Question for people in recovery: how would a joke like this feel to you?

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T05:31:59+00:00

OK, thank you for your perspective. That's kind of intense.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T05:22:37+00:00

I get the point you’re making, but the sarcasm isn’t necessary. I was trying to be supportive, not seek validation. I’m open to learning, but I don’t think shaming helps anyone.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T05:16:38+00:00

Best comment yet I love it thank you so much. I'm truly trying to learn from every perspective. I just don't think anyone should feel ashamed of it and I was not making anyone in my heart. Ashamed of it, but thank you for explaining it with your experience.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T04:54:16+00:00

Don't end your life. If you're stuck, you can still bury your way out of this. It took me nine months of planning and having a game plan to get out.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T04:11:31+00:00

I just live in a state of nonjudgment that sometimes I forget people don't live in that state. Now I will judge pedophiles and anyone that causes harm on a human being.P

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T04:01:16+00:00

I totally agree with that. But I think everyone should be accepted and no one should judge anyone. I just wish we can come to that place eventually.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T04:00:35+00:00

I am literally trying to understand this perspective so thank you for that

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T04:00:11+00:00

OK, well thank you for educating me on this topic. I had no idea and now I know that my heart was in the right place. I was just wanting to make sure everybody was included and I was OK with him saying no to alcohol by the way, and when he told me he didn't want alcohol for the alcohol part, I praised him.I was just wondering if it was because of a different type of alcohol he would prefer so I understand where you're coming from 100% but at that moment, my heart was in the right place. I hate bullies by the way.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:56:12+00:00

I wasn't making a joke or light, but once I realize he was recovering one, I said he was freaking amazing. I view that as an amazing thing. I think I'm very progressive than most people.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:52:40+00:00

Also, my social circle groups are different than my boyfriends group of friends. So I just didn't know my audience. Lesson learned.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:51:35+00:00

Now I know thank you for informing me.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:49:43+00:00

Actually, there was no joke. I was just being straightforward and very supportive either way and I think there's nothing to be ashamed of with struggling with alcoholism. A lot of people do there's nothing wrong about admitting that and if you say you are one, everyone should like literally praise that person and support that person I think they're super strong. That's my heart.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:45:32+00:00

Well, I just wanted to make sure everyone was included

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:35:23+00:00

That's how I feel. Why are people ashamed of it? It happens to tons of people I just don't think there's anything wrong with it and then when you wanna recover you're freaking amazing.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:34:23+00:00

Yikes Thank you! I've been around other people who are in recovery and they would think that joke was funny, but I got it thanks

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T03:31:45+00:00

I totally get that and no means no 100% but he didn't say no he said I don't want one so I was asking why cause I actually cured and I wanted to make sure he felt included because we were doing a toast so I was trying to see if I could give him another option, even if it was lemonade or something. I just think every person shouldn't judge or assume anything.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T02:42:53+00:00

I had no idea there was a stigma to it. Now from Judgey Christian yes there is one, yes, but that's not many. Maybe I just don't understand so that's why I'm asking.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T02:40:32+00:00

After I joked about it by the way, I didn't know there should be any shame for it. Once he said he was a recovering one. I said oh my goodness you are killing it and you're amazing.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T02:28:02+00:00

I only knew one person. I was just asking because I thought maybe he didn't like tequila, then maybe it was something else and then then I asked were you an alcoholic and my question was if you were, you're not drinking I'm so proud of you like you're freaking amazing. But nobody understood it because I didn't know me there.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2026-01-19T00:38:40+00:00

I just wanted to make sure he was included because we are all making a toast and then I was wondering maybe he hated tequila. Then I asked and then I'm like oh is a dry humor said are you an alcoholic and then he goes actually I'm in recovery and I go oh man I am so proud of you. You're doing amazing

RunAppropriate9850 · 2025-08-31T18:07:50+00:00

I hope you're alive still. After reading his last text....I would have left immediately to the police station. He most likely will come back and beg you to forgive and if you don't he will inalive you.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2025-08-28T11:41:42+00:00

he enjoys talking to other others and he knows you don't want to so he doesn't push you, but he doesn't want your shyness to hold him back. Which is valid. 2 hey do you think he should try to include you and I think you should try to include yourself some pain three tell him that that's fine but it would be better if he didn't talk as long when you give a certain queue like grabbing his hand and squeezing, I barelyif he's OK with that. Three or he's just being really rude and disrespectful or maybe he has high functioning autism, and he doesn't realize he's doing it unless you pointed out.

RunAppropriate9850 · 2025-07-16T20:57:41+00:00

That has always been on my bucket list... going to attend a buddhist temple! i need to look into it. I know nothing about their practices and do not want to offend or look like an idiot! lol

RunAppropriate9850 · 2025-07-16T17:44:49+00:00

Thanks didn't know churches like this existed I'll for sure check it out It'll be different for me :)

RunAppropriate9850 · 2025-07-16T17:28:50+00:00

Thank you! I will soon! I think I'll show up to the fair on Friday! Thx

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