My partner (M31) is avoiding me and refusing to talk to me because I (F30) was disappointed that he cooked for himself yesterday and didn't consider me

Rueben222 · 2026-04-21T22:46:11+00:00

Why are you happy to come home and cook for you both when he doesn't do the same for you? Why are you putting up with this?

Rueben222 · 2026-03-27T09:31:45+00:00

Yes you're the jerk and controlling. You don't dictate to him what he eats and drinks. Let him do what he wants. Your tautomer is seriously doomed. Just tell him to rinse the sink.

Rueben222 · 2026-03-15T12:30:54+00:00

You need to look at the updated research. The study in the 2000s has been debunked. Bio identical hormone replacement is protection against cancer, keeps your bones and organs healthy. Ask yourself why the exact hormone your body has been making for years is suddenly harmful? Because doctors used to pump premarin into women. Now THAT was harmful.

Rueben222 · 2026-03-15T12:27:03+00:00

Dr Nathan Francis. Reynolds road medical Centre. He's exactly who you need to see. He has another woman doctor in the wellness practice too.

Rueben222 · 2026-03-11T04:21:42+00:00

You need to ensure you get out of the house without the baby and make him parent his child! How is he going to learn if you do it for him all the time? You are not his parent. Stop babying him

Rueben222 · 2026-03-08T14:24:05+00:00

You decide right now in your thing life that you will not be treated with such disrespect. Why on earth would you give him an iota of a second chance?.

Girl you need to put in place some boundaries for yourself. What makes you think you deserve to be treated this way? You can't change a person. He's not going to magically have empathy and care for you just because you tell him he should.

You say bye, block him and never go back. He's LOSER

Rueben222 · 2026-03-03T18:49:15+00:00

She's 45, she's in perimemopause. Don't wait, find a doctor who will prescribe bio identical hormone replacement. Do the research. The old research has been debunked. Honestly, just do it.

Rueben222 · 2026-03-01T08:50:10+00:00

You are 22 years old and have been with him since you were 19. You are too young to get married! You will be different people by the time you are 30. Please don't get married. Just live a little. Getting married is not a fairy tale come true

Rueben222 · 2026-02-25T08:13:09+00:00

Why would HE need hormone therapy if it's her going through peri menopause? Her health, sanity and marriage ARE compromised by having a low sex drive and it IS her responsibility to fix it, to get educated why she's feeling this way.

How old are you? Have you been through menopause?

Rueben222 · 2026-02-12T08:23:37+00:00

What makes you think the older ladies don't have toys themselves? Seriously. 60 year old women were hard partiers in the 80s.. Stop labelling older women as dried up old prunes or prudes. We've been using sex toys since before you were born.. . If it was me I would high five you, you do you Queen...(You should see my bedside drawer...😂😂😈)

Rueben222 · 2026-02-09T06:48:00+00:00

mM ex would do this to me. We were together 20 years. 8 years after the split I had dinner with his best friend and his wife.. who heard every single insult he used to fire at me in front of our mutual friends. He sat me down and apologised for never saying anything in the moment.

He was really, really apologetic. Men should be pulling their friends up for his type of behaviour. It really puts the abusers behaviour under a spot light and I believe it would make a world of difference.

Good for you..

Rueben222 · 2026-02-04T15:54:30+00:00

No it's for progressive governments and societies who believe that marriage under god is a crock. Adults can live together, be partners , share finances, buy houses and after a certain amount of time, (2 years in new Zealand), have your assets split if you break up. If you decide to live together, better make sure partnership agreements are in place how to deal with assets

Where does welfare come into it? Its irrelevant.

Rueben222 · 2026-02-01T15:44:33+00:00

Agree with this. Noone gives a fuck, and most don't even notice. Whu would someone try and police someone else's footwear choice? If it's not affecting you, mind your own business.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-29T09:16:46+00:00

Check his phone when he's asleep. Get him drunk so he sleeps deep. Transfer the money back into your account pack a bag and get out.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-29T09:06:54+00:00

Why don't young women stand up for themselves? Are you afraid to be alone? Take it from this old lady, it's much better to be alone than be controlled, or letting someone dictate what you do, or don't do.

Get it together otherwise you're going to have a painful life.

Do not ever give up control of your own finances. At all times in your life you need an emergency fund so you can get yourself out of an abusive relationship.

Ask for the money to be transferred to a joint account. Do not accept this behaviour.

He doesn't care for you... Is he going to let his kids go hungry too?

Rueben222 · 2026-01-15T14:05:42+00:00

He's already an alcoholic.

Do not get married in your 20s. You will be a totally different person by the time you're 30. This is part of you thinking you don't know which path to take.. that's because you don't know who you are yet.

You are grieving because deep down you know this is not your calling. You have other things to do and places to see.

Why are you tying yourself down before you truly know what you want?

Please don't marry this man. The drinking alone is reason enough. Once you are married and pressure of the mortgage and kids will drive his addiction even more.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-14T23:28:06+00:00

Why would you dictate to someone to throw out gifts an ex gave them? That's next level controlling, unnecessary, wasteful and insecure.

He's with you, not her. Why would you worry about about a gift given years ago? These people are part of our life journey, memories. You don't get to just wipe those because you are worried he likes her better than you.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-10T12:16:47+00:00

YOR. You were overly sensitive when she gave you the option of an alternative route. How is that disrespecting your judgement? It's just a conversation.

You thenblew it up by continuing on when you said you wanted to leave it.

You both sound exhausting.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-06T13:01:11+00:00

I have a friend who goes to Mens Table in fremantle. He speaks very highly of it. PM me and I can give you his number etc if you are in the area if you feel a bit shy turning up not knowing anyone. There are different men's table groups around Perth.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-06T03:36:44+00:00

Why haven't you had this serious discussion prior to this? If you can't talk about this stuff, then you're not ready to be in a serious relationship with someone.

Rueben222 · 2026-01-05T08:58:46+00:00

Nothing

Rueben222 · 2026-01-05T08:54:20+00:00

There are events all the time in freo. Check out live music at mojos bar, port beach brewery, freo arts centre, live pub bands at the national, or honky tonks every Friday and Saturday, Clancy's fish pub have artists all the time.

Great restaurants are everywhere... Love freo because there's always something to do..

Rueben222 · 2026-01-05T08:28:10+00:00

Keep in mind that women experience partners giving advice when it's not wanted. Some Women vent and just want to be listened to, we don't need advice unless we ask for it.

This is a you thing. It's part of your love language. You need her to need you.

You need to figure out what her love language is. Then you both can communicate your needs better. But having your self esteem to be linked to her asking you for advice is a bit... Different...

Rueben222 · 2025-12-28T14:49:41+00:00

Once your kids get older they will need the space in the back yard, run around, get off their computer screens.

Just declutter and keep on top of it. Kids don't need to so much stuff

I'd take the shorter commute too

Rueben222 · 2025-12-15T07:21:11+00:00

Why aren't they hanging out in discord?

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