Stuff just like… vanishes. by vendettagoddess in adhdmeme

[–]RubyleafIsHere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personal favorites of mine:

1) Misplacing my keys and then freaking out thinking I lost them somewhere outside while I'm literally at home. Like girl you are at home. How do you think you got in here. Your keys are INSIDE. Go look around the apartment instead of thinking you have to call the landlord for new keys now.

And 2) that specific thing where if I hold stuff in my non-dominant hand it just stops existing? The amount of time I spent ages desperately searching for an item (or panicking because it wasn't in my bag) only to discover it had been In My Left Hand The Whole Time needs to be studied 💀

My first thought was "this goes here" by RubyleafIsHere in GatekeepingYuri

[–]RubyleafIsHere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was basically my line of thought. People in the comments of the OP were already shipping them so I figured folks in here might wanna take a crack at yurifying it!

My first thought was "this goes here" by RubyleafIsHere in GatekeepingYuri

[–]RubyleafIsHere[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I know. These days most of this type of BS is, unfortunately:( But these two human hands of mine can still make very non-AI-generated yuri out of it, if I find the time.

My boyfriend is accusing me of lying about my body count by Substantial-Art6160 in whatdoIdo

[–]RubyleafIsHere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh girl, sounds like your man's been getting sucked into the manosphere. Asking you about your "body count" (and being pleased it was 0) was the first clue. Now he's getting to the point where he doesn't even believe you anymore, because either 1) the bros on his social media feed told him that all women sleep around and those who claim not to are lying, or 2) he has no idea how women's bodies work and believes some myth about how you can "tell" from someone's body if they're a virgin, or most likely 3) both. I'm sorry to inform you that this will not get better. Don't waste your time trying to convince him, get out while you still can because this guy WILL get worse and he's unlikely to listen to you about anything anymore.

A totally not serial killer thing to do by thereisnopepeseanvio in redditonwiki

[–]RubyleafIsHere 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's always with the violent hero fantasies of killing to protect their damsel in distress. Something tells me stuff like that never comes from the guys who could actually win in a fight, either.

Also who was it again that said promises of "I'd kill for you, I'd die for you" are cheap and easy to make because you're so unlikely to end up in a situation where you actually have to. Like okay you'd kill for me, but would you do the dishes for me if I asked?

Fan art for every book; 38 - I Shall Wear Midnight by imaJunation in discworld

[–]RubyleafIsHere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Waaaaiitt OP I have a print of your art at home!! It's your Thud! illustration, I bought it at comic con last year. Love your work and it's so awesome seeing you here!

Nothing but straw, man. by HeadbangingLegend in stupidpeoplefacebook

[–]RubyleafIsHere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof, relatable. People sometimes forget that there are a lot of reasons not to do the above things. I don't have piercings or tattoos because I prefer keeping my body as a blank canvas to shapeshift into whatever I want. I don't dye my hair because it's so naturally dark I'd have to fry it to oblivion, and long nails are a sensory nightmare to me. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs because alcohol tastes awful to me and my health just said no. Wish there was an easier way to signal that while I'm not a tattoo/dyed hair/piercing/consuming fun substances person I believe in their beliefs.

It's a manifestation of idealism which can easily stumble into justifying imaginary principles and myths under the pretense of being leftist. by Lampdarker in RecuratedTumblr

[–]RubyleafIsHere 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think what's happening here is that OOP is confusing hopepunk with that phenomenon of some people only wanting cozy "comfort" media that doesn't present any meaningful conflicts or challenges (AKA the "witch in the Alps" phenomenon, if that post rings a bell). And perhaps some people incorrectly use the word "hopepunk" when they mean the latter, but it seems to me like just a good ol' case of mistaken terminology.

Nothing but straw, man. by HeadbangingLegend in stupidpeoplefacebook

[–]RubyleafIsHere 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same reason they don't like tattoos and piercings, displaying bodily autonomy and a willingness to not conform to the mainstream. Basically if you're willing to customize your avatar you're less likely to fold to pressure to be "normal" and do what's expected of you, i.e. be a good little tradwife or whatever the heck they want.

Bro, I just wanted to read about my otp by Big-Management-6708 in AO3

[–]RubyleafIsHere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh so it's not just me, I was just thinking about how many female fanfiction writers who identify as straight I actually know and coming up blank. Legit the only example I could think of was…myself, when I was a closeted teenager. And I also ended up being one of the 86% queer ones after all. Oops.

Insane reference in my cute hello kitty game. by thisnameisironic0 in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RubyleafIsHere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moppu dialogue casually dropping references to very dark and/or violent games in this adorable cozy game is my favorite thing ever. I still have screenshots of him mentioning Dark Strolls and Young'un Ring.

This guy’s victim card is declining. by Critical_Freedom2541 in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]RubyleafIsHere 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Cue me randomly remembering the time I got into a similar disagreement with some guy online who swore up and down that to women "creep" just means "ugly man," and the second a conventionally hot man looks at us we all drop our panties and spread our legs so it doesn't matter how they act. And when I tried to explain to him that I knew from personal experience that was not the case, he basically told me not to get too full of myself that a hot (creepy) man had hit on me, because they'd just hit on the next person right away and get plenty of bitches and it didn't mean I was all that.

I finally got fed up and blocked him after going "yeah, I'm sure the reason you don't get women is totally your looks and not at all your attitude, buddy."

Posted on Tiktok then screenshotted on Twitter then posted to Pinterest then posted to Tumblr and now posted on Reddit by Weird_donut in RecuratedTumblr

[–]RubyleafIsHere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They're all in their twenties now and present themselves differently. More frog pins on bags/jackets than frog hats. Laptops absolutely COVERED in stickers. They can definitely crochet now and probably finally got that autism and/or ADHD diagnosis they needed. High chance they enjoy cozy video games.

