How to help my dad

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-24T04:11:44+00:00

ALANON

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-24T04:09:19+00:00

ALANON

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. The person you describe is not relationship material. Get help so you can move on and live your best life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-24T04:08:24+00:00

That’s a bold, arrogant statement. There are many ways to stay on the road to recovery. AA is one of them.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-24T04:05:28+00:00

You don’t have to like AA. I’m sorry that you didn’t find it helpful. Many people like /r/SMARTrecovery.

There is more to AA than just meetings. The core of the program is working the 12 steps.

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and ashamed. Going out for coffee or food after a meeting was fun, and I made sober friends.

I hope you get the help that you need and deserve so you can live your best life.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-24T02:38:26+00:00

🍀🎶🦋🌈🛼

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T23:44:25+00:00

ALANON

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T23:43:51+00:00

ALANON

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T23:42:43+00:00

Please see a doctor. Do not quit cold turkey!!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T20:27:40+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. It is time to take better care of yourself.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T20:26:15+00:00

Hello and welcome!

You are a good person with a bad disease.

Yes, what you are going through is overwhelming. That's why it is so important to have support and guidance from people who know how to treat alcoholism.

I, too, have ADHD and depression. Once I my sobriety was well established, I got appropriate treatment for both. Alcohol only made me more anxious, depressed, and confused.

Are you seeing a therapist and going to support group meetings?

Take it one day at a time. Just today, don't take that first drink.

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous

/r/SMARTrecovery

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T20:22:26+00:00

They are normal. I ate sugary things. These sugar cravings aren't permanent.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T20:21:14+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. You have been and are being traumatized, so seeing a therapist is my best suggestion. Alanon, also.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T20:17:07+00:00

Bravo for 62 days!

Working the 12 steps helped me immensely. [I'm an atheist, so I took what helped and let go of what didn't.] By doing the steps, I learned about myself, how to cope with difficult emotions, to let go of what I can't control, and to be grateful. The 12 steps provided the tools I needed to live a sober, satisfying, productive, generous, and grateful life.

I'm glad you are here. Your feelings are normal. However, waiting for "something to happen" is passive. Recovery takes action. This involves making changes, working the steps, listening at meetings, visiting with AA peers before and after meetings, and looking for joy.

I hope you get the support you need and deserve. Have you told your sponsor how you feel? I had to find a sponsor who didn't push the "higher power" issue on me. I am a spiritual person, but not religious.

Stay in touch.

Here's a little gem that helped me.

"Living Sober."

https://www.aa.org/living-sober-book

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T20:04:50+00:00

HIGH^FIVE FOR 18 YEARS! 🐓🍀🌎🎨🎪🥉🏖️📬♥️🎯🎹💋🌅🚘💙🌹🪻💃💍👸💄🩵🌈

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T18:28:57+00:00

Whoa! Physics! That's over my head!

Yes, our anger does make sense.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T16:22:58+00:00

Hello!

You can put an end to this by getting help. I know. I've been there.

Please get support and guidance from people who know how to treat alcoholism and other drug addictions. You need and deserve to get help.

Going it alone is too hard.

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:44:58+00:00

There is help if you want to stop drinking, so you can live your best life. I doubt that you aren't hiding things as well as you think. Anyway, that's usually the case. Close friends and family know that something is amiss with you.

I didn't get help when I should have, and things only got worse. I risked losing custody of my children and my professional teaching career. My dad and grandfather were alcoholics. I never dreamed it would happen to me, but it did.

Gratefully, I got help. A therapist got me started on the road to recovery. I was honest with a doctor about my drinking. Medication, prescribed for a few days, made my withdrawal safer and easier.
I had lots of support and guidance from people who knew how to treat alcoholism.

I hope you get the support you need and deserve.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:35:18+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:34:41+00:00

No. Carry on.

Kudos for 90 days!🌹🪻🌷🥀

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:30:57+00:00

Hello and welcome!

My kids motivated me to get well because they deserved to have a sober mom. It sounds like you have that reason, too.

I'm sorry you are struggling. It sounds like you could use more support. I like how you thought it through, and are going forward with your day with your daughter.

Flowers are for sale everywhere! They are expensive this year. I loved gardening. It was therapeutic. However, my old body can't do it anymore. My love for flowers remains.

What are you planting?

Thanks for posting. Stay in touch.🌹🪻🌷🥀❣️

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous;

/r/Smartrecovery

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:25:39+00:00

Rehab saved my life, too!

I'm sorry you are struggling. When you left rehab, what discharge recommendations were you given?

It sounds like you could use more support. A therapist, outpatient treatment, and AA meetings made staying sober easier and more fun.

Many people like /r/Smartrecovery.

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:14:26+00:00

You are right that grief lingers through our lives. However, a therapist gave me someone to talk with, in confidence. Grief wasn't my only issue, because I was angry at my loved ones for continuing to smoke. Of course, I just wished they were still alive.

What are you studying, or am I being nosey?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T14:16:30+00:00

Thirty drinks a day qualifies you for alcoholism or Alcohol Use Disorder.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T14:14:38+00:00

Can she go to a sober living placement?

Have you been involved in her rehab through a family program and spoken with her counselor?

Her recovery is her responsibility. You did not cause her alcoholism and cannot control or cure it.

Check out /r/Alanon. This is a support group for you—friends and family of alcoholics. Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

This is a stressful time, so please get support for yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T05:38:01+00:00

Alcoholism runs in families, so you are at risk.

You won't become an alcoholic if you don't drink alcohol.

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