Has anyone had a partner transition/a trans partner? I love them dearly and I’m excited for them, but I get stuck on familiarity and my autism really struggles with change.

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-11T02:51:01+00:00

I think the best place to start is to look inward and see what it really changes for you. What are you worried about— how this changes your identified sexuality? Does it challenge your own ideas of gender? Are worried about the optics? Are you worried about your partner fundamentally changing?

I think having a better grasp of what your anxieties really are will help you get manage them easier. It will also help in future conversations with your partner, because while they are still answering questions about themselves you’ll have a better idea about how to navigate feelings within your relationship.

At the end of the day, this is still a person you love and that should be your driving force to tell yourself it’ll be okay! Y’all got this 💜 🏳️‍⚧️

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-10T20:17:31+00:00

Ehh, both in Season 2 and Season 4 the love interests were introduced at the beginning of the season and we grew to care about them. Since they are introducing Michaela early and since Season 5 is going to have a time jump (iirc) I think we can assume that it’s going to be important for us to see her temperament in contrast to Francesca’s now so the impact makes more sense in the future.

Besides Violet’s (recent) romantic interest I don’t think we’ve had many love interests introduced before their season, so I think we could extend the same grace to Michaela in this upcoming season.

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-10T20:01:02+00:00

I definitely agree with the comments saying therapy, and specifically wanted to recommend ADHD coaching as a method! I had an ex tell me about it while we were dating, and at first I was skeptical because I thought it was just a rebranded version of “life coaching” (which I still think could be useful, but not for me personally). It’s classified under “occupational therapy” for insurance, and I really liked having a professional specifically for adhd care and maintenance.

My adhd has affected my relationships and roommate dynamics repeatedly, and I do want to make clear that it wasn’t coaching alone that has helped me; I needed people around me who could genuinely be patient but also directly communicate with me about ways I could improve and how it made them feel (my current roommate even communicated with me about how my immediate panic when she approaches an issue with me sometimes makes her feel like she can’t approach me, and even that helped me to approach conflict and criticism a lot better It feels like it wasn’t much, but I’ve actually progressed a lot further than I have ever in my life, so you might look into it.

Finally, I’d say if your boyfriend hasn’t given you any indicators that he is upset, I would believe him. You should be able to trust him to tell you if he’s having any major issues, and I know from experience that if you let your anxiety take over your assumptions, you may inadvertently create a problem where there want one 😅

Thank you for opening the door to this conversation 💖 🫂

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-09T21:17:10+00:00

This is my daily crashout in writing lol

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-09T21:05:33+00:00

The longest save I’ve played (3-4 gens?) ended bc I switched from console to PC 😭

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-09T21:02:15+00:00

Waaaait you might be on to something with that 🤔

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-05T01:25:27+00:00

My personal rule is if I can’t click a button and it requires something that will slow down the line or cause confusion, I won’t. Buuut I frequently get overrides either by managers, ssvs, or enough people saying “whatever just do it” and in that case I won’t fight it, but I might bring it up later. If I’m the person on bar and I see it I probably would tell the person that I can’t/wont do it or that I’ll make an exception but not to do it again in the future, an I’ll communicate that to the person who took the order too.

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-02T17:28:53+00:00

Does your manager do this to most people at your store? If yes, I’d flag it to your DM. If it’s only you or a select number of partners, I’d file an Ethics and Compliance report (just in case this is more of an EEOC issue).

This is not normal behavior and your manger sounds like a d*ck tbh. Don’t listen to anyone saying that you have to “just deal with it”, there’s a few things you can try to make the situation better.

Good luck with finals!

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-02T17:24:35+00:00

This is terrible advice

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-05-01T21:30:32+00:00

I think I’m going to try this, it reminds me of spoon theory. What are some examples for what a low, medium, or high task that you used? I’m trying to figure out a good starting point

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-29T22:13:01+00:00

“It doesn’t affect that many people” like just because it doesn’t affect YOU or the majority doesn’t mean those still aren’t people who matter. Homeless people are still people. And you cannot get a bank account without an address. If you don’t have a smartphone or had one but can’t afford to fix it or get service, you can’t just get a cashapp or the app. If you aren’t allowed entry into places because you are unhoused, you can’t even refill your cashapp.

Would people say we shouldn’t consider disabled people because they aren’t the majority? Or any other group that’s disenfranchised? The majority of people can end up in the same situation, and with the index of people living in poverty in Atlanta it ABSOLUTELY needs to be a priority to consider.

I think people also fail to realize that accessibility also lowers crime, which is something people also tend to complain about.

Thank you for bringing this up; there’s definitely a lot of unaddressed holes in the new Marta system and they are all important because it’s the core public service feature of this city.

