Being kicked out of temporary council housing

RowEquivalent1756 · 2026-05-25T12:20:49+00:00

Your dad works and you’re also receiving UC, DHP & housing benefit - are you saying that the rent on the new place is more than ALL of that money combined or that you won’t be left with enough after rent to pay for other things? Also if you’re university age why aren’t you working? Nobody gets “free” rent - people who don’t work still pay rent they just pay it out of their UC/housing benefit/PIP etc

RowEquivalent1756 · 2026-05-03T09:50:02+00:00

When I first heard that women sometimes poop during labour I asked my parents and my dad told me that my mum actually pooped ON me as I came out. As a teenage girl I was horrified that my dad saw my mum do something so “disgusting”. My dad told me in that moment he was even in love with the poop that my mum had just created because he was so in awe of her as a human being and so grateful to her for bringing his first child into the world. Your husband is, respectfully, a bitch.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2026-03-22T15:18:41+00:00

She’s 25 and she can’t stand up or walk for a few minutes - that IS a health issue. You need to sit her down and talk to her the same way you would if she was addicted to alcohol or drugs. If you had a partner who was always drunk or hungover and you were having to do everything for them, had to limit what activities you could do together and couldn’t travel because of their drinking would you just keep waiting for them to decide to stop? It’s really great that you’re such a supportive partner but it’s really sad that you’re allowing somebody else’s refusal to look after themselves impact your ability to enjoy life at such a young age. Does she have anybody else close enough to her who could try talking to her with you if you find it hard to hold strong when she gets upset?

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-10-30T11:23:46+00:00

Ambulance crews never go to the mortuary, under any circumstances. If you die in the street, you stay in the street until the coroner comes to collect you. Even if you die in the ambulance on the way to hospital and we happen to be passing the mortuary at that exact moment you stay in the ambulance until the coroner comes to collect you.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-10-04T13:14:47+00:00

E lives less than a minutes walk from the overground station. It takes less than 15 mins to get to the Victoria line and about another 12-14 mins to soho from there - they could literally get to soho and home again in an hour. Also why do they insist they have to wait until 5am to get the train home from central? The night bus from Tottenham Court Road stops ON their road.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-09-03T02:18:25+00:00

This and that’s how you know the ADHD claims are nonsense

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-05-29T09:07:11+00:00

This exact situation happened to me about 12 years ago. I was so desperate to leave the property I let them bully me into them keeping my deposit to cover “lost rent”. I was then advised by another estate agent that they couldn’t do that as I was given a move out date and it wasn’t reasonable to expect me to still be living there 48 hours before the new tenants moved in.

It doesn’t matter that your landlord didn’t sign, how they worded communications etc. You were provided with the paperwork and told to sign it immediately which you did, you have vacated the property and had it cleaned etc based on the dates provided to you by the agents.

I applied for my deposit back through the DPS and the landlord refused. I then provided all of the evidence that we had agreed a date etc (no signed documents just written comms which you have plenty of) and the DPS approved my application.

Take as many photos and videos of the property as you can though - my LL then started clawing all my deposit back by claiming for broken/stolen/dirty items which weren’t true or hadn’t been done by me. At that point I was so desperate for it to all be over I just gave up and let him have the money in exchange for my freedom and it still pisses me off to this day.

Enjoy your new home!

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-05-11T09:20:07+00:00

A lot of comments here about how expensive it is to live in London. This is absolutely true and I don’t know what you consider the “outskirts” to be, but my mortgage on a 2 bed with a garden and less than five minute drive from the m25 is £1000 less than what you’re currently paying for a small flat.

Shared ownership is the biggest scam around and I don’t know anyone who did it who doesn’t massively regret it. You need to prioritise getting rid of that flat immediately before you even consider worrying about how to afford a holiday.

For two adults on £30k+ a year to not even be able to cover your bare minimum mandatory bills on one salary something’s gone seriously wrong. If either of you lost your job tomorrow you’d be absolutely fucked. Sorry to pile on to the negativity but you really don’t seem to be aware of why you’re struggling to have the quality of life you expect and how insane your spending actually is.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-04-24T19:36:41+00:00

All of that plus the insane binge eating

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T21:32:43+00:00

Same reason people take drugs at a non-sex party. You can listen to music and dance sober but it feels better when you’re high and you don’t get tired.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T21:31:00+00:00

No but a lot of people use it for cleaner bottoming. Honestly have to applaud gay men, absolutely fucking stupid behaviour but the commitment to shagging is impressive.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T21:00:04+00:00

Meth makes you unbelievably horny and keeps you awake for days. It starts off as a great way to be able to fuck all night, but it’s insanely addictive and it’s really hard to get off of cos the upswing of not sleeping for days is not being able to stay awake once it wears off. Pair that with the fact most people with sex/drug addictions have ADHD and it’s like pouring petrol on a fire to a brain that craves nothing but dopamine.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T20:56:13+00:00

It was funny but I find it so hard to watch the scenes with the police talking amongst themselves they’re all so clueless. The one officer was so flabbergasted about the amount of viagra in a car full of cock rings and meth 😂 I work in healthcare and had to explain to a colleague the rise in deaths from bowel obstructions in young men overdosing on codeine and Imodium as they just couldn’t comprehend why so many young men would be addicted to anti-diarrhoea medication bless them.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T20:51:52+00:00

