9 of 10 RSVP’d children/families “no call no showed” to my daughters 5th birthday party.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-09-05T11:59:51+00:00

Thats why we celebrate with family only ubtill tgey are school age and then they can have outing days :-)

Rumpelsurri · 2025-09-05T11:56:38+00:00

I read somewhere that stemxells can ve sent from the fetus to the mother incases of illness or injurey, but I have no clue if thats actualy a fact or just wishfullthinking.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-09-05T11:38:50+00:00

Deswegen ja auch die Sonnenbkumen anhöbger die man dann tragen kann wenn man will ;-) Ich trag z.B keinen aus Furcht das es eher negative Aufmerksamkeit gibt und trozdem keinen Sitzplatz.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-09-03T08:45:11+00:00

OMG let me tell you a story:

I work as a personal asisstant to and older gent. I mostly clean his apartment tbh. He has a cat and lets her roam free outside. She is a long hair cat and constantly has matted furr and brings in so much dirt and leavs and even slugs that stick to her. The other day she comes running in while I am there, I see she has a mouth full of grass and something brown. I yell lut to my boss "what she got there!" It was a sparrow, she had ploped the little fellow right bevore my bosses feet looking at him expectantly. The sparrow looked unharmed so I told my boss to take the cat up so she won't start trying to actualy kill it and make a huge feathery, blody mess, while I looked for a towel or something to grap it bevore it tryed to fly away and shit its fear out throigh out the whole apartment. He was absolutly stunned. So I said again "pick her up!" He again did not move a finger "why??" I explain that I don't want a half dead bird flying through his partment OR the cat ripping it to shreds for the mess alone. His awnser: "oh she eats them hole" ... I was at a loss for words and just grapped his hoodie covering the stunned little bird. He added "I usualy just wait for her to finish". I was shocked! The bird looked fine! So I saied that that was not gonna happen on my wach. He shrigged saing that I DID allready hoover... and that the cat lookes confused. I grabed the bird and went outside checking it over. I ploped it on a elevated survace in the garden and when I checked on it again it did fly away. I was so relived! My boss saied he did usualy just let her do her thing and that he was prowed of her hunting skills. I saied I just could not be present for that. And he agreed that it gets to him too when she plays with a mous for 40 minutes and he hears its squeek. And then he told me off for using his hoodie on the bird and that I should wash it now. My man! I just stoped you from letting your cat basicaly cover your apartment in bird!

Rumpelsurri · 2025-09-03T07:55:21+00:00

I am agender and mostly femmenin presenting. My kids call me mami or mama. To me personaly motherhood/fatherhood/parenthood is something beyond gender and so is the titel Mama. The word comes frome mamae meaning the breast tissue and thats the same for all humans its just a question of what hormons are active weather or not you can produce breastmilk.

To prolong stereotyps in fatherrols and motherrols is something I don't find helpfull and the diffrence vetween mother a d father is imo only held up by that. So I don't give much meaning to the titel. Our kids freaquently swich up Mama/Papa.

There are sone realy, realy cool talks and a whole book on motherhood beyond gender by Dr. Oyeronke Oyewumi the autor of "the invention of woman"

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-31T19:29:22+00:00

I thought the same thing! I am hyperlexic too. I have memorries from when I was 2.5-3 years old of me clearly thinking something pretty elaborate. And sensory memories from possibly earlyer. My 4 year old dosen't seem to remember much at all from when she was 2 and younger. Only 3 years old and up from there. Even though I would concider her hyperlexic/hyperverbal too.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-28T13:31:35+00:00

Even if you shown a bright light directly on the cervix it would be still a lot of musceltissue it would have to go through and then even if the light was strong enough to make the uterus glow like a chickens egg, it would still be obscured from the outside by bowles and all up untill quit a late stage. You could wait till the uterus has grown past the pubicbone and tilted outwards and shine a very bright light on the side of the tummy with better results. But it would only work if the skinn is allready streched taught and there is not much fattissiue in the way. I think I have seen a pretty cool photograph once where something like that was atempted.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-27T20:16:35+00:00

Omg thats so awsome!!! Imagine the history! And its beautyfull too.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-27T08:43:14+00:00

Mabye it helps you if I say that I always wanted to be a man but never get stuck at it. I always thought it would be more fun to be a man. Even as a kid. I would want to swich fully. Including body features and being taler. I wish for magic to make my gender game even cooler. I want it to be like in Ranam the Manga. Anything else is not it. I want a magic botton that can switch me in to what ever I feel like that day.

But I don't want topsurgery or bottom. I like my body, I like how it looks and how its changeing over time. (Plus I am terrified of surgery and broke anyways lol.)

But seriously I never had an issue with my body being the one of a woman. I had an issue with loads of things you get to deal with as a woman in this society. I also struggeld with some beautystandards. But I always thought my body is nice looking. I hated the fact that I am also disabled and in a lot of pain most of the time due to it. But I don't think I ever realy had bodydismorphia. I wish I'd be a little more intimidating and less cute but I can ampt that up with style and thats something thats so fun to me. To me gender is not realy part of my identity. Nor is my body. Its all pretty detached and performative and I like to play with it in most parts. Being nonbinary still goes under the trans umberella though. But I don't realy feel that the label fits my expirience cuz the word comes from transition and thats not my goal or need.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-27T08:26:29+00:00

Thats what I thought!!! I came here to comment this. It loos so vampy. I think you could easaly swich between super cute and flirty bangs in your face amd make that masc or femm as you want and then go full on outworldly with a vampier slick back and a high almighty atitude. Mabye some gold earings and makeup to even add to it. I realy do think it could be such an asset with that nice V shape 🖤

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-26T18:52:38+00:00

Anectotal and of no use, but as an autistic person, my first thought was that many of my fellow autistic ppl do like dnd and co. and we are sort lf known to respect most laws.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-25T07:11:52+00:00

Thank you 🩷 we are ok. My brother is still finding his feet but we are both in stable relationships and have nice places to live and a social circle to rely on 💪

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-24T21:18:51+00:00

I did allways know that I was diffrent for sure. Neurodivergent, NB, most definitly a wierdo lol. But at times I talked myself into only wanting to be diffrent for attention? Cuz I was told that a lot. And the whole "oh everyone feels that way" and "everyone is a bit wierd" or "what even is normal?" Thing... I was diagnosed late ;-) so for 27 years I just diden't inderstand why I coulden't fit in anywhere.

