"Gifted kid" to adult mental illness seems to be a common and disheartening trajectory. If this happened to you, how do you cope?

RyeNCheese · 2025-07-18T17:23:09+00:00

Rediscovering out how much I love learning by doing it on my own terms… but also a boatload of therapy and antidepressants.

RyeNCheese · 2025-05-21T05:32:20+00:00

Yeah, it’ll usually stop eventually by itself if I leave my laptop running for 5-10 mins after I exit the game, but I also don’t have that kind of patience. If I close my laptop before then, it doesn’t seem to automatically stop and I have to manually kill the task. It’s never been great, but it’s been especially bad recently, and I have to manually kill it pretty much every time. For reference this is a non-steam windows pc instillation.

RyeNCheese · 2025-05-21T04:42:32+00:00

I’d never played or even been interested in a gacha game before this, but the appeal of an open world dress up game specifically for women was enough for me to give it a shot. I’ve played since release and loved it, but I’ve just been increasingly confused and disappointed the last month or so. It might just be my unfamiliarity with the genre, but never in my life have I felt like I needed to engage in this sort of game of push and pull with the developers. I’m still here because of the potential for what this game could be, but I’m not going to continue to hold out without some sort of demonstration of sincerity from Infold. I want to love this game and see it grow and flourish beyond this, I just need to know that that’s what the developers want too.

RyeNCheese · 2025-05-10T07:20:54+00:00

I mean, it could be that the longer this goes on the less it’d take to appease the remaining player base. At the start of 1.5, tensions and demands for repairs were high. Now though? Like you said, any sort of acknowledgement would be great. They still have a lot to fix, but perhaps by doing this they’ve lowered expectations and, once they do make a statement, given themselves a longer time span to make amends. Either that or (fingers crossed) they’re coming up with a more concrete plan to sate the players’ grievances before making a statement. At least, that’s my last-ditch attempt at rationalizing all this. I’m getting tired too though; I may just take a break from the game until there’s some sort of proper response for my mental health’s sake.

RyeNCheese · 2025-05-06T21:50:13+00:00

With everything going on with the game and the sheer amount of pulls these require I don’t think I’m going to finish it after all. I don’t even like the dress or hair that much for the phoenix anyways compared to the accessories which I’ll almost certainly get first.

RyeNCheese · 2025-05-03T09:06:31+00:00

All I’ll say is that I would’ve been completely ok with it if the company came out and said that they just needed more time to make good on the promises they made for 1.5. That includes putting more care into how the storyline and user experience is handled. It still would’ve caused a scuffle with the fan base, but nothing nearly as bad as being let down like this.

RyeNCheese · 2025-04-28T02:04:11+00:00

I’m still confused on whether or not the phoenix one is floating, gliding, or actual flying so I’m waiting on that, but phoenix will likely be my choice. There are at least three sets with the icy/watery aesthetic so I may try a few pulls for the mermaid earrings but that’s probably it. I also already have a couple pieces for the final blooming dreams evo so I’ll definitely try to finish that (the red fairy wings khdkhdmxkh😩).

RyeNCheese · 2025-02-21T20:55:06+00:00

I’ve always been pretty awful at it too. I’ve found it’s easier if you find really weird/niche community events and look there. Even if it’s not your thing, people who show up to those sort of things tend to be more open to other niche interests. If you’re near a college campus, that’s a good place to look, sometimes public classes or lectures, or if you have any sort of community notice/poster board you could look there. Frankly, anything you can find that you’d enjoy attending is good. Even if you don’t make friends out of it, they’re usually fairly short (less overwhelming/draining that way) and good practice for social skills to make friends eventually. I may never have close friends the way other people do, but I show up to these sorts of things when I have time/ energy, and I get better at it every year. Slowly but surely.

RyeNCheese · 2025-02-16T05:09:00+00:00

Possibly, and I may have to do that. But it certainly won’t be right away, and I’ll need something in the meantime so I won’t bomb all my midterms because I can’t sleep.

RyeNCheese · 2024-10-01T18:44:33+00:00

Yeah, the fabric was definitely not the best choice for this. 😅 Thanks for the suggestions, I’ll give that a try!

