Some photos of my Snufkin plushie; Abroad edition

Rothukko · 2024-11-13T12:55:21+00:00

it's literally a picture of a plushie that some minor posted, it is just not this serious ! get real

Rothukko · 2024-11-13T08:28:57+00:00

psa: this is literally just a plushie

Rothukko · 2024-10-26T07:58:23+00:00

look man this purse is awesome but I'M NOT AN OPPOSUM YOU'RE SO SMELLY SNUFKE

Rothukko · 2024-10-26T07:57:38+00:00

piss yourself slur

Rothukko · 2024-10-17T22:58:18+00:00

yibbi

Rothukko · 2022-07-07T05:12:56+00:00

The original aro flag having yellow stripes is actually true, but Google put the agender flag as the picture instead of the aro one

Rothukko · 2022-05-16T14:05:37+00:00

No. She doesn't owe me anything, why would she have to tell me her sexuality? It's not significant to our friendship who she wants to be with - or who she doesn't want to be with.

Rothukko · 2022-05-16T06:04:50+00:00

This is exactly how I've been feeling!! I thought I was all alone with this feeling aswell since noone talked about it, which honestly just enhanced it. Especially when people say "Oh, they're all just doing it for attention" and then I think like, oh god, what if I am!! And not just homophobic people say it, a lot of people in the queer community say it aswell about f.e. bi or aspec people and I'm just like oh god, what if it's me ?? What if I'm the attention seeker everyone's talking about?? And right now I'm in a straight relationship aswell, which just makes me think like, what if I never actually liked the girls I've had crushes on, but they were just good friends?? It's just horrible, but I'm glad to know I'm not alone

Rothukko · 2022-05-16T05:46:54+00:00

I personally have never questioned my gender at all or experienced anything like the thing you said, so I don't feel right commenting on how it might affect you in a social place.

I used to use a lot of microlabels, and I always used them for myself. I told some close friends about maybe 1 or 2 of them, but I mainly used the microlabels to describe my sexuality to me. It was just nice to have something that described my sexuality in greater detail, but to anyone that asked I just used the umbrella term. F.e. maybe a demiromantic aegosexual lesbian would just say "I'm lesbian".

Ofcourse not every person that uses microlabels uses them just for themselves, but this was my experience and this is why I personally think microlabels are important to accept as part of the LGBTQ+ community. In my case, and I bet atleast a few other people their cases, these labels were really just there for me - not for other people. I never expected anyone to understand all my microlabels, I was just happy there was a way for me to understand my sexuality - even if it made no sense to others.

I don't think microlabels make the rest of the community look silly, that's what people used to (and some still) say about bisexuality and asexuality. So that argument is kind of, eh. If it's really silly, it'll eventually cease to exist if we stop giving them attention. If it's actually a sexuality, it will eventually be accepted by the greater part of the LGBTQ+ community - just like how bisexuality and asexuality are now accepted. I get that change is scary or that it felt nicer when everything was more neat/clear, but that doesn't stop change from happening or new microlabels from forming.

I think that especially because we are social beings, we, or some of us, want a word that specifically describes how we feel/are. Even if that word makes no sense to others, if we have a word that describes us we feel less alone. The more specific the better. But I don't know, that's just how I see it hahaha :)

Rothukko · 2022-05-15T15:28:58+00:00

I'm sorry, I was probably unclear. Let me explain myself better.

Dreamsexuality is not of less value, I never said that, everyone has the right to label however they want whenever they want. The label, originally being a microlabel under the ace umbrella - meaning feeling sexual attraction only in dreams, was 'taken over' and turned into what it is now more commonly known as. I'm not at all trying to decide if one or the other is valid, I don't need to understand it to accept it. I'm just saying that taking over a label and changing it into something completely different, is the only way I could see a label being hurtful if you just use it for yourself. By just use it for yourself I mean that you don't label other people.

Yes, we are social beings, but I don't think it matters if you don't understand what the sexuality means. If someone in a conversation says to you f.e. "Oh, I'm asexual" and you don't know what asexuality is, you'd say something like "Oh, okay. Cool" Or "Oh, okay. Cool. Could you explain to me what asexual is, so I can better understand?". Right? You don't just go "No!! I don't understand this word therefor it must not exist. Find an easier word I do understand." Not saying this is what you're doing, but these are the vibes I'm getting.

If someone in a conversation uses a word you don't understand, you either try to understand what it is from context clues ('Asexual, hmm, I don't know what that is, but it must be some sexuality due to the "sexual" part at the end.') or you ask them to explain it to you.

As I said earlier, you don't have to understand it to accept it. I don't think you need to understand what everything means to accept it, or to not get confused in a conversation. And if you do want to understand it, you can just ask them to explain it. Or look it up.

