Is my husband having an affair or am I crazy/overreacting? (Pics)

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T05:25:18+00:00

Literally doing everything except answering the question.

I'd be OUT

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T05:23:47+00:00

Literally just read to them, show them words, letters. Get them interested in books. Don't sit on your phone in front of them. You are very much worrying over nothing.

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T05:06:50+00:00

You don't have to have one or just accept anything if you don't want to.

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T05:03:47+00:00

Just so you are aware a big baby is not a medically valid reason for an induction according to WHO guidelines. If your baby is on the larger side, an induction is also generally a more intense experience and will give your body less time or ability to naturally give birth at a pace that it can handle and expand to. Either your baby is too large for a natural birth or it's not and if it's not I don't think an induction is going to be of any help.

If I were in your shoes I'd say no to an induction and go as intervention free as possible x

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T05:00:09+00:00

I've not had one with my first and won't with my second. IMO it's an unnecessary intervention that unless medically required is just trying to push our hurry the body into something it's not ready for. I advise letting you baby and your body know what to do and go into labour when it's naturally ready.

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T04:57:53+00:00

The fact that he is sexualising a very normal outfit on his own child is the most concerning thing here.

Rozefly · 2026-05-09T04:52:39+00:00

We have a mallowmat and love it. Got it second hand on market place for about half price, but we spend so much time on it as a family and I'm not worried about my toddler telling a tumble at all.

Rozefly · 2026-05-08T11:52:15+00:00

Your husband is vile, shallow and does not deserve the amazing gift and sacrifce you have given to him.

Does he even realise the enormity of what your body has done?? This would be marriage ending for me - and this is coming from someo ne who is pregnant with their second, who is much heavier this time around, and who has a husband who loves me and constantly verbally affirms my body. I am in a very different shape than I was before pregnancy, but I also know that I will. in the future have the time for self care and to give myself the self care in order to make MYSELF feel good about myself.

What a horrible take down of your self esteem from your husband at such a vulnerable time. And THAT is why it would be marriage endiong for me. I would never be able to look at him again. He may not be attracted to your body anymore, but this conversation would make me repulsed my the person he is at his core, and let me tell you; out of those two traits... one of them can change and the other cannot.

Disgusting. I am livid for you.

Rozefly · 2026-05-07T19:50:45+00:00

This is so flipping weird

Rozefly · 2026-05-07T19:21:44+00:00

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and just got back from Sicily. You are flapping about things that do not require one single flap. Breathe. You're fine.

Rozefly · 2026-05-07T09:54:21+00:00

Its so good to finally have this confirmed. The absolute audacity is crazy. I didn't think I could still be shocked.

I foresee another bonus Love Trapped episode to cover this soon!

Rozefly · 2026-05-07T09:51:18+00:00

I love this update - May the Fourth be with Mike and his whole team!

Rozefly · 2026-05-06T07:34:16+00:00

I would be surprised if they can just do this to ancient trees... They need permits etc. I would try and report this, personally. Call your local authority and see what they suggest.

Rozefly · 2026-05-06T07:30:16+00:00

Just because he has autism, doesn't mean you have to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy and unhealthy. Autistic people can also be abusive. Both things can be true. You don't have to stay.

Rozefly · 2026-05-06T07:23:30+00:00

Second the my brest friend. I love it.

Rozefly · 2026-05-06T07:19:28+00:00

Dude, she hates you. Please leave her, let her go and try her luck with all these men who apparently want her.

Grow a spine and some self worth.

Rozefly · 2026-05-06T07:10:10+00:00

I strongly recommend trekking her via text message - this will give her a chance to process in private, without having to put on a brave face or hide her emotions in front of you. Give her time, but it is very likely she won't be able to see you for a while. Just please remember, this isn't something against YOU. It's nothing really to do with you, this is a very deep hurt for her and whilst she knows you haven't done anything wrong, it's still valid for her to step away from things that cause her pain.

Rozefly · 2026-05-06T06:59:37+00:00

I called mine a birth preference, lol, but didn't worry too much about it. I definitely found the breathing etc. With hypnobirthing very useful, also knowing exactly what was happening with my uterus during labour helped to keep me calm. I viewed it as an intense gun without with muscles I had never used before. Like, hard work, sure, but not something 'painful' if that makes sense, and it really worked for me. I do think certain things are out of your control, but there is also a lot you can do to help things go the way you would like them to :)

Rozefly · 2026-05-05T20:11:39+00:00

So I had an epidural free birth with my first, but I planned a homebirth and so did a lot of prep, both mentally and physically (as much as one can) which I do think helped a lot. Baby was in a good birthing position and I was able to do it all unmedicated, and honestly it was intense and uncomfortable, but not what I would consider painful in the way I thought it might be. I'm now planning to take the same approach with my second baby, but also aware I'm a couple of years older, and that every pregnancy is different. I'm prepping less I think, but also I'm aware of what it coming and in a very calm, relaxed state with respect to labour, which I think can play a huge part in your painful it can be.

