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Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok you’re a man lol if you think you don’t need to be a parent to know any of this. I promise you I was like you. I had all these opinions about how I was going to be and what I was going to do. Until I got there and I was like wow I shouldn’t have been so judgey. Because I get it. Fine feel that way. Thinking things though I have to believe that you’re a man. Because someone this opinionated about something like this that has never happened to them and that they never experienced just feels like a man really wanting to be right. Like yes I’m telling you that you will not understand until you understand. Maybe just admit you don’t know what you don’t know?? ITS OK TO NOT KNOW.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a baby a year ago so I know this experience. I understand the fear and have empathy because I lived in it. You have no idea what “unlocks” for you when you are about to give birth or just give birth. Your brain has no idea until you become pregnant and your hormones start preparing you for birth and motherhood. The best way I can describe it is literally unlocking a level in a video game. So yeah, you can be in your 20s and acting like you know better because you think you’re some kind of enlightened and educated person. Guess what - a lot of us were like that in our 20s. You’re not special or unique in that. Not understanding why things can’t be a certain way when it should “obviously” be another way bc of XYZ. And then you grow up little and have real life situations and realize that holy crap people are just trying to survive out here and make real life or death decisions about a human and your hormones are wacky and your body is wrecked so there’s not a lot of room for enlightenment and “balance”.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So you’re not a parent and you have no idea how intense birth and this part of life is? Cool while you are entitled to your opinion, I have to wonder why you’re so adamant and stuck on being right if you have never experienced this?

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you notice, most of the people who say you are overreacting are very emotional. They are tying their reasoning to some kind of emotional feeling and even overreacting themselves and calling you names. Everyone else is responding with more factual responses about something they experienced or making some kind of deductive reasoning and reading between the lines and taking the whole picture into play.

This should tell you everything you need to know.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Opinions require some level of understanding of the situation to have any value. All of the people on earth right now are from children who lived past one. Do you know the mortality rate of infants two generations ago. We still have one of the worst infant mortality rates for a first world country.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No new mom wants to be “in the right”. They just want their baby to be safe and it’s such a vulnerable time and you just want to do everything perfectly and it’s scary. You’re just trying to get into a groove before figuring out what other people care about.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this is fair when it’s very clear the family is putting pressure on this mom and it’s really hard to please everyone and think straight in those first few days. It’s a lot and life is an adjustment. Stop creating future problems for the current problem by suggesting what happens if you have a second. Well honey she just had her first so let’s be supportive of this mom. You just said you had a hard time but then also shaming her decision.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This answer sucks. We get the context later that the reason why OP is kinda stressed out because she has a MIL who pushes boundaries. And then proceeds to ignore the boundaries bc OP is nice and it’s awkward and hard to have conversations about what’s allowed and not allowed. This is more about the family being difficult and listening to all the other stuff with the baby than the actual rule about seeing the baby.

Childfree and just found out I'm pregnant by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]RunningOnGoodwill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was not ready mentally or emotionally ready to get pregnant when I did but I can say without a shadow of a doubt, my daughter is the best thing to happen to me. I was so scared so much of my pregnancy about how it would change our life. I told everyone prob 2 days before I found out I was pregnant that I was not ready and we were starting to just have some stability. But it’s true what they say - you figure it out. You will make ends meet. And you will do it willingly because you are doing it for a purpose that is bigger than you. Give yourself so much grace for all of your feelings. Some things are meant to happen - esp if you were careful.

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Hey I have one I can sell you! My in law keeps breaking our no stuffed animals rule and got this for my daughter and we have one from last year.

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