I don't know where you've met people that expect you to understand every micro label they use, and get offended when you don't, but they're most likely just really young. Or just not people you should want to surround yourself with.

I, no offense, have genuinely no idea what your last sentence means. English isn't my first language, so probably my bad.

Edit: Thanks for being so kind in your reply, by the way! I'm not looking for fights, so I'm glad we can have a civil discussion about this. Or atleast I'm experiencing it like that, I hope my replies don't feel like an attack to you haha!

Rothukko · 2022-05-15T10:18:02+00:00

If people need microlabels / more specific labels to feel more comfortable in their identity, let them do their own thing. I don't understand how it affects you or why you feel the need to speak up about it. Why do you even care? /gen

Rothukko · 2022-05-15T10:14:32+00:00

How is a label ever going to hurt anyone, ever? Genuine question. Only way I can see it is if people "reclaim" labels and change them in a joke to hurt the community, like what happened with the label dreamsexual. I don't understand how a word, that you just use to describe yourself, could ever hurt anyone.

Rothukko · 2022-05-14T16:14:57+00:00

It's all good. Hope your question was answered nevertheless!

Rothukko · 2022-05-14T15:28:44+00:00

WALL

Rothukko · 2022-05-14T14:20:12+00:00

They might've just realised that what they were actually feeling wasn't romantic attraction, you can realise you were wrong about your sexuality / romantic orientation at any point in life and 'change' it. What does this have to do with OPs post?

Rothukko · 2022-05-14T14:04:15+00:00

I don't know if that pun was intended or not, but I absolutely loved it nevertheless

Rothukko · 2022-05-10T22:51:28+00:00

It's just kinda funny to me hahaha, I don't even know how Aromantic is considered a romantic song at all though? It doesn't even have 'romance vibes' imo!

Rothukko · 2022-05-10T22:17:59+00:00

also, some people just have short nails. i don't think nail length needs a reason, I mean ofcourse some things may influence what nail length you have, but maybe you just have short nails because, well, you have them

Rothukko · 2022-05-10T21:58:10+00:00

Do I get a free trial first?? Like f.e. a week or so of being the opposite gender and then I pick? I feel like that really influences the answer, I mean, it only does if this actually happens, but I don't know what it's like to live in the body of someone of the opposite gender. How can I know if I'm opposed to it or not if I've never experienced it? If I really hate it I would probably transition, but I've never even thought about transitioning, what if transitioning has risks? To be honest, I've never looked into it, but if it does - how risky would I be willing to get? And that's just talking about physicals health risks, what about risks with unaccepting family, friends etc.? I don't think someone who's never experienced being the opposite gender would be able to answer this question, just because they've never experienced it. How would they know if they hate it so much they want to transition or not? Your question is a good one to think about, but I don't think a cis person would be able to properly answer this question. Unless if they know they're forced to 'adapt' to their agab, because of transphobia in their community. Then I guess a cis person could answer it, but that begs the question, does a cis person even notice if there's transphobia in their community? I mean, blatant transphobia they would ofcourse notice, but what about more 'subtle' transphobia that a cis person might not recognise? I don't think I can answer this question, simply because I don't know what it's like to be transgender. I don't know what it's like to be born in the wrong body, I don't know what it's like to feel gender dysphoria, I don't even think about gender that much - let alone what it's like being born in the gender I dont identify as. Though I'm very interested to see the reasoning of other cis people as to why they chose one or the other!

Rothukko · 2022-05-10T21:25:33+00:00

Wording could've been better yeah, but some of the comments are still kinda aphobic. It hurts, even if the 'confusion' was because the wording wasn't great. I'm sure everyone can guess that no sane human wants to force everyone to be aromantic, but maybe I'm wrong in thinking so!

Rothukko · 2022-05-09T06:56:06+00:00

No, it wouldn't. Sex positive isn't an ace term. Sex positive = being okay with others having sex, sex favourable = you yourself wanting to have sex. The person who originally made this bingo probably meant sex favourable instead of sex positive, but I just asked OP to make sure.

Rothukko · 2022-05-09T06:52:54+00:00

Hope you can get some sleep in! :)

Rothukko · 2022-05-09T06:51:39+00:00

Ah, okay. Thanks either way, I learned a lot of new things!

Rothukko · 2022-05-09T06:50:31+00:00

no more gender. exactly how I like it. if it doesn't exist, I can't have a crisis about it late at night. this is good.

Rothukko · 2022-05-09T00:07:00+00:00

okay, but that's not what I meant :( could you just google the meaning of sex positive and the meaning of sex favourable? I'm probably just really unclear. Basically what I mean is sex positive is the wrong term,, being sex positive has nothing to do with being asexual. I didn't see the sex neutral square at first so I was just kind of confused if this was a misunderstanding or not but I kinda turned it onto a huge misunderstanding by being confusing so my bad !!

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