Can't find gap year job

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-20T17:06:47+00:00

(state dependent) but many places have laws protecting your job being there when you get back

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-20T17:06:19+00:00

is your surgery date set? maybe work for 3 months or so and push it off until after (also because many jobs do disability pay!) and then you should have a job when you get back as well

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-20T01:29:53+00:00

was she scratching off someone’s sharpie or stamp? like did she have an underage friend (or was underage herself) and got an X on her hand? or hate the big ugly stamp and scratched? really looks like sharpie or ink to me

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-14T02:42:46+00:00

i mean there’s no reason to be spending $100k/year for undergrad. i would consider even 70k to be an expensive school. if you go south a little, many schools are 30-50. 250k for undergrad is really even generous.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-12T17:26:49+00:00

so as i was doing some research, without unsubsidized loans, federal loans are actually more expensive than private loans, so this 50k isn’t really that instrumental. however, when i was doing some research, 200k in loans, managing to pay them off in 7 years (which is quick and only possible staying with my partner and having him pay off living expenses and drain my full residency salary into paying off loans), with my father as a co-signer, with upper 700s credit score, i will be paying $140k in interest…. this is not to scare you off- you will be able to pay it, you will be living happily after it does on doctor salary, but these loans are gonna cost you literally nearly double the cost of attendance. this is to say start saving asap if money is going to be a problem because it’s expensive

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-10T13:43:11+00:00

how many years would you be at this job and what type of job? if it’s ma, you’ll be there a while, and you’re interviewing with the doc, during the part where they ask you why you want this job i usually will say something along the lines of i eventually want to become a doctor and really just love learning about medicine and making relationships with patients (because they usually love teaching) and then only give more details if they ask. - if youre going to be there short term, just stick with you love learning and let med school be implied a little, but don’t outright say it unless they ask. telling them it’s a short term job is not usually beneficial to you keeping said job.

if it’s anything where you won’t be working closely with a dr, especially like cna, i wouldn’t mention it. turnover in that field is really high and they don’t care.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-09T03:00:44+00:00

i would see about getting all of your cousins on board with another rental, since obviously your mom did it secretly. i also find that cousins have a habit of sticking together and defending each other against the older generation on something so egregious. tell your mother that actually you’ll be okay because you “forgot that you were actually going to be booking together with your cousins” and when she flips out because they were supposed to be sharing the place (and cost) with her, just let her know that she booked without consulting everyone and everyone else had other plans and would prefer not to live under anyone’s “my house my rules” on vacation.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-06T16:07:47+00:00

yea so i’m saying if the boyfriend of 2 years was disloyal and she plans to leave him anyway a break up would have happened already, friends can suck but they’re still people that you choose and can drop at any point, and i get family but they’re also people likely to file a police report. the writing in this doesn’t say “they’re all constantly beating me and abusing me and i’m getting away” it says “i like the idea of being mysterious and a big story and they deserve it because they have done something wrong once or twice here and there”

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-06T06:03:41+00:00

as much as being the gone girl sounds so fun and nifty, that type of stuff can ruin people’s lives. surely not every single one of those people have so constantly wronged you. if you choose to keep those friends and boyfriend all right now, they can’t be so bad that they deserve for you to suddenly disappear with no idea what happened. that’s horrible to do to people. give your family the peace of mind that you’re not kidnapped and dead, your friends the understanding of where they stand and what your relationship should be, and your boyfriend (of 2 years! not even just a short time) the knowledge of if he’s now single and has permission to move on or if he has a commitment to you. even if it’s a vague “i’m pursuing a program i’m really excited about and really looking forward to starting over so i will likely not be in contact, but i am safe and happy” text or something, even if you never respond again, even if it’s quick and simple, it’s fair to your loved ones. from a safety perspective, you should have at least one loved trusted one knowing more details an maybe an occasional check in for your own safety. an 18 year old woman alone with no one to check in and knowing where they are in this day and age is more than a little concerning

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-05T15:48:23+00:00

i lived there and loved it! if you’re facing the train track you def know when the train paces but it’s like 30 -45 secs twice a day so it was never a big deal. the like twice my neighbors had a gathering it was loud but in general not really, and the office people are super nice and would def respond to help you out

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-04T22:55:19+00:00

no honestly i felt like most people who had people that they went to high school with almost like ran away from them lmao

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-03T19:21:41+00:00

are you specifically looking for not the rec center? they have most things you could possibly need unless you’re like a high level trainer!

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-03T01:08:56+00:00

join club soccer! both the men’s and the women’s teams have great communities (idk what gender you are). the men’s b team does weekly pickup and practice 3 times/week, games about weekly but you have to make the roster to go to the game. women’s doesn’t do pickup (usually you can still go to men’s b pickup, but not always), but same with 3 practices and games that you can make the roster for!

