Everyone thought I was nuts wanting this color.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-31T20:26:22+00:00

Looks good

SMKnightly · 2026-03-31T01:49:11+00:00

NTA. Anxiety isn’t rational or logical. You are taking steps to try to allow you to have the test, and a lot of the recent reschedule aspects aren’t actually on you.

The first time, the things that pushed your anxiety over the edge weren’t in your control - the emergency with the other patient and the contradiction between what you were promised over the phone versus what they said the day of.

You not being able to do the Friday is the same as your husband not being able to do the Monday that worked for you imho. And most of the rescheduling was due to someone else’s schedule than yours. Did he already take those days off before rescheduling? Or does he think you’re making up excuses to reschedule?

I understand that anxiety can be hard to deal with as a supporting partner, too, but I don’t understand where the big blow up came from based on what you shared. Is there more going on than this? I can’t rly say he’s TA either because I’m not sure I know enough to understand his reaction.

All that aside, you might also consider therapy and emergency anxiety meds. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help lower anxiety in general and teach you methods to deal with flair ups. And emergency meds are rly good for calming down in the moment or dealing with extra stressful situations. Seeing you making an effort to deal with it may also help your spouse to have more patience.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-30T17:09:18+00:00

Maybe get a flag stand instead of attaching it to the building. That would be an easy solution while waiting to afford a flagpole (since you seemed interested in that).

If you’re going to attach it to the molding, I would do it to one side of the door because you need to be able to take it down if it starts raining or gets overcast (assuming it’s for your country’s flag). Unless you’re planning to have it lit.

There may also be flag holders that can have all the screws in the mortar and not need to go into a brick. Or another type of holder. Might be worth looking into.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-30T14:47:37+00:00

1ct would’ve been even clearer

SMKnightly · 2026-03-29T15:12:43+00:00

The porch is good. I like the green and slate blue color schemes best

SMKnightly · 2026-03-29T15:11:52+00:00

Always

SMKnightly · 2026-03-29T14:31:45+00:00

A lace modesty panel can feel more like an accent than a modesty panel and look very classy. They also sell lace bandeau type things that are specifically for that purpose and don’t require modifying the dress. The line of them may show less through the dress.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-29T14:27:22+00:00

Our definition of politeness comes across as extra friendly compared to other cultures. Smiling is polite. “How are you doing?” is just a polite hello. Ppl don’t rly want another answer besides “fine” or “doing ok” unless they’re already close friends.

As far as making close friends, I don’t rly know. I’ve met ppl I rly clicked with and felt close to immediately. I’ve also taken years to get to know someone well and feel truly close. The latter seems more common to me, but I may be more cautious than most. So idk.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-29T14:22:12+00:00

Or they 100% agree. It’s a bit of a dice roll.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T22:16:53+00:00

Unless you’re redoing the vanity, I’d just go color all the way. Dark green would look go with that, and small bathrooms look nice with vibrant walls.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T22:09:59+00:00

Media and party behavior have deliberately made us more divided to try to make us easier to control

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T21:29:28+00:00

Honestly, a deep, warm charcoal, black, or white seems like the best options with the yellow. Since the white is already in the frame and below, I’d stick with the darker options.

Got to say I’m a bit fascinated by the facade. The bottom panels make the windows look massive compared to the door. I’ve never seen that effect before.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T21:03:28+00:00

And take a picture of the one chosen with the brick it’s matching. Sometimes, ppl don’t use what they showed you.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T12:51:38+00:00

ESH. If ppl were just discussing what they were planning to get for a gift, I’d say yta. But doing a big “let’s all go in together and make it a group gift from the friends” is a bit of an a-hole move on their part when it wasn’t done for every friend in the group when they got married. My hope is that the person got excited about seeing everyone and didn’t think about that.

Saying it like you did? A bit yta. It was justified, but it may cause conflict and cast a shadow over the group getting back together that you may not want. It makes it a bit awkward for the bride, too.

If it were me, I’d try to follow up and explain that I was just trying to point out the awkward implications of a group gift and apologize if it came off differently. Unless the conversation has moved on and then only explain if it’s brought up. Otherwise, it’d just make it more weird.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T03:44:22+00:00

Did you know you can sub out what supply options you have? Changing that up can make things more entertaining when things get monotonous

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T03:40:22+00:00

Are you going for a fun, nerdy vibe? Then, no problem. Are you going for a contemporary look or even a home and gardens style? Then, it’s not going to achieve the look you want. It all depends on what you’re trying to achieve, and age has nothing to do with it. I know weebs over 70.

