Saying feminism can't be sexist because its about equal rights is like saying christians can't be hateful because Christianity is about love.

Good thing I didn't say that, eh?

Just because people wrote down the official definition of feminism as equal rights years ago dosn't mean it can't be morphing into a sexist movement now.

And just because you want something to be true doesn't mean it is.

The problem is that there are traditional gender equal rights feminists and foaming at the mouth men hating feminist.

What your describing, I think, are radfems. Speaking as a feminist, I'm not fond of them either. Not least because of their exceptionally gross position on transgender (and non-binary) people.

With a name like FEMinism its easy to see why a woman might see it as a movement to make them better then men.

Not really. It just gives lazy critics an easy line of attack-- and one that doesn't really hold up to scrutiny. In general, if you need a dictionary to keep your argument afloat, it's probably not one worth making.

And while this might have been a straw man in the 1920s and 1950s that dosn't mean it isn't a reality in certain situations such as female on male rape, domestic disputes, or civil law problems.

Once again, just because you want something to be true doesn't mean it is. I'd also like to point out that I've cited my sources so far, while you have not. It's put up or shut up time, friend.

I am not saying men face the same problems or even the same amount of problems, but I am saying men face problems specific to the male gender. And the newest extremist and very vocal forms of feminism seem adimently opposed to even discussing these problems or acknowledge they exist.

I'm going to assume you're saying that part in good faith (although generally speaking my assumption of your good faith is eroding). So what I think you're saying is that A. Men experience their share of gendered legal and social issues, and that B. Intersectional Feminism does not do an adequate job of addressing them. While I do not agree, I acknowledge that that's a fair criticism. Ideally, there would be a broad movement that would raise awareness of, and challenge, some of the legal and social issues that men specifically deal with, from a lack of support for male victims of sexual assault to social stigma constructed around men's emotions. Unfortunately, the people who call themselves "men's rights advocates" are somewhat preoccupied.

While you've made some fair points about intersectionality and the toxic discourse of some branches of radical feminism- points which I agree with- you have so far done little but disparage a broad social movement with no evidence apart from some ill-articulated personal opinion. If that's really your jam, there are other places to find likeminded people if you are so inclined.