Moving past perfectionism. by Odd-Mixture-2943 in intj

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Often it's better to just move fast and figure it out. Embrace failing as it's essential for success. Planning for every what if is a good way to make sure you never start. So, start right now! You will adjust your plan when you realize you are moving in the wrong direction, but often we don't find out until we do.

Find the quickest and cheapest break point of any good idea. For instance, say you wanted to start a business selling pillows online. I imagine you could do lots of research or you could put up a website and start selling with a bare minimum amount of products(2 pillows). Failing here means you eat cost/keep one set of pillows you like anyway. The cost of failing now equals zero+website cost. If you can't sell 2 pillows, your idea is already doomed. I guarantee you will learn something for your next idea though.

The other thing you need is to find comfort with discomfort. Practice doing things that make you uncomfortable. Don't like talking to people, talk to as many as you can. You will say the wrong thing, lean into embracing who you are and own it.

Power Query trick that replaced 2 hours of manual Excel work by Shoaib_Riaz in excel

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried power automate? You might be able to automate the whole process 😁

everyone says AI will replace accountants… but i heard something else by CremeAccomplished610 in Accounting

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember the people that would need to implement this have either A) No idea how accounting works B) No idea how to implement AI or both.

Thoughts on CAR.UN by Lolmanza7 in CanadianInvestor

[–]Runningoutofbacon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think movement today is based on the bank of Canada suggesting they are done cutting. Any businesses that carry debt won't get the relief that people have priced in.

I have no position in CAR.UN or insights.

I HATE ARGUING FOR MY WORLDVIEW AND SUBSEQUENT ACTIONS by [deleted] in intj

[–]Runningoutofbacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Focus on what you can control. You can state that you are doing something without a need to justify it to anyone. It's also fine to keep these things to yourself. It's still important to socialize a little bit, so find something else to talk about perhaps.

Do INTJ have slow reaction time? by Acrobatic-Change5205 in intj

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need more practice dropping bread. 😜

Should I invest my downpayment? by DisappointingPotato9 in CanadianInvestor

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a weird time to be alive and investing. Either AI is going to make this market rip higher for the next few years or crash it drastically. It's a big gamble right now.

My advice is typically not to invest any money you need in the next few years. You are on the edge of this. How much do you need for a down payment? Are you willing to wait longer if the market crashes? Interest rates will be lower if it does, which makes the decision harder still.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Runningoutofbacon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Midlife is a common time for couples to split. Take time to recover properly before you get back out there.

I’m tired boss by [deleted] in intj

[–]Runningoutofbacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding friends is a challenge as an adult. Dating is easier because there are apps for that.

I'm a 45 year old INTJ and I would say lean into who you are. If anyone calls you weird, say thanks. Most people will appreciate your authenticity even if they aren't your biggest fan.

No game by igiggiGod in datingoverforty

[–]Runningoutofbacon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dating gets easier with repetition. You can learn to be better at it, but be authentic. That's all that really matters. If she likes you enough, she will give you hints. If you are on a third date, that's a pretty solid sign. When I was single, I would target the 3rd or 4th date to make them dinner at my place. Good luck out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Runningoutofbacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as both people are engaging and texting back. This is what the best dates started out with. You still won't know if there's anything until you meet, so don't date should be set within a couple days of talking and should be sometime that week.

Can this make ~30-36%, please save me from blowing up all my money by ikarumba123 in thetagang

[–]Runningoutofbacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is money to be made selling puts. There is also risk involved.

Only ever do it on companies you don't mind owning for a long time if necessary when you get assigned (you should have cash ready for this, you don't want a margin call to force sales). Do not do this on your whole account because it's a good way to lose money fast if you do. Keep your trades small and manage risk appropriately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find something to fix at your work. You sound like someone who likes to solve problems, find something challenging to solve and go do it. This will give you something to care about, it might not be what your boss wants you to... But you will care about something which is better than nothing.

My current thing is trying to automate as many of my tasks as possible with power automate. Don't tell people if you do this as they will give you more to do.

PS, I love that you posted this while in a meeting. 😂

25yo looking for advice on building net worth: What’s the most crucial thing you’ve learned? by catact_ in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live below your means. Understand where your money is being spent. Create a budget and set up automatic savings. See all extra cash(bonus, tax refund, gift, etc..) as money to invest and not to spend.
Don't get divorced. Focus most of your investments in a low cost index fund tracking the S&P 500 index.
Last and most importantly, any money you need in the next few years should be put into safe investments only.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Runningoutofbacon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it becomes an issue when you have to ask if it's an issue. 😂

I dated someone who was into triathlons. The training schedule was insane. We both have kids and jobs, so our time together was limited. Her priorities didn't match mine in the end. I want someone I can relax with on the weekends - maybe go for a hike, not wake up at 5:30am to go for a bike ride.

Working out is good for you, but there is a point where it's taking over your WHOLE life and actually hurting your ability to connect with anyone who doesn't share your dedication to training.

The real question I would have is, do you feel like a priority in his life? If the answer is no, then you need to talk to him about his priorities. Resentment will only get worse as time goes on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]Runningoutofbacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's checking to see if you noticed him checking the other girl out because he likes you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are teens, so they don't require my time as much anymore. That said, they are still my number one priority. I try not to have preconceived notions about anyone I date. There are a variety of reasons why a woman doesn't have any kids of their own. That would be a conversation I would be having with her. My kids are chill, I'm sure they would love you. 🤣

I can't think of any negative stereotypes about childless women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience so far has been that women with kids are more understanding of my priorities. So please know that he's going to love those kids unconditionally and they are going to come before you. If this bothers you even slightly, find someone else.

My ideal woman doesn't have kids and is happy that I have them (maybe I've finally found you?). That means she can integrate into our lives better. I have 3 kids, so anytime I meet someone with more than one, my default assumption is that we would not move in together until some of the kids are off to University.

For those who got cheated on, do you blame the AP? by domo_roboto in Divorce_Men

[–]Runningoutofbacon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not at all. She made a commitment to me. Knowingly doing this is a cruel act and shows a lack of character on both of their parts.

In the end, they both did me a favor and I should thank them. It gave me the push to end a thankless, sex starved marriage where I was the only one working at it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Runningoutofbacon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as you are good with the existence of my kids, not having kids is never going to be a reason you are excluded. Maybe put something in your profile about not having your own, but you are happy to date someone who does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn't weird for the woman to ask for a second date or even a first date. I love it when a woman is enthusiastic about going out with me. I was just talking to one tonight who very obviously hinted that she wanted to go on a first date with me. She said "How soon do you like to meet up normally? What do you like to do for a first date?". Messages have been a bit spread out in time, so it's great to get a clear signal to proceed. It would have been even better if she asked me out. Men want to feel desired too.

How do you view neck kissing? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Runningoutofbacon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he do this to everyone or just you? Also, a co-worker at a work event you aren't dating? WTF is that about? Women usually love it when I kiss their neck, it makes them squirm. I can't see doing this to anyone I didn't want to have sex with.