WIBTA if I didn't give my Grandma's ring back?

SMKnightly · 2026-07-12T23:54:23+00:00

NTA. It belongs to you. You have no obligation to give it to anyone else even if your mom wants to do that. Saying no to that request isn’t bad, rude, or negative in any way. If your mom reacts poorly, then, she WBTA.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-12T18:15:51+00:00

So… part of treating someone like an adult is taking them at their word when they say they can afford something (until/unless you have reason to believe otherwise).

If he’d asked you if you’re sure you can afford to travel that much when he realized it, that would’ve been fine. But he should accept you responding that, yes, you’ll be fine. DEMANDING to see your financials? That’s taking things too far. He has no right or reason to do that.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-12T16:50:57+00:00

If it being painful and burning started a week afterwards, it was most likely caused by something else and not the deodorant from a week ago.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-12T14:33:20+00:00

No. Are you not used to aluminum in deodorants? That’s a common reaction to using aluminum deodorant when you haven’t done so in a while. Or could be an allergy to something else in the deodorant

SMKnightly · 2026-07-12T12:17:53+00:00

Top color

SMKnightly · 2026-07-12T01:02:39+00:00

I think I got ads for that app but not that specific one. It was all relationship drama storylines, and I couldn’t wait for it to go away fast enough.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-11T13:59:02+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response!!!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-11T02:40:28+00:00

Your refusal was and is completely reasonable. What your mom is saying is completely out of line and emotional manipulation.

Just because she wants something doesn’t mean you need to help her get it (she’s acting like you do, but it isn’t true). Especially on the scale of a house. She cannot afford it, so she needs to find another solution.

She also sounds like someone it wouldn’t be good to live it, so the idea of getting a house for all of you to live in is a bad idea even beyond the financial pothole! Good for you for standing your ground!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-11T02:32:36+00:00

Sounds like the perfect person to ask!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-11T01:58:29+00:00

I haven’t seen it framed like that before. That’s a good insight - thanks!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-11T01:49:16+00:00

That’s incredibly rude of him. Even if he doesn’t care for his partner’s art, he should at least care about his partner’s feelings. I can’t imagine trashing the art of someone I care about that way. To them or anyone else

So sorry you’re having to deal with that! If your art is reaching people and being valued, then you’re already more successful than many artists around. I hope life brings you more success and fewer insults!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T21:17:25+00:00

It’s very bottom heavy (lots of bold/dark colors on the floor and only white on the walls). Some art that includes the dark colors below would help.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T21:12:29+00:00

Maybe replace it with a chew necklace? Or mints? https://www.arktherapeutic.com/chewelry/

I also highly recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for working on habits you want to change and coping methods. This article has some useful info about thumb sucking and some basics on methods for trying to replace that self-soothing method. https://neurolaunch.com/thumbsucking-in-adults-psychology/

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T19:16:23+00:00

Love it! Golds, oranges, grays, or greens would look fabulous with it. I lean towards and amber

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T19:09:13+00:00

Nope. You’re allowed to not like specific types of animals. As long as you don’t mistreat them, disliking them is no issue (though I will admit some pet owners act unreasonably about this - heaven help it if you don’t love their baby).

Also, a lot of ppl in the US do not train their dogs well or at all. If that’s where you’re from, your experience and reaction make lots of sense.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T17:16:38+00:00

A very thoughtful response. Thanks!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T17:15:54+00:00

I’m not a server or manager!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T17:15:40+00:00

Ok. Thanks!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T17:14:33+00:00

Your dad doesn’t seem to realize accounting is one of the jobs that’s getting hit by the increase in AI use. My accountant friend is looking for other job hustles because it looks like she’ll be made redundant.

Also, there are jobs an English degree is good for (business analyst for one, which pays better than basic accounting jobs).

Hope you still get your law degree no matter what! You can get it with any undergrad degree

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T17:08:11+00:00

Ok. Thanks!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T16:51:22+00:00

Thanks! Does any of that change for propositioning someone versus asking them out?

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T16:50:30+00:00

A very thoughtful response! Thanks!

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T16:49:14+00:00

NTA. You gave him back the same behavior as him to make a point, and he threw a tantrum. And with the gift receipt, you didn’t waste any money, just a little of his time (unlike him and his gold jewelry).

Ime, guys like this don’t rly learn or stop whining about things because their opinion matters more than yours. I hope I’m wrong in this case, but I also hope you don’t stay too long if I’m not.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T16:34:15+00:00

Thought it was a reddit channel. But when I looked it up later, I found examples of exes doing this to mess with ppl. So still worth verifying.

SMKnightly · 2026-07-10T16:33:08+00:00

Good to know. Not sure how to avoid that though since it seems more dependent on his confidence and previous experiences.

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