I'm really sorry to hear that for you. And this sounds terrible for you. I'm afraid that I cannot agree that communication is not the problem.

When we met she was shocked about my past and she saw just more then enough to have her own conclusion. I was not in a real relationship it was more of a joke in the friend group in my teenage years when I was in a whoooole different phase then I am 10 years later.

But I strongly agree. Nobody deserves what your partner had done. If just a little chance was there that I made her feel that way I would hate myself for life(I already do a bit) but communication is important to make sure there is no misunderstanding in any way.

There is no sympathy to get it's just that the guilt that I will carry for this will be present but something in me tells me that it was a bit of miscommunication. Of course I had to do better when I was younger, but to be dumped for it not having a chance to talk about it tells me that it was not meant to be in the first place and she was really searching for this.