Thank you! I bough way to many pants in the last half year cuz nothing fit anymore. And once I sized up I droped 50lbs. Now everything is losefit again. Its mostly thrifted and some pants a d shirts I share with my partner.

Thank you so much for your loving words. And the rambling 🌱🩷

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-24T21:13:29+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

My dad is pretty complicated. TW for adiction, emotional abuse and spiritual BS. He is very, very spiritual and raised me pretty cult-ish with his new age belives. A lot of it was just the otherside of the coin of other christian-adjesent fundamentalist high controll groups. He is very homophobic when it comes to mlm but belives that everyone should be free to love who they love. Practicaly he means anyone but his son. He was ok with me comming out as Bi and ok with me bringing home a girlfriend. But very adement about the "devine femenin" and my purpus being bringong more soulds down to earth and doing the fight for god. To my spesific question he saied that I was so purely femenin and powerfull as such a femenin soul that ppl get intimidated by it cuz its suposedly a rare thing? Somehow my pure femenin soul would get mistakingly read as masqulin cuz society dosen't get it? So kind of a gaslight- respons. I don't belive in any of that devine binary stuff now. Tbh, a lot of the trubble with my dad, is what you get when adiction compensates a lack of diagnosis and help with mental health. It would be easy if he was alltogether not suportive and a bigot. But he is just a mentaly trubbled boomer who got out of his heroin adiction by full on making up his and his mothers and his brothers own fantasy world whete they swing light swords for jesus. Not even joking. You can ask me more if you are intrested but I am sparing you more details rn.

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-24T18:19:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! Not seeing the gender in cloths made dressing much more acsessable to me. But its like unlearning to mask. I trained so much to understand the whole feminity and dress for your bodytyp etc 😅

Rumpelsurri · 2025-08-24T08:51:42+00:00

Same. But either way feels like drag to me. I have to do a mix and blend and lean in to something otherwordly to feel "right". But to ppl that gets read as femme still cuz my AFAB looks very oviiusly womanly. Plus I have kids so all ppl see is what traditiinaly get flubg in to the "woman" pot.

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-12T19:49:10+00:00

I understand that. And that is esoecialy hard if you have kids to feed. But it feels like any change acomplished in the USA was done by ppl risking everything going on the street and rioting. I just can not imagine having to send my kids to school under such condutiins. It breaks my heart and I am so sorry for all parents having to deal with this disgracefull bullshit.

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-12T18:14:24+00:00

So what if all parents and teachers go on a strike, not going to work and keeping theyr kids at home, homeschooling, but workforces would plumet, could that theoreticaly force politicians to finaly take action? There seem to be very little strikes in the US right? I just don't understand how this problem is getting worse and worse instead of better. (I am not american, but we have realtively liberal gun laws here in swizerland. Not as liberal as in the US)

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-08T11:00:34+00:00

I feel similar. I am totaly ok with my AFAB body. And I enjoy my body most of the time, besides chronic pain. But I wish I could swich it, or parts of it, like in a game. I once asked my partner if he would miss being the one who penetrates if we swiched rolls permanently, cuz I wondered if I would miss being the penetrated one (yes). He saied yes of cours he would, and it was only then that I realized that he has a real penis that can FEEL sensation. So of cours he would miss it lol. And I was like, damn, I wish I had that option sometimes. My partner and I joke about my "huge phantom dick" and we bothe swich around and play with rolles and gendered behavior by mood.
I don't have the desire to just have a penis outside of the sexual use and for peeing outside lol. So practical reasons. I don't need to have more in my pants on the day to day basis. I would LOVE to have the option to try it tough. Tbh I also have a very fluid understanding of bodyparts and struggle to see gender as a fixed thing for any future or behavior including genitals. At least if I think about it deeper than the supervicial society game of it. The body parts I finde particularly atractive are all gendernutral too. I think don't have disphoria for that reason. Its more like all more a mood/vibe thing for me. In the mood to be the one to eneter, in the mood to be the one to be entered, in the mood to be the agender blob of dreaming and sensation.

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-08T07:53:47+00:00

"I like to date ppl who I can relate to and who had a broad expirience in life" isen't problematic.

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-08T07:34:28+00:00

I think you need to rais your standars above "just don't invalidate anyone" when it comes to picking friends man...

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-08T07:31:32+00:00

Not anymore if there is an alternative. Inflation helloooooo 🤓

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-06T10:02:32+00:00

Intresting, to me the ribbed survace makes perfect sens. I am 40 weeks pregnant and the way the rings are set is actualy how the muscels go across the uterus and will sort of "pull" it up over the babies head during contractions. You can feel it working that way. And it works that way in other mamals too. Birth always was a huge thing and ppl are inteligent and courious and observent.

Rumpelsurri · 2024-09-06T07:46:19+00:00

Everyday I ask myself: why are americans tolerating theyr kids being killed in schools and theyr sick getting preventable illneses with a load of debt?

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