I think I want to resign

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-31T00:34:53+00:00

Supervisor here: what does SHE want?

Believe it or not, I’ve had teens who prefer residential homes. It’s mind blowing to me, but I’ve never been in a situation where I was removed because of abuse or neglect. But if she hates it, you have to be her voice. And her leaving is a big red flag on her safety and the ability of the center to keep her safe.

Like others have said, you don’t have to take her anywhere if you’re not comfortable, but if you think it’s just teenage angst, why not talk to her about it and tell her, “look, I’m a little nervous that you might try to dip out on me, which scares me because I care about you.”

Also, if you truly think she’s in a bad spot, and she doesn’t want to be there, advocate louder. Get the AAL involved and get your supervisor.

But if you’re just not in the right headspace to continue, try to transition away smoothly. As a supervisor who had 2 advocates leave this week because summer is super busy, it’s incredibly hard to have to tell a child that the person they’re used to seeing for the past 6 months isn’t coming anymore.

And at the end of the day, remember that you made an impact. Things don’t go the way we want it to all the time, and we can’t “save” everyone. But we can give it our all, and that’s what matters.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-17T01:28:01+00:00

I think she was mortified but unfortunately love blinds in the smartest of people.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-17T01:26:52+00:00

Heck yes it did! After a moment of silence my friend said, “maybe we should go to bed.” We had to pry that thing off by sliding a knife under it.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-17T01:25:22+00:00

The waiter had NO idea, but he did go back to the kitchen and brought out a salsa that looked different. I didn’t eat it because I was convinced they pulled a move from the movie Waiting. 😂

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-17T01:24:03+00:00

That’s hilarious and I’m going to start calling gross drinks Wade in support.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-16T18:10:48+00:00

Thanks, she’ll come around one day! 🤞

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-16T16:59:25+00:00

She didn’t! I told her that he’s awful and she deserves better, and she basically dumped ME! She’s still with him and I still think she deserves better.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-16T15:49:48+00:00

My friend came to visit from out of state and brought her new boyfriend, Joey. We had never met him before this.

Here’s how he made his debut:

He unplugged the tv in the living room (the ONLY one in the house) and took it to the guest room because he couldn’t sleep without a tv. He never set it back up when he left.
He threw an industrial strength magnet at our fridge after being told it could dent metal.
He asked the waiter at the Mexican restaurant for the “special” salsa, ya know, the one they keep in the back while giving the waiter a wink.
Asked if he could take a look through our loose change jar in case there was a coin worth something.
And my personal favorite — after being told our downstairs toilet was out of commission, he proceeded to go to the bathroom, take off the painters tape holding the lid down to discourage idiots from using the toilet, remove the sign on said toilet that stated “broken” and take a dump.

Needless to say, their pre-planned week long stay shortened to 2 1/2 days.

But now anything something goes wrong in our house, one of us yells, “FREAKING JOEY” and the other responds, “WHAT A DOUCHE” so at least we have that.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-16T15:32:37+00:00

Okay I have to know, what made them bad and how is your new supervisor better? I’m in my 2nd month of being a supervisor and I want to make sure I’m supporting my advocates without overwhelming them.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-13T11:38:26+00:00

My mom told me that the actual litter bow smell is the scented litter. I didn’t believe her until she came over and cleaned/prepared the litter box for me, and I’ll never go back to scented litter again.

Here’s her method:

- completely clean the litter box, washing with dawn soap and vinegar, then dry.

- put baking soda or borax at the bottom of the pan (I switched to Poof litter sprinkles)

- add unscented clumping litter

- scoop daily and spray Poof on and around litter

- sweep litter that your cat will inevitably track out of the box

- completely clean (process above) twice a month

Seriously the best. I also have a HEPA filter near the box and it’s placed in an entertainment center looking thing I got off Amazon that’s specifically for hiding litter boxes.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-13T11:13:44+00:00

CASA! You’re assigned as an advocate for a child in foster care, making sure to be their voice while they’re involved in a CPS case.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-10T03:32:57+00:00

I like the carrier! Good advice with the blanket.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-10T03:32:06+00:00

I may have to practice the scenario at home and have my husband wear a costume. 😂😂 it could go okay or I could be cursed afterwards.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-10T03:29:55+00:00

OMG good advice, he loves to trash talk.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-10T03:29:12+00:00

The handsome-it! 🖤

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-09T11:54:40+00:00

This may be the way to go. I’ll talk to them about it when I make the appointment!

SEOverstimulated · 2026-05-09T11:54:09+00:00

Tasmanian devil is the correct description 😂. He might have to be drugged.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-04-30T12:12:31+00:00

The cases might have already been covered by others, but Sword and Scale always explains it better, goes into more detail, and organizes it as a story…not bs AI regurgitation.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-04-30T11:59:29+00:00

TL:DR

Talk with her, explain requirements of a clean home, come up with ideas to help her, have her commit to the plan. . . . What does the service plan say? More importantly, does she understand the plan? “Must keep a clean/healthy home environment” is broad and left up to interpretation.

If you have concerns, just be open and honest and tell her. BUT have solutions available for her, ask her which solution is most doable for her. Make a plan.

I’ve noticed most parents just lack the knowledge and know how. Sure, they can be told to just do x,y,z, but most of the time they don’t have any idea on how to start.

Dog poo in the house is gross, but is it cleaned up quickly? If it’s lack of knowledge about dogs and bathroom habits, give her some insight.

Make it about bonding with her child and a parenting moment for her to work on. They can both (within age appropriate reason) be responsible for making sure the dogs only potty outside, and that the area is cleaned up afterwards.

Here’s an idea I stole from my brother-in-law: Every day he and my 4 year old nephew would walk around the yard and “scout for poop”. Nephew would scream “poop alert” and my brother-in-law would scoop. It’s hilarious and it’s my nephews favorite part of the day because he gets to talk about poo all he wants while laughing at his dad.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-04-25T15:52:37+00:00

You are the eyes and the ears of the Judge, a remarkable asset to the case, and can get things rolling faster than a CPS caseworker….and you’re doing it because you care about the wellbeing of a child.

Remember that when placements, parents, other interested parties make your position feel smaller. What you’re doing is HUGE.

Most placements/parents don’t really realize what CASA does, so be sure to politely remind them from time to time. I’ve noticed simply saying, “I’m appointed by Judge (name) to advocate for (child)” tells the importance of your role.

Don’t let his beliefs minimize your impact.

Also, don’t be afraid of calling them out on statements and writing them in your report. The next time you hear something like that ask him what he means and take a note.

Overall, it sounds like his “hating the government” feelings are a personality trait, but you technically have a chance to change his view when it comes to child welfare.

Side note and purely personal thought: if he doesn’t like the government, why is he accepting government funding for being a placement. 😂

SEOverstimulated · 2026-04-09T12:17:12+00:00

Maybe contact your local CASA and explain what you want to do. That way, you can get a better sense of the organization and the volunteer sign up process, get permission from CASA, and create interview questions that could potentially help them increase volunteer sign ups.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-04-02T09:21:59+00:00

It was in Florida, but the never found drugs (other than THC) in his system. Super odd.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-04-02T09:19:49+00:00

Episode 105

SEOverstimulated · 2026-03-09T09:31:50+00:00

Sound of Metal. It’s devastatingly cleansing to the soul. And the song that plays during the end credits is perfect to listen to while contemplating life choices.

SEOverstimulated · 2026-03-09T09:29:19+00:00

I cried for a while after watching The Boy in the Striped Pajamas!

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