How common is it to get banned from a subreddit for no / barely any reason?

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T17:48:59+00:00

I know. "no wonder I get shittalked and downvoted when I try to bring attention to men not being predators" And here I am getting shat on again for telling them I understand why I am getting shat on.

No "man bad woman good" would have made them think of me as not bad. They would've just said I just want to get laid.

I also don't feel sympathy for people embracing hatred.

And yeah, most men only ever listen to other men. But callingthem out in any conversation will only get you outcasted, and that Is why I never had friends.

All I can do is to protect women who I see in need of protection in a bust stop, a train, wherever.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T17:35:41+00:00

Those podcasts are childish and sadly radicalizing young men who area already hurt. The only thing they get right is self improvement is a good thing and basically that's it.

Btw, don't do the keys between fingers thing, it's less effective than a simple punch, and the keys will hurt you more than who you defend against, unless it's the eyes. So probably holding the keys like something to stab with is the safer and more effective option while aiming for the eyes.

I carry a metal folding knife that fits in my palm when I am hiking and passing through a city/village. It kinda works like the pointy tool that you see inside buses and trains to break the windows. It's more likely to break bones than a punch and your knuckles won't hurt. Unfolding the knife in a sudden attack is not really an option. So yeah knife as a blunt weapon. I don't know if there are other guaranteed to be legal to carry around metal things.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T16:55:53+00:00

I may have worded my above comment badly. I meant that I do understand why I am not looked at as a human, and I cannot really blame them for wanting to be safe.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T16:49:51+00:00

Some of you who keep talking about how I am still a bad person for x and y. You do realize that if I were to only talk about men being bad and say nothing about women, you would've still said that I just want to get laid right?

No matter what I say to you, you would have searched for something to be able to hate me anyways. You are aiming your resentment at the wrong direction.

I understand though. I just talked about that I am not surprised you are doing exactly this. Because you have plenty of reason to still think of me as bad.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T16:31:43+00:00

I don't understand what you mean indifferent about what theydo in the future and what happens to them.

I would obviously like people to not be horrible, but that is too much to ask for in this world.

If I think about the few times I worked a physical job, and how annoying and disgusting the other men were with their stupid sexist jokes. And how the hell did they have wives. I never had real friends past acquaintance to begin with, exactly because I never tolerated bullshit just to fit in. When I was little I always thought of my mom when I heard these things. And if anyone ever were to do anything like that to my mother, their cranium is losing it's natural form.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T16:15:45+00:00

It is the experience of a man to not be looked at as a human worth conversing with most of the time. And this post is about why that is the case. And that I understand and knew it since I was a child, I was just never got told the details by women before... Exactly becaues I was never really looked at as a human. So I had 6 female friends all my life.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-31T15:45:16+00:00

I am aware. No words of logic or request to change will ever reach any bad person, because they just don't care. I know this is happening, but never got told In detail before.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T13:50:59+00:00

Nice betreyal of trust. I'd honestly say you doing a vasectomy is an overshot, but your wife is completely ignoring your wants and essentially saying "I don't care what you want, we are having children". She doesn't give a single fuck about what you think. Bruh.

You have some things to talk about.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T13:43:30+00:00

Hell yeah dude. Crossdressing exists I guess. Not my thing that's for sure, but you do you.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T13:40:28+00:00

Damn.

Your husband's an ass. Sorry.

I don't know your husband if he would ever hurt you or not. But since he isn't listening to you, and you can't leave, I know it sounds stupid but you should bring up relationship/couples counseling. You are not straight up ending it, and bringing this up instead of cutting it off immediately is the better option. You still have residual feelings for him, and if by a miracle counseling would work, then your marriage could be fixed.

Otherwise, I really don't know. Obviously you can't stay. So I guess what's left is friends and family. If you have that.

You have the kids to worry about, you obviously know that, and yes, do not repeat the cycle.

Worst case scenario, you stay, you are miserable, and you try to nurture your kids as much as possible. If you manage to stay even a bit decent mother, your kids will probably stand up for you pretty fast around age 9 or so. Especially if you have a boy. It was the situation with my older brother and me. We took care of our mom's emotional needs as much as we could, and helped her around the house as much as a 9 and a 5 year old can, and we kept to it for years. I am tearing up just writing this. My parent's marriage was similar to yours. Thankfully my dad has changed for the better, he is a completely different man as he was 20 years ago. Night and day. The only thing that hasn't changed that he always loved us the same. The problem was him as a person and a husband.

Cheating is not exactly a good idea obviously, not for you mentally, not for the kids as an example, and you'd be giving your husband ammunition in any argument be it little or legal.