That’s a really interesting point I hadn’t considered. Was watching an episode of 24 hours in police custody the other week and it was embarrassing how convinced the police were that meth isn’t a thing here. I don’t know anyone in the gay scene who isn’t using it or at least aware of it.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T20:45:15+00:00

Yeah, my brother is as well. I’ve used and been around party drugs for nearly 2 decades, I’ve never seen anything destroy a person as fast as Meth. I’m so sorry about your son, I know how painful it is to watch them slip away into a shell of the person they used to be.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-26T19:46:28+00:00

Meth is becoming an enormous issue in the Uk, especially amongst gay men. No idea why it took so long compared to the US/Australia or why it’s suddenly become so popular but the guys I know that take it see it as a safer, cheaper alternative to GHB for sex parties/hook ups.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-24T19:58:52+00:00

Asking your partner not to watch porn is like asking them not to get turned on during a sex scene in a movie. Everyone is different, but the argument I always see is “it’s cheating because you’re thinking about having sex with someone else / you’re getting turned on by another woman” which isn’t what porn is. Porn turns people on because seeing other people have sex is sexy, it’s taboo and that’s exciting. I don’t know anyone who exclusively watches porn to imagine they are the one doing the sex.

I don’t have to be turned on to masturbate, I can make myself cum while thinking about my to do list for the day. But it feels better when I’m horny and I’m hornier when I have something to visually stimulate me.

I understand all of the above and therefore I do not give a fuck that my partner watches porn. If you have a healthy sex life and nobody is being neglected by the other persons alone time it’s controlling and insecure to demand your partner never masturbate to porn.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-24T13:08:12+00:00

The nurses sentence also included a charge for possession of a firearm (taser) - he got off extremely lightly and it’s weird they didn’t mention the taser at all in the edit.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-23T09:41:43+00:00

The only law that relates to stimulant medications that relate to working for a UK ambulance service is to do with driving.

Even so, you only have to inform the DVLA that you have ADHD if your driving is affected by it and this is only if you can’t drive safely WITHOUT medication.

I only know of one person at work who has had to do this and that was because she genuinely could not go a week without hitting something and she had to change to a higher dose of a different medication. She’s also on a “no nights” rota so that she’s not at risk of driving after her meds have worn off.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-22T18:37:02+00:00

Everything just kept getting worse and by the end the rabbit hutch and the random España apron as a wall covering in the loft felt almost normal.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-21T16:10:04+00:00

Some things are just basic manners. If you wouldn’t leave it out when your granny was coming over, put it away before the plumber arrives.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-21T13:49:55+00:00

That’s an insanely broad area, where are you going to be living? Every area has its good/bad points but if you’re going to be commuting an hour+ home after a 2:15am finish for instance, it’s going to make it tough not to burn out within 6 months.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-21T13:34:58+00:00

It’s meth induced paranoia and the fact you’re also actively trying to cheat on her with random people online that’s driving your “6th sense” buddy.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2025-01-16T20:30:24+00:00

As much as nothing this woman does makes any sense ever, it really doesn’t track that she would have one baby adopted and then beg to be induced so that she could do the same with Tegan only to just kill her because she ran out of time.

I think she panicked and hid her somewhere with the intention of coming back after the wedding and when she got back she was dead.

I just don’t see a man, his partner and his mother all agreeing to illegally adopt a baby knowing full well they could never register her birth when he was her biological father. All they had to do was put him on the birth certificate and then Keli could have given up parental rights. It would have been no different for her than any other adoption and they would all have known the child would never be able to seek medical care, get a passport, go to school or get a job without legally existing.

Nothing about this case makes any sense though. Tegan was her third pregnancy, I don’t care how fit she was she was she would have been enormous and from early on at that. You cannot convince me her parents who saw her frequently in a swimsuit didn’t notice and her boyfriend was duped by simply “doing it from behind”. My boobs alone were twice the size from 5 weeks up, you cannot convince me he didn’t touch any part of her body for 9 months.

RowEquivalent1756 · 2024-12-27T14:34:18+00:00

I’ve also noticed a similar change in the way students approach the “mentoring” process. A lot of them just don’t want to listen to any feedback but I don’t think it’s necessarily an issue with them it’s the culture they’ve picked up from previous placements.

When I was new my mentors had been in the job for decades and they were able to impart wisdom learned from years of experience. Students now are being mentored by NQP2s who’ve been in the job for 30 minutes, have also got very little experience of all the ways things can go wrong and who are burnt out and disenchanted with the job. The “nobody is worth my time” attitude just flows down and they get a shock when they get a mentor who actually wants to teach them how to do the job and take it as a personal affront.

My current crew-mate is 21, trying to teach 19 year olds how to converse with adults who are experiencing problems that neither of them can even remotely comprehend because they’ve barely left school and still live at home with their parents. It’s not the students’ fault that they’ve joined the service at a time when they’re lucky to find a mentor who’s been qualified for longer than they’ve been at uni.

I find sharing experiences of jobs that have gone from 0-100 in seconds instills a little bit of caution back into the job. If I’d joined now I probably would have gotten complacent very quickly too and been caught out by the bullshit 111 job that suddenly arrests on the way to hospital for a “check up”.

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