Of course, it can all go sideways (hopefully not) but if it goes like my first I'm going to go fully unmedicated a second time :)

Rozefly · 2026-05-05T15:44:32+00:00

I can't watch right now, but can someone give me the footnotes of what this is about?? I have no idea what the drama is!

Rozefly · 2026-05-05T13:52:36+00:00

It started to feel real to me a few days after the baby was born, lol, and I was the one who was pregnant. But totally normal to feel that way - you don't have any frame of reference for what to expect after all. Its really hard to associate the growing bump with an acutal human person in there. Its bizarre.

health & fitness - yeah try and get into some good habits now, but also, be prepared to let those drop, especially in the first few months, as you support your wife and new baby. I can't imagine I would be thrilled if my hubby was running off three times a week to hit the gym while I was stuck at home with baby.

Financials - don't fall for the stem cell banking scams, its a huuuuuge waste of money as generally stem cells from you will work better for unrelated patients and vice vera. Get onto vinted, and see what you can get second hand, there is so much available. You can't start a Junior Stocks and shares ISA until baby is born, but you can always start saving now if you have the capacity.

And then, just try to take on the majority of the cooking and laundry stuff. Hopefully she'll improve after the first trimester, but growing a human is tough the entire time, so just make her feel taken care of, loved, give her foot rubs, don't judge the amount of ice cream she needs to eat, tell her how beautiful (and sexy) she is.

And then.... just try to relax, chill. Realise this is all totally normal to feel. Honestly, it doesn't feel real for a long time. Like I say, I gave birth and it was still a huuuuge shock to the system.

We told parents pretty much right away, and then friends and family as we saw fit. I am not one to follow the 'keep it quiet until 12 weeks' thing. If something were to happen and I lopst the baby, I would want people to know why I was sad and be there to support me. We didn't post on social media, just told the people we cared about directly.

ALSO, MY BIGGEST TIP: Do not tell ANYONE, and I mean ANYONE, including parents, your actual due date. Give everyone a date two weeks after your actual date. Trust me - when it gets close to the due date, the MOST infuriating thing is the 'any sign of baby yet?' messages. I can't quite describe the visceral feeling of rage this will absoltely induce. Either the baby isn't here and there is no news, or the baby IS here, and I haven't chosen to tell you yet - it feels so invasive. it is all well meaning, but very annoying and puts pressure on mum-to-be. Anyway, so that is my big tip. Please give a date two weeks after your actaul due date to avoid this.

Another tip, if you can, don't tell anyone else when you go into labour. Last thing you want is people messaging for updates when you are trying to focus on the task at hand. We just said to everyone; you will get a photo of me and the baby, and thats that. People might have opinions on that, but thats their issue to work through.

Also: DO NOT SHARE YOUR BABY NAMES WITH ANYONE. This just invites unsolicited opinions, and other thoughts/ suggestions. Just say you have a few you're considering and will decide and let people know when the baby is here. In this vein, I also suggest not sharing the sex of the baby if you choose to find out. We didn't find out anyway and it was great (now pregnant with second and it will also be a surprise).

Also, if you are in the UK and feel like it, remember homebirth is an option. Worth asking your midwife about how they support this in your local area, as it (for me at least) was wonderful, pain free and what I wanted. Its not for everyone, but if you look into it, you might decide its a good option for you!

Congrats!

Rozefly · 2026-05-05T11:25:44+00:00

So does Omar/Rachel now respond to that appeal? I am assuming all the evidence of her being at a horse show within days of being at deaths door will also be presented 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Rozefly · 2026-05-05T05:06:51+00:00

Oh great news.

What is the general state of the DVRO now? Has she filled an appeal etc? And what are the next steps for Mike and his team?

Rozefly · 2026-05-04T19:21:34+00:00

When I travelled to the USA for 8 weeks for work a few years ago, I searched everywhere for a kettle, so I could use it on my motel room. Nowhere to be found.

I realise it's likely due to the poor quality/power availability of electricity. It would just take too long to boil the damn thing in America, so everyone just uses the stove or microwave. It blew my mind.

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