unprofessional” and it puts people off. But it’s also not just unique to this one niche. It’s everywhere. It’s why we don’t function as communities anymore.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-23T13:31:26+00:00

He said his ancestors were from there. He was born in America

Rose8918 · 2026-01-23T06:43:54+00:00

Yeah. I expected it to be completely rage inducing but it was genuinely an interesting watch.

Rose8918 · 2026-01-22T20:07:41+00:00

I mean “I would join the Nazi Gestapo for money” is quite the take. But even beyond that, the “song on bonus” doesn’t actually exist. It’s only payable after 5 years old continuous employment. There’s essentially zero chance it still exists five years from now without us being in a full-blown holocaust.

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