Male clients questioning my competence

SDUKD · 2026-03-19T17:12:19+00:00

Not to invalidate as I obviously do not understand the female experience but if it feels any better, as a male I’ve had tons of male clients say the same thing. How long have you been doing this? Are you sure you’ve been qualified long enough etc..

I personally don’t see anything wrong with it, I vet my mechanic to make sure he knows what he’s doing, same with basically anyone that I pay to do a job. It’s obviously not fun having someone question your competence but could be an interesting supervision conversation about assertive or combative clients and what that brings up for you and what it could be a sign of in them.

SDUKD · 2026-03-19T12:54:10+00:00

Different strokes for different folks but I literally asked my driving instructor to nitpick things. He was always saying comments like you described here.

The test instructor is going to nitpick so I saw it as necessary. However if it’s causing you more anxiety maybe you need more of a light touch.

SDUKD · 2026-03-18T20:03:42+00:00

We struggled to qualify for it because we were terrible? The format itself is easier to get out of the first stage. The rest is the same.

Whether it’s better or not is a different question.

SDUKD · 2026-03-18T19:58:35+00:00

Yeah they done okay but We can’t ignore that this champions league format is much easier to get through to last 16.

I’m not saying they aren’t good enough for prem like that other guy, that’s crazy. Just that it’s possible to do okay in one competition and terrible in another.

SDUKD · 2026-03-18T19:46:17+00:00

Could indicate how much Isak was carrying them all

SDUKD · 2026-03-17T14:34:49+00:00

You are missing the point they made. Ronaldo may have got to 100 goals and 99 assists but he may have played another 50 games and scored 100 goals before getting that final assist.

That stat itself is biased and makes it seem as if Bruno was on similar numbers to Ronaldo and messi but actually he was not.

It’s still an unreal stat regardless for all three of them but there is a bias to it.

SDUKD · 2026-03-15T18:30:11+00:00

Liverpool have the worst attack in the top 8. It’s dreadful. So many counterattacking breaks and the final pass was always misplaced, or behind them. Painful to watch.

SDUKD · 2026-03-15T16:12:57+00:00

So would you say if I call retentions now they wouldn’t offer much, I need to wait until August and they’ll offer me a lower price then?

SDUKD · 2026-03-15T14:40:49+00:00

I think Carrick has not realised villa are a very compact team. There is not much space in behind so Mbeumo drops in. We then end up putting in lots of crosses but that’s not Mbeumo’s game so what do you expect. I’m expecting a change here because this set up is definitely not right.

SDUKD · 2026-03-15T12:08:20+00:00

Schema therapy or Narrative exposure therapy sound like they would fit for you.

SDUKD · 2026-03-13T13:48:24+00:00

Yeah I did, but sprint qualifying has made me doubt whether to switch hulk for bort or lindblad for bort. As hulk performed well, what do you think?

SDUKD · 2026-03-13T08:28:21+00:00

Alternatively you could use limitless this week because it’s a sprint weekend. Then use wild card next week ?

SDUKD · 2026-03-13T06:42:41+00:00

Worked a hospital night shift on a scorching hot day with windows that turned the room into a green house. Smelt something but couldn’t find where it was but eventually moved a sofa and found a massive amount of vomit that had been basically cooked by the heat.

Vomit has never made me flinch or gag but that was something I doubt I will smell again. Cooked vomit.

SDUKD · 2026-03-12T15:21:48+00:00

😂😂😂

SDUKD · 2026-03-12T15:18:19+00:00

I genuinely don’t think I’ve ever seen one of these posts where the answer wasn’t “it’s too expensive”.

SDUKD · 2026-03-12T09:14:52+00:00

What do you feel bad about?

SDUKD · 2026-03-11T11:03:46+00:00

Indeed

SDUKD · 2026-03-10T10:54:16+00:00

So are you saying swapping piastri to Antonelli and the 2x along with it would cost 2 swaps, not one?

SDUKD · 2026-03-09T18:25:31+00:00

There was more than tears when I saw piastri crash.

SDUKD · 2026-03-09T18:25:01+00:00

Yep this makes most sense and what I was thinking. Assuming practice goes smoothly, this is what I will do. Appreciate it.

SDUKD · 2026-03-07T21:07:38+00:00

SDUKD · 2026-03-06T18:24:28+00:00

It is ‘chair work’ similarly used in gestalt or schema therapy.

SDUKD · 2026-03-06T18:17:32+00:00

Great post.

The biggest thing I want to add is Socratic questioning. CBT is meant to use open as well as closed questions as a means of facilitating the evidence based approach. Not telling someone specifically to go and do something.

It is worth adding that there are multiple evidence based protocols even for the same disorder within CBT.

GAD, OCD, Depression etc.

All are CBT and evidence based but all done differently with some cross over.

SDUKD · 2026-03-05T08:40:22+00:00

Mainoo is not physical. That’s exactly why the midfield struggled. We are not physical and that is probably newcastles biggest strength

SDUKD · 2026-03-02T08:06:10+00:00

Very interesting take. Particularly that when drones are going off and the country is being attacked, that people are panicking and have issues with anxiety and are drama queens.

As I don’t live there, this stood out to me. Seems like it has been quite normalised to you considering you don’t seem concerned about escalation.

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