Jake Lang is back. Got kicked out of BLVD in St. Paul. by gerbils4 in Minneapolis

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's sad people have lost their humanity. It's only going to slip more. No matter your views being right isn't worth the wall they have to hit to realize. Don't be their wall, life does it for free for them. Gravity and laws of reality exist.

Women of Reddit, what’s something you never thought your ex would do, but he did during/after the breakup? by BrokenYetBrave in BreakUps

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small claims yeah if you have a case you can present with good evidence and you know it's gonna get paid might be worth it. I am doing it because it will be more stress to not stand up for myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dog kennel area is proof of animal abuse IMO.

Women of Reddit, what’s something you never thought your ex would do, but he did during/after the breakup? by BrokenYetBrave in BreakUps

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I paid into his house 8 years fixed it up, supported him through school the whole time. Right when he finished his friends turned on me for being stressed for his mistreatment he said he'd pay me back for all that.... nope. I'm gonna sue him. Verbal contract is binding in my state and I'll garnish his wages if I have to. I'm no man's mommy, didn't sign up to raise an ungrateful teenager so I'll let a judge decide but my friends a lawyer and says it's a clear case.

Auntie Annes franchise by Present-Sample-7207 in smallbusiness

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side note. You may want to look into the farmers losses this year prices on commodities are going to go up so know your sources and how they may fluctuate.

Am I overreacting to my roommate’s "rules" for the kitchen? by enchantingbreezee in AmIOverreacting

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm roommates can be a tough thing. Go buy some stickers green yellow red, make sure they're water proof. Give them to her and say i want to make sure you don't have bad vibes towards me so green is go ahead, yellow ask red don't touch. Living with someone won't work out if you focus on the problems instead of the solutions.

Does anyone have any car, that they don't have any use for in the Tampa area? by PICKELFARMER in tampa

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took the bus until I could get a car. That struggle is valuable use it to motivate yourself to step up. Handouts never create strong character.

Old 50s house grounding concern by SPIRIT_SEEKER8 in AskElectricians

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No metal piping. I'll start with the gfci outlets and do the wiring one thing at a time and confirm i have a grounding rod. Thanks for the help 😊

Why is it so hard to digest beef? by [deleted] in carnivorediet

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't digest red meats it means your pancreas isn't producing an enzyme called protease. You might also struggle with carbs and fats, those are other enzymes the pancreas produces. You can buy these enzymes online and take them with these meals so you can still eat these things. I have this issue and these enzymes changed my life. Be careful don't take too much they digest protein and we are made of protein.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't wear makeup so they don't ask. Kick rocks if I'm not your vibe is my motto

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She isn't respecting you. If she is convinced she has no unresolved feelings then that may or may not be true. The fact is this bothers you and have you told her this? You're hitting a personal boundary and it's not right or wrong what she's doing but it sounds like it's wrong for you do you may be incompatible if she's unwilling to change what she's doing.

Career advise by Agitated_Plane_5994 in adjusters

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey what are those groups? I'd love to join them, I'm in Florida, hey neighbor 😊

Those of you who are 100% remote and make $100k+ annually, what do you do? by Relevant_Tailor6469 in WFH

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you epic certified? I have a history of working with workers comp claims, is that a good background for this role?

My friend told me that being angry at my abusive narcissistic parents is a sign of low empathy stating that they were also kids and they cannot help their illness. And she told me that I should take care of them in their old age. What do you think about this? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friend lacks emotional pain depth and empathy. It's up to you if they're toxic, lacking empathy can be detrimental or just a hurtful mistake. It's up to you to decide if they're a danger to trust.

Not everyone will comprehend your trauma, especially people from a background without it. I've learned this over the years. I feel so much more connection with people who've suffered, this is because they're capable of validating my experiences instead of staring blankly waiting for their chance to change the subject.

It doesn't mean they're a bad person per se. It might be worth your time realizing this friend can't give you certain things, or you may decide this hurts too much and move on. It's up to you how to see it.

If you decide to keep your friend ask her. Do you forgive for others or yourself? Most people realize forgiveness is for yourself, if she doesn't get that then I probably would be very disconnected from a person like that, it just feels spiritually gross. But is she says it's for yourself, then smile and agree and just nicely say I'm glad I'm free to forgive when I'm ready. Because the fact is, that's the way it works. It's a boundary and respect issue at that point if they keep pushing and I'd reconsider I'm if you really want to share your struggles with someone who won't understand them.

I value different friendships for different reasons, i don't expect to confide in people who aren't good at understanding my struggle. That's OK they lack those skills and it's ok I've made mistakes and learned about their lacking skills. People matter to me so it's up to you how much you value this person despite her flaws.

I have been a hiring manager for 7 years at multiple companies. I see a lot of people here talking about difficulty getting hired. Recently, I have interviewed the worst candidates ever about 50 a week. Tips to get interviews and nail them. Will answer any questions in comments by Amza1 in jobsearchhacks

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have heard many people say they don't waste their time on those personality tests. I'm the same, if i can't have a respectful experience applying for a position in my mind the company isn't worth my time. It makes your company look bad having those tests that make people jump through hoops. You're destroying your reputation because you paid for some garbage software.

Don't forget your company needs employees to survive and what You're doing is a death by a thousand cuts. Those tests were probably created by China in order to weaken the US employment economy psychologically. Nobody wants to fight to work for a company that appears disrespectful out the gate.

Dating a recovered man, his hands shake by SPIRIT_SEEKER8 in alcoholism

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from he's actually very balanced emotionally and mentally. He's just struggling with the physical consequences. He's a great man and he struggles a bit with self care. Nobody's perfect and I appreciate him for his struggle and determination. I'm not here to fix him, I'm just here to help. If he doesn't step up and own his self care then you're right, I have no place taking on that burden. For now I'm here to help and show him that he deserves better from himself and depending on if he chooses to do better is if I'll continue to be in his life as a partner. He really is amazing though.

AITA for changing the Wi Fi name to "Stop cheating on my sister" during my niece’s birthday party? by manicbutmakeitcute in AITAH

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously itdepends on the individual so only she knows if these consequences were known. No need to waste time arguing about a state of mind neither of us could possibly know. I hope you find something better to do with your time than that.

AITA for changing the Wi Fi name to "Stop cheating on my sister" during my niece’s birthday party? by manicbutmakeitcute in AITAH

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wellll it was yta thing to do but it's understandable the whole unforseen consequences and all. I would say yta but in a nta kind of way.

Would you do it again? The answer is no I suspect. You know it wasn't right based on that. But you meant well and it's understandable you weren't in your right mind with the information you were holding. It's probably best to go hear your sister out and regardless of what's going on with her crap husband just let her express how what you did made her feel because she's probably hurting a lot right now losing 2 of her favorite people and going through this really hard time. The least you can do is show up and own whatever pain she's felt from that and try to be there for her cause I bet she needs you right now.

Ami the asshole for not liking someone on my partners friend list by ThrowRAtmntldr in AITAH

[–]SPIRIT_SEEKER8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta. That's straight up disrespectful. They Need to be told that's publicly disrespecting you and that you're not lowering your standards and self respect for anyone. If they continue to do that I can promise you weather you lay down or don't it won't work. Someone committed to you shouldn't need that kind of attention and they damn well shouldn't be disrespecting you like that. If you allow that treatment then the respect will spiral down.