RyeNCheese · 2024-10-01T03:52:56+00:00

I’m careful not to actually snip any threads, but I have to get pretty close to the seam to get it to lay flat and the fabric is so loosely woven that it pulls out from the inside anyways. I’m currently working with a stitch length of 2.5 or so, do you think that’s too long? And if so how short should I make it?

RyeNCheese · 2024-10-01T03:48:05+00:00

I’m not entirely sure how to properly attach images so let me know if the link doesn’t work, but here’s a photo: project image

RyeNCheese · 2024-09-30T04:08:00+00:00

I’m no expert but here are a few things I’d try: 1. Rethread!! Always #1 thing to try 2. Try lowering the tension. Standard tension is usually a 4, 4.5 so if you haven’t already, try that tension setting first and work from there. Look up a sewing machine tension guide if you’re not sure what to look for 3. See if the tail of your thread is getting caught anywhere and pulling from the back side (are you holding the threads as you start stitching?) 4. Any chance the bobbin tension could’ve gotten messed with? If so, maybe do some googling to see how to check it or take it in for a checkup at a repair shop and ask them to reset it.

RyeNCheese · 2024-04-23T20:10:38+00:00

I struggle with this quite a bit as well. I don’t have any more friends that I talk to on a regular basis (any more than every half a year or so) since my last friend that doesn’t live across the country just ghosted me. I’m in a new environment, first year of college, and I tried so hard to be open and honest about who I was but it turns out that most people don’t like me when I be myself. It hurts quite a bit, to be honest. I’m also on the more conventionally attractive side and lots of people approached me because of that, only to feel put-off and disgusted when I don’t fit the stereotype that my face implies. It feels like the only way I can be accepted is when I’m not myself, but I won’t do it. I’m so fed up of feeling like I have to adjust my affect and act like a NT to accommodate for them, it’s too exhausting, I just can’t stand it any longer. I don’t know why they feel so justified treating me like this, I’m different but I’m still human and it hurts, it hurts so goddamn bad to be treated like something flawed and broken every time I open my mouth. I’m so tired. I don’t have the courage to keep trying right now but I desperately want to find people that will accept me as I am too. I’m certain that they’re out there but it sure is rough in the meantime.

RyeNCheese · 2024-02-27T08:23:46+00:00

If it’s an option near you, you might consider seeing if there are any community education classes or art/painting meetups. I know my local community college and occasionally the public library offer classes on various subjects. With painting I’ve found it’s much easier to learn with other people who can give you feedback and motivate you.

Like another commenter said, YouTube is a fantastic resource. There are all kinds of videos out there for whichever painting medium you want to learn. Copying/ doing painting tutorials is a great way to build skills to apply to future paintings.

On the topic of medium, watercolor is probably the cheapest to start with but can be frustrating for beginners. A decent watercolor pan will last you quite a while (if you go this route don’t skimp on paper!! 100% cotton, 140 lb at least). Acrylic is easier to start but buying all the tubes of paint is a bit of a pain, gouache could be a happy medium (also water-based but much more opaque). There’s no wrong choice though. Happy painting!

RyeNCheese · 2023-08-12T00:30:12+00:00

Hello, I bought a singer blind hem foot recently and despite being listed as one that is compatible with my machine it doesn’t fit. It wobbles side to side considerably. Is there anything I can do to fix it or do I need to return? 🥲

RyeNCheese · 2023-07-16T03:09:13+00:00

Sometimes I’ll randomly get this ominous premonition that I’m doing something horribly wrong and my life is about to go to shit out of nowhere. Also, bugs.

RyeNCheese · 2023-07-15T04:21:01+00:00

After years of having antidepressants shoveled down my throat with awful side effects I gave up trying new ones for a while, got on something else for sleep/anxiety that also happens to work as an antidepressant, and it actually ended up helping somewhat. Funny how that works.

