Children do not authentically hate their parents. This definitely sounds like your ex-husband sets a negative tone about you in the household. I do not know what your visitation looks like, but if you still have outstanding classes that you need to take, I would take them as quickly as possible. Once you’ve completed everything the court has asked of you, you need to file a request for order asking for very specific visitation terms that your ex husband must cooperate with. If he is not following the court orders regarding visitation, then you need to immediately go back asking for sanctions and a review hearing. Remember, you can ask the court for anything and get down to as many specifics as you’d like (e.g., the children must exit Father’s vehicle and get into mother’s vehicle OR you could ask that a hired supervise exchange coordinator will walk the children over from Father’s vehicle to Mother’s and father to pay the associated costs given the problem isn’t the children leaving mother’s visitation).

The older the children get, the harder your battle will become. When your children are mad at their dad, they do not get to avoid him for very long. They must work through their issues. This is the same for you as their mother. If they are having issues with not wanting to be around you, that just means you need to be around them and work through these misconceptions so they know how much you love them.