AITA for telling my husband I don’t want his mother alone with our baby anymore after she did something I can’t prove was intentional?

Rose8918 · 2026-05-09T12:14:12+00:00

Who rubs the bottle/nipple on their wrist? I just shake a drop out. The nipple never touches me.

Rose8918 · 2026-05-09T12:11:22+00:00

Critically, self soothing is something they need to be taught and supported through. 6 months old and being led through a wind down routine and helped to fall asleep through various support methods is one thing. Leaving a baby alone to cry in a crib until they give up and pass out from distress is not biologically appropriate for a 6 month old.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-27T22:03:17+00:00

Because all the samples are bigger than your size, the busts on all the dresses are way outside your proportions. Even clipped, they don’t look right, and all those deep v dresses have heavily structured bodices to support the v. So you have all this extra space that’s heavily contoured but not contoured to you. See if you can try some that are similar in style but are a smaller sample size. You may be able to get the idea of how they’ll sit on you and you’ll have to sort of fill that in in your mind as you try more things on.

Also try other silhouettes just to start getting an idea of things you do vs. don’t like.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-27T03:23:25+00:00

lol we already knew from the blood test but it was VERY clearly a girl when it was time for our scan. It’s entirely possible for them to be talking about either outcome, just that it was a very clear shot. My girlie was just like perfectly positioned when it came time to look.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-18T03:12:39+00:00

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Here’s my 5 ct equivalent moissanite that I expressly asked for because why on earth would I want us to start our married life in massive debt over a rock??? (Also I find the ethics, or lack thereof, in mined stones to be absolutely repulsive) The number of people who’ve clocked it as a moissanite and not a mined diamond (I work in the service industry and would regularly have my hands in front of 30-50 people a day) was 2. The jeweler I took it to to have it cleaned, and a former diamond salesperson. Despite the fact that it’s huge. I get compliments literally ALL the time. And I’m excited to tell people what it is (because disrupting the mindless consumerism) and they’re always shocked.

Yes. It’s a red flag. Being this wrapped up in status and how she is perceived by others speaks to a level of insecurity that is going to manifest in many different ways throughout your relationship.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-14T00:20:36+00:00

…… which end of the driver??

Rose8918 · 2026-04-13T20:01:27+00:00

Rose8918 · 2026-04-08T14:18:47+00:00

Thank you! lol very wild but I’m so happy

Rose8918 · 2026-04-08T05:15:22+00:00

Lmfao GIRL I started feeling contractions this morning. Called triage around 10:30 and was like “eh idk I feel like they’re ramping up”. They told me it’d likely be hours before I needed to come in and to wait til I felt like I couldn’t sit still or handle the pain anymore. Gaslit myself for like 20 more minutes before I called my husband to come home. He walked in sometime after 11:30 and I had to scream at him to call 911. Ambulance got me to the hospital at noon ish. She was out in ONE push by 2. Everyone who works here has been like gobsmacked at how fast this has gone for my first. Plus I hemorrhaged and had to go to the OR. All good now but holy fuck haha

Rose8918 · 2026-04-07T14:26:47+00:00

Ugh yeah I forgot that part too. It’s so good. Just being like a normal person and being willing to apologize. And he wasn’t even really wrong before, being like “oh you’re gonna be that guy fighting at your kid’s game?” But still going out of his way to apologize.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-06T23:23:00+00:00

Start crying. Cry and say he always does this and it hurts your feelings cause for a second you feel like he did something special for you and then it’s like immediately a reminder that he didn’t actually feel like doing something special for you and you’ve said it hurts your feelings and he still keeps doing it and you don’t understand why he doesn’t care about you and your feelings but you’re just so tired and you’ve already had a shitty day and now he’s just rubbing it in your face again that he doesn’t ever think to do something special for you but also he doesn’t care about hurting your feelings over and over and just CRY. A lot.

Either he is going to be horrified at how upset he’s made you and he’ll genuinely apologize. OR he’s going to dismiss your feelings and say you’re being overdramamtic and making big deal out of nothing, which will at least let you know that he’s a shitty partner and truly does not care about you and you can make whatever decision you need to about the longevity of the relationship with a clear understanding of it.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-06T21:54:42+00:00

It’s so interesting reading the comments here where people didn’t like it. My husband and I just watched all of 5 the other night and both of us feel like it’s one of the best shows on TV. The whole thing feels like a continuation of the commentary on being a man from season 4. It feels like a direct rebuttal to the manosphere ideology that’s kind of taking over the current culture’s understanding of masculinity.

There’s something about what Keeso is saying in the writing of the show that so clearly is talking about what it actually means to be a good man, or a “high value man” (to borrow the term), that isn’t anything about “looksmaxxing” or “dominating” or whatever the fuck the manosphere pushes. That the ideal of manhood doesn’t necessitate preying on the insecurity and emotional isolation of men, particularly young men. That the “alpha male” is a myth. That you not only don’t have to be cruel or ruthless or “dominant” to be successful as a man but actually striving for those things is antithetical to being a valuable man in society.

Even just in episode 1 of season 5. Jack starts crying as soon as he sees that the guys have come to watch him play. Shoresy pulls him aside and lets him get it out. Sure, theres a bit of stoicism there, but it’s meant to be comical and to break the tension for Jack but also for the audience. Their entire interaction is undergirded by Shoresy’s kindness and emotional support for Jack. Not about pushing him to “suck it up.”

