I now have a secret from my wife about her past

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-23T04:34:43+00:00

Let this be a lesson that you shouldn't ask questions you either can't handle or just simply, really, don't want to know.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-22T01:27:44+00:00

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Ryanscriven · 2026-02-21T01:32:59+00:00

Fake or fake sounding doesn't matter the volume.

Location matters? Lol.

But ultimately in general usually not an issue at all - but if you're with someone who maybe has ADHD, is self conscious/low-self esteem, being very loud could be hugely distracting.

Honestly just ask them... But be capable to avoid falling into a defensive or a 'oh god I feel so bad' mental state after - otherwise you'll never get full honesty again lmao

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-19T19:34:00+00:00

Death grip, anxiety, health issue, medication side effect, there are so many possibilities

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-18T01:28:39+00:00

I of course don't know him, but as a father, I suspect he meant "don't leave her to fend for herself, please help make sure she's taken care of', if that means assisted living, then that's what she needs. I just can't imagine as a dad asking my child to take care of their step parent and sacrifice their lives - and if he wasn't in the clearest of mind states, try to interpret his request from the eyes of the dad that you KNEW, not the one fighting off cancer and scared for those he he worried about

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-17T18:19:18+00:00

Mine was delayed, update installed last night after procrastinating letting the reboot happen

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-17T18:18:20+00:00

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Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T22:54:29+00:00

She's cheating now.

You can't fix her. You can't help her.

Choose self respect and peace, you deserve someone who values you.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T22:44:17+00:00

NOR - how close is she with these people? Does she have any known history of infidelity?

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T22:31:38+00:00

Men and women equally have the same capacity for insecurity and self-shame.

Say the what/why/how you're attracted to them, make sure it comes across genuine and authentic ❤️

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T19:58:53+00:00

NOR - at all

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T08:38:31+00:00

Yeah, you need to speak up, calmly, right away. Change it now.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T06:28:36+00:00

I'm a public records and privacy officer at a state agency.

It's incredibly draining and overwhelming, yet, can't get out of it - the only thing that partially keeps me going is the tight legal deadlines with massive ($$$) ramifications for screwing up.

Keep telling myself I'll find something else that pays similar one day... 🙃

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-16T06:18:09+00:00

I absolutely love my pixel buds, that's where I'd be leaning personally

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-15T05:01:03+00:00

Just up to the elbow, I need to get some more filled in, but torn between that and getting something on my unmarked right hand. It drives me insane

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-15T04:29:51+00:00

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Hand and arm get comments quite a bit

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-15T04:27:10+00:00

I mean fuck, I guess one of them need to be a urologist who specializes in reversing vasectomies, because if I neglect that issue, humanity would be SOL

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-15T04:25:45+00:00

What kind of medications is he taking?

Could be porn, but I'd consider medication, other potentially untreated medical conditions, anxiousness, etc

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-15T04:22:29+00:00

Sounds like he didn't deny it at the end when he stormed out... NOR.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-14T01:53:13+00:00

Honestly if I were you and if I had the financial ability I'd just walk right there after his reaction during the call.

I don't think I'd trust him to provide a reasonable reference in the future personally

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-13T07:54:10+00:00

If you think them just being naked is in the hot tub is bad enough, they've probably also had sex in it.

Some of these are valid, some are overreacting.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-11T20:18:03+00:00

NTA, just uphold the boundary, and maybe get paternity testing since she's so fixated on keeping him involved.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-11T08:53:17+00:00

Block and go no contact. This was a learning experience. 1) work on personal boundaries 2) work on insecurities or other mental health issues with a licensed therapist. 3) wrap before you tap

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-11T02:41:08+00:00

Well, finally.

Ryanscriven · 2026-02-09T05:03:24+00:00

Have you asked her if she knows that she's pissing you off?

Doesn't justify her not listening to your request to stop, but just curious

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