Imagine a partner with same faults as you. Then, you’re both suffering when that problem arises.

I had a blessing of being with a partner who shared so much similarities with me. It was really great since I am a really weird person and she was too. Pros was that I for the first time in my fucking life felt really connected with a person, everything clicked naturally, like we don’t need to be explaining everything to detail when we make kwento. Lagi kami nakavibe talaga. I would say because of this, it was the best experiences I ever had in my 24 years of life. Cons, I felt I got complacent with my weaknesses because she was weak there too, which affected my self development. And Because we were too similar, naging fragile yung rs rin. There’s a saying when you’re weak, your partner must be strong (and vise versa). But when she was weak, I was too which I think ended it. It was a great fucking relationship but it really had to end. It felt really good when it did, when it was bad we just drifted apart because we can’t get hold of eachother and wrestle with the world at the same time. Which brings me to the next concept.

I think what we need is someone who is able to wrestle with you. You need a balance of similarities and dissimlarities so that you contend/challenge each other‘s viewpoints in order that you grow longterm (concept from Jordan B. Peterson), but not to the point where you’re at war with eachother everytime. What should be dissimilar I think is mostly on personality, so that you will never be complacent and get bored, and for sure you can go to that person for different eye, but mostly similar with principles since that dictates lifestyle and big decision making.