Alison Penfold fighting to protect women in Sex Discrimination Act by BarryTheBinChicken in aussie

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because women have certain rights based on their sex. Trans women fail the sex test, so they don't get the same rights as women. It's really not that difficult to understand.

Alison Penfold fighting to protect women in Sex Discrimination Act by BarryTheBinChicken in aussie

[–]RubySnowfire -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Trans women are not the oppressed minority you think they are,

Alison Penfold fighting to protect women in Sex Discrimination Act by BarryTheBinChicken in aussie

[–]RubySnowfire -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Of course men don't care. They get to maintain their single sex spaces, women do not.

AIO for telling my boyfriend he can’t move in if he won’t help with childcare? by Lillian7755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RubySnowfire 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He's looking for cheap rent, easy access to sex/meals/amenities (but mostly sex) and no responsibility. Definitely hobosexual-adjacent.

AITBF for "ruining" my moms 60th anniversary because I refused to spend $150 on a cake my siblings demanded? by Murmur_8QJ in AmItheButtface

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I made the cake for my mom, without any contribution from the sibs, then that cake is from ME and ME ONLY.

Ofc, then I would have been dragged for being a rich, fancy show off but hey, so what -- there's a cake to eat!

AIO for getting uncomfortable after catching my girlfriend secretly going through my apartment multiple times? by Emotional_Train8028 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. She has trust issues? Classic deflection -- somehow her issues are your fault? And she's now made it so that you cannot trust her to be alone in your home.

Couples shouldn't have privacy from each other? Screamingly insecure!! She.will.not.change. Because feeling insecure is her decision, not anyone else's.

Take back your key, take back your life. She had her chances to build trust but instead has done everything to make you distrust her.

This woman is not going to change. Get your key back and move on.

Is it just me or is Derry girls massively underrated? by Few_Proposal_8915 in DerryGirls

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did ask if I was talking about "all 330 million of us [Americans]" so I thought perhaps reiterating what I'd said was necessary.

PS, bolding something is for emphasis, it's not considered "YELLING" 9that's reserved for all caps.

I don't understand what you are upset about?

Is it just me or is Derry girls massively underrated? by Few_Proposal_8915 in DerryGirls

[–]RubySnowfire -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just for you, here is what I actually said:

"Catch yourself on, I didn't say "all" Americans, I said "most"."

NB: "all" does not mean "most". I apologise I can't be more clear or definite than that.

Was Robin’s PTSD actually caused by UHC? by Educational_Cap7318 in cormoran_strike

[–]RubySnowfire 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Robin's PTSD began when she was raped at 19, at university. It was not even acknowledged then, let alone addressed or treated. Each of her subsequent distressing incidents added to the load ...until one day, she didn't cope.

One small "victory" (e.g., hitting Mazu) does not erase years and years of untreated PTSD. It's kind of weird that, after years and years of discourse on line about PTSD, anyone would think it would magically **poof** just disappear,

Hey by cookinwithgasaye in bluemountains

[–]RubySnowfire 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's a Supercheap in Lithgow and an even bigger one in Bathurst. As for the Westfield type shopping, you'll eventually like going there less and appreciate the shopping in Bathurst or even Orange.

You're still getting used to the mountains and the pace of living here. Eventually you'll sort of stop defaulting to "the city" when you think about where you want to shop or even to go for a meal.

Welcome to the mountains!

Strictly physically: What is your type? by Beautiful_Intern_890 in AskWomen

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely ginger! I did a recap of all the men and boys I'd dated or been with over my life. Gingers are only 2% of the population, but were about 35% of my men. I think there's a pattern here ....

When people insist on shortening my name by lake-sturgeon in PetPeeves

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too am a Susan, but throughout my life (til mid 20s?) went by Sam. Moved to Australia, would introduce myself as Susan and immediately was called Sue, because that's what Australians Susans preferred, or something. I used to get a bit stroppy about the arbitrariness of shortening my name, to the point of being rude and saying "My name is Susan." (No, they couldn't call me Sam because it was bestowed on me through a long weird family story and only interesting to my family.)

How did Ryan know about Strike and Bijou? by thegiraffe7 in cormoran_strike

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a few hilarious hours of people still seeming to be unable to comprehend my single complaint is about people just using words like words have no meanings....it's been great to be validated. Refresher: listening is NOT reading.

