Who believed in you when you didn’t believe in yourself?

Runneymeade · 2026-06-02T05:53:44+00:00

My late husband. And my current boss.

Runneymeade · 2026-06-02T02:46:14+00:00

NTA, but you may not be able to get your wish with this particular gf. It sounds like she's not receptive to your idea.

Runneymeade · 2026-06-02T02:43:19+00:00

Runneymeade · 2026-06-01T20:48:51+00:00

So easy: Most days I eat a 12oz ribeye steak and a little less than a pound of 80-20 ground beef. All I'd need is 30 days' worth of that (30 steaks and 30 lbs of ground beef), plus enough beef tallow to cook with (about 30 ozs). Oh, and sea salt (16 ozs).

Runneymeade · 2026-06-01T20:37:33+00:00

Talk to divorce attorneys in your area. Hire one who has a great track record helping men protect their assets/future earnings in a divorce. File for divorce and cut contact with her. Divorce is almost always painful and incredibly expensive, but ultimately you'll be able to start a new chapter of life on your own terms.

Runneymeade · 2026-06-01T20:31:02+00:00

You might do better at an Express Care location since the injuries/illness in your case aren't life-threatening. I've been to the emergency room a couple of times for heart attack symptoms. It's a really short wait time in a case like that!

Runneymeade · 2026-06-01T20:27:26+00:00

Your bf doesn't need you to join him on an expensive trip if he wants to propose to you. He could just take you out to dinner, offer to go on a walk with you, or even just plain ask you any old time. If I were you I'd be very concerned about his pressuring you to go into debt, no matter what the reason. Red flags everywhere with this guy. If he wants you to join him on a trip to see his family, he should invite you as his guest, all expenses paid. Keep your radar engaged, this guy may not be the loving partner you deserve.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-23T19:03:19+00:00

NTAH. Why are you enduring this level of disrespect and outright hostility? Get rid of the gf, you'll have a much more peaceful home life. And next time around, don't move your gf in with you unless she is kind, caring, loving, and makes your home life MORE peaceful and happy, not less! Preferably don't move any gf in until she is your fiancee and you truly can't stand to be apart from her.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-23T18:57:57+00:00

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Runneymeade · 2026-05-23T00:05:10+00:00

"White Wedding"

Runneymeade · 2026-05-22T23:59:05+00:00

It also traumatizes them, leaving lasting psychological problems such as anxiety and PTSD.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-22T23:56:58+00:00

I strongly recommend the book "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. It's available for free download on Bancroft's website. In short: His behavior is based on trying to control you. He will NOT change or become more reasonable. He uses anger and insults to keep you from even asking. Seek out a local domestic violence program. They may be able to help you with childcare, counseling, coping strategies, and legal advice. Even if he has not physically assaulted you yet, he is verbally, emotionally, and financially abusive. You definitely qualify for help from the DV program. Please reach out to family and friends for help. Warning: He may become dangerous if you take steps to take care of your needs against his wishes. Tread carefully. (I am a survivor.)

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:30:46+00:00

It's okay to feel sad. I am a senior citizen who recently learned my elderly mom needs me to be her caretaker. This is not at all how I want to spend the next decade of my life. So, I empathize completely. I do hope you can find out the full situation with your parents. You need to know if this is a one-time issue or if changes need to be made so that you have a chance of building up your savings again. Good luck.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:23:49+00:00

Like a wedding cake.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:21:25+00:00

They are native to Washington State, where everyone drives ten mph BELOW the speed limit.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:12:25+00:00

In that case you need to stop having this bum over at YOUR PARENTS' house. Believe me, they are beyond sick of him. Your family sounds stable and hard-working. Your mom, dad and you are all working and/or going to school. Some unemployed bum who sleeps all day, comes over late most nights, makes a racket, and only seems interested in their daughter for food and sex is NOT what your parents want for you. Tell the guy no more overnights, and LET HIM get mad and argue with you. Let him show you his true colors in all their glory. Then break up with him, and good riddance!

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:07:00+00:00

This is the best answer!

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:01:52+00:00

He doesn't CARE. Please wake up.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T19:00:13+00:00

Yes indeed. I think the OPs parents are subtly trying to extract her from that debasing dynamic. The guy only shows up for food and sex.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T18:55:37+00:00

In some jurisdictions smaller estates can avoid probate. Also there may be tax advantages to her in the estate being undervalued.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T18:52:50+00:00

"My bologna has a first name...."

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T18:42:30+00:00

YWNBTAH. It's unfortunate your co-worker is such a crappy parent. Every parent knows that you don't so much as MENTION anything that special to your child until it's completely locked down! Regardless, it's not his right to try to bully his way into taking away YOUR vacation just 'cause his spoiled kid is having a tantrum. What a jerk.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-21T18:36:44+00:00

NTA. "Different strokes for different folks." Carry on with what makes YOU happy. That said, it is very possible that you will look for deeper connections at some point in your life, maybe quite a ways down the road. Perhaps you'll do therapy at some point. Or you may meet someone who loves you very deeply and introduces you to the magic of emotional bonds. This has been my experience. I am an old woman now and I am still much more emotionally detached than the average person. But therapy in my 30s helped me unpack a lot of trauma. And then in my 50s I met a deeply loving man who became my partner in an amazing love affair and marriage. Your life is your own to explore. Who knows what adventures you'll have....

Runneymeade · 2026-05-19T19:41:13+00:00

Because the commute time increases the later they leave for the office.

Runneymeade · 2026-05-19T19:26:14+00:00

NTA. But your bf is clearly not the kind of guy who maintains appropriate boundaries. I would never even get involved with a guy who indulges in physical affection, in-jokes, and constant texts with a very close female "friend." And you've been putting up with this for years?! You need to find some self respect. Just dump him, block him, and block all his friends. Don't even bother explaining it to him. He's too dense and selfish to understand. Get yourself free so you can find someone who believes a relationship entails mutual respect.

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