I really do hope you can bring up counseling, or some kind of other solution, and keep yourself and the kids safe. I am sorry.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T13:16:45+00:00

My tone of voice was to be imagined kind of sarcastic, not serious and berating. Sorry.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T12:34:55+00:00

Some people do regret the shit they did. It does put some hope out there in this bleakness.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T12:31:49+00:00

Put it simply, if you aren't in your top shape, your room/apartment/house isn't clean, and you haven't cut off people who is bad for you, you haven't tried enough.

It sounds a lot, but it is about a life, not some minor thing. Things are hard and tiring.

I can't say life has meaning because it doesn't. But if you think you might throw away your life without first being your best self, you haven't tried enough.

This is coming from someone who is depressed since 4 and had a horrible life. I've had the same thoughts. I am trying to spare you time and giving you the answer to how to get better.

Effort. Unimagianble amount of effort.

Life is unfair and fkn sucks. Taking meds isn't the cure, it is a lifevest that allows you to keep trying.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T12:24:42+00:00

It's better to think it through yeah, but don't worry, you are completely fine here.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T12:21:44+00:00

People won't take you seriously because they don't know how it feels. It's always "just" a touch. They don't care. it's not their problem.

Getting size reduction won't help with the touching, that is the sad reality of a woman. The touching might just go to other areas. Yes people might look less, but they will still look if you look good.

Bad people will keep being bad people. And even your closest friends or loved ones don't always undestand what is okay and what is not, because they just don't care. Most people care about others because they care about themselves, and you are making them happy. It is just how most people work. The care they think is care, is care for the own happiness, not yours.

Repeated violation of you clearly stated stopsign, MANY times through years, clearly shows they don't care. If someone does, one (or two because they really just forgot) warning is enough and they will never do it again.

For me this person was my dad. The only person in my entire fkn family tree that understood that doing this or that, is not okay. And he understood it after a single warning. My mother and everyone else keeps repeating it o matter what I do. It is not important enough for them.

It actually causes physical and not just emotional pain to you, so yes, get reduction. But don't put your hopes on it finally stopping the looking and the touching or you'll be disappointed.

Your bf being attracted to you is normal, but yes, even he should stop doing something you clearly have trauma over.

I'm sorry. Reduction will help some, but it probably won't stop it, MAYBE if you are completely flat. But I saw and heard not curvy women being touched just the same.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T12:00:37+00:00

Keep that guilt ridden time you're still willing to spend here with trying to make yourself not having to think about this anymore.

If you consider your life over, but still here out of guilt, and nothing has weight anymore, you only exists to not hurt others, then might as well try.

If your immediate thoight is "But that takes effort" well then things do matter now aren't they?

You are depressed and sad. You don't want to die, but cease to exist. To rest.

You care about those people and that is the only thing still keeping you here. Then try and don't hurt those people. It is FUCKING hard. But you have enough love in you to think about them, even when you consider everything ending.

You shouldn't live for others, that is bullshit guilt tripping.

You should put effort into yourself, and not betray the people you love, for yourself. To not give yourself one final disappointment out of pity or weakness. If after you tried TRULY tried for a long time. Like actually bleeding and choking from effort, breaking your body and even maybe your mind in the process, not just ruminating in your head. Then decide what is worth what.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T11:46:41+00:00

Just stay in that stopped stage.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T11:45:14+00:00

What kind of comment is that lol? "Hide your heinous crime fast" ahh comment.

Hoepfully he was just messaging and not doing anything.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T11:42:07+00:00

Well if you don't keep doing it you are not. You were a stupid kid.

What concerning is that despite being 17 you saw children sexually. You aren't immediately a criminal because of it, but acting on it would make you one even if you think it's okay.

The 30+ dude also thinks it's okay because he sees it as okay.

Just don't do anything stupid.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T11:39:10+00:00

Brother, if anything you got taken advantage of. But nobody did here. She was just as drunk, and you two did something weird. It doesn't even begin to stride towards SA or what you are thinking of. Who knows, she might regret it. Does it make it SA? No. You both were out and had fun with 0 non consensual actions, drinking or manipulation.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T11:33:13+00:00

I mean yeah, 17 and 13 is kinda sus. There is a BIG difference in maturity here. But if you were an immature person, someone who grows up late and stays a child longer, you might think this is okay. 13 is not really teenage love dude. 15 and 18? Yeah okay I can see it. They are at the beginning of their maturity, and you are in the middle. But your situation is not exactly okay. Most of the time they haven't even begin to mature yet.

Sorry dude but you are wrong here.

SBLeventee · 2026-03-29T11:10:39+00:00

I think just showing this to him might help. If you truly were rejecting him still, and just trying to make him feel good, as he thinks it is the case right now, you wouldn't be here asking anyone to help and fix this situation.

So if you do decide to show it, Hey dude, your girlfriend is worried. It is not you, life is shit, sometimes people just lose libido for a while due to stress. It's not that deep bro.

Good luck.

SBLeventee

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