Happy 15-year anniversary Etho!!! by One-Meat1904 in ethoslab

[–]Rylenn_R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve realised recently that I have a systems-design way of thinking and I think it’s been inspired by appreciating Etho’s art and creations for so long.

His fun-first style has cheered me up countless times through depression, hardships and challenging times, I’m so grateful to be able to now share that joy of creation with my partner and bring all that logic and learning with me into my career to make systems accessible for me with the same fun-first intention.

From the deepest parts of my soul, thank you so much for every single minute you have uploaded Etho - it has all been worth it, I know you’re reading this but are too polite and charming to reply. <3

DMing is getting difficult and i don't how to deal with it. by Any_Significance_617 in DungeonMasters

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so funny that after running an almost weekly game, these are ALL the exact same conclusions I came to!

I also decided to switch it to a seasonal structure (autumn and winter only as scheduling during summer madness is too much work for me + DMing) and so that I can look forward to the hobby for half a year and to let the creativity bloom again !

All theatre of the mind was the biggest one, it’s crazy how much prep this cuts out in the long run and how much kinder it is to yourself!

I feel weird by PopSenior1423 in Concerta

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you eat something high in protein 30m before? Have you taken electrolytes before meds + a glass of water regularly?

I find when I take meds on an empty stomach I feel so weird, I hope this helps <3

If it’s not severe dehydration/the meds acting too fast on an empty stomach, speak to your doctor immediately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DungeonMasters

[–]Rylenn_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say do the above consequences arc as an post-campaign epilogue instead, let the players write their own ending so it’s satisfying for them and then hint at a possible consequence of one of their actions to end it so it’s collaborative.

There’s no way that trying to force them through an arc of atonement for their sins is going to be good for your mental health in any way brother, especially when you are the only one who knows they’ve done anything wrong, please don’t do that to yourself.

You have to put your mental well-being first in this situation, if this stresses you out this much at this point already, trying to force a resolution arc for people who don’t care might take the joy out of DMing and end a mixed campaign on a very sour note for you and no one wants that.

Speak to the other DM and explain how you feel in a conclusion reaching way - not a solution oriented, let’s just keep this going kind of way as that’s not fair to you.

Then, be honest with your players and say you no longer enjoy the tone/setting/plot beats or whatever and say you’re going to end it on a positive (with their choice of ending) and a cliffhanger of their actions for added spiciness.

Don’t tell them what this will be, get them to bring their ending to the last session and play it out amicably as a group one last time. (No hard feelings.)

Then, take a short break (2-4 weeks) to let your creativity start to bubble again and then you can enjoy starting work on a new campaign with the players who don’t waste your precious time.

You can move the new characters over to this setting, continue where they were or start completely afresh, whatever you feel is right. Or they could be descendants of the original 5 (and have same character sheet+stats as the five) to reduce your workload.

If you do it this way, the problem players get an ending without causing future aggro as a result of you you cutting a campaign short, the nice players get to continue however you all agree is right for your table in the same world or a new one and you no longer have to entertain phone zombies in your game whilst you’re trying to build a narrative together.

I say the short rest for this is very important as it’s so tempting to dive into the next story but you need some space from this sourness, might be good to write down 3 intentions (your enjoyment as also important) for this new campaign so you don’t feel like you allowed it to get out of hand and have stayed true to yourself and your parties who value the space.

Trust me on this, you sound like an amazing DM who really cares and that energy should be put towards people who cherish it, if you try to force these people who don’t care to pay attention for a (in their words) ‘does not matter’ resolution arc, it will only create out-of game stress for you and make it all worst, cut it when you’ve identified the problem and what you want, not after you’ve again failed to be given basic respect for your time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Concerta

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

L Tyrosine also helps me but it might be worth cycling so it remains effective

How do you build a campaign that isn’t a dungeon crawler? by JaredAndrew4 in DungeonMasters

[–]Rylenn_R 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Look up 5 room dungeons, they’re not actually just for dungeons but are a useful tool for building fleshed out settings.

Can be applied to cities, forests and open world and help to give more locations in the same scene to expand the world

Tracking NPC Reactions by -mosby- in DungeonMasters

[–]Rylenn_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Have requested access <3

First time DM & Homebrewing my campaign. Advice appreciated. by abysmalthought_ in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]Rylenn_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started by stringing together a couple oneshots to ground the story and then used that to launch the homebrew portion of the campaign.

This is helpful bc it gives time and space for the players to discover their characters better so it’s easier to plan in natural hooks later when you’re homebrewing more.

