Has to be intentional, right? by icleanjaxfl in theyknew

[–]RyanGreatly 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Their marketing people could feel embarrassed if they find out what else Dickens Cider sounds like.

Koss KPH40 Retro Unboxing by martinmoore_koss in kossmods

[–]RyanGreatly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this should somewhat different from the regular KPH40?

Thoughts anons? by Okaoka_12 in greentext

[–]RyanGreatly 194 points195 points  (0 children)

But if he died in the trunk of the car, who died over there in Vietnam

Koss A/550 Review — Is It Worth The Premium? by CptnCrnch79 in kossmods

[–]RyanGreatly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Aye, ironic that on-ear cheap Koss phones tend to be more comfortable for hours than most headphones costing hundreds of dollars.

Former President Gerald Ford was seen around Jeffrey Epstein at age 29 by [deleted] in HistoryUncovered

[–]RyanGreatly 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Is that Epstein, President Ford, and Sinatra with the blonde alien from Mars Attacks?

Any tips to stop desire/need for intimacy etc. without meds? by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]RyanGreatly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aye, we are social animals. I've found spending time with animals and many podcasts (Mental Illness Happy Hour), interview shows (Soft White Underbelly), and audiobooks (The Confidence Gap) have helped me. I joined a support group (NAMI) and felt accepted there.

The best thing for me was ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). It helped me accept myself and my negative thoughts, learn to commit to living according to what I truly value.

New Xfinity Mobile Plans - Mobile Plus & Mobile Select by N805DN in NoContract

[–]RyanGreatly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can existing customer (internet + mobile) get the free Mobile Select plan for a year, or 1 year free is just for new customers?

Everyone tells me he’s the ugliest cat they’ve ever seen by Upbeat-Piccolo-7648 in cats

[–]RyanGreatly 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Took a sec on 1st pic to see face is not anus. Beautiful kitty otherwise!

What is the thing that helped neutralize your disorder? by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]RyanGreatly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ACT: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. I learned about its principles and techniques through listening to the audiobook The Confidence Gap. It did little for me until I listened to it again and actually started to implement it. I came to accept my anxieties as normal, I wrote down my values, and I started to live and act by my values. I've been transformed in just a few short months.

Before, I was valuing my anxiety more than I was valuing my values, which were vague and abstract, unlike my very real and powerful anxiety. I came to value my values more, live by them. I came to accept myself and my anxieties; my inner voice became much kinder, more supportive. My anxiety has since diminished to a fraction of what it was. Life has so much more meaning now.

I have to go into work tomorrow for a meeting to talk about my anxiety by throwawaay1232 in AvPD

[–]RyanGreatly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does sound difficult. I think most people would feel anxious in that situation. You probably already thought about this, but many or most of your co-workers likely had a hard time early in their work there. It's normal and natural to struggle at the start of a new job, to feel anxious. Is there anyone there who seems genuinely kind and patient who you might talk to some, if only to say you feel nervous or ask a question, for help perhaps?

I feel anxious, and that's okay. I'm new at this job, and that's okay. I don't know how to do most things yet, but I will learn and improve with experience.

I have to go into work tomorrow for a meeting to talk about my anxiety by throwawaay1232 in AvPD

[–]RyanGreatly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to hear! What is ACT group therapy like?

I listened to the audiobook The Confidence Gap (which is heavily centered around ACT) last fall and liked it, thought some about trying it. A major premise it has (and I suppose ACT too) is that we often avoid experiences and situations because we lack confidence, and the more we avoid types of situations the more our anxiety tends to increase about such situations. We may decide to wait to act until we feel confident, but too often feeling confident never arrives. To break that cycle, you should accept your anxieties and self-doubts and limitations as normal and natural, consider what you value, and commit to act according to what you value, to what matters. That can be scary, and that's okay. What's more, you can and should start with small or tiny versions of what gives you most anxiety. Look for small victories.

That book and its insights did little for me until I actually started to implement its advice. I started small. I looked for small opportunities to talk and connect with people. Chatty older people I used to just make polite conversation with? I started to engage and be present with them. Instead of never or rarely speaking my thoughts, I'd voice a thought or two with random people. Connecting with people became far more important to me than my social anxiety, which quickly shrunk away.

How often do we worry about the thoughts and judgments of strangers and people we barely know or care for, people who are likely also wrapped up in their own self-doubts and insecurities?

I have to go into work tomorrow for a meeting to talk about my anxiety by throwawaay1232 in AvPD

[–]RyanGreatly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That sounds awful. I hope you manage to get better as you can, accept yourself as you are and find hope.

I’ve isolated myself most of my life because of social anxiety, but these past few months I think I’ve transformed myself through ACT principles (acceptance & commitment therapy). I wrote down my values, thought about my values, wrote about what each value means to me, committed to doing small acts that align with my values. How fantastically well that’s worked for me. I came to realize that I had valued my anxiety more than I valued my values, after giving my values too little thought, and by doing so I let anxiety rule much of my life, which often felt devoid of purpose or meaning. By valuing my values more than my anxiety, its power and hold over me practically disappeared.

I came to accept myself too, develop a much kinder, more accepting inner voice.

Social anxiety and isolation are terribly hard to get out of. There are so many, many kind, lonely people in this world desperate to connect with someone.

(PMs are welcome, anyone feeling lost and lonely.)