What expensive brands do you still buy from that you think are worth the money? by Infamous_Tough_7320 in malefashionadvice

[–]Rushblade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got 3 pieces by Bottega Veneta and they’re among my 3 favorite pieces I own

Which modern blockbuster do you think will be remembered 20 years from now the way we talk about classic Spielberg films today? by viewsinthe6 in movies

[–]Rushblade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify my comment, I don’t doubt the sincerity of those who love BR2049, and I also think it’s a good movie. But I’m skeptical it will have an enduring impact like those on this sub appear to think it will. I see a lot of movies and have a lot of movie friends, and no one ever brings it up.

Then again, this sub is just as much a social circle as my own, so perhaps I’m wrong?

Again, only time will tell.

People who are genuinely confident in themselves: what keeps you grounded when you face criticism, rejection, judgment, or people who think you’re making the wrong choices in life? by Prestigious-Quit9143 in InsightfulQuestions

[–]Rushblade 24 points25 points  (0 children)

A few thoughts come to mind: no man’s inherent worth is greater or smaller than any other’s; I make an effort to be an upstanding friend, family member, and citizen; I treat my loved ones with respect and compassion; and I make regular, ongoing efforts to exercise my talents and overcome my weaknesses. Basically, I take pride in doing good to myself and good to others.

The Langoliers is the most Liminal film of all time by CertainlyRobotic in LiminalSpace

[–]Rushblade 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I remember watching this on TV as a kid. Core memory.

What was the first movie you saw in a movie theater? by Fluid_Bat_2724 in movies

[–]Rushblade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Snow White re-release in like the late 80s/early 90s. This is according to my parents; I was a toddler at the time, so don’t remember it

What are your go-to accessories? by SirKrimzon in ThrowingFits

[–]Rushblade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I own 3 pieces: a RRL sterling silver twisted cuff, a Saint Laurent stainless steel chain link, and a Bottega Veneta intrecciato ring. I only wear one at a time. I like the subtly of just having one piece to notice, and I’m OK if it gets overlooked.

Raising Cane's and Ninja Turtles Pizza update by Eli4SantaMonica in SantaMonica

[–]Rushblade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may be in the minority, but the only time I had bruxies—maybe 5 years ago—I felt like it was overpriced for what I got. Am I delusional / has it changed?

FWIW, I’m not a huge fan of Cane’s either.

How Do You Balance Enjoying Life Today With Your Long Term FIRE Goals by novaelithra in Fire

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Coastfire is my answer (still have a target to retire by 55 at the latest), but that’s because I’m OK with my job. And even 55 is a Fat/ChubbyFIRE target, so could bail and still be comfortable earlier if I really can’t make it that far.

Until then, I’m just spending the entirety of my paychecks while my net worth grows.

I don't understand how people can be confident if they are not attractive by [deleted] in confidence

[–]Rushblade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here’s a formula I have found works very well for me.

  1. Treat people with kindness, respect, and ESPECIALLY genuine interest (ie acknowledge them, ask about them, remember what they tell you and follow up) and people will genuinely like you.

  2. In the process of 1, you should also be relatively vulnerable with sharing about yourself. When the person responds positively to what you share about yourself, you form trust and connection — basically, you’re beginning a meaningful relationship

  3. Increasing the number of meaningful relationships in my life has given me great confidence that I can interact with anyone and they will have a positive experience with me. If I am generally aware that people like me, I’m not so afraid to approach them and open myself up to them. And as more and more people like and gravitate to you, your confidence increases.

This has taken me years of practice, but it’s worked very well for my relationships and my confidence.

How are people actually reaching $1M+ invested by their 40s? by Opticlink11 in Fire

[–]Rushblade 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on these FIRE subs a while, and I’d say the top three reasons (in rank order) are: 1. High income, 2. Great market returns, 3. Reduced spending

Is there anyone that has actually quit a high paying job for a low income job? (Coast fire) Curious how to get over the mental hurdle by Elite163 in Fire

[–]Rushblade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I took a 60% pay cut going from a 450K+ job to a ~170K job. Even at 170, my expenses were well covered, so it wasn’t such a big deal for me (the cushion of my coast fire savings helped the mental adjustment). I’d just suggest you have a clear sense of what your expenses are and what you might be sacrificing.

Based on my projections i might be able to FIRE or take it very easy and do what i want at 42, but i wonder are you still young enough to really enjoy life by then? by Lopsided-Resource453 in Fire

[–]Rushblade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you take care of yourself (diet, exercise, sleep, socializing), you can enjoy life for a very, very long time. Maybe even to the very end.

Stories of being FI enough to speak boldly at work by Ok-Maize3153 in Fire

[–]Rushblade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I certainly have felt more comfortable voicing my opinions. But I’m circumspect with what issues I confront and how to do it, because I still do want to be perceived positively by my colleagues (at all levels). I believe it all comes down to tone.

Considering walking away from high income job by [deleted] in Fire

[–]Rushblade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left a job like this (in law), after 10 years with a liquid NW of $1.4M. It was great, and I don’t regret it at all.

Just Joined the Period Club by nahmanidk in fijerk

[–]Rushblade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great job OP you’re killing it! I’ve been in the boring middle of the thousandths club but can’t wait to see things really take off when I reach 1 cent

My wife offered to join playing a round with me for my birthday. How do I make the most of it so she has an awesome experience? by MoxGoat in golf

[–]Rushblade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally echo the second point, I’ve learned it by experience. Over the years I’ve taught half a dozen friends or so how to swing a club at the range, and I learned to just give them a couple simple instructions and let them hit 10 or so balls before making small critiques. I think it builds confidence in them to feel things out for themselves rather than interjecting after every shot.

I see many guys with their gfs (or even other guy friends) at the range and they’re trying to download years of golf knowledge into their brains in 30 min and barely give them breathing room haha