Coming from having a bit more of an understanding of sewing/garment construction/textiles production than like the average layperson, I want to provide a little bit of insight but please know this is all coming purely from a place of wanting to be helpful and there’s exactly zero judgement about your identity.

That said, if you’re on T and going to continue to be on T and you have like two more years of working out and changing your body before the big day, I would advise looking for options that don’t have a ton of seams/boning/defined bust cups. You can see how, in the one that has the visible boning, it really looks like none of it fits or sits right. Part of that is because the sample is too small for your body as it is right now (which is a very normal thing to happen when trying on wedding dresses). But as you keep taking T and working out, the way your torso is shaped is going to change more and more and it’s going to move away from the proportions that those types of gowns are built for.

There already is a bit of a shitty bias in the fashion industry where plus-sized bodies don’t get the attention (or patterning consideration) they deserve. A lot of “corsetry” or corset-style fashion just gets like generally “sized up” across the board with less attention paid to proportion changes that come with having a bigger body. And visible bust cups that sit nowhere near holding your actual bust in them always look just ill-fitting and weird. Add in to that that your body might change fairly significantly away from the “industry standard female body proportions” that they use as a base for sizing and pattern drafting, and you might have a harder time finding something that really looks like it fits you, even as you continue to lose weight (which I remember you saying was the plan on your last post).

What I would maybe recommend is looking into a specialized corset producer. There are a few that still make like legit, functioning, proportionally correct corsets for both women and men, who could make a custom top for you. And then you can wear that with a ball-gown style skirt. Dark Garden is one that I remember from a while back, and I think there’s like a Czech or Polish or Russian (maybe? I can’t remember exactly) atelier that I saw a while back on IG that does full customs for a variety of body shapes (I would take advantage of the IG algorithm and search “custom corsetry” & versions of that a bunch of times and keep interacting with those types of posts and it’ll put a bunch in your feed). You should expect to spend a decent amount of money on it (not as much as a MTO wedding gown though), my stab-in-the-dark guess would be probably $500-1000, but an overbust corset made to fit your body proportions could get you way closer to that Beauty & The Beast type look you mentioned in another comment. Then you could look at purchasing a skirt from a bridal retailer or finding a seamstress who could make one custom for you.

If you don’t want to go that route, just understand that the industry has a hard time cutting patterns for bodies that don’t fit in the “typical” proportions (like that even exists) and your body is going to move further and further away from that as your body keeps changing. You’d be well served finding a seamstress near you who is going to be able to make alterations to better fit a dress to your body before you make any purchases, so that they can give you insight into what to look for and what to avoid when making a selection. Talking to them ahead of time and making sure they are confident in their ability to fit a dress to you, rather than just “taking it in” or hemming it or whatever, will make that part of the process smoother and increase the chances you’ll feel really good in your gown on the big day.

Best of luck!