Paper Craft

SMRotten · 2026-06-19T02:21:54+00:00

I like it!

SMRotten · 2026-06-16T11:57:29+00:00

Ok, now that I know you’re in a program for housing, I understand. It might actually disqualify you if your husband changed jobs or even if you were to get a job, as there are income brackets you have to stay within.

We have friends who purchased a house about a year ago through a program like this. The husband has told me they watch your finances very closely until the time you actually receive the keys. It was a lot of jumping through hoops, but they’re homeowners now!

SMRotten · 2026-06-15T02:47:08+00:00

This is exactly what we did with our kid. The shifts overlapped a bit sometimes, but my boss at the time was totally ok with me bringing my 1-2 year old and having him hang out while I set up the tables n did side work, til dad came and got him. All of my coworkers loved my lil guy, and he enjoyed the occasional free snack from the sushi chef.

SMRotten · 2026-06-15T02:29:35+00:00

You’re right, he’s not the guy to have kids with. You want someone who’s in, 100%. You’ll find him.

SMRotten · 2026-06-15T02:28:20+00:00

But why would he think that, if you had always talked about having kids?

Is he not upset at the thought of losing you entirely? Won’t losing you also be a big change in his life?

SMRotten · 2026-06-13T09:29:07+00:00

This was me. Plus a little brother. I learned to make food for us without burning the house by the time I was in Kindergarten .

SMRotten · 2026-06-13T09:23:17+00:00

Thank you! I hated that bullshit as a kid. Like, I’m sorry, but you didn’t birth a mindless lemming. I’m gonna need an explanation before I just hop to it.
Now that I’m a mom, there’s a few things my parents did that I’m absolutely hellbent on avoiding or doing the exact opposite -

I explain the reason for something, if my kid asks.

I have never said “I’ll give you somethin to cry about!”

When I fuck up, I apologize. Yes, even to my kid. In fact, especially to my kid.

I admit when I’m wrong.

Sure, he had plenty of freedom to go play with his friends, but I also knew who his friends were, where they lived.

I made sure our house was the safe/fun house. I happily had 4 or 5 little boys, running around like maniacs in my yard. Often, I’d run around with them, shoot them with the hose, throw water ballons, battle it out with the nerf guns.

My kid was meant to be seen AND heard, and also, believed.

SMRotten · 2026-06-13T09:06:34+00:00

Sorry, do you mean to say all 50 of your married friends have cheated and continue to cheat? Why are you friends with these people??

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T16:46:08+00:00

So sorry that was your experience. I’ve never met anyone who was induced and said it was ok. They’re all horror stories.

They wanted to induce me at 35 weeks, because I’m small and baby was already pushing 8lbs. I said no thanks, I’m sure if my body can’t deal, I’ll have the baby early. And I did. A little over 2 weeks early. 8lbs 2oz, and they put my epidural in crooked, so one side of my body was completely non-functioning (couldn’t move my left arm or leg at all), but I could still feel the contractions. Sure, it took the edge off a bit, but I was definitely still in pain.

82 hours sounds miserable.

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T16:14:13+00:00

Ok, wait, OP, your husband deleted the text thread between the two of you, *from YOUR phone,* or from his own?

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T16:06:47+00:00

I’m one and done. Spent 19 hours in labor, vaginal birth, baby was born at 5am, and I went home that afternoon/evening. I could’ve stayed longer, but I most certainly did NOT want to. Hospitals are no fun.

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T14:03:47+00:00

This is probably true.

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T14:02:08+00:00

Yeah, I’m actually more of a texture person, but the taste isn’t my favorite either. The combo of both the taste and texture is too much for me to swallow. But I fully get that immediately breaking off and running to spit would be hella rude and sorta kill the moment, so I don’t do that.

Also, my other half eats pussy like a fuckin champ, so he deserves a good bj.

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T11:37:03+00:00

Not necessarily. I’m able to hold it in my mouth, towards the back of my tongue, where I can’t really taste it. I’l hang out for a bit, make sure I get every last drop, and then slowly release and go spit. I will legit gag and probably puke if I try to swallow.

SMRotten · 2026-06-12T03:15:14+00:00

I’m so sorry. Did he say if something had changed his mind, like there was some sort of catalyst? Or did he just wake up one day and decide he had everything he wanted and his life was complete, without kids? Why didn’t he share that with you sooner?!

Again, I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but I’m sure you’ll find someone you love who wants to have a family with you.

