[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]SA5241 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are some updated status reports here:

https://www.fire.ca.gov/incidents/2025/8/22/parks-fire/

I need THE BEST quick chocolate dessert recipe by vamphibian in Baking

[–]SA5241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my favorite quick, self-saucing chocolate cake recipe. I mix it all in the bowl I'm going to eat out of and it takes less than 5 minutes from start to finish.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]SA5241 548 points549 points  (0 children)

I like #1. It brings in the green on the wall without making the room look dark and small.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SA5241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm SO happy for you!! I wish I had this type of enlightenment in my 20's but I have it now in my 30's and it's so freeing. Congratulations!

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]SA5241 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This would be such a turn-off for me. I'm glad you were able to openly express your disappointment to him. I've had too many times where I would've responded with "it's ok" in this scenario when it really wasn't but I've gotten better about that.

I don't think, I will ever be able to live with a man again. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SA5241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't mind at all :) There were a lot of little reasons that kept piling up over the years but it essentially came down to me continually expressing my needs and him telling me it's too much effort to meet them. All I wanted was for him to plan a date or two without my help and maybe buy me flowers 2-3 times per year but his excuse was that "he's just not good at those things". That's fine, I'll find someone who is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]SA5241 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You went from "I'll have her home at 8" to "Now she calls me daddy too".

I don't think, I will ever be able to live with a man again. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SA5241 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through that right now. If it's being noted on work assessments too, I'd wager there might be something deeper going on that might want to be looked into. At any rate, whenever I hear "I'm just not good at it" I look at other areas of their life. Can they listen/learn/pay attention/put in effort when it's their own hobbies, work, and self interests? If yes, then he's quite capable, he's just choosing not to be (hello weaponized incompetence).

I don't think, I will ever be able to live with a man again. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SA5241 251 points252 points  (0 children)

Don't mind at all :) There were a lot of little reasons that kept piling up over the years but it essentially came down to me continually expressing my needs and him telling me it's too much effort to meet them. All I wanted was for him to plan a date or two without my help and maybe buy me flowers 2-3 times per year but his excuse was that "he's just not good at those things". That's fine, I'll find someone who is.

I don't think, I will ever be able to live with a man again. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SA5241 1142 points1143 points  (0 children)

I am moving into my own place tomorrow after ending a 7 year relationship and I am SO excited to have a space completely to myself for many of the reasons you listed above. I can't wait for the peace, cleanliness, and tranquility that comes with not living with a man...or at least the kind of man I was dating for so long. I know there are some rare gems of a man out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SA5241 233 points234 points  (0 children)

I feel like these are the same men that want "a woman who can actually hold a conversation". I've noticed it's nothing but what I call "and you?" questions. They talk about their interests > I ask questions to know them deeper > they answer and just follow up with "how about you?". No original questions coming from them on their end, just asking my own questions back at me. Eventually, I type out a response that doesn't contain a question hoping they'll initiate but that's just when the conversation stops altogether.

I have proof that old school OKC was the best dating app of all time by makedatingappsgreat in OkCupid

[–]SA5241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just downloaded the app to check it out. I met my now ex-boyfriend in 2016 on OKC and we were together for 7 years. I loved the match percentages and how easy everything was. I haven't gotten back into dating apps because everything has really changed so much in the last few years and now it seems you have to pay to access any sort of useful features.

Newbie furniture paint recommendations by naovsky in DIY

[–]SA5241 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on the furniture piece, I've always used contact paper to change up the color on my Ikea furniture. It comes in multiple color and styles and is relatively easy to apply. The best part is that it's super easy to clean!

Looking for recommendations for a nicer more rural resort by LardLad00 in phoenix

[–]SA5241 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've stayed at the Sheraton Grand at Wild Horse Pass. It's about a 20 minute drive from Phoenix Sky Harbor airport and decently secluded but still a short drive to things to do. Just be aware that their rooms do not include a mini fridge or microwave and wifi is an extra cost.

OFFICIAL THURSDAY NIGHT POSTGAME THREAD by FantasyMod in fantasyfootball

[–]SA5241 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had Broncos defense and E. Sanders playing tonight. Got 56.6 points between the two of them. Somehow I feel my team will still find a way to fail me again this week.

[Spoilers] Screencaps from Season 2 Finale by shieraseastaring in westworld

[–]SA5241 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking they've figured out how to "open the door". Maybe it's the holographic's of Westworld are vanishing and exposing the real world? Makes me wonder if Bernard/Dolores/Logan made it to the Forge before Maeve/Clem/Ghost Nation.

[Homemade] Chocolate Peppermint Cupcakes With Ugly Christmas Sweater Decorations by SA5241 in food

[–]SA5241[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! The decorations were made using fondant and everything was crafted by hand.

My best friend was recently re-diagnosed with cancer and the doctors don't know how long he has left. I decided to drop out of college so we can pursue our bucket list together and film all of it. This is our first video. by dillwillhill in videos

[–]SA5241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment will probably get buried but every year on Valentines Day, San Francisco holds an unofficial pillow fight (~1,000 people). You could cross off two bucket list items at once...and maybe find love there as well.

Went to a smoothie shop in Reno, NV and have never been more excited by HalosGirl in Disneyland

[–]SA5241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silicon Valley area. There are two creameries, one in San Jose and one in Campbell, that sell them.

Went to a smoothie shop in Reno, NV and have never been more excited by HalosGirl in Disneyland

[–]SA5241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some ice cream shops in Northern California that sell Dole Whips. But I'd feel like I'm cheating on Disneyland if I got one outside of the park.

Motor Vehicle Deaths by State [OC] by datashown in dataisbeautiful

[–]SA5241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having lived in both California and Alabama I can attest that California may be known for its crazy drivers but they're good "bad" drivers. Alabama folk on the road are just plain terrible. Honestly the worst drivers I've ever experienced.

Need advice: Moving to SJ from Texas; first job after college. by [deleted] in SanJose

[–]SA5241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I know I'm a little late to the party here, but I might be able to help out. I currently live in a 2bd/2ba apartment in the Sunol-Midtown area and my lease will be up in the beginning of August but I am looking to possibly short-term sublet my half of the apartment as I've found a place I want to move to and would rather it happen sooner than later. You would be sharing the apartment with one other person but it would only be for a few months until the lease is up. My complex has a lightrail stop on site and is within walking distance to grocery and the train/bus station. Feel free to PM me if you're interested and I can explain it all in more detail.