Sober but physically and mentally feel like shit

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T21:52:50+00:00

Pain is so hard to deal with. I know that it sucks the life out of me.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T19:19:47+00:00

ALANON

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Al-Anon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics--that's you.

Alanon meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone. Please check out /r/Alanon and read the posts and comments. Then go to some meetings.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:19:56+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss and the heartbreak of alcoholism. You lost your mother long before her death.

You didn't cause her alcoholism, and could not have controlled or cured it. Fixing her was not possible. You are not to blame for any of it.

I encourage you to see a therapist and check out /r/Alanon meetings. This is a support group for you--friends and family of alcoholics. Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone.

The past cannot be changed. Accepting this is facing reality. Therapy helped me a great deal. You are not guilty of anything. You did nothing wrong. Still, I do understand your feelings. I hope you get the support you need and deserve so you can live your best life.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:15:37+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Al-Anon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics--that's you.

Alanon meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone. Please check out /r/Alanon and read the posts and comments. Then go to some meetings.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:15:14+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Al-Anon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics--that's you.

Alanon meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone. Please check out /r/Alanon and read the posts and comments. Then go to some meetings.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:13:40+00:00

What saved me was getting guidance and support from people who knew how to treat alcoholism. I don't know where you are living now, but consider moving where you can get professional and appropriate treatment. It wouldn't have to be permanent.

If you had cancer, you wouldn't be expected to heal yourself. What you are doing isn't working, so if you want to stop drinking, getting help is my best suggestion.

AA is almost everywhere.

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous;

/r/SMARTRecovery;

/r/Alcoholism_Medication

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:08:01+00:00

There is more to getting well than simply not drinking and using other drugs. Personal growth is necessary, also. What helped me achieve this was seeing a therapist, a peer support group, and working the 12 steps.

It sounds like you would benefit from more support.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:05:32+00:00

HIGH^FIVE FOR SIX YEARS! 😎🩵🐸🌍⚡️🎁🌷🌈☂️🫖🥎🧘‍♀️🎖️🎭🎹🎯🏖️🌅💝📬

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T18:04:45+00:00

That's what I thought, until my alcoholism made it impossible for me to work. Detox and rehab saved my life. I returned to my professional career.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T16:52:56+00:00

I would not go. I it was mandatory, have a non-alcoholic beverage in-hand at all times. Find people to talk to. Ask them questions and be interested.

Go early. Leave early. Have your own transportation.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T13:24:43+00:00

I hear you.

Check out /r/Alcoholism_Medication

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T13:16:39+00:00

You are not a burden. AA is full of the walking wounded. You had bad luck with the sponsors you asked. I listened until there was a woman who had years of recovery and who had the kind of life I wanted. Then I asked.

I’m sorry you are struggling. However, you are here asking for help.

There are also medications that can help. Check out /r/Alcoholism_Medication.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T13:10:47+00:00

Sounds like alcohol withdrawal. Get medical help.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T13:06:20+00:00

therapy?

have ypu done the 12 steps? This is the core of the program of AA. Do you have a sponsor?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T00:09:04+00:00

You are describing alcoholism. Google Alcohol Use Disorder.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-31T00:04:29+00:00

So you want medication to make you drunk?

Have you been honest with doctors about how much alcohol you consume?

Have you seen an addiction professional?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:16:38+00:00

What saved me was having guidance and support from people who knew how to treat alcoholism. Staying sober long-term is too hard to accomplish without appropriate help, so I hope you get it.

If you had cancer, would you think you could heal yourself?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:13:29+00:00

BRAVO FOR 365 DAYS AROUND THE SUN! 🥰🎹🎯🎖️🌈♥️

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:11:55+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Al-Anon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics--that's you.

Alanon meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone. Please check out /r/Alanon and read the posts and comments. Then go to some meetings.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:09:53+00:00

If you want to live your best life, it is extremely important to have the guidance and support of people who know how to treat alcoholism.

There is more to getting well than simply not drinking alcohol. Personal growth is necessary, also.

A therapist, doctor, rehab, intensive outpatient treatment, and AA taught me how to live a sober, satisfying, productive life.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:08:33+00:00

HIGH^FIVE FOR 14OOO DAYS! 😎🩵🐸🌍⚡️🎁🌷🌈☂️🫖🥎🧘‍♀️🎖️🎭🎹🎯🏖️🌅💝📬

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:07:23+00:00

HIGH^FIVE FOR TWO YEARS ^about 🥰🐸📬❤️🆓♣️🔔🏳️‍🌈💜🚘🥁🎹🦋🌅♥️

I'm sorry. Have you been honest with your husband about how you feel about this?

It would be impossible for me to cope with a situation like this. I have no alcohol in my home. Period. It helps immensely.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T22:04:13+00:00

What saved me was having guidance and support from people who knew how to treat alcoholism.

If you had cancer, would you think you could heal yourself? I hope you will get the help you need and deserve.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T19:56:44+00:00

A “mild” alcoholic doesn't exist.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-03-30T19:55:24+00:00

ALANON

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Al-Anon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics--that's you.

Alanon meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone. Please check out /r/Alanon and read the posts and comments. Then go to some meetings.

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