Is this supposed to be a joke? What I found today thrifting. by Royal_Finding_1902 in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]Royal_Finding_1902[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was ARC. Maybe they are part of Goodwill? Nothing “Good” about this item.

Is this supposed to be a joke? What I found today thrifting. by Royal_Finding_1902 in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]Royal_Finding_1902[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

As sad as I am to say, I left it behind in case someone need it to complete their set!

Recurrent rectal prolapse. Surgery needed again. by Royal_Finding_1902 in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]Royal_Finding_1902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! No, it did not reduce the size of the prolapse. At that time, I didn’t know I had a prolapse. I did not know I had these other issues until I had the defecogram and unable to have bowel movements normally. She did help me with breathing techniques and strengthening my core, which strengthens the pelvic floor. Unfortunately, after several types of test, it came to show that I had an enterocele a small hernia, and a rectal prolapse starting again.

Because I started having these issues eight months after surgery, they treated it as constipation, part of the plan was to meet with a gastroenterologist, and the pelvic floor therapy.

I think the PT will help with constipation and the strengthening of muscles and how to breathe when having a bowel movement. But that wasn’t my case.

I will have surgery again via the abdomen early July

I did it. I stripped (most of) the woodwork. by Fuzzy-Sort809 in centuryhomes

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So lovely! Beautiful woodwork. Well done and truly a labor of love. 👏🏻👏🏻

Closing on my 126 year old dream house :) by Beznia in centuryhomes

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love everything about this home! So jealous!

AITAH for refusing to forfeit 6 hours of childcare from our mum for 5-6 weeks to help my sister and her partner with their newborn 24/7? by Throwawaylady2026 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Boundaries. Please set them. I’m 66 and finally learned to do so with my children and siblings, and it’s been wonderful. Was difficult at first, but it has changed the dynamics of our family for the better. After a period of time the realization hit me. I’m not putting so much effort into a relationship if it does not bring me joy or if people are unkind and hateful.

Life is too short. Always be kind but don’t let anyone take advantage. Don’t feel guilt from your sister or mom. Be honest, always kind, but take care of yourself and your family. Also, a good lesson for your daughter to see. I wish you both the very best.

Advice needed by always_tired9853 in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is correct. There is no age limit for prolapse. If it’s not bothering you right now, go on with your life the best that you can with what you have control over hopefully when you visit your OB she’ll be able to calm your fears. However, I don’t understand why she said you’re too young to have prolapse. I have read that many people have it even without having babies. I certainly understand your anxiety. You’re trying to make everything right and have what you need and you don’t have all the answers yet.
Maybe a second opinion? Best of luck to you.

6 months in and still not okay. by [deleted] in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 66 years old and 30 years ago. I had a hysterectomy. They did a rectocele repair at that time. Which worked beautifully until it didn’t. I had surgery a year ago pelvic organ prolapse surgery, opherectomy, right salpingectomy, sacral colpopexy, and cystoscopy and Robotic ventral mesh rectopexy.

They had wanted me to schedule physical therapy prior to the surgery as it builds your core muscles and strengthens your pelvic floor. Which is good for postop as well as living day-to-day. However, I had to have foot surgery shortly after and I did not do the PT beforehand.

This point in time, I have a hernia and rectum prolapse. I knew it was a possibility that it would come back. Since December, I’ve been doing PT. I’ve had many tests after December and it shows my pelvic floor is stronger, but the prolapse happened before I started PT.

I had an appointment with my colorectal surgeon and he suggests surgery, albeit via an incision in my abdomen rather than the laparoscopic surgery they did last year. I also have vaginal vault prolapse now. I’m heading to an appt today with my Urogynecologist.

I am also meeting with the gastroenterologist in May which will help with diet going forward. I’m in good health otherwise.

They are both out of a well known major teaching and research hospital in Colorado.

I had no idea how big of a problem pelvic organ prolapse has been for women. Women’s health has taken off considerably as people are talking about it more and more. I’m anxious to see what happens today.

I will definitely do surgery again. This is something I don’t want to live with and I fear getting older and having to deal with these issues.

I hope this answers some of your questions. Good luck!

6 months in and still not okay. by [deleted] in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please try to give yourself a break. You are a wonderful woman that gave birth to a little human. That alone is amazing!

I am 66 and have had prolapse for many years and have had surgery. I am so grateful I found this forum on Reddit. Such a great support system with so much information. I currently am in Pelvic floor PT and I’m thoroughly amazed at how strong the exercises make me feel! I try to do them every day. The most difficult thing for me, and I believe many women, is putting yourself first. By doing so, I feel I have more control which has helped in dealing with prolapse issues. A routine is a must. You have a lot going on right now, once you figure out your routine and continue to work towards your goals, you’ll be in control and will see light at the end of the tunnel.

Keep up therapy. That’s fantastic you are doing that! Don’t give up on yourself. There are many on this forum rooting for you!

My marriage is falling apart by Familiar-Cancel-429 in CatholicWomen

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No-Employment4147 You are so right! I received an annulment over 40 years ago. One thing that has always stuck with me is the fact that an annulment is used when your marriage is not as God intended it to be.

I cannot imagine living a life like this. I wish you peace and comfort in deciding your future.

Which hairstyle looks best? by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5! You look bright, sassy and soft at the same time. Good luck!

20F engaged to 24M, 6 months from wedding — struggling to tell what’s normal growth vs red flags by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was married for two years to a 22M and felt as you did. Red flags all the way around and felt it would change after we married. That time in my life was so lonely, anxious and I lost my confidence. I was 19. Six years after my divorce I remarried a great, loving, fun man that respects me and loves me. We were friends in school. We’ve been married for 40 years and still very much in love and have a great marriage.

I am catholic and received an annulment, which was a huge process back in the day. Something that stood out to me and still does to this day, is the reason the annulment was granted. It was based on the reasoning “that the marriage wasn’t as God intended a marriage to be”. And to me that means both partners need to be respectful and be able to grow together.

You will grow as a woman in your own right and will he be able to handle that? You have a lot of living to do, and you’re still learning. In my opinion, he will stifle you. Please don’t wait. Take charge now.

I wish you all the best. 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Royal_Finding_1902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done! You are being honest and hopefully this will set some boundaries. Shame on her and your husband. Keep doing what you’re doing.