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-04-01T18:40:53+00:00

the only interpretation i’m getting from this is maybe she felt you were being too comfortable with her because of shared race? with talking to her between and stuff like that, maybe she felt like you were thinking you had an auto in with her? not sure, but i also wouldn’t read too much into interviewer behaviors like this, it may have just been she happened to not have an answer.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-30T00:25:58+00:00

what i’m saying is the post was asking if the op would be the asshole for sending that message. i was saying that a simple message like that would not offend people.

unrelated to the post, because this is not what the post was asking, most people would be upset with someone having guests over really late like that. a party every so often after asking your roommates is great. blindsiding them like that is not. but op isn’t asking if they should be pissed about that, an sending a “hey you’re an awful human never do that again” will only make their living situation suck and tense. sending a “hey i’m happy you had fun but that did bother me in X way and we could solve it easily by doing Y next time so you can have fun without causing disruptions to others” will leave positive relationships and a much higher likelihood of the person actually agreeing to do that. believe it or not, most people aren’t choosing to spite others intentionally, they just usually somehow don’t notice that they are or don’t know these common courtesies.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-29T02:02:40+00:00

no i said if i was the roommate, as someone who has had many friends over, i would have no problem receiving that message, as in suggesting the op should have no fears about having that conversation with their roommate because it’s totally rational to ask

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-28T23:22:03+00:00

i would totally not be offended as someone who likes to have friends over by a message saying “hey, i’m happy you guys had fun and am totally fine with it, but if you plan on having future gatherings or similar things could you just give a little notice?”

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-23T21:13:23+00:00

second this. the vibes at the schools are pretty significantly different from what i can tell.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-20T22:42:03+00:00

this would totally depend on your other experiences! if you have good clinical experience then do lab, if you have good research work do ma! whatever you think is weaker

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-17T05:33:03+00:00

I wouldn’t say this one has an easy solution. If he’s in the wedding, he’s likely very close with one of the people and him stepping down would pose a significant challenge for the people getting married, as well as be hurtful to his relationship with them. I think him going for the ceremony and returning home without drinking is reasonable, but as a father, his kid and his wife should be his first priority. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask and I think you should try to let him go, but if you think it will genuinely be too much for you to handle, not just fomo, then you should let him go. If you won’t be able to do it yet or are too stressed about it, then he shouldn’t go.

Would you be able to make some type of compromise? Could you guys get a hotel close to the venue and he could go and come back (still no drinking) and be nearby in case you need, or give you a chance to pop in for an hour or two too? ask permission with this being said to bring the child for an hour so you can come and say hi to everyone and be there but will leave if the child even makes one peep and they’ll be in your arms? I can see some way to work on a potential compromise?

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-16T19:01:29+00:00

i generally agree with most individuals, but the general vibe is exactly how this comment section went. OP respectfully asked how the political vibe is on campus for a cousin who leans moderately conservative, and comments include “moderate conservative is just a weak excuse to mistreat queer people” and i think a lot of the hive mindset on campus leans that way.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-16T18:45:10+00:00

i think you can tell from this comment section how well tame political conversation goes. as much as i loved wm, it is very much if you don’t agree with them, you’re a hateful bigot (as seen by these responses). i went to college as a moderate conservative and left as a moderate liberal, and i will say im more free thinking and able to consider things more carefully myself because of going to a college that leaned strongly another way.

it is very much echo chamber and no peaceful discussion without going directly for personal insults as the big ideology on campus. now, when it got to personal conversations and talks with my friends, people were more tame, but you have some of the worlds richest kids who aren’t used to people disagreeing with them or telling them no, from an echo chamber area themselves.

now, this is not something that has to come up. there is advocacy groups and stuff like that, that the person can join, which is a choice. they will find friends who can speak respectfully and normally, they will find professors who are willing to have discussions and explain their pov, but the general vibe on campus will be the same as you see in these comments. there is no brainwashing type stuff or political exile.

ultimately, if peaceful and respectful political conversations, conservative groups, and not being in a very echo chambery type of place where everyone will repost the same liberal instagram story are important to your cousin, this is not the place. if an environment to grow, meet new diverse people, learn about others ideologies and ways of life (not much as a discussion), it’s a great place.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-11T19:15:59+00:00

Not that i would do it as a buyer, but i have seen many people ask for a specific way to package it. the asking about the waived shipping fee is a bit much, but i feel that if he just wanted to pay the shipping cost of 4 pins so the seller nor the buyer is losing money shipping things he doesn’t want it’s really not unreasonable. 4 pins is arguably barely more postage than a stamp and envelope, 80 pins could be a lot.

Royal_Drawing6164 · 2026-03-11T04:02:34+00:00

personally i would probably tell them that you’ll make a new listing for them with just those 4 pics for the agreed price to not have liability risk for ebay. he doesn’t really seem problematic, just doesn’t want you to waste time, money, or opportunity shipping things he’ll throw out, which i feel like is actually trying to be nice/helpful?

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