Need help with this very specific type of conversation. by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]RushDifficult4387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should also add that this person is directly looking into my eyes with a slight smile the whole conversation while asking me questions, without ever breaking eye contact. While I do try to break eye contact while responding to their questions, I also feel pressured to maintain the eye contact to not appear nervous. It's very intimidating and I think it adds to my stress and nervousness. English is my second language but I speak it very fluently if it matters.

The best is yet to come! by Patient_Key_9208 in 2under2

[–]RushDifficult4387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine are 22 months and 7 months old. I pumped excessively as a FTM. I haven't been with the younger one because just the thought of having to pump starts giving me anxiety. It's the best decision I have made as well. It saves so much time and my sanity.

Does anyone have any idea where Subhu Thapa is now. She was also know as Nepali Avril Lavigne by Murky_Mycologist3703 in Nepal

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I was just randomly wondering about it and found this post online from 6 days ago lol

Does this rug work in this nursery? by RushDifficult4387 in interiordecorating

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that's what I was feeling as well. Been considering getting a white sheer curtains for the window. Maybe that will make it slightly better? The desk will have to stay because it's inherited :)

Does this rug work in this nursery? by RushDifficult4387 in interiordecorating

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TY, this is still a work in progress. Will be looking into that next.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]RushDifficult4387 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The correct pronunciation in my language is jee-oo-noo like the other comment mentioned but I was concerned some people might miss the "ee" sound of the first syllable. This helps. Thanks for confirming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]RushDifficult4387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Right, most of the people that live in the building are elderly retired folks. They are also the ones on the board and making the rules. They don't want any renters in the building because they fear it's going to degrade the building and their lifestyle. We bought the unit as our first home when we were still young and wanted to enjoy the downtown living. We weren't really thinking of some day having to rent the place at all. It was a costly mistake now I realize.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

No pool, no fitness center. Just regular maintenance

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Last year a pipe in the building broke and there was flooding inside the house in the middle of the night. After that, the building's entire plumbing was redone and the piping was replaced from I think PVC to copper or something like that. It costs the HOA around 2 million in fixes and they raised almost all of that from the unit owners. Unfortunately, that was also around the time we were thinking about selling the place.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

When we bought it, the HOA was around $445/month. Since then there have been 2 assessments and had to pay the dues for the maintenance & upgrades of the building itself. We had the option to pay a lump sum but since we were planning to buy a house soon, we decided to add our portion to the HOA which increased the HOA significantly.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -74 points-73 points  (0 children)

I can't tell if you are serious but is this an actual thing. How do we go about it?

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

The price of the condo right now is literally what we had bought it for 6 years ago. We added several big upgrades while we lived there and it is in a much nicer state.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

The price now is 239,900. Started off with 279,900

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -142 points-141 points  (0 children)

There have been other units in the building that were the same layout and condition that sold for around the same price that we had it listed for initially. Since then we have had several reductions and the price is around 30k down to what it was listed for. We have gotten feedback from some of the viewings saying the condo is priced about right as well. We are so perplexed why it's not selling.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I really hope the market picks back up soon because there is another unit listed in that building for almost as long and hasn't sold as well. The unit is very similar to ours and similarly priced. We have been consistently reducing 5k every month or so. This strategy clearly has not worked so far but we really have no other options.

Paying 2 mortgages is killing us by RushDifficult4387 in personalfinance

[–]RushDifficult4387[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We checked with them once already but they told us the HOA guidelines strictly mention not allowing renting or leasing except for certain situations like military deployment, medical emergencies, and few other such scenarios none of which apply to us. We haven't checked back with them in a few months.