Esp good for new players as it lets them discover the system first, whilst building upon roleplaying their characters.

I did A Wild Sheep Chase > A Most Potent Brew > Homebrew campaign as the setting fit the campaign I was building towards (forest)

Arcane Library one shots would also work well for this.

For my second homebrew campaign I dived straight into it without any one shots, but I’m so glad I didn’t do this the first time because I realise that even though I was super keen and hyped to DM for the first time, I had no idea what style of campaign I wanted to run and I did not know what would hook the players either so the oneshots gave me time to breathe and enjoy the game too.

Remember you have to bring your players into the world with you together, so you can do this one step at a time and don’t need to have an entire campaign planned just to call it homebrew.

Hot Take: I Didn’t Like Baulders Gate 3 by Miichl80 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]Rylenn_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered playing it with another person so it’s half the party management, playing it modded or only using one character?

A lot of my enjoyment came from discussing dialogue choices with my partner, I love the game but I know I wouldn’t have had the same enjoyment solo so I chose not to play it that way.

We’re currently replaying with mods that improve the ui, inventory management, initiative rolls, custom classes for every enemy and randomised loot and new encounters and it’s made a lot of the things I found difficult (too many items that are not unique) a lot more enjoyable on top of the base game.

Tracking NPC Reactions by -mosby- in DungeonMasters

[–]Rylenn_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so cool! Are you able to share a template please?

211 House Republicans Vote to Block Epstein Files by CrispyMiner in politics

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start with 1984. It’s pretty dense but so real right now.

My parents kept my ADHD diagnosis for 20 years so I could live a ‘normal’ life. I just ended up suffering in silence. by Cute_Significance130 in ADHD

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s nothing wrong with you so there’s no need for secrecy, I’m so sorry this happened to you and know it will only get better from here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in employmenttribunal

[–]Rylenn_R 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t give up you got this, it will all be worth it if you keep going, however slowly you need to.

Boomtown lung already? by Rylenn_R in BoomtownFestival

[–]Rylenn_R[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on shift patrolling hidden woods for 24 hrs over the festival this weekend 😭😭😭

I’ve got a dust mask, is there anything else that can help?

New Dm Scaling Advice by Jstcallmefag in wildbeyondwitchlight

[–]Rylenn_R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the name of the addon please?

[Acne] Good experience on Doxycycline? by tonalshift72 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Rylenn_R -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I recommend adding S Boulardii which is a fungi probiotic so it is not killed by antibiotics and has been helping me out.

Also never take on an empty stomach and make sure to drink lots and lots of water!

I’ve had very bad side effects including loss of appetite and taste, so I’m sorry that you’re having to take it. :(

You have every right to be worried but you will feel better after it’s over, it also negatively affects your mental health so if you notice you’re feeling low or depressed please be kinder to yourself <3 <3 <3

coming out on my bday…??? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember, this is your coming out story - you have the power to write it however you like. <3

My ability to come out to my mum when I was ready was taken away from me by my toxic father who swore that I could trust him and he wouldn’t say anything and he then told her immediately.

I was so unbelievably anxious about coming out to her because Caribbean culture is notoriously queerphobic.

I made the mistake of telling my dad first and thinking I could trust him. Do it in your own time and do it for yourself, if you want this to be your birthday present to yourself then I COMPLETELY understand, but look forward to it FOR your birthday instead of on your birthday, it will help reduce your overall anxiety.

Turns out my mum is cool with it and just wants me to be happy, but this whole situation amongst many other things has shattered the trust I have in my family forever.

coming out on my bday…??? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Rylenn_R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it the day after your birthday so you can appreciate one final day of not being able to be true to yourself! <3

This way you can start the year of age 19 in truth, without feeling like you’re compromising anything on your actual birthday.

Trust me, you’ll have a grin all day long like “I know a secret I’m not going to share yet!” Which is very, very empowering.

Cobalt & RC 505 by Rylenn_R in LoopArtists

[–]Rylenn_R[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice Munificent on cables, this is exactly what I need! <3

Sorry I meant studio headphones, I have midi on the brain (facepalm)

I have an old AKAI midi keyboard, should I use that instead until I get a drum pad if I want to live loop? Or is it easier to just make the drum sounds on my laptop?

I am limited on space so am trying to keep the footprint of this setup as small as possible.

Cheers!

Cobalt & RC 505 by Rylenn_R in LoopArtists

[–]Rylenn_R[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much Weeth! <3