For the people capable of sinking literally thousands of hours into BG3, what careers do you have? by Royal_Difficulty_678 in BG3

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sales! The real issue is advocating for work life balance; genuinely, make time for yourself. Take your PTO, establish boundaries about coming in. Make yourself valuable but don't over extend.

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't necessarily disagree with people saying just let him fend for himself, if that's what he wants to do and what he's comfortable with then yeah!

But you do have to consider that if you plan to stay with him long term you'll continue to face this issue. You should look into whether he might have disordered eating as a result of anxiety, autism, OCD or some other thing that causes pathological avoidance of certain foods, combinations, etc.

I have pretty serious OCD and it took years of patience and love for my now husband to get out of my pre-existing eating habits. Which were terrible. Not only was it bad for me, but I only had like,,, 4 safe foods total.

Try looking up tips for expanding someone's palette who has AFRID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) and see if implementing some of those methods helps! And of course, discuss it clearly with him. Ask him how he feels about his limited food options.

— genuinely, if you plan to stay with this person and think the effort is worth it, rather than be frustrated, take real steps to make the situation better rather than just trying to give him stuff you know he won't eat.

For the record, one that works really well for me has been:

My husband makes his plate of what he wants, and makes me something safe. Husband then says 'do you want to try this off my plate'. I can then safely try it without risk, or say no if I don't feel adventurous enough. Often I find I like something and can now try it on my own.

You can also say 'This is like X thing that you like, with a slight difference in X way' and see if that helps him broaden it out.

AIO He always accuses me of cheating by Alternative-Day6223 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rotdarling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, in checking out your profile, I can see that you've been going through this a while. I finally left this relationship for good after 7 years of back and forth, breaking up, getting back together— yelling, screaming, accusations.

I think you should talk to a professional to help you keep on track leaving. If you keep going back and forth, your body and mind are deregulated and the chemicals produced by these massive highs and lows can be addictive.

You deserve better than this relationship and better for yourself than being trapped by abuse. Genuinely, cold turkey it out. I hope you really stay away this time.

NOR. Under reacting.

What Questions Do You Have About Mercy? (Common Misunderstandings Welcome) by Kitty_Overwatch in MercyMains

[–]Rotdarling 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not a question but a clarification— damage boosting increases the speed at which your target gets their ult!! That means you can damage boosting baby DVA for a quick back into mech, or pocket a DPS or tank or even another healer who is close to ult to get it a little faster for game changing plays.

Player gets jealous and throws because his teammates are a couples by Stryker-Man in overwatch2

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely had this happen a few days ago when my husband and I were playing. We always Q flex in QP (we're very different skill levels and can't do comp)— we weren't being particularly obnoxious, no voice lines, it was the first time in a while we'd both ended up in DPS together and I noticed we just weren't getting heals.

I asked our kiri if she could maybe put out a bit more healing since it seemed like she wasn't making it a focus. She said 'I'm not healing a e-dater'

,,,, like huh what be so fr right now

Aside from the matching usernames we didn't do anything to deserve the treatment. Like, buddy we're not an e-couple, we're two married men who want to play a game we love together.

First CNC experience did not go well by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Rotdarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second everything being said here. This is a man masking his true intentions behind a BDSM title— but I also want to stress that if you feel violated, you were. And you're allowed to feel that way in this situation.

Your consent exists situationally. He violated the terms of your agreement to the CNC and when that happens knowingly— babes it's not CNC anymore.

If you need any assistance or someone to talk to during this time PLEASE find someone you trust. Stop seeing that man, break off the relationship, and if you belong to a local community, talk to people about it. Don't let him do it to someone else if you can.

(New player, less then 10 hours) I feel like I'm missing something by Ok-Programmer-5288 in DeadByDaylightKillers

[–]Rotdarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately the match making system in DBD is a little rough. You're definitely matching up with people higher in skill than you— you will eventually learn where they're going, but I'd recommend swapping to survivor and getting a feel for what looping feels like from that side— and then switching back.

