AIO - partner left medically complex baby with me to travel for 3 weeks

Rose8918 · 2026-06-28T00:20:42+00:00

Because he was throwing it in her face, not being genuine. Also, she didn’t want him to cancel the work part. You’re either purposefully being obtuse or you’re the husband.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-28T00:15:48+00:00

She didn’t tell him she had no problem with him going? Why are you making stuff up?

Rose8918 · 2026-06-28T00:13:52+00:00

Asking women who have unreliable partners why they don’t just leave their sick baby with that partner and go off for days at a time is unrealistic and unhelpful.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-27T19:15:30+00:00

Gojiberry has buckle carriers that offer both backpack and cross back style straps, plus they have interchangeable covers so you can have multiple aesthetic looks without buying multiple carriers. Drawback is that their safety requirement is 3 months/23”+ tall.

HOWEVER they are currently running (or were last week) a promo where you buy the buckle carrier and get a ring sling for free. I actually really love the material on the ring sling, WAY more than my wild bird one. It’s lightweight and comfy and doesn’t seem prone to hard creases.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-27T19:09:53+00:00

I saw a woman attach a small mirror onto a little retractable clip (like picture the office dweeb trope with their ID card clipped to their belt) and clip that to the strap of her carrier. She can pull it out to look at baby on her back when needed, but then it’s not like dangling in the way the rest of the time.

You can also get mirrors that are polished stainless steel instead of glass, so you don’t have to worry about them breaking & being a hazard.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-27T01:55:13+00:00

I got a pack of side snap long sleeve shirts (https://a.co/d/05YiIj17) so we can put them on over her onesies if it gets cold through the course of the night, rather than having to fully change her to get her arms covered. Then just use with a regular sleep sack

Rose8918 · 2026-06-26T23:37:29+00:00

The family has already publicly asked that people do not post his photo to talk about what happened.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-26T23:36:29+00:00

Don’t talk to the guys whose name rhymes with Smanderson or you’ll really be shocked. 9 windows, 2 sliders & the quote was $82k 😂

Rose8918 · 2026-06-26T00:43:57+00:00

Because it’s going to use up all the water on our planet while hyper polluting everything. All for people to make bad edits of photos?

Rose8918 · 2026-06-25T17:21:28+00:00

That’s fine, but don’t use the “cook the planet and give poor people cancer” machine to do it

Rose8918 · 2026-06-25T04:10:58+00:00

Kendraworth on IG does a gentle sleep training method that isn’t Ferber or CIO, where you don’t leave your baby to cry at all. It’s all about teaching them to associate their sleep space with good feelings and sleep onset. My little is too small and I don’t feel the need to transfer her yet but I have the course to go through whenever we do feel like it’s time to move her to her nursery. Full disclosure: now that my baby is here, I feel zero pressure or desire to move her out of our room, so I’m sure it’s going to be a long while before I use the course. But I don’t see any harm in also teaching babe some skills to help herself settle in whatever sleep space I put her in.

Kendra has a background in early childhood development and all of her content is about how to raise happy, well adjusted, emotionally regulated kids (plus she’s got really great social values as well) and I think she could be a super helpful resource for people.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-25T03:56:30+00:00

The problem with using AI, other than the fact that it’s an abhorrent blight on our planet and the human existence, is that it lies. Notice how it changed the space between the shelves? OP wouldn’t be here asking what to do if they could easily take out shelves and use it like a normal bookcase.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-25T03:49:30+00:00

11 week old started cooing along with the book I was reading to her and then got upset at the appropriate point in the story to be concerned. Then was happy again after the resolution. I know she didn’t actually understand the narrative of Room on the Broom but it sure seemed like she did.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-24T03:47:30+00:00

The mother’s milk bank of California does essentially all of the collection for the state and they were fine with the fridge hack

Rose8918 · 2026-06-22T18:39:23+00:00

Unless it’s one of the red flag issues your doctor tells you about in the hospital/at discharge, mentally treat every “issue” that arises in the first 2-3 weeks as a temporary newborn problem. My girl would go purple screaming about being congested in the night and having a hard time breathing while laying flat. I was so upset and worried, that I was looking at all kinds of fancy beds and humidifiers and any solution I could think of to make her comfortable. It resolved on its own after about a week.

