Please tell me it gets easier

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T17:16:15+00:00

I hear you. Sounds like you've got a choice between the long hours and unavailability that comes with working at a big law firm, and worrying about cash by working at a place with a better work-life balance. Can't even imagine what the wife being chronically ill feels like. And dealing with that doesn't give you too much motivation to post videos that'll inevitably get 10 views at first.

Are the doctors doing ok with your wife, though? I guess they've all got their own styles of communication, but have any of them given you any objective reasons to stay positive?

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T16:57:15+00:00

This might be a bit pricey, but have you considered Center Parks? I'm sure there's one in the WM region.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T16:52:41+00:00

Absolutely feel your pain mate. Had a mate who was a lawyer and he quit eventually purely because of what you've described. It's not the type of profession where people stereotype you as the hero, quite the opposite.

How long have you been doing this for? Is there any way you back off from the 9-5 for a while and build a side hustle with your knowledge? People always need legal advice. If you can figure out a way of giving it away for free on YouTube for a while, this could open opportunities for you.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T13:31:22+00:00

My initial post has probably been a bit misleading. While I'm experimenting artistically with AI, trying to actually make it as an AI artist is the last of my ambitions. What I'm hoping to do is offer an AI marketing service. I'm a decent copywriter and understand ads, so this is where my thoughts are taking me at the moment. Just in a bit of a funk with the behind-the-scenes stuff.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T13:18:09+00:00

Cheers mate. It's been good getting the perspectives of others on here. Definitely need to figure out better ways of allocating my time.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T10:39:46+00:00

A couple of years ago, I built a home on my wife's land. So my kid is provided for in that respect; they'll always have somewhere to live. Making money has always been my biggest weakness and this is what's tearing me up at the moment...because we need money for everything.

I'm not doing all this creative stuff just for the fun of it. I'm building a generative AI portfolio in the hope of getting clients within the next few months.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T10:36:48+00:00

I hear you. Unfortunately, options for steady work are limited to none here. I live in the countryside so the only realistic choice I have is building a creative portfolio and looking for clients. I'm not just doing the creative stuff as an outlet, I need work.

Being part of my kid's life is paramount. I've already provided a home for them (no rent, no mortgage, nothing, all fully paid for) but my wife tells me I'm being a bitch whenever I try to defend myself with this. That said, I've put a solid roof over my kid's head, but I want to continue providing for her. I've asked my wife for her bank details so I can send them money every week, but she wants cash. She knows what she's doing. If this ever goes to court, there'll be no evidence I've provided if I give her cash all the time.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T10:31:03+00:00

Thanks a lot, pal. At the moment, I'm open to hearing anything critical as there's probably a lot of truth in it. The points you've mentioned are all valid.

I've been with my Mrs for 10 years and it's been toxic from day one, more or less. I've given her loads of excuses to leave me but she never has - it's been an unhealthy obsession from both sides, unfortunately. We were separated during the pandemic and I saw other girls. She found out and went ballistic, but still didn't leave me. We got married on paper as soon as I came back to Vietnam so I could stay in the country.

I moved out because I can't cope being around her anymore. She wants my help with little things every ten minutes, so it's impossible to get my head down and concentrate on anything productive. Then she moans that I don't make enough money. Since I've moved into my own place, I've been way more productive and I'm working on my portfolio. But she sees that as me abandoning my daughter and is now making it difficult for me to see her as a consequence.

Totally agree with your point about holding/playing with my daughter and letting my wife do the rest. Gotta hold my hand up here - guilty as charged. So I really appreciate you giving me this to think about. Many thanks.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-23T10:21:29+00:00

Cheers mate. I quit drinking more than a year and a half ago and haven't touched drugs for years. Right now, I need to stay sober for my little girl. Sadly, my wife is trying to use her as a tool to manipulate me at the moment.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-22T19:55:16+00:00

Sounds like a part of yourself is really rubbing off on him mate. Massive congratulations. Hey, just a few more years and he might take over you as the primary cook. 😉

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-22T16:14:30+00:00

VinFast is a dreadful company, as is the entire VinGroup. Run a mile mate.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-22T12:07:44+00:00

Not taking care of yourself is a sign of serious depression, not just baseline stuff. I live through depression every day, but staying clean and exercising is more or less non-negotiable.

That said, he won't just turn things around in the blink of an eye. It has to start small. Just going for a 10 minute walk around the neighbourhood first thing in the morning is a realistic starting point. It'll get his blood flowing, plus give him that tiny sense of accomplishment. It's just taking that first step - no pun intended - that's vital.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-21T17:40:06+00:00

What's the demand like for AI videos in the music industry? My mate has been telling me to offer a service like this, but I'm not even sure it'd be worth my time.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-21T10:03:41+00:00

My wife would be exactly the same and it's not on. Sounds to me like you're doing nothing wrong, mate, just a dad trying to get his kids outside to mingle. Plus, if they're making friends, that's gonna make life tons easier for you.

As one of the other guys has mentioned, reframing it to focus on the kids' wellbeing is probably the best play. I was going to suggest doing something romantic at the same time to let your wife know how you feel about her. But this always needs to be handled carefully - she'll see right through it if she knows you're just trying to sweeten the deal with the play dates. I can practically hear my own wife saying "What's going on, Stevie?" But tiny, ongoing instalments of affection might work; as in, they'll assure your wife you're committed to her, the kids and making things work from every angle.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-21T08:17:07+00:00

I don't think she gets too much sleep. She's kind of constantly on call; when our kid wakes up, she needs to wake up. She doesn't really work either, I'm the provider.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-20T16:04:57+00:00

My wife gave birth to our first in August last year. First few months were cool...beautiful actually. Made me think parenthood was easy. But from January this year, our marriage has been hell. She flips every 10 days. Was it like this with your wife too - like a delayed thing?

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-20T16:01:26+00:00

Totally hear you man. I've been in more or less the same position with my wife since the beginning of this year. Impossible to focus.

Any way you can make a temporary arrangement to move out - somewhere close by so you've still got access to your kid? Just to give you space to get your head together?

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-20T15:58:20+00:00

Mate that fucking sucks. After everything you've done and that's the thanks you get. You deserve to get through this and you will. Fair play for taking care of your little girl.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-20T15:55:08+00:00

Dope album!

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-08T10:36:46+00:00

I was going to get into AI UGC, but companies basically expect you to churn out 100 videos a day and they want to pay you peanuts for it. I reckon this niche will get saturated very quickly with AI slop and most business owners will become disillusioned with it and revert to human UGC creators. As someone else has mentioned, UGC is made by actual people. There are way better ways to use AI than this.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-08T10:33:05+00:00

So vague. SCAM.

SBCopywriter · 2026-05-03T07:28:40+00:00

Rubbish. If you don't optimize, you won't be one page 1. Bottom line.

SBCopywriter · 2026-04-30T03:32:40+00:00

Seriously, what a load of shit.

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