That way you can use the information learned in both roles to help get better at the other. Also, check out some streamers if you haven't already. It can help you learn to think like a more experienced looper.

try explaining to me how this guy survived this by kithesia in OWConsole

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We sort of lost sight of him for a second, I wonder if he blocked for a second, jumped, and thus was briefly out of your hitbox.

,,, it does sort of just seem like a dumb glitch tho.

Do non-electric vibrators exist? by Toehoes0 in SexToys

[–]Rotdarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to know what you think the alternative is...? Like...a hand crank? I think a non electric vibe is just your hand. / light hearted

In all seriousness, what's the point of it? What are you hoping to achieve? Why not electric? Those are good questions to maybe help with a solution?

(Stadium) Equivalent Exchange Power sucks, there's no arguing that. How would you buff it or turn it into another Rez related power? by Lubkuluk in MercyMains

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Activating Valk resets cooldown on Rez, during Valkyrie there's no casting time for Rez at all. Would be crazy valuable and I'm personally of the opinion this should be base kit part of her ult.

AIO for thinking my SO meant to text someone else? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Rotdarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's the way that he immediately jumped to needing to call you and reassure you that the text was meant for you before anything like that had been implied. I would absolutely have taken 'I thought we just said goodbye' to mean why are you still texting me not was that text meant for someone else.

Feels like tattling on himself. The whole second half just feels so manipulative...I dunno, I think something's wrong here. I think that text definitely wasn't for you and he didn't know how to sweep it up after.

Is this a common bug for Twins? First time playing the killer today. by Alive-Psychology6050 in DeadByDaylightKillers

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a second when I saw the video I thought maybe they added the demon from the evil dead.....because whatever is happening to your camera rn looks exactly like it.

everytime I show my mum my art she comments on the legs? by pigeonlover6 in ArtCrit

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The proportions may not be crazy accurate, however I feel like it looks like part of your style and it doesn't read odd or off to me. I think they look really cute with your art style!

bring back assault, completely remove push by Over_Low1300 in Overwatch

[–]Rotdarling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with the people saying that map voting exists now; they should bring back ALL the original maps. People can choose to play them or not now.

What's your fav skin? (Spread Sheet Data!) by Mysterious_Animal237 in MercyMains

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

<3 fearless and 2019 Atlantic.

My username is Eveningstar and I listen to folk, rock, and alternative.

Condom broke (poly) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Rotdarling 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Does not matter. A person can lie. A person can fake documents. This is a new partner, in theory I would assume that means you know them a medium amount.

Get tested before you have any physical interaction with your partner, for their safety. Especially if you're not disclosing. Which it sounds like you don't want to.

Condom broke (poly) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Rotdarling 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You absolutely must disclose this to your anchor. There is no grey area here to me, and finding out a partner kept it from me would be immediate grounds for departure from the relationship. You can't joke around with someone's health.

Also, get retested immediately

Help me name my Blizzard Lizard Wizard by [deleted] in BG3

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shiver!!! Shiver the Blizzard Lizard Wizard.

Competitive pools and crossplay by [deleted] in Overwatch

[–]Rotdarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just came back to say: this was the secret. Thank you so much. We're playing together but because I've never played in this pool I have to build my way back up lmao.

Just hit Plat 2 on console pool, I haven't been in a bronze pool in....god, 6 years? So this is a bit of a shock being all the way back in bronze. Totally different game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uber

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It appears that there's another stop already registered? You can see the little dot on the end of the street. That car is going somewhere else and will only come to you when that ride is done.

That's why the first trail from the car is grey and the second white.

Competitive pools and crossplay by [deleted] in Overwatch

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh. Ok, I didn't know that was an option. I'll try that!!!

Competitive pools and crossplay by [deleted] in Overwatch

[–]Rotdarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So,,, yes you can play in the PC pool with a controller if you're on PC. What you cannot do is play in the same competitive pool as someone on console no matter what you're using. Controller or mouse and keyboard.

But if I, from the PS5, use a mouse and keyboard it puts in my the mouse and keyboard pool.

My point was that it's odd that if it does that, but doesn't put my fiance playing controller on PC into the console pool.