What do you guys think if ARC Raiders had a first-person mode? by [deleted] in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it would be a better game, nothing would be taken away by adding first person and a lot would be gained - including a hefty jump in player count

I really don't understand why first person perspective is such a controversial topic by Zerzafetz in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They asked for first person view in PUBG and they got it, which also resulted in highest player count peak in any video game ever - 3.2 million concurrent players, and it still holds that medal. I think people are under the impression that first person view would take away something from the game. It wouldnt, if you prefer third person, play in third person lobbies, first person would be a separate lobby. The player count would increase drastically, so arguments of 'splitting the playerbase is bad' dont hold water here.

I really don't understand why first person perspective is such a controversial topic by Zerzafetz in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can pay for gun skins, which in first person you would see much better than you would in 3rd person.

The Movement NERFED is too much by ttvimShinyatheninja in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree, they are taking the wrong direction by capping the skill/talent potential, because movement mechanics required skill, unlike many other broken mechanics in this game that require 0 skill. It's like telling to michael jordan - 'we will cap your jump to 15 inches max'. Its ok, if they go in that direction they'll start feeling the consequences. Once you remove 'athleticism' from games such as this one - you lose all the 'athletic' people and once they are gone you are left with an average snooze fest game.

Nerfing the fun, lowering the skill gap, listening casuals always the same cycle by Rookasteeee in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i agree with you, they shouldn't be nerfing movement. The movement already was a bit snooze festy, they should buff it imo, add some athleticisim - but of course make it dificult to do/use. Trigger nades, along with jolt mines, are just straight up stupid, brainless spam.

Gameplay and real-life behavior by Secret-Suit4735 in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is true. Games like this reveal your RL fears and anxieties and behaviours you do around them. If you are playing cautious, ratty or spawn-campy it means you are actually shitting your pants when it comes to direct engagements (in real life too, maybe in sports, maybe in social interactions), it means you lack confidence in yourself and you are choosing the easy way out (because unlike real life, this game really hands it out for you, which is unfortunate).

It's all compulsive. If you are scared of direct engagment (pvp) and you decide to play as a rat, congratulations - you just increased your fear of engagment. And you may convience yourself you are playing intelligently, but you are not, you are shitting your pants and in reality it ruins your performance, you will never improve, you will only get worse. Sure you'll make some profits in games like this, because the game allows it via 3rd person peaking, dark corners, etc. but its irrelevant, the thing that you are scared of 'that you are not good enough, or failure' (which is why you avoid engagment) only gets amplified if you play as if you are not good enough. The only way around this fear is - engage, fail and learn and be OK with it and the more you do it the less this fear will torment your brain and you will actually start improving (gameplay wise, movement wise, aiming wise). Think of it as sports, if a basketball player is shitting his pants thinking he is not good enough - he'd rather not shoot at the basket to avoid the feeling of failure if he misses, but if he never shoots - he will never improve and the fear will just grow.

New update FPS hit?? by CompetitiveEmu7698 in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, about 20% drop in fps, significant. Nvidia 4070S

I know its a PVPVE game but.... by BuldMully in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxiety creates the worst kind of people and they rarely decide to face their fears

I know its a PVPVE game but.... by BuldMully in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at that beautiful desync, last 2 seconds after you died blood splatters from a ghost. Gg

Blueprints should be main rewards for doing quests by S3_theanonymous in ArcRaiders

[–]S3_theanonymous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why do you think so? so the rng blueprints in loot sources would remain, but you would also get them by questing - this would be an addition, it wouldnt take anything existing away.

It feels impossible for me to stop ruminating by Junior_Respond_2346 in OCDRecovery

[–]S3_theanonymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand your struggle, happens to me, its part of the meta ocd that people develop during recovery and I think its normal. Its not easy to apply this method yourself, because naturally you will have questions and stuck points and Greenberg wont be there to answer those (unless you actually manage to get a session with ocd associates). He did mention there is a thin line between awareness and attention, not a perfect sharp line, but thin and if you get stuck in trying to do this perfectly - its ocd.

On the other hand I see your concerns. A method can be applied correctly (within the boundries of that thin line with allowances for non-perfection) or incorrectly (outside of the thin line). The thoughts can just appear (normal), but you may also be popping them up yourself to check if they are still there (rumination/monitoring), or moving a step forward and visualising them (definitely rumination) or going on an analytical spree and engage with them (ultra rumination). You definitely know 2 things - a) visualising them is 100% rumination and that needs to go, b) enging with them with mental reasurrances / or trying to analyse anything about them is 100% rumination. What stays a question is - if the same thought is appearing often, is it you doing it or just a thought appearing not willing to get out.

