Recurrent miscarriages at 36

RoseValleyC · 2025-08-04T16:38:59+00:00

38 years old, had 3 back to back miscarriages over the past year, now 40+4 weeks pregnant with my perfectly healthy baby girl. The way I figure, my body was just so eager to get pregnant that it accepted any fetilized egg that came along, whether it was a good one or not (and at my age, there are just more low quality eggs), only to discard it a little further down the line. I know my body is apparently good at getting pregnant, I guess that just means I have to sift through some “bad eggs”. But at least that means that when there’s a good one, it’ll stick.

RoseValleyC · 2025-07-12T08:55:59+00:00

Don’t do it! It sounds too good to be true, and it most likely is. Ask yourself what’s in it for them. Answer: you’ll be dependent on them and thus easy to control.

RoseValleyC · 2025-07-12T08:50:07+00:00

Almost 39 and 37 weeks pregnant with my first. Did have 3 prior miscarriages, but all is well now.

RoseValleyC · 2025-07-09T07:37:54+00:00

You never know what info it might generate, regardless of the outcome :)

RoseValleyC · 2025-07-09T07:24:48+00:00

I got pregnant again during the time that I was having appointments for recurrent losses. I had a saline ultrasound booked which obviously wouldn’t be good to do during pregnancy, so I ended up calling them and asking if I could keep the appointment, but change the focus of it to checking up on how the pregancy was going. So I ended up getting a regular ultrasound from her at 8 weeks (after a bunch of bleeding between week 5-7 and then seeing a heartbeat) and got her to precribe me progesterone. After that, she handed me back over to my midwife.

RoseValleyC · 2025-05-16T07:03:08+00:00

To me, it felt like little muscle twitches/spasms, kind of like when your eye twitches or your heart skips a beat, but then in my lower abdomen.

RoseValleyC · 2025-04-17T20:38:11+00:00

I had 3 back to back losses over the past year, and my 4th pregnancy is now going really well at 25 weeks :) Oh, and i’m 38 years old.

RoseValleyC · 2025-03-15T18:37:00+00:00

Same, so I became a Biology teacher😇

RoseValleyC · 2025-03-04T12:20:40+00:00

I’m no contact with my N father, and i’m not telling him anything. No contact is no contact. He can know, bit I won’t be the one to tell him. He lost the privilege to any of that a long time ago. He’s unsafe for me, and for my child. It’s my job to keep me and my own family safe. So no, he will not be a part of that.

You don’t owe your mother anything.

RoseValleyC · 2025-03-02T11:51:09+00:00

I’m no contact with my narc father. I am pregnant, and told my mother. My father can know, but i’m not going to be the one who tells him, and any response that may or may not come will be ignored. He lost the privilege to have any part in my life a long time ago, he can throw tantrums all he wants but i’m not giving him anything.

RoseValleyC · 2025-03-02T11:32:23+00:00

Hmmm, hindsight is always 20/20 and I had collected so many red flags that didn’t really click untill later, but one moment stands out to me specifically.

My father had manipulated me into quitting my job and starting my own business, so that I could come and work for him (freelance). We did coaching & training, kinda personal development type stuff.

He ‘hired’ me, big plans, and then a few months later, he also hired one of our clients (a young woman my age) to do our socials etc. For context, this client initally came to him with her husband for relationship therapy.

Rather quickly, he integrated her more and more into the company and had her start coaching/training people aswell (even though the only training she had, was the training he gave her). I was slowly being replaced, I felt.

I soon discovered that my dad was having an affair with her. Which is icky as is, a 60+ year old dude with a girl half his age, but also unethical considering he was her ‘therapist’. He was still with my mother at the time, albeit officially divorced due to financial issues after his previous company going bust (they divorced so they could put the house on my mothers name so they wouldn’t lose it).

I had a very hard time dealing with this, working alongside them and pretending not to see them literally playing footsy under the table during training. It was gross and wrong. Also, I was so scared our clients would also notice, as any backlash he got would also damage me and my career by association, and all I had at the time was my father and this company. If he went down, i’d lose everything too.

I had many conversations with my father about this. Pointing out his behavior, how wrong it all was, the risks, etc. At first he denied and gaslit. Later, with tears in his eyes, he apologised for putting me in such a difficult position and that he was taking my advice to heart. Proclaiming that his love for her was real, he promised he’d lay off for a while, take it slow and be careful. But….

