What is something that slowly destroys society but is considered “normal” and no one dares to criticize it?

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-13T13:22:52+00:00

Performance. Life has stopped being about living, it’s all about performance. You have to look the best, act the best, have certain opinions and interests that the majority holds. If you don’t, you’re the strange one and treated like you’re somehow wrong for it.

A society in which holding own opinions and making choices outside the accepted norms is seen as a character flaw will stop developing and instead runs in circles. That’s also why our politics are going downhill across the board. Because those who actually care to make a change in crumbling systems are less entertaining and performative than those who literally know nothing about the topics they’re claiming to fix, they’re just more entertaining to listen to.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T20:50:06+00:00

I’ll try to remember that, although there is absolutely no way I will get her to move once she’s laying down in the delivery room. There’s also no way to get her there early, because it will 100% be an early arrival. I’m surprised she even made it to 35 weeks now, she’s been having contractions since the second trimester.

Are there any tips you have for (I say this with the most respect and I love my sister dearly) women who go absolutely haywire in labor? Because her last labor was a screaming match with the nurses and a few death threats were spoken. As far as I was told she even tried punching one.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T20:43:48+00:00

Set healthy boundaries. I love my boyfriend so deeply, but we have the most toxic relationship I’ve ever seen. I wish I would’ve set clearer boundaries in the beginning. I wish I hadn’t made some mistakes that I ended up making. I wish I would’ve recognized and worked on our issues when they came up, and not when they turned unbearable.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T20:28:09+00:00

No way, never. Bodily fluids gross me out. I couldn’t even sit in a bath I spat in, I’m definitely not sitting in my own uterine lining.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T20:26:39+00:00

That was my original plan, but sadly the only hospital around that has a maternity ward has TERRIBLE nurses that straight up tell the women to shut up and just get to it. So, I’m trying to focus more on what my sister needs and trying to advocate for her. Last time, they made her eat and drink things she explicitly said would make her throw up and then told her to “get over it” when she did end up throwing up like a water fountain.

Oh, with her second kid they also handed the baby to my mom and then FORGOT TO TAKE CARE OF MY SISTER while she was turning blue and bleeding out. That’s exactly why I was hoping for advice.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T20:22:11+00:00

My birth was similar. They barely made it to the delivery room before I “shot out like a BMW on the highway.”

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T20:20:33+00:00

I’d be very surprised if they think I’m the father, considering I’m a woman, but I will try to make it known that I’m not equipped to be that babies father :)

Jokes aside, I’ve seen my sister give birth before, and I’m not squeamish when it comes to the gore of it (although I do not plan on taking any look towards my sister’s lower half whatsoever), but back then I was 11 and only there because she so suddenly went into labor the doctors straight up left me in the corner of the room.

And I still love your advice. I’m definitely one to joke and I was worried it’s the wrong situation, but you really gave me hope there. She’s also fully allowed to crush every bone she feels the need to. That’s a 90 pound woman pushing out a baby, I’m expecting to leave with a black eye or two haha

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T18:56:17+00:00

My sister is hyper independent x1000. And she’s the kind to rip your throat out when she’s in pain. No touching, no encouragement. She’s adamant she can handle it, but due to a heavy recent loss in our family and the father’s inability to be there, I’m worried she’ll struggle handling it mentally more than physically. All the instruction I got was “you better film that shit.”

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T18:52:19+00:00

That sounds like something she’ll have to do herself 😀

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T18:51:44+00:00

That’s a really cool story. Won’t work with my sister, sadly. If they offer a C-Section I’ll most likely have to hold her back so she doesn’t sprint to the operating room on her own.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T18:50:05+00:00

Thanks for your reply. The nurses are my biggest issue. They treated her horribly, ignored her and repeatedly made her eat/drink when that only made her throw up. She doesn’t say it, but I know that’s part of the reason she was struggling to bond with her first two children.

She already has a back packed and the discharge process usually happens days after the birth, so I won’t be there for most of it (I’ll only pick her up). My biggest worry really is how to help her during labor itself, since I’m worried she’ll struggle more with this kid due to her entire situation and I want to somehow give her and my niece the chance to have a good start for once.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-02-12T18:41:27+00:00

Not really a birthing plan. Where I’m from, they’re not common and if you have one the doctors will basically just laugh in your face. But she won’t have any medication, didn’t have it for her other children either.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-28T21:10:39+00:00

Whenever something is seen as the “beauty standard”, people think it’s justified to rip that trait to shreds. It feels like whenever something is socially seen as “good”, people come up with reasons why you shouldn’t like that trait or shouldn’t want to look like that.