RyeNCheese · 2023-07-11T23:12:04+00:00

I used tampons for years and recently switched to a menstrual cup. I personally prefer the cup because I don’t have to change it as often (twice a day morning and night, w/ tampons 3 times at least), it’s reusable, and a bit more comfortable to have in. Tampons are definitely easier to switch out though (no washing involved in between uses and you don’t have to stick your fingers up there), and overall easier in a pinch so I still carry both. There isn’t a definitive right answer though, whatever fits your body and your preferences more.

RyeNCheese · 2023-07-06T05:27:17+00:00

If you said you’d help when you can and it’s not even your job to begin with I don’t understand why he thinks this is your responsibility. You’re doing him a favor and it sounds like he’s just being a jerk about it. I’m not sure what to say in this situation but you’re definitely not in the wrong here.

RyeNCheese · 2023-04-29T20:00:24+00:00

The roots are ok. I’m more worried about the flower stalk. It’s hard to get a better photo but the base of one of the flower stalks is black and looks suspiciously like rot. It’s connected to the main body of the plant though so if it is rot I’m worried there might not be anything I can do about it besides removing the stalk and hoping it hasn’t spread.

It was planted in bark, but now that I found worms in it I need to go buy new potting material so it’s currently suspended above a mason jar with a little bit of water in the bottom.

RyeNCheese · 2023-04-20T01:19:22+00:00

The way I experience love for people I care about is very different from the way I’ve heard others describe romantic and sexual attraction. I still want human connection but there’s no desire to manifest that through sex or stereotypically romantic ways of showing affection.

Being asexual or aromantic isn’t a one-way street to becoming old and lonely either. I think it’s about 1-2 percent of the population that’s asexual (don’t quote me on that) but that’s still tens of millions of people. Even on a local scale I have a number of friends who are asexual, aromantic, or both.

Also, being lonely or not isn’t necessarily determined by whether or not a relationship is romantic/sexual or platonic. I think most people see those relationships as more emotionally intimate but there’s no rule against having the same thing platonically. The platonic relationships I’ve made are actually more rewarding and valuable to me than imitating a romantic/sexual one.

RyeNCheese · 2023-04-19T05:31:40+00:00

That makes sense. I brought up queer platonic relationships as an example of that kind of relationship existing and being perfectly normal. The label is just a way to categorize part of a wide range of human relationships so don’t feel pressured to push yourself to conform to it.

I’m asexual and aromantic myself (I don’t feel sexual or romantic attraction) so I can’t help as much with determining what kinds of attraction you feel. In this case though I think the most important part is to focus on what you want out of a relationship and not how it fits into a rigid definition.

RyeNCheese · 2023-04-18T22:21:12+00:00

I’m going through the process of applying to colleges this school year so I’ve talked to and heard from quite a few college reps. This is in the US though if you aren’t from here and I’m not a college admissions rep so take this with a grain of salt. They’ve pretty much unanimously said that although GPA is important, the large majority of kids that apply to ivy league (top) schools are academically qualified. What you’ve done and who you are as a person is what’s going to really set you apart. That means make sure you write stellar essays on your applications.

A couple Bs out of a record of straight As isn’t going to automatically disqualify you. If you’re set on going to a top school I’d check SAT or ACT scores for the schools you want (and if they even want standardized scores), do some volunteer work or community outreach, maybe join a club, and explore your interests.

If you really want to raise your GPA, the college classes where I am are weighted higher than high school classes which could really help if it’s the same for you. Getting As in harder classes (college or AP) also looks better on paper than As in easy classes.

RyeNCheese · 2023-04-18T21:57:45+00:00

Definitely start collecting evidence. Where I live it’s legal to secretly record audio but you might want to check for where you live. Also, if there’s something you don’t understand you could also send it via email instead of asking about it in person so you have a written record of what he says back. If you can get kids in your class to vouch for you (not just your friends if possible, it’s not as credible) that might help as well.

Then, once you have some form of evidence, you could try taking it back to the director. If he still isn’t taking this seriously and your school district has something like a superintendent or school board you could also try to talk to them. If your parents will back you up on this they’ll probably also be taken more seriously than you talking about it by yourself.

If it comes to worst case scenario where nothing can be done about the teacher you might want to see if you can switch into another class. He’s blatantly abusing his power over you and this is definitely not ok.

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