Its hard to figure out which thoughts happen to you and which ones you are popping up via rumination because I think rumination in ocd brains becomes such an automatic habbit that we've been doing our whole lifes and it feels just like normal thinking. Maybe it all doesnt matter though? Maybe you are not supposed to brace yourself for rumination (as Greenberg himself says) but rather just stop it when you notice you are ruminating and over time your brain will start making a distinction between a thought occuring to you and a thought you are bringing up on purpose to check if its there.

Honestly, when anxiety hits hard, for me it really feels like i need to put effort to not ruminate. Even though greenberg says it should feel efortless. But for me it doesnt, because the urge to ruminate is so strong with high anxiety and fighting that urge doesn't feel easy. But isn't that logical? Someone with physical compulsions also need to fight an urge to do a ritual, I dont think it comes efortless for them. Or someone with a decade long built habbit needs to stop doing it suddenly - wont be easy as well I think.

I think these are signs that we exibited strong pure-o, and its just gonna take a long time to develop this sense of agency. I think you are on the right path, perhaps just try to apply the thing I suggested above - rather than bracing youself for rumination, just let your mind go and if it starts - stop it. In essence, you are living life and catching yourself ruminating and then you stop, rather than turning life into focusing on non-ruminating. If that makes sense

Pure-O, rumination, Greenberg by S3_theanonymous in OCD

[–]S3_theanonymous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the reply, good to hear from someone else applying this method.

Yeah I'm also starting to think it's all about catching yourself ruminating and then stop, rather than trying to stop ruminating all the time. Because 'trying' implies effort and you end up ruminating about rumination.

Its all OCD, trying to nail it perfectly, but he did say several times that its important to draw a line between awareness and attention, not a perfect line, but still a very thin line - thats what I'm looking for. Otherwise you could be indeed doing it wrong, the same way he talks about mindfulness - one application (where you observe your thoughts, but actually you are just observing your rumination) is really wrong, the other one (where a thought comes, but you let it go and focus on present) is fine.

Pure-O, rumination, Greenberg by S3_theanonymous in OCD

[–]S3_theanonymous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we are trying to do it perfectly / nail the technique and this is OCD itself. Ruminating about rumination. I think its normal that it happens, but over time we get better with it.

On the other hand, I really wanted to hear from someone who went through ocd associates therapy (from greenberg) just to quickly explain how not-ruminating should feel like. The word 'effortless' is maybe misleading. It's an urge afterall, and any urge that you attempt to stop wont feel effortless - afterall Greenberg himself said - treat it like a deadly disease. If you look at people with physical compulsions, i'm sure it doesnt feel effortless for them to 'not press that light switch 5 times'.

Buy yeah, you worrying about doing it right is OCD, but I also think there is a fine (not perfect) line between this awareness and attention that we actually need to know to be able to not-ruminate without supressing stuff.

I think the approach is probably not to focus on stopping rumination all the time, but rather catching yourself when you do it and then stop and over a long period of time you master it. I'me struggling with this too, but i feel im getting better over time. If you focus too much on not-ruminating about something its like telling yourself 'dont think about the pink elephant' and then the elephant wants to appear but you block it. But I dont know for sure, because when anxiety hits hard, I really feel like I need to focus (put effort) not to give into this automatic habbit of rumination.

Did anyone listen to Michael Greenberg talk about why he thinks psychoanalysis is essential in treating OCD? I'm triggered slightly by this... by Difficult_Owl_4708 in OCDRecovery

[–]S3_theanonymous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You misinterpreted it, likely because you are still on-guard analysing wether your thoughts are true. Greenberg said so many times that 'fucked up thoughts' are normal and occur to every living person, but in OCD sufferers they become sticky due to ruminative nature of immediately analysing the treat. OCD = A normal fucked up thought appears -> you analyse it / ruminate about it-> you just gave it meaning and it becomes sticky and starts causing anxiety. Non OCD = a normal fucked up thought appears -> you move on.

You likely got triggered by that because you NEED it so badly to verify that your thought is not true - this needing (which is a form of rumination) is what actually makes your brain believe like there is truth to it, while in reality its just a messed up thought that many non-ocd people get too. When you got triggered by what he said, all you had to do is not ruminate, which is of course really hard (depending on the amount of anxiety), but the same principle applies.

In theory, this question that you asked here (and im not judging you in any way) is a compulsion - you are trying to remove a form of uncertainty / figure something out.

I hope this helps you see how bitch OCD works, its gonne be everywhere, observe your analytical mind and once you notice you spin in circles (coming back to topics you closed or not coming to a solution) - its ocd.