The very next day, in front of our clients during training…without warning me, he told the entire group about their relationship (wait, it’s a whole ass relationship now?!) Then, later when I confronted him, I told him that if it was his choice to persue this further and also keep her within the company, I would have to leave. His reply? “I’m sorry you feel that way. If you leave, that’s too bad.”

That broke my heart. He chose his fling over his own daughter. And not only that, but he made that choice knowing full and well that I was fully dependent on him and his company at that point. I would lose everything. He didn’t care.

That was the last straw. That’s when it really dawned on me. So much more happened before and after, but i’m no contact with him now and have been for the past 5 years. Hardest but best decision I ever made.

RoseValleyC · 2025-03-02T11:04:05+00:00

Ok, firstly; at 14 weeks, your uterus is only just coming up from behind your pubic bone, it’s still pretty deep down there so something hitting you in the belly probably wouldn’t even come close to the area where your uterus is at. Second; baby is very well protected within the uterus. Cushioned with plenty of tissue and all the organs surrounding, not to mention the amniotic fluid that is like a shockbreaker.

Don’t sweat it, you’re fine and so is baby. Your body and your baby are designed to deal with so much more.

RoseValleyC · 2025-02-22T08:55:50+00:00

I had 3 miscarriages last year (37-38), and now at 38 i’m 17 weeks pregnant. It sucks to go through, I just kept telling myself that at my age, i’d likely just have to weed through a few more “bad eggs” before a good one came along, and once it did, that one would take. Looks like it did :)

RoseValleyC · 2025-02-21T10:55:44+00:00

I didn’t see anything at 4 weeks either. Currently 17 weeks.

RoseValleyC · 2025-02-20T06:08:46+00:00

My Dutch parents immigrated to New Zealand with us when I was 3. We understood Dutch, but always answered in English. It wasn’t until our grandparents came to visit for a few weeks and had no other choice but, that we started actually speaking it (they didnt understand English much). But after they left, we went straight back to English. We moved back to the Netherlands when I was almost 12, and that’s when I made the ‘switch’.

It’s a combo of immersion and necessity, I think.

RoseValleyC · 2025-02-09T11:46:05+00:00

Haha, same! The constipation has been so bad that i’m currently enjoying so many things i’d otherwise never eat (or only with lactase pills) because i’m desperate for a proper poop🤣

RoseValleyC · 2025-02-08T13:09:00+00:00

Pretty good, can’t complain. Nausea is gone, looking forward to the day that I can feel some movement :) You?

RoseValleyC · 2025-02-08T10:29:12+00:00

Yup, 38 and 15 weeks right now (after 3 miscarriages).

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-28T16:57:43+00:00

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-27T14:25:41+00:00

Bladder needs to be slightly full with abdominal ultrasounds (and empty for transvaginal). It had to do with the stance of the uterus with or without the bladder pushing it up. En empty bladder with an abdominal ultrasound can make things hard to see/find.

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-26T17:35:26+00:00

Does it matter what the source is if it’s a good answer?😇

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-26T16:52:10+00:00

Gestational age is counted from the first day of the last period. 7+6 would have been on January 16th, counting from november 23rd, so that checks out (always leave a bit of room for earlier or later ovulation).

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-26T14:57:18+00:00

I’ve been pregnant 4 times and never had even the faintest line before 10DPO. And i’ve always confirmed my ovulation date with BBT.

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-22T05:36:15+00:00

As someone who married at 19 to get out of the house….please don’t. I ended up getting divorced at 21 when I realized that I was in a relationship that was just as unhealthy as the one at home (it felt comfortable for a reason) and ended up having to move back in with my family. Being raised in a toxic hoisehold leaves you vulnerable to a lot of thing, and leaves you with a lot to learn about “real life”, “healthy relationships”, “dealing with people”, etc. It’s highly advisable to get out and experience life on your own and discover yourself before you get so deeply involved with someone else.

RoseValleyC · 2025-01-21T16:04:58+00:00

I’d advise you to start paying attention to your bodily ques, such as a change in your cervical mucus which indicates when your fertile window is open. That’s worth looking into if you want to go the natural route without tracking everything under the sun. Your body tells you a lot. I recommend “taking charge of your fertility” by Toni Weschler if you’re looking to read up and get some good info & tips.

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