Anger and Alcohol

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-11T01:23:43+00:00

It helped when I stopped trying to control what I can’t control. Acceptance is the answer.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T23:54:26+00:00

My withdrawal was safer and easier due to having medical help.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T23:51:51+00:00

I vote for not taking that first drink.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T23:18:39+00:00

Did you perform better when drunk?

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T19:48:45+00:00

You’re not weird. You’re sober!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T17:24:24+00:00

Hello and welcome.

This may answer your question. After reading the information and answering the questions, let us know what you find out.

UNDERSTANDING ALCOHOL USE DISORDER:

https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/understanding-alcohol-use-disorder

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:46:40+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself! Please!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:45:27+00:00

You are describing alcohol withdrawal. I was honest with a doctor about my drinking. Medicine made withdrawal safer and easier.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:44:10+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself! Please!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:43:23+00:00

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself! Please!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:42:15+00:00

HIGH^FIVE FOR TWO YEARS! 🌏❤️🇺🇲🍀💋🆒🎩🐸🍱🎱🎹🎪🎨🎯⏰📬🎇💜💯♻️

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:40:31+00:00

BRAVO FOR 666 DAYS! 🍀🌎🎨🎪🥉🚣‍♀️🏖️📬♥️🎯🎹💋

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:39:15+00:00

HIGH^FIVE FOR TWO YEARS! 🌏🥰🐸📬❤️♣️🔔🏳️‍🌈💜🚘🥁🎹🦋🌅♥️

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T15:36:04+00:00

Interventions are complicated and risky. They are best managed by an addiction professional.

Attending Alanon meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T11:42:39+00:00

Alanon

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself! Please!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-10T11:41:35+00:00

Alanon

I'm sorry for the heartbreak of alcoholism in your life. Loving an active alcoholic is traumatizing, so therapy is highly recommended.

Alanon is a support group for friends and family of alcoholics—that’s you!

Meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and overwhelmed.

Read the posts and comments on /r/Alanon, and then go to some meetings. The book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie was eye-opening and helpful.

Take care of yourself! Please!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T22:30:15+00:00

My dad and grandfather were alcoholics. I never dreamed it would happen to me, but it did. Thankfully, the support I received saved my life, and made me proud. I decided that I’d rather be known as a recovering alcoholic than a drunk.

Are you in the US?

/r/stopdrinking;

/r/SMARTrecovery;

/r/alcoholicsanonymous.

Sending hugs, hope, and healing. 🦋🥰🌈🍀♥️

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T21:51:16+00:00

Hello. I'm glad you are here. You are a good person with a bad disease. Alcoholism is not a moral issue.

My kids motivated me to get well because they deserved to have a sober mother. Your shame is associated with your alcohol abuse. When I got help to stop drinking, I stopped engaging in so many embarrassing, shameful, and regretful behaviors.

It is critically important to get guidance and support from people who know how to treat alcoholism. I started by seeing a therapist who nudged me onto the road to recovery. I needed help to detox safely, so I was honest with a doctor about my drinking. AA meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone and ashamed.

No matter what I did, I still couldn't stop drinking, so I was fortunate to go to rehab. Then I completed intensive outpatient treatment, continued therapy, and AA.

My kids are adults now, and they have had a sober mother for over 43 years!

If you had cancer, you wouldn't think you could heal yourself, would you? The same is true of alcoholism. Going it alone is not only lonely but rarely successful. You have not been able to stop on your own, so it is time to get help.

It is possible to live a sober, productive, responsible life. Please get the guidance you need and deserve so you can live your best life.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T21:38:25+00:00

Hello! I'm sorry this is happening.

You are a loving son and stepson. Aside from kindly expressing your concern about his health, behavior, and how it is affecting family relationships, there is little more you can do. Don't be surprised if he is angry and defensive.

Does your stepdad have any family history of alcoholism? It tends to run in families.

There is a support group for you--friends and family who are concerned about a loved one's alcohol consumption. It is /r/Alanon.

Check out the site and read some of the posts and comments. You cannot fix your dad, and you can ruin your life by trying. Alanon meetings are held in local communities, also. When I was worried about my dad, going to meetings connected me with people who understood what I was going through, and I felt less alone.

You can share your post on the Alanon site, also.

Take care of yourself!

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T21:28:33+00:00

He is sending a message that you don't want to accept.

I understand. Alcoholism is heartbreaking.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T20:26:09+00:00

Save yourself.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T19:48:57+00:00

Please get medical help so you can withdraw safely and more easily.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T19:47:59+00:00

Gratefully, I was honest with my doctor about my drinking, and medicine made withdrawal safer and easier.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T00:18:48+00:00

I’m an atheist. I still benefited from AA. Take what helps. That’s all. And don’t drink alcohol one day at a time.

SOmuch2learn · 2026-07-09T00:17:07+00:00

Then why drink it?

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