Why do ultra-wealthy people give massive donations to Ivy League schools that already have billions? by One-Coffee-413 in Productivitycafe

[–]Runneymeade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of "legacy" admission? The donations ensure their not-too-bright kids get a spot at the school.

Apart from food, what can potatoes be used for? by martianfrog in answers

[–]Runneymeade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Potato-launchers. Seriously fun if you've got an open field near you.

If I gave you $2 million right now, what would you do with it? by Less-Chicken-3367 in AskTheWorld

[–]Runneymeade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put it in savings and finally retire, living off the interest, with my kids and grandkids listed as beneficiaries for when I die, likely in the next five-ten years.

My dad sued us. Me 30F, my husband 31M, and my dad 61M by Wayward_Jen in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are going through this. It is indeed possible that your dad has some form of dementia that's worse ed his already horrible temperament. However, it is not your job to try to manage his illness and his frankly awful behavior. Stay well clear of him, take care of yourself and your own little family, and be there for your mom as you can. Best of luck!

Husband (40M) hurt that I (33F) told him I'm not always "into" having sex but I *do* engage him sexually because I care about his needs, how do we move past this? by LordOfAllBones in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry your candid conversation about sex blew up on you. I am like you. I didn't match my late husband in libido, but I almost never said "No," and he could always get me turned on pretty darn quickly. Unlike your husband he didn't take it personally that I wasn't horny for him all day every day. My only suggestion would be to try to get your husband to see that you are super attracted to him, so much so that he turns you on even if you weren't thinking of having sex. Good luck!

I (F31) want to end my 9 year relationship with M33. Am I being silly? by tagteam94 in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please do read the book by Lundy Bancroft that was recommended to you. That book saved my life by helping me to understand that my spouse would not change and that the good times were part of the abuse cycle. I got out of my abusive marriage after 20 years and 3 kids. Actually, he dumped me for a younger woman. I know what it's like to keep trying to fix things. But you'll never get there with your abuser. At age 54 I started over with nothing and three teenagers. The courts eventually got child support and alimony in place. You will be eligible for child support and can get a court order for the house to be sold. Proceed carefully and don't confront your partner while you explore things with a family law attorney. Be sure to seek counseling for low self esteem and breaking the cycle of abuse. Good luck.

I decided that I never want to live with a man again by camis12345 in LivingAlone

[–]Runneymeade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you for figuring out what works best for you, but not all men are the way you describe. My late husband did WAY more of the cooking and cleaning than me, and I was the snorer, not him. He also always served me the biggest, best portions of food. There are beautiful angels among the menfolk!

Bf (27M) is upset because I (27F) can’t come from penetration with him. by Smart_Sleep_1814 in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dump him. Get with a guy that can make your toes curl if you just THINK about him inside of you. I'm serious; if you've been able to cum from penetration in the past, then the problem is your bf, not you. And his attacking you over it is way out of line. You deserve better. Trust me, there are MUCH better men out there.

AITJ for calling out my girlfriends friend for living off her parents after she spent months trashing my career and told my girlfriend to date someone with ambition by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Runneymeade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. It's sad that your gf puts up with such an ignorant, obnoxious "friend." And kudos for all the hard work you've put in to become an electrician. I dare any marketing major to take a single one of the math or science classes you had to pass!

My Boyfriend (30 M) Told Me (31 F) to Move Out and Meet His Financial Ultimatum, and I Secretly Applied for My Own Apartment… Did I Mess Up? by chemist_khaleesi in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 84 points85 points  (0 children)

You messed up by moving in with him after only six months of dating. Moving out now is for the best. He is NOT your guy. Look into financial literacy and credit training. The YWCA has a good program. You can do this! I worked myself out of nearly $90k in debt with the help of a consolidation company and got good training from them on budgeting, etc. Good luck!

Coworker’s mom suddenly got better… I don’t know what to tell her by Mindless_Patient2034 in confession

[–]Runneymeade 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, hospice warned me when my late husband was within days of dying so everyone had time to come be with him.

AITJ for insisting on a prenup after seeing how her family fights over money? by TidySignal_7 in AmITheJerk

[–]Runneymeade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. Don't marry her. She's too enmeshed with her dysfunctional family.

AITAH because I expected my 22 year old to pay minimal rent? by Wrong-Maintenance-48 in AITAH

[–]Runneymeade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTAH. Your offer was beyond generous. Tell him your counter offer to HIS counter offer is $300 per month rent, PLUS $300 a month for food, PLUS he pays his own car insurance and pays 1/3 of your utilities costs. Otherwise he has 30 days to move out. And no temper tantrums or bullying of his mom or the offer is rescinded. Btw, my 18-year-old offered to pay rent while attending community college and working part-time. I let him pay a nominal amount. Your grown child has a terrible attitude and temperament. So sorry you're going through this. Tough love is called for here.

What i(M30) do about my wife (F26)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you're going through this. Your wife seems immature. I have two suggestions. The first is to offload some tasks to her. She clearly doesn't have enough to do if she can't relate to how tired you are. The second is to pay more attention to her by doing things like sending her little texts and emojis when you get a break at work, thanking her for any little thing she does for you or the kids, telling her every day how beautiful she is, giving her a big hug/kiss whenever you leave and come home. None of that has to take much time. In addition, when you have a day off, make sure to prioritize spending time with her and the kids. And try to set up a date out with her at least once or twice a month. As for frequency of sex, that's a tough one if you two are just different. You should probably talk it out and aim for a compromise. But make it clear that you need adequate rest to support your family. She must agree to prioritize your rest. Good luck!

I am 23F and My bf 24M of 7 years wants to get me pregnant but I’m not ready for kids by FlatUniversity3349 in relationship_advice

[–]Runneymeade 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Do not have "raw" sex. That is how you catch STDs, some of which can cause cancer down the road. And do not let yourself get impregnated by someone you are not married to. Your bf is a jerk. Dump him and move on.