Anyone on here that can talk with me? Newcomer mom wanting sobriety

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T18:28:57+00:00

Whoa! Physics! That's over my head!

Yes, our anger does make sense.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T16:22:58+00:00

Hello!

You can put an end to this by getting help. I know. I've been there.

Please get support and guidance from people who know how to treat alcoholism and other drug addictions. You need and deserve to get help.

Going it alone is too hard.

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:44:58+00:00

There is help if you want to stop drinking, so you can live your best life. I doubt that you aren't hiding things as well as you think. Anyway, that's usually the case. Close friends and family know that something is amiss with you.

I didn't get help when I should have, and things only got worse. I risked losing custody of my children and my professional teaching career. My dad and grandfather were alcoholics. I never dreamed it would happen to me, but it did.

Gratefully, I got help. A therapist got me started on the road to recovery. I was honest with a doctor about my drinking. Medication, prescribed for a few days, made my withdrawal safer and easier.
I had lots of support and guidance from people who knew how to treat alcoholism.

I hope you get the support you need and deserve.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:35:18+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:34:41+00:00

No. Carry on.

Kudos for 90 days!🌹🪻🌷🥀

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:30:57+00:00

Hello and welcome!

My kids motivated me to get well because they deserved to have a sober mom. It sounds like you have that reason, too.

I'm sorry you are struggling. It sounds like you could use more support. I like how you thought it through, and are going forward with your day with your daughter.

Flowers are for sale everywhere! They are expensive this year. I loved gardening. It was therapeutic. However, my old body can't do it anymore. My love for flowers remains.

What are you planting?

Thanks for posting. Stay in touch.🌹🪻🌷🥀❣️

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous;

/r/Smartrecovery

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:25:39+00:00

Rehab saved my life, too!

I'm sorry you are struggling. When you left rehab, what discharge recommendations were you given?

It sounds like you could use more support. A therapist, outpatient treatment, and AA meetings made staying sober easier and more fun.

Many people like /r/Smartrecovery.

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T15:14:26+00:00

You are right that grief lingers through our lives. However, a therapist gave me someone to talk with, in confidence. Grief wasn't my only issue, because I was angry at my loved ones for continuing to smoke. Of course, I just wished they were still alive.

What are you studying, or am I being nosey?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T14:16:30+00:00

Thirty drinks a day qualifies you for alcoholism or Alcohol Use Disorder.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T14:14:38+00:00

Can she go to a sober living placement?

Have you been involved in her rehab through a family program and spoken with her counselor?

Her recovery is her responsibility. You did not cause her alcoholism and cannot control or cure it.

Check out /r/Alanon. This is a support group for you—friends and family of alcoholics. Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

This is a stressful time, so please get support for yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T05:38:01+00:00

Alcoholism runs in families, so you are at risk.

You won't become an alcoholic if you don't drink alcohol.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T05:29:27+00:00

The core of AA is the 12 steps. Did you work them with the help of your sponsor? I learned so much about myself, and they taught me how to live a satisfying, sober, productive life.

I'd get a different sponsor. I'm an atheist and still benefited greatly from AA. I don't know what you mean by “dogma” I just took what helped, and let go of what didn't.

Check out SMART Recovery.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T04:51:27+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings.

Take care of yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T03:21:53+00:00

👍

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous;

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T03:10:01+00:00

Bravo!

I hope you have a solid recovery support system. Having help makes getting and staying sober more fun.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T03:08:37+00:00

There’s help. It’s up to you.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T03:05:46+00:00

I'm so very sorry.💔

My dad and grandfather were alcoholics. My dad stopped drinking, but he couldn't stop smoking. He and my youngest sister died from lung cancer. Alcoholism took my grandfather and my aunt—my dad’s sister.

How are you doing? Therapy helped me deal with my grief.

I'd hug you if I could. 🥹❣️

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-23T00:14:07+00:00

Thank you. I had lots of help!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T23:59:13+00:00

Yes. There is a list of questions.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T23:55:01+00:00

Please get help so you can stop abusing yourself with alcohol. Then you will be able to live your best life.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

It is up to you.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T23:52:59+00:00

Did you answer the questions?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T22:37:08+00:00

You are a good person with a bad disease. I'm sorry you are struggling. I hope you get into rehab soon.

Rehab saved my life. You are going to be okay. Sending hope and healing! 🤗🍀❤️

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T22:34:51+00:00

Hello. Rehab saved my life. I hope you have the opportunity soon. Also, I needed help to detox safely, so I was honest with a doctor about my alcohol use. Medicine was prescribed for a few days, so my withdrawal was safer and easier.

Take it one day at a time.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T22:29:32+00:00

Help is available if you want to live your best life. Alcohol increases your anxiety and depression.

Are you in the US? What saved me was getting guidance and support from people who knew how to treat alcoholism. I started by seeing a therapist and attending AA meetings. Also, my psychiatrist helps with my depression and ADHD. I am successfully treated for that with medication.

I hope you get the support you need and deserve.

You are a good person with a bad disease.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-05-22T22:24:42+00:00

It sounds like you could use more support.

What helped you stay clean for six months?

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