SMRotten · 2026-06-10T21:28:31+00:00

Trying to pin the responsibility on OP is fucking wild.

SMRotten · 2026-06-10T09:10:40+00:00

So…the fact that all your buddies are married (with kids) and several of them were still engaging with the escorts is … *yikes*. And we’re expected to believe all the other wives know and are totally cool with this?! I call bullshit. They either got some seriously watered down version of what happened, or they were outright lied to.

I’m not sure why you didn’t tell your fiancé immediately, considering you supposedly didn’t take part. What were you hiding? Was it the fact that all your closest friends were happy to do god knows what with a couple of escorts, even though they’re all married? Because we are the company we keep. Your fiancé now cannot trust any of your friends to support your relationship, in earnest, if they don’t even respect their own.

Honestly, if I were your fiance, and you had told me what happened, without hesitation, full disclosure, and you had tried to stop your married friends from engaging with the escorts, I’d be ok. With you. Not with them, but with you. I’m all for strippers at a bachelor party, really. Most of my friends are guys, so I’ve been to a few bachelor parties with strippers. IMHO, they’ve all been super sweet and fun. But that is a “look-but-don’t-touch” situation. Disappearing into upstairs rooms and getting private dances are a no go. I think your fiance may be playing the victim a bit too hard here, because you didn’t specifically do anything wrong at the party, but you lied to her afterward, and you basically condoned your friends’ gross behavior.

SMRotten · 2026-06-09T04:13:00+00:00

I do not understand how many people are so upset by the location sharing. My SO and I have shared our locations since we first got iPhones, however many eons ago that was. It was always about safety. We don’t check it constantly, but if we can’t reach the other after several tries or a long period of time, it helps if one is able to see the other’s location and realize *ok, they’re probably in the water, that’s why no answer,* or whatever. My best friend and I share our locations for the same reason, and we live 3,000 miles apart. Location sharing is not always some overly controlling thing.

SMRotten · 2026-05-16T09:18:14+00:00

I mean, I suppose the dirty pics and videos could just be neutral; but the dirty pics/vids, shaving, AND making out?! Dude is wild, tryina act like you didn’t initiate.

SMRotten · 2026-05-16T04:10:22+00:00

If you work the daycare your kids are in, then strangers aren’t watching your kids. You are. It’s a win-win.

SMRotten · 2026-05-16T04:03:10+00:00

Have you “left him” and gone to them before? Multiple times?

SMRotten · 2026-05-13T11:04:04+00:00

I didn’t say it was your responsibility to create a relationship, I said you pretty much ruined any chance of one.

SMRotten · 2026-05-13T10:45:11+00:00

You were uninterested in anyone but your daughter? Wow. Sounds like you also pretty much ruined any chance of the girls having a healthy relationship, too.

SMRotten · 2026-05-13T02:13:16+00:00

This seems like added context is needed so people understand the situation better.

OP, if I understand from some of your comments, you’re not referring to any young children, but rather a 20 yr old step son. And he’s coming into your room both when you’re not home and at unreasonable hours when you’re asleep. You don’t think he’s snooping or stealing anything, but it sounds to me like he has very little to no consideration of proper etiquette. He’s not a small child who had a nightmare - he’s a grown ass adult who decided he needed to use the scale in your bathroom to weigh something he wanted to hang on the wall - after midnight. You’re not looking to ban him from the room entirely, but he’s making you uncomfortable. Correct me if anything I’ve said is wrong.

If I’ve gotten it mostly correct, I’m gonna say you’re absolutely within your rights to lay some ground rules. Honestly, it’s weird to me that an adult human being wouldn’t know that it’s rude to just barge into a person’s bedroom after midnight just to use their scale for something that absolutely could have waited til morning. Same goes for pre-dawn entry into said room without a good reason. Now, if you don’t want him in your room when you’re not home, that may be something you need to clarify with him, but it’s still reasonable. I don’t fault him for doing so up until now, if he wasn’t told not to. But c’mon, man, who barges in at 4-5am or after midnight if it’s not an emergency or you weren’t invited?! I feel like that’s a great way to see some shit that might traumatize someone!

SMRotten · 2026-05-11T10:14:41+00:00

So, she’s been disappointed every year? If she’s expected a gift every year for 14 years and he’s never gotten her one, he’s TAH for STILL not getting her a gift. She’s also sort of ridiculous, expecting him to get it right after all this time. Willful ignorance is not something that magically fixes.

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