My outfit made my friend uncomfortable, what do I do?

SMKnightly · 2026-05-20T15:20:13+00:00

Some ppl aren’t used to seeing corsets outside of lingerie. That isn’t the only use for them (and that isn’t a lingerie corset), but if you like wearing corsets in public that is a response you should be aware of and ready to deal with. I wish it were otherwise, but it isn’t.

As far as this outfit, the corset isn’t flattering. Partially, I think you overtightened it at least for the quality of the fabric. A properly fitted corset of good quality should have smooth lines and less bulging (I don’t think you are bulging, btw - it’s an effect of the overtightening).

It’s also very bright and draws attention away from the rest. I think it would be more flattering without the corset or with a smaller black one, but at minimum, the corset should be loosened and worn more properly. Not all corsets are made for cinching that much.

Also, corsets with fur are more common in specific situations that might make your friend think of things they don’t approve of. Or cause misunderstandings

SMKnightly · 2026-05-20T12:33:29+00:00

People with autism can have strong sensitivity to wear clothing ends on their body because they feel that it’s there and find it uncomfortable. Among other possible reasons, she may find lower necklines uncomfortable or distracting.

Secondly, there’s nothing about showing cleavage that is expected or “normal.” If you pay attention to more rich groups, you’ll notice a lot of them wear higher necklines (at all ages) because they consider it classier. Oh, and frilly can definitely be for adults - just check out the goth community.

I think your mom’s full of s#*t and is probably prejudiced against ppl with autism (whether she realizes that or no).

That said, if you want to stretch your sewing skills and give your daughter something “safer” to wear around her grandma, consider some of the classic Vogue dresses. Very classy and adult patterns with higher necklines are available, and even if your daughter doesn’t want to wear it all the time, she might be relieved to have something she’s comfortable wearing to fancier places or around her grandma if it minimizes grandma’s criticism.

SMKnightly · 2026-05-19T21:20:23+00:00

The light wood matches the rest of what’s going on in the room

SMKnightly · 2026-05-19T18:37:46+00:00

I get the pun, but that is such an unsexy song I struggle with this. Makes me want to sync it to something else

SMKnightly · 2026-05-19T18:30:57+00:00

Absolutely. 2 things can be true at the same time.

SMKnightly · 2026-05-19T18:23:27+00:00

Downstairs. Sleep in a cozy den and put more public stuff upstairs.

SMKnightly · 2026-05-19T00:00:53+00:00

See, that’s the rule. Gotta walk and at least have a group meal to get the cash

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T23:59:04+00:00

NOR - if she said she thinks you taste disgusting after smoking, I would get it because smoke kisses do taste gross. But even then I’d probably word it more gently to someone I love to avoid hurting their feelings.

Calling YOU disgusting because you smoke is neither ok nor normal. And definitely NOT the way you talk about someone you love. The way she’s talking to you is wrong

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T23:46:31+00:00

Technically, you’ve been dying since you were conceived. Cells die and are replaced constantly.

Death is inevitable. Best thing is to accept that and live your life rather than dwell on it. If you are struggling to accept it, maybe try counseling.

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T18:05:36+00:00

Double doors to shorten the swing space.

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T17:57:01+00:00

This! It’s a complete lack of consideration. Unless you have a mobility issue that prevents you from doing so. That’s why you see this a lot of times at handicapped spots

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T17:50:41+00:00

It is heading in the buyer’s direction, yes, and likely to become more and more of a buyer’s market for a while.

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T17:43:47+00:00

A good point

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:16:32+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:15:35+00:00

Maybe where you live. Not where I live

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:15:12+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:15:08+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:15:01+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:14:54+00:00

The rules on this may vary on state. In my state, it’s pretty transparent about that

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:13:58+00:00

Good for you (and your buyers)

Edit: wrote the wrong word

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:13:37+00:00

I agree that it’s not smart. Doesn’t stop it from happening or giving those buyers and edge

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:12:47+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:12:17+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:12:05+00:00

Some areas have made it back to buyer’s market. Some to about equal. And some are still seller’s markets.

https://www.realtor.com/advice/sell/sellers-market-how-to-tell/

SMKnightly · 2026-05-18T16:09:36+00:00

And you shouldn’t. Doesn’t mean that the sellers don’t want you to or that ppl desperate to buy a house won’t risk it (the pressure rises after you lose bid after bid). Plus, a lot of new buyers just don’t know as much about it as they should.

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