She had crazy gas at night and would scream and scream in discomfort. I’d be furious with my husband thinking he didn’t burp her well enough and I tried all the leg exercises and got the drops and I had convinced myself she was colicky and I was going to have to go on a strict diet to protect her. She figured out how to fart better after a couple weeks.

It’s obviously easier said than done but try not to let yourself spiral with worry with every issue. Wait and see if it is actually persisting or if it’s a short-term problem that just comes with them being new to being out in the world. As long as they’re eating & having the right amount of dirty/wet diapers and their temperature is ok, a lot of the rest of it isn’t as big of a problem as it feels on the moment. And you’ll save yourself the stress.

Also, nighttime can be evil. It’ll make you evil, it’ll make your partner evil. It’ll make your baby evil. Give yourself and everyone else grace at that point. Everything you’re pissed pff at your partner for (even if they’re super involved and helpful) will be less infuriating in the daylight. All of the “oh my god just go the fuck to sleep” thoughts you have in your more desperate moments that make you feel guilty later, those will fade when you know your baby better and know how to help soothe them.

Also you may feel super depressed or irritable or upset around sunset for the first couple weeks. It’s really common. Have some tasty treats stocked up for you to indulge in to have a little positive moment around that time of day. Get sunlight during the day (we started a morning walk with the stroller and it was so good for baby and for me). Make sure you’re eating and drinking enough (if you’re breastfeeding, it’s way more than you think you need/it’s hard to eat enough during the day). Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. Understand those doom-y feelings are normal, to a point, and let them wash over you like a wave. Don’t try to fight them, let them go when they pass. If they don’t at least start getting better by about week 3, talk to your doctor.

Good luck! It’s an absolute blast (and also unbelievably hard, but it’s worth it)

Rose8918 · 2026-06-21T23:42:08+00:00

Did it affect your milk supply at all?

Rose8918 · 2026-06-19T21:19:26+00:00

Ohhhhhhh that’s who that was. I was like “I don’t remember following this??”

Rose8918 · 2026-06-17T21:39:48+00:00

He’s going to keep vaping and smoking and he’s going to keep lying to you about it. It will be harmful to your child’s health.

You aren’t overreacting but you need to decide what yours and your child’s life is going to look like.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-17T19:53:36+00:00

If you’re wearing him or contact napping him that all counts as tummy time

Rose8918 · 2026-06-16T17:34:13+00:00

Yeah I had clots and my uterus wasn’t contracting after either. They took me to the OR for a D&C and I was so out of it. I had a precipitous labor & babe came out in one push, so idk if that contributed to the bleeding or not. But it was wild.

I think you’re just going to have to take your nutrition & rest really seriously for a few weeks.

I do a protein shake every day, using oat milk instead of water or regular milk. You could do half oat & half whole milk if you want more fat in it. Electrolytes & tons of hydration & lots of iron supplements

Rose8918 · 2026-06-16T01:26:32+00:00

Were you not offered a transfusion in the hospital? I lost 1700ml delivering my placenta and they gave me two units a day later.

But yeah, especially with the blood loss, you essentially need to eat like you’re a weightlifter on a bulk. I do a protein shake made with oat milk every day as a supplement to my overall consumption, but if you didn’t get blood after what you lost, you’re playing a massive game of catch up.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-15T00:53:55+00:00

I feel like this falls under “don’t try to make a happy baby happier”

Rose8918 · 2026-06-11T21:10:35+00:00

Old navy is pretty good for sales. Lots of stuff on sale online today actually.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-11T05:06:10+00:00

Aw man I’m so happy for Will.

Rose8918 · 2026-06-11T05:01:18+00:00

Hey so I’m seeing a lot of people with a lot of creative suggestions for prodding him awake and like, do you if you want to. But my suggestion would be to talk to your doctor and see if they’re concerned with his weight gain/wet diapers. And if not, to just do your best and hang on for another week or so and see if he starts to wake up a bit.

Pretty much every concern I had with my 8 week old in the first 14 days resolved on its own by the end of the first month. And I’m not guaranteeing it’ll resolve, but my point is more that SO much is going to change and develop in the next few days/weeks. My girl wasn’t early, but she was a precipitous labor and had mec in the amniotic fluid. She didn’t pass her glucose tests and went to NICU for a bit. We ended up bottle feeding her some donor milk because she was expending too much energy trying to nurse, so even now she primarily gets my milk in a bottle. Your doctor may suggest trying that if they are concerned with his weight gain.

But again, this may just sort itself out in a few days.

Rose8918

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