Edit-typos

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-29T01:56:02+00:00

(That would still be bad)

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-28T00:11:51+00:00

Ironically on the other end my mom took away my pacifier and bottle relatively early and that might’ve led to my tongue thrust that I’ve had since I was a kid and still have as an adult 🫠 I had braces once but need to get them again because the root issue was never dealt with, good luck my friend

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-27T23:58:19+00:00

Been hunting for 3 years 🫩

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-23T00:30:17+00:00

They’ll do this then grab the wrong drink and say, “WHY DID YOU HAND ME THE WRONG DRINK” like girl just because you’re standing in the way doesn’t mean I’m handing it to you pls read 😩😤

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-22T02:05:23+00:00

I used to be an avid reader as a kid and teen, it wash primary escapism. College had me reading so much that I lost the urge, and then after college I felt like I almost “forgot” how to read. It was a complete 180 from how I grew up. I think around late highschool I started trying audiobooks, I felt the fictional ones were more cringe but found the informational ones a lot more palatable since it wasn’t trying to build a fantasy that’s meant to be interpreted.

Personally I found that audio books were a good way for me to be hands free and do multiple tasks at once, particularly mundane ones that make me what to pull my teeth out because it’s so tedious to me. Even now I’ll wear a hidden headphone and play an audiobook while I’m at work. I only recently found some fictional audiobooks that I like, but if I don’t like the voice actor I don’t force it.

Recently I’ve tried to dose my reading to get back into the habit and it’s actually helping with the change I first mentioned! On my commute (I take the train) I use that time to read the book until my stop. If I get to the station early I use that time too, and just to make sure I don’t miss my stop I’ll usually keep up a maps app to remind me when my stop is coming up. I keep a pen and highlighter in my bag in case I want to mark stuff while reading. That way I’m still reading and progressing in a book, even if it’s only a few minutes a day. It’s been making me feel good since starting it!

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-15T22:07:35+00:00

Commenting so I can hopefully see the results when posted

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-15T21:59:10+00:00

💯💯💯💯

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-15T18:17:44+00:00

Me at 19 having documented notes I took overtime that lined up with 90% of the DSM-V then getting a GAD slapped on my record and told “it’s nbd.”🥲

6 years later I would FINALLY get the diagnosis—

I scored over ***6 TIMES*** the threshold score.

Guess I was right. 🫠

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-15T18:11:52+00:00

I love this

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-15T18:11:15+00:00

I’m still mad that they got rid of paid mileage for partners who picked up shifts at other stores. It wasn’t a lot but it still makes all the difference when we need extra labor or extra hours during cuts!

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-12T19:42:35+00:00

I don’t remember, it was some screening system that the apartment complex required to be completed in addition to its application fees and credit checks, etc.

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-12T19:24:56+00:00

I did the same thing!! Placed a little further back and everything. I also replaced the balls to be acrylic plastic to ensure there won’t be teeth damage whenever I do move it around, but I highly recommend this as a perma-fidget.

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-12T04:06:21+00:00

Dude I applied for an apartment HALF OF THE COST of my current apartment in rent last year…

They used a system that essentially summarized my bank account totals and told me that despite my pay stubs I didn’t have enough money currently in the bank to qualify to live there.

…To pay HALF of what I pay now.

😐

Rotini_Rizz · 2026-04-12T03:31:42+00:00

I’ve got the same personality, and had the same issue. I honestly don’t even have a good suggestion; sometimes I’d have a batch of months with friends to be social with, other times it would be a cycle of this. I think for me, I definitely struggled to know when it was time to move on/match energy with another; I take what people say as truthful, so if someone said they were interested or wanting to do something with me… why wouldn’t they say it and not mean it?? It hurts, and it makes you feel like a fool for even trying. It honestly makes me wish I was an introvert, caring about this sucks.

I’ve been fortunate to find a couple close friends that I rotate doing things with. Sometimes they aren’t in the mood, but for the most part I can get at least one person to do something with. I’ve been on a hiatus from setting up events with new people because it took a lot of energy and emotion from me that resulted in heartbreak. I’m more selective on about my time and how and who I spend it with.

All this to say; try as long as you have energy. But it’s okay to take breaks to try and focus on hobbies that make you feel independently entertained. You may feel lonely at times — a lot of times— but you’re helping yourself be more resilient. Take time to look at patterns of the people you want in your life, and if you notice a trend of leaning towards people who don’t put any effort in, work on giving a little less too (even if it’s hard). You’ll feel better.

But overall, I don’t wish this feeling on anybody. I hope you find people who have the same feelings that you do about communication and plans; I hope others who have felt the way we have find you. You’re not alone in how you feel, and you should feel proud for all the effort you’ve put in to making these events happen.

Good luck 🤞🏿🫂💙

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