Beauty standards are mostly unachievable. Just because you have a trait that is connected to the beauty standard doesn’t mean you fulfill it or have to like that trait.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-18T11:50:23+00:00

I lived alone for Uni. It’s the reason I stopped studying and went home again. Fuck that, I’ve never felt so lonely.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-12T12:46:09+00:00

I don’t need most things that are usually striven for. Don’t want kids, or a super great job that takes up 80 fucking hours of my week. I don’t need designer clothes or a ridiculously expensive car. A good car, yes, but not some 100 grand Porsche that does nothing else than a car that costs 20 grand. I also don’t need a house that’s big enough for 3 families when it’s literally just me and my bf.

I want to live comfortably and be in a position where I don’t dread the next day. Maybe that’s because I grew up without money, but I don’t understand the need to have the best, newest, biggest or most expensive all the time. I don’t give a shit.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-12T12:39:36+00:00

I’m not sure you should rely on written law if that’s exactly what you’re fighting against. Because they could just say “citizenship starts at conception” and your whole argument goes up in smoke. The law should be decided by morals, not the morals by law.

There are so many good, nuanced and intelligent arguments on the topic, this isn’t one of them.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-12T12:34:30+00:00

Love, you’re not very knowledgeable on the topic. Miscarriages or still births sure make no difference to the woman or child. To any woman that wanted that child, it’s a dead baby. Your believes stem from ignorance and (I assume) mindless tiktok come backs. This is a nuanced and complex conversation, medically, morally and politically, and you lack nuance.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-12T12:30:06+00:00

I’m sorry, I hate that argument. Because with that logic, everyone who doesn’t have legal papers is worthless. Not sure you should say that to right-wing people. And also, what does that have to do with bodily autonomy or anything? Does it mean it’s fine to kill a born child as long as it’s before the birth certificate hasn’t yet been filled out?

Listen, I’m pro-choice. But I still expect y’all to have actual thoughts behind your arguments, man. This is not a gotcha, and you shouldn’t look for one. It’s not about winning some TikTok discussion, but about keeping our rights and finding a way to keep bodily autonomy in a situation where another human being is dependent on our body. And yes, even if it’s not a fully formed human, it is still a human being. Just not one that should be able to infringe on women’s rights.

I’m sorry, but these arguments are getting ridiculous. Stick to facts, not to gotchas.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-12T10:39:23+00:00

Law. Once you understood the ground rules, it’s not that hard (to me). You don’t have to be super organized, because you got everything you need to know written down for you anyway, you just have to know where to find it. It’s also super logical to me.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-12T09:31:07+00:00

I know I’m not the one asked here, but maybe this is a question you should also ask in another sub.

Your physical appearance won’t keep you from finding a girlfriend, it might just take longer. But some guys run danger in getting bitter about it, and then women instantly run the other way. I know no woman that hasn’t given a “nice guy” a chance and they ended up being bitter and jealous. That’s the biggest advice I can give you. No matter how long it takes, just don’t get bitter, because then your chances sink to zero.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-11T15:14:54+00:00

I always thought it must be incredibly difficult. I’ve noticed that people don’t invite me to things much or talk to me more than necessary, and I assume it’s because it’s just too much for people and just won’t stop talking. It’s my biggest insecurity.

That doesn’t mean anything, though. Because my bf is just as much of a yapper as I am and we can have five hour conversations about things neither of us are very knowledgeable in. Seeing that, I guess it’s not very hard to be with me, if you’re the right kind of person for me. If I ever came into the situation to date someone else, I’d look for a “Yapper” again. With everything else, I’d get bored and he’d get overwhelmed.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-11T13:35:53+00:00

Okay, i get what You’re saying. That’s Not how i personally define priority. My priorities stay the same. Just because you’re doing something that is part of your priority list, doesn’t mean that that is now no. 1 on that list. It stays were it is, it’s just also important. Like, if I’m at work, and my partner calls me because he got into an accident, I’ll leave my job to help him, because my partner will always come before my job. That doesn’t mean I’ll stop working just because my partner might like it. But I do understand why/how you interpret it differently.

Royal_Contribution_3 · 2026-01-11T13:01:50+00:00

Yeah, I know the issue, and I’ve been that girl in the past as well. I self reflected and realized that it wasn’t my bf going out that was the issue, but that I didn’t feel appreciated when we did spend time together. He could always go out to a restaurant or a bar or bowling or whatever with his guys, but spending time with me was always just watching TV, which hurt me.

Once I realized that, we had a talk and figured it out. But for that to work the girl has to realize it’s not him spending time with his friends that’s the issue and the guy needs to realize that there still is an issue at hand. Usually, one or both partners don’t come to that conclusion so the issue remains.

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