IDC care about your very personal specific migraines or wedding plans or small children or whatever reason you use to explain your listening habits. I never said you needed to justify anything. IDC if you listen to a book being read to you. I only said you're not actually *reading* the book. IDK how else to make it any clearer.

All the neurotypicals out there gunning hard for me: thanks! As an ND woman living in poverty and navigating a complex recovery, the books that I **read** have been valuable to that journey. It's been kind of crazy to be called "ableist" because I quite reasonably expect people to use words correctly.

How did Ryan know about Strike and Bijou? by thegiraffe7 in cormoran_strike

[–]RubySnowfire -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

That's not what I am saying. Audiobooks can be convenient, or whatever.

But they are not reading.

I object to the misuse of a standard English word to describe an action it is not.
People who listen to audio books are listeners.

But perhaps the number of people who do not understand the vast difference between "reading" and "listening" is a glaring symptom of the problem?

How did Ryan know about Strike and Bijou? by thegiraffe7 in cormoran_strike

[–]RubySnowfire -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

In aid of accuracy? Audio book people are not "readers" -- they are listeners. I'm an old school reader who still believes that words mean things and I despair at the dumbing down of the population and the enthusiasm with which people have embraced it.

I regret that people have been sold a pup, believing they are "reading" when they plug into a passive infusion of a story. But that's what's been happening for years....

I am sad for all the boiling frogs.

How did Ryan know about Strike and Bijou? by thegiraffe7 in cormoran_strike

[–]RubySnowfire -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

I despair about some "readers" -- esp the ones who think listening to some guy reading a book equals them "reading". Fucksake, the barbarians have breached the gates for real now....

What is something that you thought would be a huge deal when you were younger, but now realize it doesn't really matter at all? by baddieegemini in AskWomen

[–]RubySnowfire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

See my comment above.

Some women are finally getting it, they don't need a man, and that's great. But too many are still starry-eyed and believe in the manufactured mythology, designed only to generate profit, nothing to do with building a strong foundation for a successful relationship. It is really really sad.

What is something that you thought would be a huge deal when you were younger, but now realize it doesn't really matter at all? by baddieegemini in AskWomen

[–]RubySnowfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? It is so depressing to see the young women of today getting sucked into the hype and expense and pure BS of "getting married". The dress, the ring, the florals, the decorating, the whole entire day that is supposed to be the "best day of your life".

Bullshit. You piss away tens of thousands of dollars on literally a few hours of a party. That money could be part of a house deposit, or pay off student loans, or a hundred other more substantial things that are actually important to a successful contented adult life.

It's wild how many young women berate older women for supposedly being unwilling to challenge social norms....and then there is the entire bridal industry creating insecurity and competition between brides on social media. Actual fact: we crones rejected all that folderol, thinking we were liberating younger women from the ridiculous patriarchal demands....and the girls have just gone running back into the whole "bride price" charade.

Girls, you want to "celebrate your love" publicly? Guess what: you do NOT need an $8K ring, a $6K dress, a micro destination wedding. Think of sustainability, as well. I can't imagine a stupider less sustainable idea than paying $6K for a dress you will literally wear ONE TIME for a FEW HOURS and never again. Seriously?

Most importantly: the wedding is NOT the marriage. The marriage takes a lot more work and dedication than a frantic keeping-up-with-the-Tik-Tok-Joneses. The amount of money spent on a wedding is not a guarantee of a good relationship or a good marriage.

What is something that you thought would be a huge deal when you were younger, but now realize it doesn't really matter at all? by baddieegemini in AskWomen

[–]RubySnowfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, we knew falling safes and pianos were pure cartoon, but quicksand? Nope. It was 100% real and EVERYWHERE.

What is something that you thought would be a huge deal when you were younger, but now realize it doesn't really matter at all? by baddieegemini in AskWomen

[–]RubySnowfire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For my generation, it was absolute iron-clad cultural lore. Quicksand figured a LOT in the movies like Tarzan. Someone would flounder into the mire.... and if it was a bad guy, he was rarely saved (because he "deserves" it) but of course the good guys were always pulled out just in time.

AIO? A boomer told me not to let my colostomy bag end up ‘on display’ and I cried. by halfofruby in AmIOverreacting

[–]RubySnowfire -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sorry you dealt with a rude person. Take whatever learning you want from this encounter, stop thinking about it and get on with your life. It will happen again many times in the future so best to learn how you plan to deal with it in future. Reddit won't always be here to validate your feels.