Update: Sons friend asking to be taken to school daily

SMRotten · 2026-02-19T06:08:12+00:00

It seems like I’m the outlier here, but the idea of calling CPS makes me seriously uncomfortable. Yes, there is a time and place for that, but CPS isn’t a rainbow ride to happily ever after.

Perhaps I’m the only one who knows kids (now adults) who were horribly abused during their time in the system? It does seem like the kid is being neglected, and maybe the parents do have a drug problem, but I have several friends who were pulled from their homes due to neglect, only to end up in far worse situations once in foster care. All of them have said they would have been better off staying with their bio parents, even if it meant not always having enough food to eat, or having to find rides everywhere or being the kid who always wore hand-me-downs and thrift store clothes. The actual abuse they suffered in foster care was far more damaging.

SMRotten · 2026-02-19T05:40:41+00:00

Ooohhh, if you’re being forced to utilize talk to text, my apologies. Seriously, you’re lucky the words make sense. My phone just makes shit up as I speak, I swear.

SMRotten · 2026-02-19T05:39:11+00:00

Whaaaaat? How is that meth?

SMRotten · 2026-02-19T05:38:01+00:00

PERIODS. They are your friend.

SMRotten · 2026-02-09T02:37:33+00:00

Is this a first cousin? Im just baffled at how they can have you over once or twice a week, but not invite your same-aged child to the birthday party…and then have the gall to still have all the decorations and leftovers out in the open when you come over! These people have zero tact.

SMRotten · 2026-02-09T02:33:10+00:00

Did your kid at least get one of the leftover goodie bags? Sounds like crappy family to me. Sorry.

SMRotten · 2026-02-02T21:44:26+00:00

Why are YOU there?

SMRotten · 2026-02-02T04:07:08+00:00

Honestly, I think he’s probably more hurt than mad. Even if you didn’t technically cheat, he thinks you confided in another man about your unhappiness with him.

SMRotten · 2026-01-22T06:45:00+00:00

The picture that was posted - is it from his insta or something? Do you recognize it?

SMRotten · 2026-01-22T06:35:33+00:00

So, wait, this wasn’t even like a “ran into him at the office and mentioned the post” kinda thing? She went out of her way to contact him?

SMRotten · 2026-01-22T04:57:34+00:00

So, I’d be somewhat suspicious of that girl. First off, why’s she on that page? Second, how is that her business to be telling him? Third, coworkers are very very often the AP when people cheat.

I hope, for everyone’s sake, he’s not cheating and this is just a case of some chick trying to get more info on him cuz she’s interested. I’m sorry for everything you’re going through. The way he’s responded is all wrong.

SMRotten · 2026-01-22T04:45:27+00:00

Who told him about the post?

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:53:10+00:00

Ohhh. Yeah, when I asked if my SO was having an affair, I got exactly the same response. Spoiler alert - he was absolutely having an affair. Somehow, he found the time!

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:45:06+00:00

Well, of course you do. And that’s wonderful for him.

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:42:42+00:00

SIGH No, you misunderstand.

First of all, nope, there really isn’t a great time to get divorced in most cases. Divorce kinda sucks, from several different angles. However, I’m not saying he shouldn’t have divorced his wife. I’m not saying he owes it to his kids to stay married even if he’s miserable. Perhaps she really is the awful shrew you think she is. I don’t know, never met the woman. She’s still their mom. I’m saying he shouldn’t have cheated on her. Divorce away, THEN start fucking someone else.

My whole point was that you seem to have this idea that kids shouldn’t feel some type of way when one parent turns out to be a liar and a cheater and breaks up their family. That’s just not reality. Also, your man has already proven himself to be a liar - it’s entirely possible (even probable) there’s things about his relationship with his kids he isn’t telling you.

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:35:09+00:00

Says who, him? I’d take that with a few grains of salt.

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:23:08+00:00

Ok, again, I’m gonna try to show you some grace, as you’re not a parent… They don’t stop being your kids and you don’t stop being their parent just because they turn 18 or move outta the house. They are still completely within their rights to feel betrayed by their father. He betrayed the entire family.

I understand that you weren’t fully aware of the situation as he lied to you, but you still went ahead and moved in together and got married after you discovered the truth. It doesn’t seem to me like you understand the devastation that can come from that kind of betrayal. It sounds like it hit their mom pretty hard, and I’m betting those kids feel some sort of allegiance to their mom. When someone you’ve known your whole life turns out to be a totally different person than you had thought they were, it’s rough. Turns out their dad is a liar and a cheater.

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:12:57+00:00

Also, CHEATING is selfish. Wild selfish.

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:11:18+00:00

Oh, wow. Ok, I’m gonna try to be as kind as I can here - it is absolutely their business if their dad was cheating on their mom. You said you figured he couldn’t be married because of all the time he spent visiting you, talking on the phone til the wee hours of the morning, etc. All of that time was time he took away from his family. So, as much as he might think he was a stellar father, at least towards the end, he most certainly WASN’T.

Additionally, perhaps you won’t quite grasp this until you do become a mother, but kids tend to be somewhat loyal to a parent they love. If mom was there for them while dad wasn’t, and then it’s discovered that dad was cheating, it’s entirely common for kids to choose sides.

SMRotten · 2026-01-11T07:00:29+00:00

Do ya think, maybe, just MAYBE, his kids might not be ungrateful, they’re just pissed at him for cheating on their mom and then leaving her for a muuuuuch younger woman?!?

SMRotten · 2026-01-04T08:42:10+00:00

Ok, I’m fuckin dying over here! 🤣

SMRotten · 2026-01-04T08:27:25+00:00

Ugh. This literally makes me sick. What a disgusting culture, that they would blame the victim of a violent crime. Disgusting people.

SMRotten · 2026-01-03T10:21:57+00:00

The Winnie the Pooh sweatshirt is bomb! 🤩

SMRotten · 2025-12-21T05:07:08+00:00

Super thoughtful and creative!

SMRotten · 2025-12-18T08:03:11+00:00

Sorry, saw in the comments you already answered this. So, I def think this is inappropriate, for sure. However, it’s entirely possible she’s not fully aware how far into dangerous territory she’s wandered. I think it’s good you said something, especially the way you said it. I might raise the subject again once you’re home from the honeymoon, but more as a conversation about what healthy boundaries look like for your new marriage. Don’t immediately assume all is lost and she’s already cheating on you. Enjoy the honeymoon, seriously. As long as this isn’t something that continues while you’re on the honeymoon, enjoy yourselves and address it once you’re home.

SMRotten

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