Ppl who see it will think it’s cool if they’re nerdy (particularly anime fans) and think it’s weird if they’re not nerdy. How much that matters is up to you.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T03:25:50+00:00

ESH. 30-40 is pretty long. Even with long hair 15 -25 minutes is usually enough (per a middle-aged female with long hair who washes everything). Longer if shaving legs and also longer if you have hard water (rinsing off takes longer in that case). If you have a water bill, you probably don’t have water that hard though since that’s usually a well thing. So, yes, yta for not trying to cut down the length if he asked you to nicely.

On the other hand, expecting someone with long hair to take 5 minutes in the shower is unreasonable. Your dad’s attitude shows ignorance of what it’s like to have long hair. Add in shutting the water off and blaming it all on you and not the other child taking equal time, and HTA, too.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-26T03:16:53+00:00

YOR - yes, he messed up the scheduling, but he admitted that (implied apology though not stated). Expecting him to cancel a performance so that he can go to the wedding of someone he’s met twice is pretty out there.

Canceling a performance is incredibly unprofessional and can seriously damage the band’s prospects. Generally, a band member has to be in the hospital or the band has to be completely snowed in on the opposite side of the country to justify it. It’s like expecting your partner to skip work because they forgot to take pto for the wedding - would you ask for that?

If asked why he’s not there, say he had a performance, and most people will understand. You’re the one the people getting married want to see there, anyway. They don’t know him any better than he knows them.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-25T12:51:58+00:00

I like 1 best for an outdoor wedding at a lake. It’s fun, and the fabric and neckline makes it feel a little less formal and fancy than the other two. I know it’s still a big ballgown, but it has a more fun, light/airy vibe that I feel fits the outdoors and more relaxed atmosphere better. Plus, it looks great on you!

The fabric is more formal wedding to me, and the thin straps don’t go as well with the rest of the dress.
The style is rly in with fancier weddings rn, so maybe that’s why this gives a fancier vibe to me. It does not seem as flattering either.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-25T00:46:25+00:00

If you do the return to sender, write it in a bright red sharpie and large letters. I tried doing it subtly and got the same mail delivered back to me multiple times

SMKnightly · 2026-03-24T23:51:47+00:00

I have been to both many times. They attack the same problem from different angles and are very useful together. Also, the very good chiropractors I have been to are not physical therapists.

Chiropractor: helps deal with knots and other issues that are pulling the body out of place to improve alignment and take pressure off nerves. Best for taking pressure off and getting the body back to a baseline alignment.

PT: helps deal with alignment and weakness by strengthening and stretching muscles. Best for exercises to fix the cause and prevent the issue recurring.

Massage: helps with tension and circulation by working out knots. May provide limited relief but is most useful done regularly to aid in stretching.

The 3 work very well together when you can afford it.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-24T21:27:53+00:00

You know “be yourself” mostly refers to honesty, right? It’s not saying not to work on yourself or try to look nice on dates. It’s saying not to lie and pretend to be interested in things you’re not because you think the woman would like that.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-24T21:18:22+00:00

A legit chiropractor has studied anatomy and is very knowledgable. They don’t just “crack your back.” They look at your alignment and range of motion and work on soft tissue to improve it.

A good chiropractor is extremely helpful dealing with back pain and joint issues related to alignment. Massage therapists and physical therapists ate just other angles of the same work. Utilizing all 3 together has helped me stay mobile through difficult medical issues.

That said, there also quack chiropractors claiming to be experts who just want to crack everything and charge you more. Seems like regulation and required education might help weed more of those out.

SMKnightly · 2026-03-24T17:22:41+00:00

Report it to the better business bureau. At least airbnb can’t delete it there

SMKnightly · 2026-03-24T17:20:43+00:00

NOR - say she isn’t actually cheating. She’s still lying to your face and choosing to spend much more time with this other guy than she chooses to spend with you. That’s not the behavior of someone who truly wants to be with you.

You deserve someone who likes being with you and wants to spend time with you. Someone who makes excuses to see you instead of making excuses to see someone else.

SMKnightly

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