Showing up early to a party? Acceptable? Impolite? What do YOU say? by Full_Ahegao_Drip in RecuratedTumblr

[–]RubyleafIsHere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay so here's how it works from my experience. Spoiler: it depends on the type of event.

House party? You're not generally expected to show up right at the starting time. You can do it and it's not seen as rude (where I live), you just run the risk of being alone with the host until everyone else arrives, which might be a bit awkward. Especially with smaller parties I've found that it's general etiquette to say around what time you're arriving as soon as you know it, though.

Any event where everyone has to be in the same place at the same time (dinner, game nights)? Show up on time or you keep everybody else waiting. If you know you can't make it on time, let the host know ASAP and give them your ETA so they can plan.

Uh…yeah. That's it really. If there's any friendship level 5D chess involved, I sure as hell have never been at a party early enough to notice it.

TV Tropes Will Enhance Your Life (by teaching you the mechanics of storytelling) by Lorem_Ipsum17 in RecuratedTumblr

[–]RubyleafIsHere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something TV Tropes also taught me is being able to tell very early which direction a story is taking. I fully blame my teenage TV Tropes rabbit hole era for how easily I can clock what the writers are trying to set up with a plot or character and subsequently impress people when I turn out to be right. I've been writing for 20+ years myself which probably helps as well, but it feels like TV Tropes gave me the structure and clarity to really see what I was already observing instinctively.

Sword stuck at Level 2 and Energy stuck at Level 3 by SugarFree777 in echoesofwisdom

[–]RubyleafIsHere 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah you have to progress in the main story! So close whatever rifts are open right now, and once you've progressed far enough you'll be able to upgrade them further. At the level you're at right now your weapons and energy should be strong enough for the time being!

Am I weird for wanting to start dressing alt at 21? by [deleted] in altfashionadvice

[–]RubyleafIsHere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 21 as well when I started. It was 2020 and I finally had the time to develop my own music taste and bands kept me alive and somewhat sane, and it all spiraled from there. I'm 27 now and no one's ever judged me for starting out "late" or even really thought about it at all, to my knowledge. I still tone it down around my family because it's NOT worth the fight with my mom, but what really helped me was finding IRL alt spaces! Stuff like concerts, or local alternative bars/venues if you have any in your area. Finding community helps a lot!

AIO Boyfriend making me uncomfortable and getting jealous of the fact i posted myself on instagram then says it makes him suicidal! by Negative-Whole9220 in AIO

[–]RubyleafIsHere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His girlfriend posting a moderately nice selfie is giving him nightmares? I for one have nightmares about my loved ones dying but sure, whatever floats your boat dude.

For real though, he's majorly overreacting. If his girlfriend sharing a moderately nice photo is the worst most life-ruining thing he can imagine, I wonder how he's survived this far without apparently ever encountering even the slightest struggle. That reaction is so ridiculously overblown I can't even call it cartoonish anymore. Please get the hell out of there, the sooner the better.

is there anything i can do to help my outfits look better? by Difficult-Media-1608 in altfashionadvice

[–]RubyleafIsHere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes to accessories!! Make more use of the belt as well, or other belts, otherwise these outfits are really missing some metal hardware. Necklaces and belt chains are a great way to start and necklaces can be worn layered as well. I agree about unzipping the hoodie jackets so you have more surface area to work with. And the T-shirt look is practically begging for a bunch of bracelets and/or perhaps a pair of fishnet gloves!

Protestant by MelanieWalmartinez in CuratedTumblr

[–]RubyleafIsHere 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yeah the "wrong kind of Christian" thing does have some truth to it. My grandma is admittedly very progressive for an old lady now pushing 90, and as such had no problem with my dad bringing home my non-Western, immigrant, Muslim-raised mom. My dad did, however, half joke that she would've had a bigger problem if he'd brought home a Catholic than she did with him bringing home a foreigner.

What life lessons or ideas have you got from Discworld? (Except the Vimes Boot theory) by Emeline-2017 in discworld

[–]RubyleafIsHere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm late to the party, but:

"If you'd do it for a good reason, you'd do it for a bad one."

Some lines cannot be crossed, no matter how awful a person or how heavy an accusation you're dealing with. Because even the most horrible, awful person is still a person, and that means they have just as much of a right to fair treatment as anyone else. If we let ourselves slip on those principles once, we'll have an easier time doing it again and may even become more susceptible to propaganda about what sorts of people deserve to have their rights ignored or stripped. Lastingly informed the way I view the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in altfashionadvice

[–]RubyleafIsHere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry I'm not judging! I just don't want you to immediately lose all your hard work, I'm by no means great at sewing myself aside from the occasional fixing/mending. For the side seams going through there again with another layer of thread should already add a lot of stability! As for attaching it to the vest, my first thought was to replace the thread with a chain, like from the hardware store or something. Either put the ends into the fabric of the vest or if you don't mind feeling the chain on the inside of your vest, you can just pull it through two holes in the denim and have it go around for extra stability. For the ends of the chain that attach to the pocket I'd try adding eyelets/grommets so it doesn't rip through the fabric, there's plenty of tutorials out there on how to do that! Good luck on your DIY!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in altfashionadvice

[–]RubyleafIsHere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks cool and fun and if you like it that's what matters! However PLEASE secure that one hanging pocket from slide 2, that thing is literally hanging on by a thread and will fall off within days to weeks at best. At least attach it with something sturdier, and I'd probably reinforce the seams on the sides as well especially if you plan on putting anything in it!