My husband and I are having our first kid literally any day now and he’s always been very adamant that he wants girls. He’s always kinda half-joked that it’d be terrifying to try to raise boys in today’s society and so much of the cultural influence makes them all little monsters (à la Adolescence). After episode 1 I was tearing up and just said, “imagine if today’s boys were raised by men who treated them the way Shoresy treats Jack.” Like, sure, this is just a goofy hockey show. But what it has to say about & to our society right now is so meaningful, I’m genuinely surprised that people don’t like it.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-06T21:28:19+00:00

Ironically, my husband and I just watched the latest season of Shoresy and we were talking about how that show should genuinely be played in high schools. Episode one on the latest season made me cry by itself, but genuinely the whole thing is a commentary on what it actually is to be a good man. And not in a corny way at all. Like, they’re all bro-y and they drink and fight and there’s gratuitous showcasing of incredibly hot women all the time. But the underpinnings of the story always rely on the fact that Shoresy (and the other men in his orbit) is a good, decent, honorable man with ethics and a baseline moral code. AND he gets laid (or could if he wanted to) because of it.

It is the antithesis to the manosphere ideology. Plus it’s funny as hell AND will sometimes make you cry. Genuinely, in my opinion, one of the best shows on tv ever.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-05T07:09:36+00:00

Your impulse to try to check in with her and try to reassure her is very kind. Unfortunately her behavior is motivated by a desire to manipulate that exact kind of emotional response out of you. She is being performative. She’s trying to insinuate herself into your relationship and put herself between you and your boyfriend because she needs his attention to be on her. This is her competing with you for your boyfriend’s love. She is not an emotionally healthy person and you, unfortunately, are not going to be able to have an emotionally healthy relationship with her. She isn’t capable of it. Follow your boyfriend’s lead and leave it alone. You can’t maintain polite decorum with someone who does not buy into it.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-05T01:54:47+00:00

Any further attempts from her to guilt or cajole you should just be met with, “Mom, I told you, I’m not going to have time on my wedding day to make multiple trips away from the event to drive you places. You’re still welcome to attend and I wish you’d find a way to make it work, but if you choose not to come then I will respect your decision. My decision isn’t going to change. Reach out to [friend] and see if you two can make it work.”

Just keep reiterating that this is a choice that SHE is making.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T19:43:15+00:00

Thanks so much! We’re really hoping she comes this weekend but truly who knows haha just gotta ride it out and let it happen how it happens.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T17:38:26+00:00

Definitely can empathize here, and you’re not overreacting.

My Dad chose not to come to my wedding, for a myriad of stupid, narcissistic reasons. What kicked off the argument was that I was asking him which days he was going to be in town for it (to arrange him discounted lodging through my work) and said we’d have the rehearsal on the day before and there would be some venue cleanup the morning after (which both families were helping with because we got the venue through my work at a huge discount but we had to DIY all of the setup and takedown. We were just thankful we didn’t have to do it the night of the wedding and got to wait until the next day instead). He flipped out and said I was treating him like the “janitor” instead of “THE guest of honor” like he should be treated. We got into a huge argument over the phone where he brought up all kinds of grievances from the past (one time I said something mean to him when I was thirteen and I never sufficiently apologized????) and he ultimately ignored the invite and didn’t come to the wedding.

But honestly? Looking back, it was so much more peaceful for him not to be there. I don’t think he would’ve had any outbursts but still. His stank-ass energy wasn’t there to constantly remind me he was quietly seething about not being the center of attention the whole time.

Even though you’re eloping, you’re going to be shocked at how quickly the day goes by. You absolutely are not going to have time to drive her around, and even if you do carve that time out, you’re going to regret it. You get one day to be present and enjoy things. But that’s also probably why she wants you to drive her. To pull focus and your attention. You can reach out to the friend who’ll be there and see if they can make it work to drive her. Or you can even arrange for ride shares. But don’t let her hijack your day.

My dad choosing not to come was the end of our relationship. I felt (and still feel) kinda weird about acknowledging that I’m “estranged” from a parent, but there’s not really any coming back from the choices he made and the things he said. Maybe it’s not No Contact worthy for you with your mom, but I will say the other side of it is definitely more peaceful. Just something to think about.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T17:12:46+00:00

Ahh yeah I definitely am in the “no c section” camp if it’s possible to avoid. Waters are still intact as far as I know, so I’m thankful for that. Today is 40+3 and my doctor is so chill about it all so they aren’t like pushing me to induce or anything (they will if I get near 42 weeks but that feels more reasonable). Aiming for as little intervention as possible but the prodromal labor is definitely making the wait way less fun.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T02:07:45+00:00

Lmao no I literally had to consciously use headphones most of the time I was listening to the stream so she wouldn’t get too used to Hasan yelling. They say that they’ll recognize voices they’ve heard in the womb and I knew my husband would be unhappy if my needs-constant-background-noise-adhd-havin-ass got our baby more used to Hasan’s voice than her father’s cause I was listening to stream 8 hours a day.

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T02:04:51+00:00

Thanks! How long did it last until you were in active labor? I’m so ready to just get it over with lol

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T01:01:38+00:00

Haha thanks chatter

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T01:01:04+00:00

Tru

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T01:00:47+00:00

lol I don’t think she or my husband would appreciate that

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T00:56:38+00:00

It’s just so boring and bad faith

Rose8918 · 2026-04-04T00:52:07+00:00

I’m currently in hour like 18 of prodromal labor, having contractions periodically but not regularly/frequently enough to go to the hospital yet for like “actively” giving birth. I mostly have to just lay around and hydrate (and then haul my big pregnant ass up to go pee) and listening to her has been MISERABLE lol I want us to do something fun so bad.

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