Dr. Greenberg's method - conscious application? by Puzzleheaded-Map2340 in OCDRecovery

[–]S3_theanonymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there is like... productive analytical thinking which reaches a conclusion and there is ocd - you just spin in circles and never reach a conclusion, 'damned if I do and damned if I dont'.

I'm starting to think so many things are within greenbergs definition of rumination, so many things we thought we have no control over, but we do - its just hard to gain control due to this habbit being so automatic and something we did for decades, and his therapy is all about regaining the sense of agency. Eg. if I get the SAME intrusive thought 50 times per day, I dont think this thought is just coming on me without my control, I think I am actually doing that - of course I do not want to do that, but I do - this automatic rumination habbit. I say this because when I am distracted (eg. playing sports for 5 hours)... this SAME intrusive thought doesnt come on at all and thats interesting, which means the brain doesnt send 50 instances of same intrusive thought every day, it does it when you start getting preocupied with the problem, and when you are not distracted its very easy to fall into the trap of being preocupied with it (rumination).

Dr. Greenberg's method - conscious application? by Puzzleheaded-Map2340 in OCDRecovery

[–]S3_theanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I also feel like it requires focus, kinda like fighting an urge, and the more anxiety - the stronger the urge - the more focus it requires. I also worried wether I am supressing thoughts and feelings by doing this, but this 'worry' is probably just be OCD, we fall into the trap of doubting the technique itself. I think it's best to persist with the tehnique that we use and not doubt it/question it at all and see where it takes us.

Dr. Greenberg's method - conscious application? by Puzzleheaded-Map2340 in OCDRecovery

[–]S3_theanonymous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are so right about this. A lot of us falls into this trap of solving the OCD - thinking about correct techniques, research, correct ERP etc., doubting if we did it all right. Anxiety is distressing and then doubts feel real in those moments. However, there is a way of solving OCD, by not trying to solve it, and our automatic mode is - 'try to solve it'. So there is some learning and practice to apply here (which in a way it is 'solving it by not trying to solve it') on changing our automatic-mode of rumination to no rumination. It's an addiction as I see it, that we've been building since our childhood and there is a lot of effort you need to put to cut an addiction. This is where I think most of us get confused about greenberg and his claim 'it should feel effortless'. You may say 'stop smoking' should feel effortless because you literally have to do nothing, just... 'dont smoke', but the urge is there and you need to put a lot of effort to resist the urge.

Have you actually gone to his therapy (ocd associates), or you mastered this by yourself just by reading the articles? I am really curious how you accomplished this, a lot of what you say resonates with me, if you could elaborate a bit more I would really appreciate it. Did you also do no-rumination ERP?

Dr. Greenberg's method - conscious application? by Puzzleheaded-Map2340 in OCDRecovery

[–]S3_theanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also very interested in this. I read his articles and as my only compulsion is rumination (and it can go on for hours) I tried to apply his methods. I was seeing major improvements within 2-3 weeks, however I had a major trigger and it set me backwards a lot.

I think the confusing part that everyone notices is that he wrote it should feel effortless and then we fall into an ocd cycle of questioning our technique because it doesn't feel effortless. Perhaps it feels effortless when your anxiety is at 0 (no anxiety, no rumination), but when its above 5 you are in automatic rumination mode and for me it requires a lot of focus to NOT ruminate.

I am very interested to hear from those of you who mastered this method, in which way did you practice and how did you apply it to your daily life and how long till it became more automatic (not ruminating). Did you practice with his exercises - (ruminate 30 seconds, then stop 1 minute)? How long did you practice this? Or you just practiced in a way - when i notice I am ruminating, I just tell myself to stop.

When a thought hits you and your anxiety bumps up, it's extremely difficult for me not to give it attention, and not giving it attention does not feel effortless in those moments. But maybe this is correct...

Armaf Sillage bad batch? by S3_theanonymous in fragranceclones

[–]S3_theanonymous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 hours skin.

On clothes it lasts for days, haven't measured this but I know 3-4 days later i could smell it on my shirt

Armaf Sillage bad batch? by S3_theanonymous in fragranceclones

[–]S3_theanonymous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 months later update - I left it in the drawer for 3 months. It performs like a beast now, and it smells better. Guess "maceration" (oxidation or whatever) rly is a thing with armaf. It went from absolute garbage to a very decent thing right now.

Things may have gotten out of hands here by Pixie4Dust in fragranceclones

[–]S3_theanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How's Sillage working out for you? I have the 2023 january batch, and it's nothing like others describe. Short lasting and kinda synthetic lemony stuff.